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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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ive been asked out alot by really cute guys that i like but i always end up saying no! i have this werid fear where no matter who it is i think their lying or just joking or its a dare by their friends and im the idiot falling for it. i dont want to be single forever but i cant seem to help it no matter how nice the guy is in my eyes i seem to only see liars! what should i do to get over this fear because its starting to creep up on how i view my friends too help!
Not all guys think the same way, There are decent guys out there too.
If you judge someone based on what the thought of them possibly being liars, You will never truly know what is out there. Change your train of thought, Sometimes in order to find something you have to give it a chance.
So, my girlfriend is extremely hot. Im not kidding. Recently she's really been pissing me off and i have considered on several occasions to just break up with her. But that means no more sex with this babe. I dont know what the hell to do.
I agree with Julie
Sex is not everything, If you are in the relationship just for the hell of having sex with her then guess what...You're relationship is doomed.
Looks aren't everything, Stop being so judgemental and maybe you will find yourself having better luck with the ladies.
Hi...ok well i was goin out with my friend David,when I was hanging with one of my other friends and he took my phone and told David that I was breaking up with him when I wasnt.I still have alot of feelings for David and I told him what happened and now he tells me that he still has alot of feelings for me but he is so use to being single that he doesnt want to be with me so I dont know if I try to still be with him or try to get over him and move on.
If he told you he didn't want to be in a relationship with you anymore then there is nothing you can do about but move on. You can't force someone to be with someone if they don't want to. Let him be single for awhile and see if he comes around. If he does he does, If he doesn't then he doesn't.
jejejej it's true. my boyfriend cheeted on me and now he is trying to come back. He told me he is sorry. am so confused. i love him and i really don't know what to do :(i really love him and i don't want to get hurt again like i did before!
Assuming this is related to the following question posted below...
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=590545
If you know it's true that your boyfriend cheated, Then right there tells you he doesn't deserve you. The first step is dump him, Second cut contact and save yourself drama. If he is trying to get back with you, Ignore him. If he cheated on you, He very will do it again and the chances are sky high if you take him back. It's saying ... "You cheated on me...but that's okay I'll take you back again" No, Don't fall for it. Your boyfriend had his chance and blew it.
Preface: My Boyfriend does not murder people, nor has he ever harmed myself or anyone else. Nor does he hurt animals.
I'm dating a guy who has quite freely told me he doesn't "feel emotions". He's even joked that the only emotions he does feel are anger, annoyance and contentedness.
It's one of his quirks, and I don't mind overly.
But it makes it very difficult to move forward with a relationship when your boyfriend responds to "I love you" with "Uh huh. I don't believe in love".
I've noticed there are other people on this site who have asked about being like that...
I want to know, is it possible to have a relationship? Would you, if you feel no emotion be able to maintain a relationship?
How do I support him as he is but also get what I need from our relationship?
Everyone has feelings, After all he is human. There is no such thing as a person without "emotions"
From the sound of what you've posted, Your boyfriend does not want to be in a relationship. I'm not sure what the background of him is but he sounds like he has some personal issues to work on. Is it possible to be in a relationship with a person? Yes, Your boyfriend No.
What would be the point in being in a relationship if only you are willing to make it work? None, It would be a waste a time because you would be putting all the work into it while your boyfriend couldn't possibly give a crap. Your best bet, Move on and find someone who is positive and cares for you, That is a healthy relationship. Your boyfriend's negativity is going to ware you down in time and the effort of trying to make something work that he isn't willing to put time and effort into is draining.
EDIT: Well I apologize for providing false information as I had no idea there were such thing as I am not a doctor nor therapist. However, I still do recommend moving on if your boyfriend isn't willing to seek some sort of therapy and at least try to fix things. Good luck either way!
all of the people i care about and love in this world use me and i don't have the gall to tell them off. my boyfriend uses me for sex and ignores me thoughout the week, forgets our plans, doesn't give two shits about me. he was supposed to come over monday but forgot and never called. his way of apologizing for that was poking me on facebook. my friend uses me to get weed. and when not that, cigarettes. besides that, she thinks i'm the dumbest person on this planet and basically backhands me all the time (metaphorically) by insulting me. another friend only hangs out with me when she has something serious going on and needs someone who is willing to listen to hours of bullshit while smoking all of that poor person's cigarettes!!!
