Hello, 18, f, freshman in college. I just got back from hanging out with my friend, we'll call her Abby, tonight on campus. Abby is friends with a lot of people so it's always a good time when we're all together. There's this guy, we'll call him Billy, that is a friend of Abby's friend, he'll be Chris. I've seen Billy around before and I've talked to him once when he was playing his guitar. Tonight was different, there was a group of 7 or 8 of us and we were all just sitting around hanging out. I arrived late because I was at a study session. I came and sat down next to Abby and about 10 minutes after I was there, Billy says "so.. who are you?" I introduced myself and Abby told me everyone's names after Billy introduced himself. A few people had left about an hour into us all hanging out so Abby and I went into her dorm so that she could charge her phone, we had walked back out to everyone about ten minutes later and there was only three people left. I took my old spot on the ground and Billy says "hey, the ground is cold.. do you maybe wanna sit up here? I don't think I smell that bad." So I went up and sat next to him on the bench. Abby, however, wanted to stand. However, I did not like that she was standing because I had to look up to talk to her and she joked that I didn't like being the shorter one for once, so Billy and Chris had told us to stand back to back to see who was taller. I had a bun in my hair so Billy said that was throwing him off and we were all joking and that conversation ended in my new nickname being bun for Billy. After a few more minutes, it was getting to be pretty chilly so I said to Abby "dang, it's chilly, I need a sweatshirt," I look over at Billy and he was holding out a sweatshirt to me, he said his friend was wearing it and he just didn't get to take it up to his dorm yet so he let me wear it. I put it on and a few minutes later, we all decided to relocate to a darker area so we could watch the stars. On the way there, I was walking with the girls and the guys were walking behind us and I just heard Chris say "that's a nice sweatshirt, where'd you get it?!" They all laughed and then Billy said "I let her borrow it, man, she was cold." So, we went to a darker area and then when we had decided enough was enough there, we went and got food on campus. Billy got a call from a friend asking if him and Chris want to go over to his house to hang out. So, before they left Billy told us it's been real and as they were leaving Billy was walking away, then I saw him come back, he didn't say anything and kinda just stood there so I took off his sweatshirt and gave it back to him. That was obviously what he wanted because after that, he left.
I guess my question is, do you think Billy is interested? I think he might be but there are reasons for me to believe otherwise, such as
a) everybody in that group of friends has nicknames for each other
b) he asked for his sweatshirt back, he knows Abby and I are close and we will see each other again so it isn't like he doubted that he'd never see his sweatshirt again
c) his sweatshirt was just there on the bench so I feel like he maybe offered it to me just to be nice and not due to his interest in me
Please, your honest opinion and why. I hate when people answer questions but don't say why, Thanks so much, I know this is long and so unorganized but I said everything I needed to. Thanks again!
From what you've written it seems like he's into you but just chickened out when the time came to ask you out. He won't have taken his friends sweatshirt if he didn't like you, and on top of that he asked you to sit next to him. If you don't want to take the huge risk of asking him out first then ask him to grab a cup of coffee with you. It's not a date yet and it'll give you a chance to get to know each other when you're alone and where things are between the two of you, if there even is something. If there is then he can ask you out, if not then it's only coffee.
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My high school boy friend and i have been dateing for about 2 weeks now not that long but yeah.. but today at my house i tickled his sides and he told me that it dont tickle but it dnt hurt but every time i do it he starts to squrm around and kinda laugh but keep telling me it doesnt tickle.. then he pulls his friend aside and tell him what it is but he wont tell me cuz he say its wierd to his girl friend... my question is do anyone know what it could be?
Could be the fact that he wants to seem like superman around you and that nothing can effect him and he'll always protect you. I can't say for sure. One way to find out is ask him straight out the next time you're along. Tell him that in a relationship there has to be full honestly and it takes a real man to show his true weakness to his woman. Even superman showed his weakness to lois.
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hi i just want to know whats a crazy place to have sex...
Well your normal places are anywhere private like anywhere inside a house. Crazy places are most often times outdoor like in a car, at a park, behind a bar or store, or even at school (if you're as young as you sound). Now the most important thing to remember is that have sex in public is illegal if you get caught, so i find it best to do such things after midnight when most people are asleep. Just be smart on the place you choose and be safe when you do do it. It's best to always think ahead.
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What are good ideas for a talent show?
I always found singing to be a good choice; however, there is always doing some sort of dance, a comedy bit to some humor, or even some weird human talent you may have. However if this is for school i wouldn't do the last one, people can be a little too judgemental at that age.
