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Is it normal for a 15 year old girl to experiment with her.. well privet area? and it harmful to put things in to it?

Its totally and completely normal for a 15 year old to do that. You're at the age where your mind is wondering about things like that.

Many things are safe, there are a few however.. that (with common sense) you wouldn't put into yourself..

Hope this helped :]]

this might sound dumb but im not from the US so dont know what a freshman or somophore is...can anyone help me out!!?? do you have any other names also?

many thanks

Don't feel stupid, I take it your talking about highschool..
freshmen : 9th grader
somphore : 10th grader
junior : 11th grader
senior : 12th grader

Hey, Im a guy, still a virgin and i was wondering how reliable a condom is. Is it a recommended Idea to double up. I know the chances are like 2-3 in 100 but would doubling up make it like.001 percent chance. Thanks answers are appreciated

NEVER EVER NEVER EVER double up on condoms. They rub together and it makes the breaking of the condom go up majorly.

Candoms are (I think, not 100% sure) 97% reliable, when used in the right way. If you are going to use the condom, make sure to use it in the right way, to decrease your chance of something bad happening.

But once again.. NEVER double up =]

Do you have to be 18 to buy condoms?

No way !! You can buy them at any age.

okay so my boyfriend wants to finger me and so far hes felt me through like sweatpants.. but next time we hang out.. he wants to go in my pants and i dont mind.. except.. what does he expect to find as far as pubic hair goes? we never talked about it because i dont want to bring it up.. should i shave it or trim or what???

16/f. thanks

Its not your boyfriends area, it's yours. Therefore its totally up to you. Do what you feel comfortable with. You could always ask him & see what he says, but even still, it's yours choice not his.

alright i probably know what your going to say but i'm asking anyways. Me and my boy friend ahv bin having sex without condoms for about 8 months now, but i'm on bith control, is it still a bad idea to continue with this.

All sex is risky. With a condom or without. All your doing without the condom is increasing the risk for and STD & even though you are on birthcontol, there is still the chance of something going wrong and.. yeah.

If you feel comfortable to continue having sex without the condom, then go for it. Its only your choice. Always remeber though, that even though the last 8 months nothing bad as happened, doesn't mean it still cant. Once again, it's totally up to you..

im 14. one boobs bigger than the other. normal?

Perfectly normal. Don't sweat, they will even out eventually (spelling).

what age bra SHOULD you be wearing when your 13
when your 14 and when your 15

I am 28a anD I am 14 - under average help

Don't sweat, your perfect. Every girls boobs grow at different rates. No one can tell you what you personally should be wearing. Some girl who are 12 have 36D and some who are 18 have 32A. It just depends on the perosn. So don't worry.. they'll grow soon enough.

whats the deal with 11:11?
I dont get it?
Someone please inform me?

11:11 is the only time when all four numbers are the same, right in a row.

You are to make a wish when it hits 11:11 & if you don't tell anyone it, it's sopose to come true.

Sigh Hannah I have a group of friends and we got together over the summer a few time. I thought we were really close but now i am not so sure. Today the group was standing together and whispering when i went up to talk to them the tolprepd me to leave. THey also did that to a friend of mine. I don't know what I should do. One of the girls and I have been getting into it alot over everything. I know that I tend to over react at things but should I be hurt or mad or what? Please help!!!!!!!!!!!

A preplex girl

I think I know who you are, I could be wrong.. but I'll hush about it.

Sometimes friends do that. They tend to break away for a little awhile but they come back together at some point. Theres not need to over react, sure you might be hurt of fustrated, but don't try and make things seem worse then they are. Talk to your friends about it. Tell them how you are feeling & that you like being friends, and you want to keep it that way. Don't try and fix the problem in one day. Rome wasn't built in o1 day. Try things slow. Don't rush into fixing it. Things take time. Try hanging out again with them, and see if that helps any. Also, the one you've been getting to it with alot. Talk to her about it. Maybe you o2 can work things out together. If you feel like your starting to get mad at someone, just stop talking. Take a breath. Count to ten, just chill. When you are all worked up its harder to work things out in a normal way. Try that and see if anything gets better.