I'M SO TIRED OF ALL OF IT. i'm not talking to any of these people right now, but i know i probably will in a few days. i really care about all of these people, deeply. but i won't be taken advantage of anymore. i'm graduating in a few months and i have half the mind to move across the country without telling any of them. i can't believe i've put up with all this for so long. my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years, known eachother 4. the first friend i've known for 4 years, and my other friend i've known for 13 years. what should i do?
The boyfriend: Dump him, If he is ignoring you and using you for sex there is no point in being in a relationship with him anymore as he doesn't deserve you. Likewise although you don't want to hear it sounds like the guy may have someone else on the side and doesn't seem to grow the balls to be honest about it. Your boyfriend can't be trusted, It is extremely ignorant and rude to blow someone off and not call if he cared for you and loved you he would want you to be happy, he would want to spend time with you and he wouldn't just blow you off and not call you.
Friend 1: Have you talked to her? Next time she ask you for weed tell her straight up you are sick and tired of her coming to you all the time just so she can get a high off it. I'll be honest here too, She doesn't sound like a friend she sounds like someone who just wants to get out of you what will benefit her.
What should you do? Start over, It is never to late to meet someone who will appreciated you for who you are. The boyfriend needs a kick to the curb as well as your friend. Friends don't use friends, Boyfriends don't ignore girlfriends. You need to move on and try to meet new people, A fresh clean slate take it as a late new years revolution if you haven't made one you owe it to yourself.
So stupidly, I let my boyfriend take a picture of me without a shirt or bra on..... He later on got mad at me and sent it to all of my friends and even to people that I dont know. I went to the police and they said they couldn't do anything because it wasn't a crime. They told me that I could go to a civil attorney and maybe get some answers. See, I don't want to waste a ton of money doing this so does anyone know if there is anything that I can even do about it? Please let me know. Also don't comment on this telling me how dumb I am for doing that because believe me, I know. I just need someone answers.
Have you tried going to the police station and file harassment charges against him? You stated you went to the police station...but this shouldn't keep you from being able to file a complaint or harassment. The police should of at least giving your boyfriend a warning.
I'm not going to lecture you but I advise you to be very careful in the future who you send pictures too.
I'm sorry I wasn't much of a help on this one but if the cops didn't do much to help you out...I really don't know what else to say other than trying what I suggested above.
I am 15 years old and when i was in 6th grade i fell in love with my bestfriends cousin. and he fell inlove with me. We have been on and off since 6th grade. and last time we dated was in august-6 months ago. yesturday i went to his house with my bestfriend and her boyfriend and we all hungout lots of awkwardness. but it decreased as the time passed. He put on a necklace i gave him saying nina + allen than the date. when i say we fell in love i mean in love-like the teenage love. first loves. you know what i mean? so when i left his house my bffl and her bf were trying to get us to kiss and i really didnt want to. but then he kissed me and i relized that i miss him ...again..still.. and this weekend we are all supposed to chill and drink and they are planning on us having sex again. (i lost my virginity to him months back)i know how bad this is but i dont completely mind having sex with him again- but i would really rather not at all. but in the end i do not want to date him, but i do want to hangout with all of them this weekend. just, what should i do? about telling him i am not ready for a relationship yet, and the sex thing. etc.. i know i dont have a straight out question but if anyone can find anything to say please helpp.
You and your boyfriend have been on and off since the 6th grade and you want to repeat the same old cycle?...This is exactly what you are doing.
1, If you two aren't in a relationship, Then you shouldn't be having sex. If you do, Then you prolong your pain and make it literally impossible to move on and find someone else who will respect and value your relationship. You stated you don't really want too, If you don't want too then don't go. Tell him upfront you don't want a relationship. Stop leading him on, You make your own decisions not your friends. Having sex because others are "planning" it...You are making extremely poor judgment on your part.
Ok, a few years ago, my best friend got involved with this guy. I liked him when I first met him, but then I found out from several people that he was weird. So I convinced her to stop going out with him (they were never really "together"). Ok, he called her non-stop; she never picked up and he wouldn't take the hint. He even got her number and called her at work. Finally, I called him and told him it was over. She never heard from him again after that.
Now, however, I found out that he is dating my cousin's friend. I don't really know her, but I think I should warn her about him. This guy is a weirdo and a stalker, and I think any woman he comes in contact with should be warned about him. I just don't know if it is my place to tell her. Any help would be appreciated.
Not your place, You getting involved with something that doesn't necessary involve you directly is stirring drama.