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Hey, I'm doing a paper on whether or not tobacco selling/consumption should be treated as harshly as heroin or not. I have to have articles that support both sides, the more the better, from different sources/authors and all that. I'm having a lot of trouble finding credible sources to use. I used google.scholar but I still had trouble finding things. Can anybody help me out??
Thank you so much.
Try searching through newpapers online, or even hitting up different news media websites. If you show up with a handful of sources it should help your teacher overlook one or two that aren't all that credible. Just remember use the credible sources way more then the noncredible ones.
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I'm really just not into this guy at all any more... we've been dating for like six months or something and I can't stand him. He likes me way more than I like him. But he recently moved like an hour and a half away and we're still dating i guess and I have a car but I really don't want to drive an hour and a half there just to break up with him and then drive back so is it completely cruel if i just text him? I'm just so done with him UGH
Even though it is a long drive just to break up with him it would be better to see him one last time before it all ends that way everything gets out in the open. It would make moving on easier for the both of you. If i can't convince you to go see him then the least you should do is call him, a text is just too mean of a way to end it.
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Hello.
My name is Lilian Owoka, i went through your profile today at www.advicenators.com and i wish to continue relationship with you if nature will permit we have a long way to go.
to tell you more about myself and including some pictures of myself too. I will like you to get back to me through my private email (lilianowo@yahoo.com)
Thanks from Lilian
I'll admit it, i'll bite
Ben
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Okay, well I am going to the movies with my boyfriend this weekend and I usually know what I would wear, but I am not too sure this time. Any suggestions?
I'm no expert when it comes to what to wear, but as a guy i know how to keep most of us looking at you and not thinking about what's under there. So just something to take into suggestion as you're picking out what to wear. For shoes i'd say something flat and easy to walk in, it could be a dinner and movie thing so walking around is possible. Stay away from skirts or anything that short when it comes to legs, you want his eyes on you not on your legs. For a top whatever you normally wear everyday, just make it light, but not too light, give him a chance to give you his jacket when he sees you're cold. Above all have fun, he's there for you and not your clothes (at least he should be)
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me-16/f him-17/ okay so here's the thing, there's this guy i've liked for quite some time, he has a really good relationship going, they're perfect for eachother so i try really hard not to flirt with him. but he does just the opposite, he's always flirting with me (he's a really big flirt, his girlfriend doesn't mind) and when we hang out outside of school he's always pushing or rubbing me in some way that really REALLY turns me on... and he bites me alot too... which i think is just soooo hot!!! well anyway, my question is, do you think he knows how much all of this turns me on? and also what can i do to not be turned on... because i really don't want to mess up his reationship. and we're kind of drinking buddies and i get even more sesitive and horney when i drink... and the will power i have when i'm drunk isn't soo great... thank you sooo much in advance!!!
As soon as you said that he pushes and rubs you... he's trying to sleep with you, trust me i'm a guy i've tried these things myself. i bet you anything that he knows that this is truning you on and from my point of view it's doing the same thing to him. Somethings you can do to keep yourself from getting turned on is when he tries it again just get up and leave. About his relation you aren't messing it up he's doing a find job all by himself. all that i can say is that i think you need to find yourself a new drinking buddy because if he's doing this to his current gf then just imagine what he'll be doing to you if you two ever get together.
Croat
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see heres the deal. my ex boyfriend and i are amazing together i love him but of course there are things about him that bother the shit outa me. but me and him are gettin bak together. i've been thinkin about the future alot lately and i dont like the way i've been thinking. see.... and him and his dad all hang out alot of the time! his dad is THE shit! well i've been thinkin about the perfect man for me, and the perfect man is.... his dad! his dad is 34 yrs old! hes the greatest. im sooo comfortable around his dad! i take showers at his house and chill around the house in practically nothing while he sleeps! hes walked in on me naked and just went about his business talking to me normally not even glancing twice or nothin like nothin was wrong or even wierd! now dont think his dad is a petafile and dont think im into the older men, cuz normaly im not. i mean i dont wanna b with his dad but his dad is everything i've ever wanted to b with...... is that normal? cuz it makes me feel uncomfortable. and im not sure if i sould b worried or not
it's normal to think about being with someone older it's just a way that your mind explores things but it doesn't mean that it will happen. it is said that father and son are very much a like. one possible reason for feeling the way that you do is that you are picturing what your boyfriend will most likly become and since you have such a bond with the father in the first place that when you are picturing the boyfriend older you jump to the father as that is who the boyfriend get most of this traits from. i would take it as one of those things that the mind does without thinking just wondering at possible solutions as to what your boyfriend might become in a few years
croat
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This may sound really dumb but I get really nervous just before I see my boyfriend. Like I start shivering and not feeling hungry or sick and I get a weird feeling in my stomach. I usually have to pretend to my bf that I'm cold so I'm shivering. If someone asks my a question my voice trembles ans I have to swallow about 3 times during the time I'm talking. I hate it, it feels awful and I really want to be able to see him without feeling so nervous and edgy all the time. Please, does anyone know what this is and how I can fix it???