If you need more help, I'm always here.

My boyfriend and I went to breakfast today and he kissed the waitress on the lips and she had a nickname for her. He insists she is is like a sis to him. They have known each other before I even met him. Am I too jealous, how should I react?

You're fosure NOT too jealous...

Honestly.. TELL HIM GOODBYE, it shouldn't matter how longs hes known her, it's 10000% wrong for him to do that..

What does Bite Me mean?

It can mean many things :
screw you
fxck off
leave me alone
get away
shut up (in some cases)

i seriously think im depressed.. & im not in the least bit joking.

my grades are dropping. school isnt as important to me as it used to be. i dont matter. no one cares. i need help. i absolutely refuse to tell my parents. who should i talk to ?? i dont want this to get any worse.. but if i tell my parents theyll put me in counseling again.. & then ill get put on drugs.. and i will not take any medicin. who should i talk to ?? what should i do ??
HANNAH HELP ME !!

Its a good thing that you are asking for help. It shows you are worried about youself. There are alot of people you can talk to that can help you when you need help. Make sure it's someone you can trust, and someone who understands alot of things.

You can talk to :
A teacher, a friend parent, an adult, a school consluer, your parents (if you feel comfotable with it), a brother or sister, a friends brother or sister, a family friend, an adult, a doctort, a friend (this might not be the best idea, they arent as helpful as someone who is older).

I understand what your saying. My grades are dropping and things that were once important to me, just.. seem not as much anymore. You could just be growing up, your bodys changing odd things are happing to yourself, you might just be confused. I'm glad that you are taking this im a searous way. That shows you are worried about yourself, and you would like to get help. You might not want to back to conseling, but it might be the best thing for you, if you are depressed. I'm cant tell you if your depressed, I'm fosure not a doctor, but it sounds like you have problems in your life right now, that you need help working out.

As much as you hate telling your parents, if anything else fails.. you might have to. When they take you to the counsling center (when and if they do) explain that you don't want medication. That you want to try and work things on your own. You should have some say in your life. Just talk to someone you really trust, and ask them for real help. Seeing a doctor will proablly (spelling?) be the best thing for you. You won't enjoy it, but once you are happy again.. then you will be thinkful that you have people around you that care enough to get you the help you need.

Hoped I helped some, you can always IM me at [love x woah] or send me another in my inbox... even if youd just like to talk. Good luck.

Ohmygod. Rawr. Right now, I have my period.
Its the worse one I have had in my life.
I have taken 2 midol, its not doing nothing..

My back is killing me, I havent aten in 1 day becasue I have absoutly no appitite, Everthing hurts. Even my legs.

help? What do you take for these things!? Midol used to work, now, it doesnt!

Thanks so much

Midol doesnt help me eather, I have to try other stuff.

I know of 3 things that help me when I hurt :
(1). A heating pad (the one that plugs into the wall). I take that, and plug it in somewhere and put in on the bodypart that hurts the most. Cuddle up with that and a movie for a while, and it helps.
(2). A moble heating pad. You can buy them at most stores. Its a pad that has hot "pockets" in it. They make them for backs, stomachs, legs.. anything really. Fine one and you can wear it all day.
(3). If you dont have a plug in the wall heating pad, this will work. Take a 2 liter soda bottle. (make sure its empty) and fill with REALLY hot water. Close the cap so that is doesn't leak, and wrap it in a towl (so it doesnt hurt you, because of the heat). Lay the bottle anywhere on your body that hurts, and you have a home-made heating pad

You can always try taking other pain-reducer medication. Good luck and I hope something helps you.

