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I have a really good guy friend... I'm female and he's 2 years older. We are both in high school. Anyway, I like him a lot... a lot. Actually I love him. 100% sure I love him, even if it is just as friends. Well, the problem is, I really want to go out with him, but he has a girlfriend. He was single when I met him though. He knew I liked him before he started dating her, but we didn't know each other very well then. His girlfriend is kinda mean to him, and I don't think she cares about him as much as she should. Maybe he doesn't tell her as much as he tells me, because if he did, she would have to love him more. So, at first I was happy for him, but then his girlfriend got bitchy towards me and his other friends. I don't think she's good enough for him. Now I'm going crazy seeing him with her and other girls. I want him to like me. I think I could have a chance, but I'm really shy and need to open up more. His girlfriend's good friend told me that she thinks they won't last much longer, and his girlfriend told me she thinks he likes me as more than a friend, but I don't think so. I really like him though and I want a chance with him. What I really need advice with is making him like me more. Ways to get close to him. Any advice you have would be good with this situation. I love him and everything he says he wants in a relationship I want to. Now don't forget I'm already really good friends with him. We hang out, and he comes to my house a lot. But I really want to get closer to him and let him know that I feel as strongly as I do. Another thing is, I always want to say "I love you" when he's about to leave or something, but I'm afraid he'll think it's weird or take it the wrong way, I mean, me and my friends do say that to each other, but would it be weird with him? Any advice on that would be helpful too. And, I always want to hug him, and sometimes he really needs a hug, but I think that might be weird for him too. Anyways to approach that? Thanks for any advice you give. Sorry it's long.
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I have cought my self in the 'wanting to say i love you' several times. Believe me its best not to do that. Guys these days don't really think much about saying "I Love you" to anyone except their g/f.He Would probably take it in a weird way.If i was in this situation And My Best friend came to me about his feelings about his relationship then I would try to help him and give him advice. And question his girlfriends ways and maybe even boldy bring them to his attention. It's possible that he Doesn't even notice certain things about his g/f that you do.And maybe once they are in his attention he will notice that his girl friend really isn't what he wants.And possibly you are!
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mmkay. don't ask me how to get him to like you, just be you. i mean
he seems like he likes you already, just talk to him more, maybe about more personal things. just. show him that you care, be there for him. just
be you...
about the iloveyou thing.
ummmm
just
time it right.
if he's sad or happy tell him then
but if he's mad, that might not be such a good time. just be there
he'll come around [[if he doesnt already love youuu
xoxo
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Communication is the number one key in ANY relationship with ANYONE. If you guys are really good friends, then tell him that the way his gf is treating him, bothers you. Ask him if it bothers him? It is important to find out how he feels. Also, be HONEST! It is scary to tell someone how you feel, especially if you are unsure how he feels. It sounds as if he may feel the same way you do. But, if you don't say anything...then how will you ever know? Wouldn't it be better knowing if you guys could be more than friends, rather than it eating at you and you not knowing? If he feels the same way, then AWESOME. If not, well...it will probably suck for a little while, but at least you won't have to wonder every day. Good luck.
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With this situation, I would suggest waiting until he breaks up with his girlfriend. Even though you may not like her, it doesn't matter. It's their relationship and it would be rude and unfair for you to break things up. Since you guys are good friends, you can tell him you dislike her but give him reasons why. Maybe if you explain your feelings to him, he'll agree and start seeing things your way. Unfortunately, you can't do much now but wait. If he does become single, you should express your feelings towards him. If you don't, he probably won't know and will start looking for another girlfriend. If you guys are good friends, it should be easier for you to open up to him. If you never tell him your feelings, you're going to be curious and wonder what would have happened if you did tell him. Also, if he doesn't like you back, you can stay friends and at least you'll know that you can move on. You can also ask your friends to help you out.
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There's nothing wrong with a hug. If he needs one, give him one. The only way it would turn out really awkward is if you put too much thought into what it means. So just hug him.
I wouldn't advise looking for ways to make someone like you. If you try to act like you normally wouldn't, then he wouldn't really be liking you for who you are. And he'd have to meet the real you at some point, so it's best to just act natural around him from the start. If you're trying to figure out how to get noticed, chances are he already notices you. You two do spend a lot of time together.
Chances are this guy already does anyway. You're only problems are he's in a relationship and you're struggling with how to tell him how you feel. The relationship thing you can't change. Only he or she can.
I would do one of two things: either tell him how you feel now or tell him how you feel after his current relationship ends.
If you tell him now and he feels the same way, then he might be forced to make a really tough decision and it might weigh heavily on him. But you'll get it off your chest and you'll be able to move past this awkwardness sooner no matter what his reaction is.
If you wait, you might wait too long and miss an opportunity. You'll also have to deal with these feelings longer, but it'll be easier on him.
I suppose I would just weigh it out and see which option is best for you.
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