Thanks
there is nothing wrong with you you're just in love. it's just a feeling in the heart that you have that sends it to your whole body. don't worry about it cause it's just something natural.
croat
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When i ask him out should i be like" hey i was wondering if you would like to go see a movie with me?" or what should i say. Please help
13/f
you need to start small. baby steps as i like to call it. start with hw, a class, or teacher. and just go with that. after a bit into the conversation talk about a new movie coming out like the new bond. then go for the kill as i like to call it and ask him, note that this might be a off on conversation throught the day, starting in the morning and finishing after school or on the phone if you deside to give him your number. just take your time.
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How exactly should i ask this guy out? What should i avoid? i was thinking of asking him to the next dancebut i'm afraid that he'll go off with another girl at the dance. I have real self-confidence problems, espically with Guys. Everyone thinks i am a guy beacuse my hair is really short. i don't think he'll go out with me because i don't look like any of the " popular" girls. please Help!!!
first off take it from a guy's point of view, all guys think about the "popular girls" is how to fuck them and then leave them, not really have a relationship with them. there is no sence in going big at the first step, start slow like hw and then a class or teacher you know, and then a movie (if you are so worried about him leaving you at the school dance) take it slow and steady. the moment someone tries and rush you then step on their ball. really do that, guy don't like to admit it but they like a girl who knows who she is and can take charge even if it means stoppin things. it doesn't matter what others think about you only what you think about yourself, everyone else is just a hater so frak them and what they think. stand tall and proud, and be the great person that you know you are.
croat
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yeah i like her but i can never get the first step and just be her friend cause i get tongue tied this has never happened to me before so can anyone help me with what to say?
sounds like you really like this girl and don't worry it happens to the best of us it just a little thing called love. the reson that you can't be her friend is that you don't want to be just her friend you want to be dating her. their is nothing wrong with that just go for it like one day pull her aside and ask her to a movie of something like that. go for it don't worry about the crash and burn if you don't try it then you'll always be second guessing yourself. go for it what the worse that could happen? don't think about the worse thing it's just a saying to just go for it.
croat
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Ohkay. so i was going out with this guy. but like we always seemed to break up but wed go back out and break up and og back out. so on and so on. this has been going on sense march. our longest relatoinship was only about 2 months. but the moment i saw him i knew i REALLY REALLY liked him. - he treeated me pretty good- i never really saw him that much though. cause hes a grade older then me. so we go to different schools, but like when we would break up hed tell me how much he loved me . and how he would do anyhting for me and stuff. and i am fully inlove with this guy. he now though. somewhat likes my best friend. but my bestfriend. doesnt like him even the littlest bit. - anyway. i was hanging out wtih him yesturday. and he was like holding my hand and kissing me and stuff. and it makes me like him even more. but then i asked him if he liked me and stuff. and hes all like i dknoo im not sure and stuff. then right before he signed off line hes like ill ttyl and like a cabillion hearts. so what im confused about is
if i should move on. cause hes not sure if he likes me or not. or just leave things where they are .
well it sound like the two of you get along really well but he just has a problem of commitment. for the momment move on and just end things or make it seem like you are. give him sometime to just think about you and trust me he will. when comes back, give it like 1 month or 2 max before you start other guys, but if he comes back tell him to eather stay with it for the long run for you won't put up with his short term bs that he is giving out.
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But rumors spread about us, and i know he hates my best friend and im like 70 % sure he hates me to.
But i like him so much!
i dont know what to do!
ive said sorry and so on.
please help
well first off you never have to be sorry when it comes to your feelings and who you like or don't like. you sound like you already know what he's going to say but just need someone else to make the choice for you but no one else can only you can. i can point you in a direction, just go for it even if you are 70% sure he'll say no there is that 30% that you'll spend the rest of your life wondering what could of happened so just go for it crash and burn if you must but lits better to be shot down then always wondering what could have happened.
croat
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14/f
okay well my so called friend talk about everything and this girl who dumped me i was talking about her and i was teeling my friend to be careful and i dont want that happening to her.she already did that to an other girl also. then the girl that i was warning was telling the girl that dumped me and this other girl. i exspected her to listen not to tell her behind my back.if she was my freind she would hav keeped it to herself. what do i do. i cant trust her anymore and now i have trusting problems.
