Hi everyone! I'm andi...better known as sparkle26. im a female in my teens. here's some things about me...i love music...especially rock n roll and i play guitar. i'm also an artist-in-training. ive been painting at an art studio since i was 4 or 5.i'm also a runner. my philosophy is to always look at life at a bright, lively perspective. feel free to ask me a question any time!
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I was very active and very in shape up until three years ago. I started eating junk food and constantly drinking soda. It has gotten to the point where I will actually go up town more than once a day to buy soda and chips. My stomach has become quite round and my rear end gotten huge as have my thighs. I was wondering what I could do to stop drinking soda and eating junk food. I don't need any help with exercise, I just need to know how to stop the constant snacking. Thanks in advance! (link)
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think of it this way: would you rather treat yourself to a bag of chips and soda everyday and only feel good when you are enjoying the junk food, (which only lasts for a few minutes),AND be unhealthy or would you rather feel good about yourself all day long, every day, and lead a healthy lifestyle? would you really sacrifice your dignity and a healthy lifestyle, just so you can have 2 minutes of satisfaction? my advice would be to eat healthy on a regular daily basis and you can do this by buying a healthier snack every day instead of the junk food and soda. ONE SIMPLE DECISION every day will make you healthier and happier. and then, you can enjoy those chips and soda in moderation, or once in a while so you don't have to sacrifice your healthy living just to be able to eat junk.
i hope i helped!:)
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I have been taking french since the seventh grade, at first I was not serious about it. But from eigth to the ninth I have been doing excellent in my class, I m the smartest in p my french class. However I have only excelled in writing, grammar, and reading in French. I still have ways to go on my speaking and listening. I am very self concious and nervous about speaking and liatening, but i been striving and not giving up. Now I going to be a senior this year and I trying to decide if I want to do French, but my mom keeps nagging me about my inability to speak the language fluently. She keeps nagging me with questions ,such as: how can you do French as a major when you can't even speak fluently in it yet? which makes me feel more unsure about French. I have spoken to foreign language teacher and people, and they have told me that not evryone is fluent by gradration . In addition they have told me that a person has to study in a foreign language in order to become fluent. I am confused , i mean I know she means well but her questions make me wonder: am I wrong, should I just give up? (link)
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if French is your passion and it makes you happy, you should absolutely choose French as your major. no matter how challenging it may be, if you love it, that's all that matters. it's your life. your decision. not your mom's. why second guess yourself and pass up the opportunity to chase your dream? you'll never know if you don't try. if you work hard, anything is possible!!! here are some guidelines to help you make your decision!
* ask yourself..."do i want to major in French?" if you don't hesitate to say yes,PLAN TO MAJOR IN FRENCH. if you have to convince yourself, dont major in it. keep in mind that nothing is set in stone your first year of college, so don't be afraid to decide on French just cus you don't want to make a decision and afraid you will change your mind.
bottom line is...
my advice to you, is (if you LOVE FRENCH and that's your passion) chase your dream and plan to major in French. if you still love french, continue with that major. and plan b, if you find you dont like it, you can change your mind. but that's only if you have to think of plan b. don't think about that now. if you want it now, do french!!!!!! chase your #1 dream!!!!!:) what have you got to lose?
good luck! i hope i helped
-sparkle26
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So I'm 16/f and about 5 foot 3. But I really want to grow taller! So what things should I/shouldn't I eat.
Also, I don't weigh very much at all, I'm not ill or anything as I've been checked out for this. So how can I put on weight with like exercises/nutrition?