Hey. I'm a very sporty girl. I play soccer, basketball, and a little hockey. 70% of the time you'll find me out on the field messing around with my buds. But, since I'm so active I wear sports bras all the time. In fact, I only have sports bras. Lately my erm... boobs look odd in sports bras, It looks like I have one big one a "uniboob". I really want a real bra, a cupped one. But I'm soooo shy I can never ask my mom to take me to get one. Tips would be lovely yo help this conversation to go smoother. Thanks! 13/F

Ask your mom if she can take you shopping. While shopping just bring it up, "by the way.. can I get a regular bar, so I have some of them and sports bras"

Don't be shy to ask your mom, she wears bras too =]] Just ask her, nothing bad could happen from it, and you'll get new "regular" bras.

hey! i have a really big problem. so i dated this guy jake over a year ago now for almost 2 months. he dated thisgirl i knew and then they broke up after 2 years and me n him dated. which was quite crazy. anyways, we ended up breaking up bcz he cheated on me with her and they got back 2gether n have been on n off for almost a year. well, now he is dating sum other girl that idont know n the other day i messaged him on myspace, i havent talked 2 him since last year n i asked him for directions 2 get this oneplace we went 2 last year when we dated. he messaged back sayin he has nothing againts me n he knows he did some bogus shit n to give him a call ormessage when we wanna hangout for old times sake... so idont know if im taking this too overboard but he was my first realll bf that i reallylikedn my friend's birthday is coming up this weekend, and he knew her, thats how we met n began dating bcz his x was friends with my best friend n because of allthis she hated us... well i really do have feelings 4 him n want to ask him 2 come by but is it 2 weird?? but thing is... he never said sorry... what should i write back? thank you somuch

He admitied to being wrong, thats the first step. I would message him back. What bad thing could happen? Just don't get your hopes out. Sending him a message back doesn't always mean, you'll get him back, but you guys could end up as friends. Asking him to come by is toally normal. You guys has a "history" together, you can't just forget that. Seeing him for old times sake would be a good thing, I think.

For the message back, just be yourself 1st off. Tell him that your gald it has nothing against you, and that you'd love to hang out.. for old times. If you feel comfortable with it enough tell him that he hurt you in the past, and your afarid that talking to him again is going to bring that hurt back. Be honest with him, but don't be worried about sending the perfect message back (you can always send another =]).

Good luck, and if you need more help.. keep sending them =]]

Hi im 14 and ive only masturebated a few time (i really dont know how) if you could give me a few ideas and things i could use that would be very appreciated.thanks.

I'm not sopose to answer this kinds of questions (we can get kicked off the site).

BUT, if you go to [www.google.com] and in the search box type in masturbation, you will get tons of sites that can help you with your problem.

Sorry I wan't much of a help, but try google.. I'm sure it can help you alot better then I did.

If a guy doesn't come in you, is it considered sex?

Yes is it.

when ever I look in the mirror all I can say is wow im so ugly. im starting to get so self consious about how i look. i dont like to look striaght at people when im talking because i always think people are thinking that im ugly. i dont know why im like this now. before i didn't even care how i looked. :(

Almost everyone goes threw this.

I know what you mean, I can't look at people when I talk to them. I look past them or to the floor. You need to relize that you are a beautiful person. Inside and out. Its hard not to care what others think of you, but you need to relize those that say bad about you, want to be like you. They are jealous of you. Sometimes telling yourself your beautiful is easier said then done, I'm going threw the same thing right now. You friends can help you alot. I'm sure your friends compliment you alot.. take them. They know you better then you know yourself. When someone tells you something bad about yourself, yeah listen to it, but that doesn't mean its always right. Everyone says stuff they dot mean, most out of jealousy (spelling). If someone says something about you, take it in a good way. That the person took the time to tell you something about yourself that could use work.

You are beautiful though. NO matter what. Everyone else thinks so, so maybe you should too. Everyday try and think of something that you like about yourself (everyone has something they are proud of, even if they dont want to admit it). Tell yourself your a good person, because its true. If you really dont like something about yourself (attitude, clothing, smell, etc.) then change it, but dont change it because your peers dont like it (not sure if thats the case, but still) change yourself, because you want to be the best person you can be. Start off slow if you have to. Each day tell yourself that you like something may it be : your hair, your shirt, your skin color, your eyes, but don't just say it to say it.. you have to mean it. You really have to believe that you are beautiful. No one else will think that about you, if you cant even think it about yourself. Be positive :] You proablly a very amazing person, now tell yourself that.

one of my breast is smaller than the other. Is that normal?

Totally normal, they will become even later on in life. Don't sweat your fine.

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