You can state your opinions, You can tell them what you've heard or seen but sometimes people need to see and learn for themselves whether that would be the easy or the hard way. If your cousin's friend is dating this guy let her take care of it as it is her problem and not yours.
I havnt had sex but sperm might have come in contact with my lower area, i'm 8 days late, have clear discharge, and have minor cramps. am i pregnant ?
Anything is possible, Take a test.
hey! will you go out with a person if he/she cheated on you?
Nope
Once a cheater normally always a cheater, If taken back it would only be telling them it's okay and they've gotten away with it.
Kick em to the curb!
i am 21 and my boyfriend is 22. we have been together for 3 years almost. the first two years we were on and off and had a lot of issues. we broke up for 4-6 months and saw other people and completly stopped talking to each other. we got back together and things are going great, we have learned a lot.
i recently moved in with him 3 weeks ago. i knew he watched porn before and i didnt mind if he did. if i was away for a week id expect him to because im not around. now im around every day because we live together. we still have sex regularly. sometimes (more now to me it seems) he hasnt been ejaculating (which makes me feel like im not good enough) he use to comment everytime the sex was great or good. we use to speak "dirty" to each other before too. he still comments on my body and how much he loves it.
for example we had sex last night and this morning and then i catch him a couple hours ago just watching porn but not touching himself.
the problem is i feel like he watches a lot of porn. i dont know how to talk to him because i dont want us to have a outrageous fight and i have no clue how to express myself to him. i dont feel like im as good as i use to be. i feel like he wants other females. i dont like this feeling and i just need to know how to handle it. Thank You
Talk to your boyfriend, He will never know how you feel if you hide the problem and if you continue to avoid confrontation of the situation in the long run it will kill your relationship. When you talk to him don't come across as attacking, Calmly tell him that his porn habits make you feel insecure. Let him know you don't mind if he watches it while you are not around but you feel very uncomfortable when he does it while you are there. Your boyfriend may not realize it bothers you, After I assume he has done this before you've moved in and grown immune to it. Not every guy who watches porn wants another female, Sometimes it is just a guy being a guy.
Okay im 16 and transgender male, my boyfriend and i have been togather for a year now, before me he had a really bad relationship with a guy named josh who hurt him very badly, but ever since we have been togather he always brings josh up and it bugs me, im transgender male so i was born female but am now male, i feel threaten by josh who is not only his ex but who was also born male unlike me. Well the other night josh messaged him and asked to be his friend, my boyfriend wants his number to call him just to "brag" he says. Well its been two days and josh hasnt replied to him now all my boyfriend does is talk about josh more, and keep checking his myspace every half an hour to see if he replied yet it bugs the hell out of me. Whats going on i really want to trust my boyfriend or is he just using me to get to his ex...if so i have wasted a year of my life on this.....i really need help
Dump him, Anyone who dwells on their ex is obviously still not over them. Your boyfriend wants his number, He checks up on his myspace. A year is a long time to be with someone, It is also a long time to dwell on someone you've dated before hand. If your boyfriend appreciated you and truly moved on there would be no reason to be trying to contact his ex his "bragging" is an excuse. You can't trust your boyfriend, He isn't over his ex and as much as he may or may have insisted he was...It's all a lie.
ive been texting this guy i met online. he lives like 30 min away from me. we text like 24/7 but in some weeks he doesn't text me at all, does he want me to text him? should i text him or would i seem to clingy with him?
Have you met him in person? Do you know anything about him?...
If he likes you or least "acted" like he liked you online and doesn't text or call you at all I would start to suspected either (A) He has a girlfriend/wife (B) Lost interest or (C) Just needs a little space after all 24.7 texting can begin to be overwhelming for some people.
I would wait for him to text/call you, If the guy likes you and is really interested then he would contact you, If he doesn't then he doesn't and wasn't worth the time.
Well I am a person who has had a hidden life and it is time for me to come out. I made choices that led me away from my priorities and my friends and family. I am a good looking 19 year old and I have made some decitions that will follow me the rest of my life. I just spent the majority of last year behind bars and i will tell that story to those who are interested. My life is an open book now a days and i have thrown in the towel. I am living back with my parents but i am looking for a new place based on my income. There is this girl that has waited for me my entire life and i think i love her. She has also made some poor decitions but not as bad as mine. Im not sure if it is the idea of her and having a family that i can care for and work hard for. By the way she has two kids from another guy who is out of the picture and if he ever comes around us uninvited he has to deal with me. i want to love these kids. I want to have something to work for and make money for instead of just bills and taxes... and restitution... I have my whole life ahead of me but i don't want to go too crazy because of the monkey on my back after dealing with and going through the justice system. Details are available to those who are interested. So my final question and the reason for (via the advice) is probably should i take her and the kids in and stay in my home town or should i move far away from it all and start over. LIKE i said, more details are probably needed to give me good advice but this is the basic problem. I want a family but no kids of my own for a few years so this is kind of the instant happiness that i might be looking for. What should i do?