Any advice welcome :) (link)
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I'm a runner, and i myself don't weigh much...im also a vegetarian. if you are exercising, you need to take in more calories in order to stay healthy, because exercise increases the speed of your metabolism. if you don't take in enough calories, your body will burn them off too fast, and you could loose weight.
for energy, after you exercise load up on carbohydrates.
never skip a meal! this actually can slow your metabolism down.
on google, look up a calorie calculator in the internet. based on you personally, it will tell you how many calories you should take in a day.
don't drink coffee-stunts your growth
eat good amount of dairy (for calcium), vegetables and fruit.
take a daily vitamin to help support your immune system.
btw, i would also recommend cliff energy bars after you exercise
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Im 15 and there's this boy at my school. Im starting to like him and I dont know if hes interested or not. I have a class with him and we talk alot in the class we have together. But I usually catch him looking at me and when I look he looks away. And when we talk he smiles andblushes. During passing periods we dont really talk but acasionally we will or he'll walk me to class. We play flirt alot . Like he'll make fun of me or be mean to in a playful way.l I was gone for a week of school and when i got back my friends said they were all talking about a movie date night thing. One of my friends told him hd be my other friends date and he said he had a gf. But then she suggested me and he said " Oh okay then yeah Ill go :) " But normally we dont talk IDK WHAT TO THINK! Please help me :( (link)
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the only way to answer this question is to talk to him yourself. if you don't talk to him yourself, there will be so many rumors going around, you won't know which one to believe and which one is the truth...and this leads to confusion and misunderstanding. no matter how awkward or scary it may be to ask him how he feels and tell him how you feel, it will be worse if you are always wondering how he feels about you and if you and him could of been. the biggest risk of all is not taking one, and no matter what happens, everything happens for a reason. you have to have confidence in yourself and talk to that boy and go get him girl! or else you will never know.
good luck:)
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So recently, there's this really cute guy (14) that I've been interested in. His names Sam and he seems cool and all his friends keeps on saying that he likes me.
But then there's this other guy (15) that I've been friends with for longer and known him longer than Sam.
It's kinda starting to sound like the Hunger Games...
I don't know who to choose. This second guy, Will and I have shared our feelings for each other, and he doesn't mind waiting, but if he knows that I have feelings for Sam, he'll freak out and wouldn't want to be my friend anymore. Should I risk a friendship or just stay single for now?
BTW, I'm 14 (link)
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who first comes to your mind? what boy makes you feel happy? don't do this for them, do this for you. think about who makes you happy. NEVER SECOND GUESS yourself. if you are thinking about one of those boys in the back of your mind, but then you deny it and keep going back and forth between the two, i can guarantee the one that first comes to mind and stays in mind is the one you should choose. however, if you over think the answer every time you ask yourself which one, i would take some time figuring things out and being single for now. if you are constantly going back and forth between them and second guessing yourself every time you make a decision, it's not fair to the two guys to be changing your mind left and right. don't force the decision. let it come naturally. if it doesn't come naturally right away, take some time to figure things out, don't rush, be patient, and then when you're certain you can make up your mind. you have plenty of time to decide. you have your whole life ahead of you and this is just the beginning bottom line: do what feels right. don't force your decision.
good luck:)
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hi im 13 and i really like this guy;ive know him for a very long time because our mums were friends when they were in high school...he lives in france so i dont get to see him much even if he comes to see us(in england) at least twice a year.
i really like him and i want to ask him out but i dont know if he has already got a girlfriend...we've lots in common and i think he really likes me but i dont know if he like,likes me or if he just likes me as a friend.
he once invited me to the cinema and we went but would that like a date?we've never kissed or anything though...
should i ask him out?if so how?does he love me?how can i be sure?!
