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Ex boyfriend help
I am 15 years old and when i was in 6th grade i fell in love with my bestfriends cousin. and he fell inlove with me. We have been on and off since 6th grade. and last time we dated was in august-6 months ago. yesturday i went to his house with my bestfriend and her boyfriend and we all hungout lots of awkwardness. but it decreased as the time passed. He put on a necklace i gave him saying nina + allen than the date. when i say we fell in love i mean in love-like the teenage love. first loves. you know what i mean? so when i left his house my bffl and her bf were trying to get us to kiss and i really didnt want to. but then he kissed me and i relized that i miss him ...again..still.. and this weekend we are all supposed to chill and drink and they are planning on us having sex again. (i lost my virginity to him months back)i know how bad this is but i dont completely mind having sex with him again- but i would really rather not at all. but in the end i do not want to date him, but i do want to hangout with all of them this weekend. just, what should i do? about telling him i am not ready for a relationship yet, and the sex thing. etc.. i know i dont have a straight out question but if anyone can find anything to say please helpp.
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Hi ! I agree with the advice that October S gave you.
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Peaches04
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No one can make you do something you don't want to do. Give yourself time to think about what you really want. Your "friends" should not be planning things out for you, especially things like those. You are still very young to be having sex anyway. A teenage relationship should not revolve around sex. If you don't want to start a relationship and you feel that you aren't ready for any of that, then stand your ground and make your own choices. Always remember to give yourself time to think about what you really want; that is very important. Don't let anyone control you like a puppet. You have a say for yourself, so use it.
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You and your boyfriend have been on and off since the 6th grade and you want to repeat the same old cycle?...This is exactly what you are doing.
1, If you two aren't in a relationship, Then you shouldn't be having sex. If you do, Then you prolong your pain and make it literally impossible to move on and find someone else who will respect and value your relationship. You stated you don't really want too, If you don't want too then don't go. Tell him upfront you don't want a relationship. Stop leading him on, You make your own decisions not your friends. Having sex because others are "planning" it...You are making extremely poor judgment on your part.
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hey girlyy,
well i honestly dont think you guys should have sex unless you are in a relationship. and the more u have sex with him the more you and him will get attached to eachother and you dont want to be in that place so what i think you should do is call him up and just tell him that you dont feel like really doing anything, all you wanna really do is be bestfriends and if he actually still cared about you he will understand but if he doesnt, then forget him.
hope i helped!
if u have any questions just ask me.
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YOu don't need any advice girl. You know what you need to do you wrote it in your question. Tell him you don't want anything like what their describing. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything you don't want to do.
Lillian
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if you don't really love him, you shouldn't have it with him. What if something goes wrong? Teen pregnancies happen that way. You dont want to take it that fast..slow down!If you really truly love him, there's nothing wrong with that, but think before you act, you don't want to do it so fast you dont even have time to think and then regret things afterwards.I hope this helps good luck!
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