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A relationship with a guy like Dexter
Preface: My Boyfriend does not murder people, nor has he ever harmed myself or anyone else. Nor does he hurt animals.
I'm dating a guy who has quite freely told me he doesn't "feel emotions". He's even joked that the only emotions he does feel are anger, annoyance and contentedness.
It's one of his quirks, and I don't mind overly.
But it makes it very difficult to move forward with a relationship when your boyfriend responds to "I love you" with "Uh huh. I don't believe in love".
I've noticed there are other people on this site who have asked about being like that...
I want to know, is it possible to have a relationship? Would you, if you feel no emotion be able to maintain a relationship?
How do I support him as he is but also get what I need from our relationship?
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Zane is incorrect. There are people who feel no emotions. In clinical terms they are called sociopaths, and your boyfriend is not one. A sociopath would never actually admit he has no emotions, more than likely your boyfriend has some degree of extreme emotional repression.
If you want to help him, consider talking to him about therapy. He probably won't listen, you don't sound young enough to be dealing with an adult with a modicum of self awareness. But if he's really the way he tells you he is there's likely something messed up in his head that's causing him to shut down emotionally.
Either that, or he's putting you on and you just aren't ever going to get anything you need from him. Either way, you probably won't. He's either a stupid kid who's just found a way to seem aloof and mysterious or he's suffered a significant trauma which has fucked him up royally. Either way you'll probably never find out for yourself, I don't recommend pinning your hopes on him being able to be what you want or need.
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Everyone has feelings, After all he is human. There is no such thing as a person without "emotions"
From the sound of what you've posted, Your boyfriend does not want to be in a relationship. I'm not sure what the background of him is but he sounds like he has some personal issues to work on. Is it possible to be in a relationship with a person? Yes, Your boyfriend No.
What would be the point in being in a relationship if only you are willing to make it work? None, It would be a waste a time because you would be putting all the work into it while your boyfriend couldn't possibly give a crap. Your best bet, Move on and find someone who is positive and cares for you, That is a healthy relationship. Your boyfriend's negativity is going to ware you down in time and the effort of trying to make something work that he isn't willing to put time and effort into is draining.
EDIT: Well I apologize for providing false information as I had no idea there were such thing as I am not a doctor nor therapist. However, I still do recommend moving on if your boyfriend isn't willing to seek some sort of therapy and at least try to fix things. Good luck either way!
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