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break up... help!!!!
please help my boyfriend broke up with me the other day because he doesnt like somethings that i do and when i tried to apologize all he said was "mhm" and even though he MADE PLANS to date another girl.. i forgave him and he cant forgive me... i feel bad about what i did and i still want him back how do i get him back?! please help he is the best thing that has ever happened to me and we even made "forever and always promises" which means we promised each other we would be together forever.. but i guess not
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no guy is better than you. don't loose your dignity over him. i would try to talk to him, and ask him to leave the past behind. trust is the foundation to every relationship. if a relationship doesn't it will fall apart. talk it out. it seems like you both did something wrong and need to work it out. if you forgave him, and he won't forgive you, he's being a jerk about it and not handling the situation well. he should be respectful...not planning another date with someone...he may of done this in order to escape the situation without having to work it out with you. this is a very immature and selfish act that he did...because now it is making you blame yourself on everything. if he avoids eye contact and doesn't want to talk about it, you deserve better. if the two of you don't have enough trust to be honest with each other, there's no point in having the relationship.
if he does come through to you and starts talking, just listen, be patient, and try to work it out. if he is talking to you disrespectfully and blaming you on everything, that's not right either. whatever happens, remember that you have your whole life ahead of you and plenty of fish in the sea.
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Obviously, you don't like to hear the truth, but darling, you're only hurting yourself. I'm telling you what I told you because I have been in your position before.
I know you really want him back, but trust me, some things are better left undealt with. Okay?
I'm going to explain why I gave you the advice I gave you before, and maybe you can relate to it?? :)
I was 14 and I dated this guy for about 7 months. He was my first boyfriend, and just like you, I thought he was the "one". When he left me, he got with another girl 4 days later! I couldn't believe it! Here I was, crying my eyes out; trying to get him back; and there he was all over some other girl after he told me he wanted to marry me. I felt sooo stupid for believing him, ya know??
After the pain healed, I realized I didn't love him. I liked the thought of him. I liked having someone who cared for me differently than family & friends. I've had plenty of boyfriends after him; and none of them lasted past 8 months.
I've realized that every guy I date is a stepping stone to lead me to my knight in shining armor.
But now I'm 20 and I'm happily engaged to a man of 2 in a half years; and I know this is love. This man is the one I've dreamed of my entire life.
I know what you're thinking "OMG SHE'S 20-I DONT WANNA BE THAT OLD WHEN I FIND MY TRUE LOVE"--I was 17 when I met him; and we're still together and I'm 20.
Plus another tip; when you're ready to settle down, you'll know it girl. I promise. Guys don't begin to mature until after their 18-25. Girl's mature SO much faster than boys; and thats why we want to settle down, before they do. :)
-----------------------------------------------Hunnie, you're 13. You will have plenty of other guys that you will think are the 'one'. I don't know any 13 year old's that are/were/have been with their 13 year old boyfriend 'forever & always'.
You don't love him. It was puppy love, which is common for pre-teens.
If he already had plans to date another girl, than he didn't 'love' you to begin with. If he truely loved you babygirl, he would've believed you and listened to your apology instead of letting it go through one ear & out the other. Boys this age aren't ready to be tied down-they want to date around.
I know it hurts, and I know you are confused, but trust me. You have your whole life ahead, and their will be another guy out there that will sweep you off your feet, and give you a TRUE definition of love.
Hang in there.
It'll get better. I pinky promise!
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