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How to move on if i should
This boy I have been dating for a year and a half just dumped me. He has done this several times since november. He always ends up coming back. He thinks hes not good enough for me because he isnt doing well in college and is basically doing nothing right now. The problem is, I cant get him out of my head. It happened friday, he called me that night but i ended the conversation early. Then he called me twice on saturday but I ignored them because I dont know what he could possibly want to say to a girl he dumped? I guess I just dont know what to do. I know I SHOULD move on. but I kind of want to talk to him, but I will probably end up getting sucked back in. I love him a lot and Im scared if i move on until maybe hes made himself happy more than I will loose him forever or he will find another girl or something. Theres so much anxiety that I have. But everyones telling me its the best thing for me to be without him because I am driven and doing well while he doesn't really move on. Any thoughts or words of wisdom to help me would be greatly appreciated. Ive never felt this lost :/
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Not an easy thing to do because you have that "get use to" syndrome that many women have because dating someone that long, it's all you know. What baffles me is that if he is feeling so insecure about how college and life is going why would he push away the one good constant in his life. And should you feel like the person that should be at his beckoning call? Maybe you should have one LAST conversation and see but also ask yourself if this is the person you can see yourself waking up to in the morning and feeling that you made the right choice. Because not letting yourself feel or enjoy your life to feel for this person or whoever you end up with would be such a waste. If he is not secure enough with himself, how will he ever be secure enough with you. Don't question yourself but just find out so you can move on with or without him and don't let him cheat you of that by you haveing to constantly think about it. You go girl!
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aaww :( dont worry everyone goes through this. its the worst feeling in the world because you love him and miss him so much and you have anxiety not talking to him. i know the feeling. I honestly dont think he broke up with you for that reason because if he really did feel that way he would appriciate that your in his life not take you out of it, there for you need to move on.
here are a few helping ways to do it.
1. Delete him from EVERYTHING phone, facebook, pictures.
2. Focus on making your self happy and not needing someone there to make you happy.
3. Go out with your friends and try not to stay home too much.
4. Always be around possitive loving people.
5. Get your hair done, make your self feel good :)
and remember that you need someone who will never wanan let you go nomatter the situation.
hope i helped girly :)
if you have any questions just ask
-xoxo Juju
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Move on, The guy dumped you several times since November and that was only 3 months ago. To be dumped several times in 3 months is draining and stressful and after awhile instead of focusing on "fixing" things with the on and off boyfriend you will eventually be more focused on preparing for the next break up. Reality is your boyfriend isn't ready for commitment and he has already proved that too you several times. Your head is only telling you there may be a spark of hope but lets face it there is no reason to be in a relationship with him if he can't commit to you. Break ups are hard but as long as you keep falling for his games you keep yourself from finding what else is out there and you will never know if you hold yourself back. Cut him loose, Let him have the drama and save yourself the time and stress.
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