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the biggest risk of all is not taking one. be honest, and tell him how you feel. if he doesn't like you back, it's his loss and there are plenty of fish in the sea. everything happens for a reason. p.s. take your time to fall in love..you have your whole life ahead of you! now, there's only one way for you to find out if he feels the same way about you...so go get him girl!
good luck:)
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i know about sex and condoms and all that but my mum doesnt know i know!im kind of scared now beacause she is probably soon going to give me the'talk'!
my mum didnt even think i knew what 'going out with someone'was!!!
im 13 and my mum treats me like a 6yr old! (link)
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there is no avoiding the talk, sooner or later it's gonna be brought up. first of all, you should know this if you're 13, alot of people by the time they're you're age know a lot, if not too much on the topic. i found out about it when i was in third grade, and most earlier than me. by the time i got to thirteen, it was not even an awkward subject anymore. i am 14, and my mom treats me the same way your mom treats you. stand up to her, and talk to her. tell her in the nicest and most respectful way possible you are not a child anymore.and she probably knows this, she just doesn't want you to grow up too fast. this will hopefully open her eyes and you may gain her respect and get more freedom and be treated your age.
good luck:)
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This guy. Goodness, this guy.
We're friends. He's 18, I'm 21. Our friendship started fast and escalated and we spend a ton of time together, and undoubtedly I'm attracted to him. He says he's not into girls like me (he wants the skinny perfect blonde, of course), but then he acts like he is. He'll have conversations with me about very personal, private things he's never said (or probably will say) to other people, and he gets sad if we don't get to hang out for more than a day or two. But, there's nothing specific happening between us. I'm too damn nervous to make a move, in case he's not interested despite the way he acts toward me v. other people... so what do you think he wants? How do I find out, short of an awkward conversation where I just have to ask? He makes me feel like a nervous 12 year old girl. (link)
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first off, no guy is better than you. chances are, if he makes you feel bad about yourself, he's a jerk and doesn't deserve you. especially if he's rude enough to tell you you're not "his kind of girl". and...
second off, if you feel like you can't be without him, i would talk to him about it, no matter how awkward it is. you need to stand up to him, be honest and straight forward. the biggest risk of all is not taking one, and if he ends up not wanting you back, it's his loss, and there are plenty of fish in the sea.
*so, to sum it all up, what i would do, is i would not loose your dignity over a guy who doesn't even deserve you.
*but, if you can't help but needing him, be honest and tell him how you feel.
good luck:)
p.s. it doesn't seem like he makes you feel happy and beautiful. that's the way a guy should make you feel. go and find your true love who treats you right and makes you feel happy:)
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Thank you so much for your answer.....
I just explain you my situation..... Am from a middle class family so i cant join a medical college though i got it... Even i tried for jipmer(medical national level entrance) result was just dissappointing... So am forced to continue this engineering field since my family depends on me in one way....... So what should i do?? I cant concentrate on this engineering nw... Bt i cant get into medical no way at al now.... How can i overcome this?? Pls help me;( sobs....... (link)
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be strong! you will overcome this, and you will get through it. remember that EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON, and when one door closes, another door opens. and this door to the medical field may of closed, but another one opened. explore new things. there may be oppurtunites out there just waiting for you to discover them. look up a career list, and whatever seems interesting to you, look into it and learn more about it. stepping out of your comfort zone will expand your perspective, and no matter if you like it or not, you are still getting valuable experience that will eventually bring you to where you want to be. (if you have any more questions,feel free to ask me again! i really appreciate you asking) good luck, and remember you have your whole life ahead of you
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I'm from pondicherry(india).... My age is 19...actually i aspired to become a doctor....but because of unavoidable situation i was forced to do engineering.... But still i cant take this engineering field since al my interest is towards only medical.... I have no one to support me to do medical... Now i cant concentrate on engineering thoughts of medical is just killing me like a hell.... Please tell me the way how to overcome this... Please am just dyng here please help me... Am doing my b.tech eee 2nd yr.... (link)
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i don't know much about your situation, but the what i do know from your question is that you are lost because you aren't following your dreams. NEVER take no for an answer. if you really need something, you will find a way to get it. all these people that did what they meant to do, their path on their way to greatness was never a walk in the park. there were obstacles to get over. it took patience, courage, and heart. if you want to be a doctor, go out and get it no matter what it takes. your life will be filled with regret if you don't at least take a chance and try. or, if you don't want to take this risk, explore careers out of your comfort zone. it may open up a whole new door for you and you may find a new passion. you never know until you try.