Straight out of prison, I'm going to say you need to work on yourself before you can work on a family. From what you've posted, You have your head thinking straight as far as goals but the last thing you need right now is to be tied down with a family you cannot currently support at this time.
From past experience of being a Juvenile delinquent and learning things the hard way...Finding employment with something on your record will be extremely difficult. Now, I have never been to prison but I'm assuming the attempts for a job would be much more difficult.
Everything is different prior state to state but generally you would need to wait a good 5 years before you can get something expunged which needs to be approved by the Judge and that IS if it is approved. The best thing you can really do for yourself now is to figure out your long term goals and what you are going to do in the meantime. Under the table work and some jobs that do not do a criminal background check would likely be your best option..As far as finding a house, I don't know what to tell you there but I as being a tenant had to go through a lot of paperwork including criminal background while signing a lease. Fortunately, I've had the expunged.
Until you get yourself situated I think you are better off waiting to settle down, It is okay to date around but don't jump the gun into settling what you are not ready for.
I like this guy, we know each other from middle school and we talk now secretly kinda till my baby s father and I officially split up.
But sometimes when I talk to him he seems un interested, but then others he's flirty and cute, I want him to know how I feel about that, as in like I feel like I try to see him more than he does me, or I try to make conversation with him more than he does.. I dont want to seem needy, but I would like things to work out , what should I do our say??
I'm going to take a few wild guesses here...
You are not permanently separated from your baby's father, Therefore whatever the case may be you are still in a relationship. Sure, He may like you but again you aren't officially single nor available.
If you don't want to come across as needy, I suggest taking things slow wait until you are available to him. It could be he is feeling lead on, played or doesn't want to be fully involved until you are ready.
It's hard to give a full answer when I don't know the relationship status between you and the father.
This boy I have been dating for a year and a half just dumped me. He has done this several times since november. He always ends up coming back. He thinks hes not good enough for me because he isnt doing well in college and is basically doing nothing right now. The problem is, I cant get him out of my head. It happened friday, he called me that night but i ended the conversation early. Then he called me twice on saturday but I ignored them because I dont know what he could possibly want to say to a girl he dumped? I guess I just dont know what to do. I know I SHOULD move on. but I kind of want to talk to him, but I will probably end up getting sucked back in. I love him a lot and Im scared if i move on until maybe hes made himself happy more than I will loose him forever or he will find another girl or something. Theres so much anxiety that I have. But everyones telling me its the best thing for me to be without him because I am driven and doing well while he doesn't really move on. Any thoughts or words of wisdom to help me would be greatly appreciated. Ive never felt this lost :/
Move on, The guy dumped you several times since November and that was only 3 months ago. To be dumped several times in 3 months is draining and stressful and after awhile instead of focusing on "fixing" things with the on and off boyfriend you will eventually be more focused on preparing for the next break up. Reality is your boyfriend isn't ready for commitment and he has already proved that too you several times. Your head is only telling you there may be a spark of hope but lets face it there is no reason to be in a relationship with him if he can't commit to you. Break ups are hard but as long as you keep falling for his games you keep yourself from finding what else is out there and you will never know if you hold yourself back. Cut him loose, Let him have the drama and save yourself the time and stress.
I am a 19 year old female from the East Coast. I am from a middle-class family and I attend one of the most prestigous business schools on the coast. I have multiple part time jobs, but have no financial strains.
I have been dreaming about having a child for a year and a half now. Frankly, it's more than dreamining, its yearning. I so badly want to be the mother to my own child. From June 2009-March2010, I was with the same man who shared the same desire for a child. We've since seperated and I've been with another man since October 2010. He and I are very compatible and we are doing very well in our relationship.
My problem: I want a child very badly, but I know that at 19 years old, I should be focusing on my youth. My parents always told me that they would suport me if I were to ever get pregnant, but I fear that due to my young age, I would not be a suitable mother to my child.