this is one of those things that all you can say is shit happens. you think a friend is your friend until they backstab you, but trust me when i say not all people are like that. this girl a knew, well ok she was an ex and well like i said shit happened for her and she had trouble trusting people and now she questions everyone and everything but her situation is also a bit different. trust is a very sensatitive situation it's very hard to gain and very eash to lose but just because one person backstabs you doesn't mean that they all will you just have to be more careful about what you tell other people. the important thing is not to close yourself off from the world cause it'll be very hard to get back in.
croat
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she is going to drive me crazy. there's this guy that i truly and deeply care about, and have for a few years now. however, he has a girlfriend. I'm close to some people that he knows and they have confided in me that he is with her because he is jealous of this guy who SAYS he's my boyfriend. So, he went out with this girl because he was trying to make me jealous. But, I did not know that he found out that this guy was saying these things, so I thought he was with her for other reasons. So, then I meet this guy and we get together. now, there are three guys involved in the picture: the guy i've loved for years, the guy who says he's my boyfriend, and my boyfriend. so, i know that i have something special with the guy i've loved for years, but, at the same time I wanted to make him jealous, but I really grew to kinda like this new guy. Now, my mom says that she can't stand him, after she told me how much she liked him. my mom has moodswings and I don't wanna listen to this anymore. I know that I like this guy but I just know what I'm doing. suggestions?
well first things first this guy that's telling everyone that he's dating you, you need to go up to him at school and like knee him in the balls or something like that and tell him to stop and make sure other people hear and so the word would travel around your school. about the first guy, the one that you've liked for a few years. i would have to say that until be brakes up with his gf or tells you himself that he really likes you, what his friends can't be taken like it's true, for all it spells out they could be lieing to get you to make a fool of yourself. about the thrid guy that you're dating right now. even though the start of the relationship was for a questionable reason to say the least, it sounds like you are moving on and that's good love and relationships are never easy but it's important to keep your head up and keep on moving forward and moving on. if this new guy (the thrid one)doesn't seem like he's for you then end it and if the first guy that you really liked brakes up with his gf and comes for you just see where things go.
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The other day I went over to this guys house because I have been in love with him for almost a year. I have dated him two times before but my mom band me from him because he is eighteen. He wanted me to come over to finish a video that we had watched once before. But he had promised me that was all we were going to do. So I told my mom I was going to a friend's house and would be home by six. Well I went there and all I meant to do intentionally was watch the movie. Well I laid back on his bed then he laid back by me and put his arm around me. Then he pretended like he was asleep but I knew better so punched him in the side. Then he rolled over and held my arms down and licked my nose because he knows how much I hate that. Everytime he did it he laughed and kept moving closer to my face to the point my nose was touching his and our lips were practically touching everytime we talked or laughed. Then he just kissed me and we like made out for half an hour. Then he started fingering me for like ten minutes. Then I gave him head until he cummed. After that we had sex. When we were done he went to take a shower and I went down there to fix my hair. He said don't try to get in the shower with me, prostitution is bad. I told him I wouldn't have to try and asked him if he just called me a whore. He said no, if he called me a whore he would have said it to my face. So when I was in the bathroom he took off his clothes and kissed me. He then told me if I wanted to join then I could, then he got in the shower. I stood there not sure what I should do. I sat there and thought about what I should he stuck his head out and told me to come here. So I did actually thinking he was going to pull me in but he kissed me. After about 5 minutes I finally broke and just got into the shower with him. After that I started thinking I was a slut. I mean I had slept with three guys. Him, one of his friends, and this one guy I had dated at my school. I had slept with him about 8 times, his friend once, and that one guy 3 times. So now I don't know if I am or not. So I'm actually kinda confused. SO PLEASE respond to this. I'm really confused!!!
well to called a true slut you have to sleep with guys and overlap like guy#1 then guy#2 back to guy#1 and then to guy#3. doing all of this within a few weeks like 2 or 3 so i would have to say no. this does bring up a few concerns about the age difference between the two of you if you are like 17 or 16 would be pushing it anything lower the 16 and a half or younger then i would have to say to stop it before your mom finds out and the cops get involved.
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I'm in love with this one guy and I don't know if I should go for it. I guess I'm a little scared thinking he'll say no. Help
i going to guess that the way you're using love is that you like him a lot. if so the follow the same rule that i use, just go for it the worse that could happen is that he could say no but if he does then he doesn't desire someone as great a person as you are. so just go for it and crash and burn if it does bad but you'll move on trust me you will but if you don't then you'll always be wondering what chould have happened if he said yes that he liked you . so just go for it he'll only say no top a person like you if he's a jerk and doesn't know what he's missing out on
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