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A lot of the time when socialising with people I don't know i can't make eye contact, i start shaking and i stutter when i speak. I'm really scared of what people will be thinking, and what they will think if they notice i'm nervous, i'm fine around family members i live with and the ones I know, but everybody else i'm really nervous around, it's not a phobia of going outside, it's just socialising.. I have family members that I'm not that close to that think I don't like them or I'm weird or something cause I dont say Hi to them. I have an uncle that asks my dad why I don't say Hi to him. I always get nervous cause I really don't know him and I am weird around people that aren't close to me. I want to have a normal conversation with my uncle but I always get nervous. A while ago I couldn't say Hi even though I wanted to. My uncle is always asking people why can't I speak to him. I'm not trying to be rude when I don't speak to people I just get nervous about what they are thinking about me. do you think i have Social anxiety disorder? what should i do? if i don't have Social anxiety disorder.. what do i have? (link)
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there's nothing wrong with being shy around people you don't know that well. i am the same way. i get really shy and quiet when i am meeting someone or getting to know someone for the first time,but with people i know i'm very loud and outgoing. it's not your fault your uncle isn't patient enough with you. i would take all opportunities you get to meet someone new and get to know them. the more you socialize with people and stand up to your fear, the more comfortable you will feel. practice makes perfect and it makes you more confident in yourself. so when you have gained confidence while socializing with people you meet outside of your family, slowly approach your uncle and try to get to know him. he will see who you really are. once he gets to know you, it will be easier and less stressful for you to communicate with him.
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ugh okay so i am sooo annoyed with liking my best friend.
im almost convinced with myself that im in love with him. but a huge problem. hes dating someone. they just got together recently and since im his bestfriend im stuck hearing about it all the time. like today when i find out shes on birth control so theyre gonna start having sex now..ugh it just kills me so much. i want to get over him but i just dont know how. i cant seperate myself from him, because we're best friends. and i want us to be friends for as long as we possibly can...pleaseee hellppp (link)
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first of all, ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice your friendship to be in a relationship with him. would you rather there be a chance of you and him being together, or being friends for the rest of your lives? so that's something to think about. if you are willing to risk your friendship and still are willing to after about a month or so, talk to him about it. you will never know if you don't speak up. there is no easy way to be completely honest with someone about how you feel,but it is the right thing to do and will help you out in the long run. remember that everything happens for a reason, and to take your time deciding if you want his friendship or to possibly be in a relationship with him.
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This boy and I have been friends for 5 years going on 6 and he is one of my best friends. We know a lot about each other and I am starting to like him! I'm freaking out because if I tell him and he doesn't like me back I don't know how he would react. He has never had a girlfriend and never admitted to any crushes, maybe it's because we are so close but he doesn't seem like the boyfriend type. Such as we've only hugged a few times because he doesn't like them but we have shared chairs, gotten tangled up in twister, and so many other things. I don't know what kind of boyfriend he would make but he makes me happy and I love talking to him because we have so much in common and have lot of stories to tell each other. I guess what I want to know is if every guy has that boyfriend side to him and what should I do about this? Thanks! (link)
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first, imagine yourself in a relationship with him. would it be the best thing for the both of you? would you rather him be your best friend who you love as a brother, or rather have him as a boyfriend and potentially fall in love with him? give it about a month or so. sometimes, people develop puppy love, which is a small crush that goes away after a short amount of time. if a month has passed, and you still have feelings for him, talk to him. be honest. the biggest risk of all is not taking one. would you rather not take the risk and there never being a chance, or take the risk and there being a chance? even if he doesn't feel the same way about you, at least you aren't going to wonder if it could of been, and move on. plenty of fish in the sea. everything happens for a reason, no matter what happens, remember everything happens for a reason.
