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really self-concious
when ever I look in the mirror all I can say is wow im so ugly. im starting to get so self consious about how i look. i dont like to look striaght at people when im talking because i always think people are thinking that im ugly. i dont know why im like this now. before i didn't even care how i looked. :(
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let me tell you something , whenever you look at your self you start to focus on little things and they make you think you look ugly becuz your focusing on them, try lookin at somthin you like bout urself, you end up seein urself as pretty and if lets say you have a big nose and keep focusin on it it just makes you see your self as ugly...confidence is the best cure! if you hve confidence people start lookin at you as pretty and a smiling is also somethin so beautiful...
and i also want you to know one more thing some people look at themselves in the mirror and think they are ugly when other people thnk they're gorgeous. its a matter of opinion girl.
be confident and be happy people will start to love u more trust me.
hope i helped gorgeous
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Whether or not you consider yourself to be pretty, ugly or somewhere inbetween is only part of your issue. While beauty is subjective, we all know that cultures have their standards and we are all somewhat categorized and judged. What is pretty one year is ugly the next, or what is handsome in one country is detestable in another. Throughout the decades beauty standards change considerably for males and females. The issue you really need to deal with is self-acceptance. We all go through periods of self-criticism, but you need to open your eyes a bit bigger than your own reflection. You will then see that perspectives are diverse beyond your own feeling at the moment. Some people happen to meet the current definition of outer beauty, but if this is all they have to offer, their beauty is like a perfect eggshell containing a rotten yolk. No one wants to be around them for a length of time. Plain looking people can become increasingly desirable if they have magnetic personalities, charismatic characters and wit and humor. Not looking at someone in the eye is rude and may be taken as an insult. You need to have respect for yourself and the person you are talking to. It is not all about how you or I look. The world does not need more beauty queens. If you can change something, than do it, but if you cannot, then concentrate on more worthwile things that need changing in this life. Look in the mirror right now and really look into your own eyes. This is the person you are, deep inside your soul. This person is valuable and has something great to offer this world, so don't get in this person's way!
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Almost everyone goes threw this.
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I know what you mean, I can't look at people when I talk to them. I look past them or to the floor. You need to relize that you are a beautiful person. Inside and out. Its hard not to care what others think of you, but you need to relize those that say bad about you, want to be like you. They are jealous of you. Sometimes telling yourself your beautiful is easier said then done, I'm going threw the same thing right now. You friends can help you alot. I'm sure your friends compliment you alot.. take them. They know you better then you know yourself. When someone tells you something bad about yourself, yeah listen to it, but that doesn't mean its always right. Everyone says stuff they dot mean, most out of jealousy (spelling). If someone says something about you, take it in a good way. That the person took the time to tell you something about yourself that could use work.
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You are beautiful though. NO matter what. Everyone else thinks so, so maybe you should too. Everyday try and think of something that you like about yourself (everyone has something they are proud of, even if they dont want to admit it). Tell yourself your a good person, because its true. If you really dont like something about yourself (attitude, clothing, smell, etc.) then change it, but dont change it because your peers dont like it (not sure if thats the case, but still) change yourself, because you want to be the best person you can be. Start off slow if you have to. Each day tell yourself that you like something may it be : your hair, your shirt, your skin color, your eyes, but don't just say it to say it.. you have to mean it. You really have to believe that you are beautiful. No one else will think that about you, if you cant even think it about yourself. Be positive :] You proablly a very amazing person, now tell yourself that.
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wow i am in the same exact situation you are in and i honestly dont know how to fix it as well.
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It's very normal to go through this. It's hard to completely turn around your way of thinking. You need something to inspire this change other than just wanting to feel better. Try a new hairstyle, buy a new outfit, or (if you're female) wear some makeup. If people notice you change on the outside they'll compliment you, hopefully, making a change on the inside. You'll realize that people do think you're attractive, they just don't feel the need to say it when they see no reason to. Any outward changes you make will bring compliments, but realistically, you're not really going to look that much different. After awhile, you will develop good self-esteem and not rely on your perceived outside appearance for the feeling that you are beautiful. People are complimenting you, not your change. The change just made them think about it for a minute. Eventually, you won't even think about how you look. You'll know you look good. I know this sounds totally cliche, but everyone is beautiful. You just have to find your beauty for yourself. One more tip: try not to stare at yourself in the mirror so much. Nobody judges you as much as you judge yourself. Good luck. :)
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everyone worries about how they look i guess you can call it human nature. it's all the little things that make you different from the person that you see down the hall, but it's also those little things that make you who you are and not someone's copy. don't compare yourself to that other person but to only yourself. if you feel great then everyone around you will see that you are confident and sure of yourself. it's the way you see yourself that others see you, and by others i mean everyone but the "haters" how'll say anything in hopes of making you feel bad about that kind of person you are.
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whoa.. Everyone is pretty in there own way.. nobody is ugly.. people care about you and like you for who you are. you know i was young I use feel the same way. i mean I had freinds who are tall and pretty and think they all that.. then later I relize I don't wnt freinds like me for way I look or not. its don't matter only inside.. if you just put smile on your face and maybe put some good smelly stuff. I am sure someone say something very nice to you. most of the time, alot young people feel same way becouse part of growing up.. thing is shouldn't put your slef down. I want you to think of 10 postive great things that you do and talents and mostly what you have. so tommmrow put one of your best smile face on. if you think they thinking that. then look stright at them and smile. don't worry they think and yet there one person I know love you and think you most pretty person in the world, yes God.. Smile I hope I help
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well, obviously its something thats been sadi to you about the way you look, or sumthn of that nature, becuase people dont just get paranoid about the way they look on their own. im 7 months pregnant, and ive gained about 29 pounds, i feel sooooooooooooo huge, but my boyfriend, as well as other people are always telln me i look so good. i guess its just a matter of how you carry yourself. i have met some of the most confident girls around that are pretty big, but still have that positive outlook and attitude on things, i think as long as you stay positive, then everything will work out in the end- including your confidence.
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