My boyfriend always said that he would support myself and the child if I were to ever become pregnant. He is 24 years old. (FYI: There is no way I would ever sabotage our sex life to get pregnant; it would be an agreed decision.)
Please, share your advice and opinions.
Thank you.
You are 19 years old, In business school and have been dating for ONLY 4 months.
I honestly think you should wait, You are doing well at this point in time and you have a lot of years ahead of you for a child. You have only been in a relationship for 4 months and I have to agree with Matt...You are not ready. Babies are cute, They are the most precious gifts we could have but in the long run it takes a lot of work, responsibility and commitment. You and your boyfriend can say you are responsible, committed and ready but in the long run trust me you are better off waiting. You said your family would support you, Of course they aren't going to neglect their daughter but lets think about the situation this would be YOUR responsibility not theres. It would be unfair to the child to have one now, You aren't ready.
this "friend" i know i cant be friends with anymore. She was never a friend in the first place. So im going to try to make this as short as possible. uhmm...so when i was depressed and lonely and sad, ya know..i went from popular click to not so popular click. and i have been going to therapy for a couple months and i am progessing, and on my way to getting my happy path. i've already kind made of my mind about this desicion which is pretty mature since i am only in middle school, but it has to do with me. i have to be true to myself and say "who is my friend? and who do i want in my life?" because that is what is holding me back from being happy again. Ok..so finally. So when i fell out of the popular click due to my depression and just turning to a differnt boring sad person, from a social funny butterfly. But this girl..this girl is just crazy! i cant take her anymore. I realised she wasnt my friend because i am always the one to start the conversation (most of the time) and call her up to hang, or just anything. and she's sooo the opposite of me, really emo and depressed and sad all the time, always mourning about her problems w/o doing anything about it. And you would think i wold have a heart to try to help her out of her depression, right? Well, i have! She just takes me for granted. and its like i cant keep helping you with your problems...i have to clean up my problems..and you were never a real friend anyway. and when im around her she's so negative..and sad..and i cant have that right now..im trying to get better not have pessimistic friends. i gotta get to the point with her i guess. im doing this for myself, and tog get better off. so i dont just want to slowly get away from her..just let her know how i feel and let go. If she was a good friend that was depressed i would help her through, and that even what i did with this girl but shes not a friend anymore, and i need to worry about me and not this girl, and this goes for some other people. What do you guys think? and what is some advice? i want nothing better for this girl than to get on the right track, but shes really not my friend anymore and i cant worry about her.
It's good you realized that she wasn't a friend too you but I think the best thing right now is to try and make new friends.
Even people who aren't popular can have some awesome friends, You have to get out there and find them. It isn't always a matter of being popular..It's about finding someone you enjoy spending your time with and that makes you happy. Right now, You should focus on you. The first start in making yourself feel better is to get rid of all the negativity. If you have friends that aren't friends then dump them and make some new ones. Don't worry about her, Worry about you.
I'm 61 and have been in a lot of pain for a long time. I've spent thousands of dollars over several years on chiropractors. I have really bad gluacoma. I've been unemployed for several years and am probably considered unemployable. At least, I don't know how I could fit in anymore. I was collecting unemployment comp until it ran out in November, now I'm broke and my landlord wants me out.
I can barely get out of bed and into my pants. I am a lonely, sick, tired, depressed old man. I came here to find out how to end it all as painlessly as possible and I'm finding a lot of platitudes from religious people. I used to be somewhat religious and full of guilt but gave up on it a few years ago. I don't believe in hell. I want to end the suffering. Any ideas?
We are given one life, That life is what we make of it.
Everyone goes through their share of tough times. First, Lets backtrack on what you've posted above..
I'm not sure what state you are in, However at 61 have you tried to push for early retirement?..This could be possible. Social Security is another option if you are unable to work, You can file for disability.
Depressed: Seeing a therapist or a psychiatrist is recommended if you haven't done so, If you cannot get out of bed I believe they can arrange it so they come to your house on a weekly basis.
Religion: It is never too late to follow your beliefs, Sometimes people don't end up following their religion until later in life, Sometimes people start early but remember it is never to late. There are always ways to fix things, We just need to take it one step at a time, The first thing is you should call for help. If I'm correct I believe you can file for social security right over the internet and while you qualify it shouldn't be a long wait. Suicide is not the answer, Friends and family would long hurt if you do so. We are given one life to live, and to fix our problems is always possible and sometimes that is even with the help of others.