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So I'm 13 and a girl. A couple of weeks ago, I found out that the guy I liked was going to ask me to dance at the march break dance but chickened out. Ever since then I haven't been the same. I get REALLY jealous when he talks to other girls or hugs them. I want to start out as friends but how do I do that if I'm socially awkward and really shy? (link)
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don't over think how to act around him. just be confident, relaxed and be yourself. the more you socialize with him, the more comfortable you will become around him. just treat him like you would an average friend. when you meet someone for the first time and don't know them that well, it feels awkward at first, right? and the more time you spend with them, and the more you get to know them, you feel more comfortable around them right? it takes time to build a close relationship, and sometimes it takes more time w/ the boy you like.get to know him more, and being around him will be easier for you.
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please help my boyfriend broke up with me the other day because he doesnt like somethings that i do and when i tried to apologize all he said was "mhm" and even though he MADE PLANS to date another girl.. i forgave him and he cant forgive me... i feel bad about what i did and i still want him back how do i get him back?! please help he is the best thing that has ever happened to me and we even made "forever and always promises" which means we promised each other we would be together forever.. but i guess not
f/13 (link)
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no guy is better than you. don't loose your dignity over him. i would try to talk to him, and ask him to leave the past behind. trust is the foundation to every relationship. if a relationship doesn't it will fall apart. talk it out. it seems like you both did something wrong and need to work it out. if you forgave him, and he won't forgive you, he's being a jerk about it and not handling the situation well. he should be respectful...not planning another date with someone...he may of done this in order to escape the situation without having to work it out with you. this is a very immature and selfish act that he did...because now it is making you blame yourself on everything. if he avoids eye contact and doesn't want to talk about it, you deserve better. if the two of you don't have enough trust to be honest with each other, there's no point in having the relationship.
if he does come through to you and starts talking, just listen, be patient, and try to work it out. if he is talking to you disrespectfully and blaming you on everything, that's not right either. whatever happens, remember that you have your whole life ahead of you and plenty of fish in the sea.
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My mom and I used to go out on weekends. Not every weekend but if our schedules meet, we would go to a mall or dine out. It's sort of our way in bonding.
A few years back we discovered that my dad--her husband had an affair and they had a child. It was rough but now I can say that my mom's already recovered but I think one of her ways dealing with our problem then was she'd go out with her friends or just play mahjong with them.
I was very supportive of her because I know she's hurting and was trying to move on but now I asked her a couple of times to go out again, just to hang out but she'll always say she's too lazy to go or just not in the mood. But if her friends would call her she's always ready.
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she doesn't hate you. it's not your fault that your dad did that. she may just be looking for a distraction, and might think that if she goes out with you, the subject she is trying to avoid will have to be brought to her attention. i would try talking to her about it, and tell her that we don't have to talk about it...we can just have a good time. talking to someone usually resolves any miscommunication or misunderstanding. she probably just needs some time to process all that is going on, and may be stressed out and doesn't want to get you involved. talking will help.
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Okay do I like this guy, he doesn't know. He likes me, he doesn't know I know. He doesn't want to date me because he said to my friend "I don't want to bring her into my crap right now." We talk all the time and I really like him. I don't care if he has crap going on right now. How do I like him know with out saying so? And what else can I do because he moves on quick and I want to keep him interested. (link)
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talk to him. tell him how you feel. the biggest risk of all is not taking one. if you don't take that risk, you'll never know if you could of been together. if he doesn't want to be with you, it's his loss. either way, at least you won't always wonder if it could of been. he may just be saying that because he is scared that you don't like him back.
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Dating older men was not zomethibg i planned on in life, however once i started dating i seemed to only find older men attractive.
My boyfriend Jorge and i have been dating since October 2010. We met exercising around our neigborhood. He waz a recent dicorced father of a 2 (now 3) year old. I was a university student who just moved to Florida.
