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Hello I have a seriously confused question.
Alright my school is kinda cliqued. Everyone has their own groups they hang out in. I'm not really in one. I' m a short skinny girl, 14 years old, grade 9 4'9" and 80 pounds. Everyone sees me as the smart shy girl in my class, except the people that know me of course:) Anyways theres a guy in my class who has been nice and polite to me since the beginning of the year. The only thing is he is my complete opposite. Filed grade nine once, goof off in class, that kind of thing. But something made me send him a message on facebook a few months ago. Then we started talking on msn then we started going for walks together like every other day. He has never said it but he acts like he likes me saying things like "you bring out the best in me "your fun enough to hang out with". I kind of like him to. He's really nice as I said but I just don't know what to do, even if he asked me out i wouldn't know what to say. He acts completely different at school he told me because the people he hangs out with wouldn't like the nice version of him. Please help he try to understand what to do!!
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It is very possible to get along with someone who is your opposite. This is because you are attracted to the things that you wouldn't do, (such as goofing off in class), but you like that he can do it and not care. As far as his friends go...well, sweetie he is a teenage boy. And, trying to analyze teenage boys behavior, well, it still remains a mystery. Believe me when I tell you that he and his friends will spend the next several years trying to figure out girls. It's all part of growing up. Boys his age have an over abundace of testosterone running through them. So, it is important for them to feel macho and tough and it is completely against the "guy code" to act sensitive in any way. Now, I say as long as he doesn't say bad things to you or about you when he is around his friends, then do what feels right to you. It sounds as if he really does like you, and so he is going to show you his "real" side, because he wants you to like him back, and he is going to show his friends his "guy" side because he wants them to accept him. Why they do this, I have no idea. What I do know is that if he is sweet with you, then chances are here in a couple of years it will be more important to him to be sweet to you and less important to be macho towards his friends. Isn't growing up fun? LOL. Just remind him that you like him better they way he is with you. Sometimes that sticks in their head. Have fun...enjoy being a kid...and good luck with your guy. I hope this helped.
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It definately sounds like he's interested. However, it seems like he is concerned on what his friends might think. He acts differently around you, a girl, and he acts more sensitive. I would first ask myself if I liked him enough to "go out" with him. If that is the case I would definately advise you to stick around. As long as he treats you right that's all that should matter, right? I hope this helped in some kind of little way. <3
Good Luck =)
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wow that reminds me of the show One Tree Hill! Ask him if he really likes you to be nicer to you around his friends. That is the only thing you really can do.
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That makes sense. A lot of guys are "goof off"s in school, because they're scared they won't be liked as the "nice guy". My little brother is the same way. If you like the guy(which, by this, it sounds like you do) then it really shouldn't matter what other people will think.
Now, If you're worried about him being "mean" at school, I wouldn't worry. If you guys were going out, he couldn't be mean at school. He might not be the "nice version" he is when you're alone, but his personalities SHOULD come to a common person. Maybe someone nice who likes to crack a million jokes?
GO FOR IT!!!! Rose.
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