When i moved to Miami we still saw each other 4x a month. Recently he asked me to move back to central Florida to advance our relationship. After much debate, i decided to leave Miami. Now ive been back for 4-5 months and if anything i see him less or the same as i did when i lived ib Miami. Thjngs have not even attempted to advance. I questioned him about it and he acted like i was speaking another language! I told him i am fed up and we need to go our separate ways, but thats not what i really want.
My question is this:
Why do you think he did not want to advance the relationship?
Do you think he just wanted me closer and more convienent for gim (possibly even control)?
Do you think my responce to this event was appropriate?
If we speak again what should i say to get my point across?
* he is also a cardiologist with his own pratice, ill be il school for 2 more years. Our families know about each other, i have met his son, etc.
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who knows...that's strange why he all the sudden didn't want to advance in your relationship. it is his loss. it may of very well been to control you, but it could of been for another reason. all i know is that a major necessity for a healthy relationship is trust. if you have this many questions about what's going on, there is no trust in your relationship. this was very well the appropriate reaction to what was happening. he disrespected you by not being understanding to your questioning. he should appreciate your honesty. second, what he did was wrong. he left you hanging..so he was disrespectful by leaving you hanging, and by not appreciating and understanding your honesty. you should be firm and get the facts straight with him. tell him how you're sick of him disrespecting you and avoiding you. if he tries to ignore you or change the subject, tell him you need to talk about this, no matter if he likes it or not. tell him what he did wasn't right.
you don't need an older guy messing with your head. you have your whole life ahead of you. don't live too fast. take your time finding the right guy. someone who treats you the right way. he will come to you.
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So lately my life has taken a turn and three guys who I happened to all like asked me out on dates.
I've gone out with one of them a few times and I really like him. He's barely 21 and I am 18. He's a way sweet and cute guy and we have a ton in common.
On the other hand this guy who is a year or two younger asked me to his prom and I said yes. The thing is where I live people just don't go out on dates with multiple people. I want to date around and I don't want anything serious how do I tell these two guys that's what I want? The older guy will probably understand but I'm worried about the other one. The third guy has already passed it by me that he doesn't want a one on one dating experience either.
I feel a bit sleazy doing this but at this time in my life I am too young to be in a relationship.
How do I clear this up with these two lovely guys? (link)
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Tell them you would like to take it slow, and you are not ready to be in a relationship yet. tell them how you have feelings for each of them and would possibly like to commit to them later, but for now, you want to take your time and not grow up too fast. if each of them understand, then they are respectful, patient and loyal to you. if they question your honesty, and seem controlling, don't bother with them. you deserve a guy that treats you right. he will come in good time. you are young and have your whole life ahead of you. there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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Ok so I reccently broke up with a guy and I still love him. I broke up with him because he was issolating me from my friends. He said last night that he still likes me alot and then today, I caught him wheeling my best friend. He says it was to make me jealous but I honestly was in so much pain not jealously. It is painful to see him at school all the time. I couldnt stop thinking about him last night and I fell asleep to mine and his song and everytime I hear the song, I start to cry because I love him but let him go. None of my friends likes him for issolating me and my best friend (the one hes wheeling) was talking to me today and she said that he pushed her but she kinda acted like she liked it. I love him so much and I told him this and he said that he doesnt want to have to wait for me forever. Its painful to see him and talk to him and I cry when mine and his song plays, I love him so much. What should I do? (link)
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ask yourself this question, would you rather have him, or have your friends? a guy that controls you, especially to the point when you don't have time for friends, could lead to an unhealthy relationship. it is disrespectful and bossy for a guy to deprive you from your friends. you have practically your whole life ahead of you. you will meet alot of other guys, go through a lot of bad situations...would you be willing to risk your friendship with your friends for the rest of your life and not have them, all because of one guy that may not even be your true love? there are plenty of fish in the sea, and when you find the one he should be respectful and treat you the right way. good friends are very hard to come by. you don't want to loose them.
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