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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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What do I do if my girlfriend wants an abortion but I want to keep the baby?

There is really nothing you can do. It is her body and her decision. You have no legal standing. To try and convince her not to have the abortion once she has said she is having one; may even land you on the wrong side of the law as it might be seen as harassment.

I understand how you feel though I am not a lawyer and I do not know what state you live in. For the best answer to this question I would suggest you consult an attorney. You may be able, depending on the laws in your state to stop her. But she may be able to go to another state and have it done.

Abortions are also time sensitive meaning their is a limited window by which she can legally have one. By the time you get to court she may already have had the procedure.

I'm a junior in college and after working an at-home make your own hours kind of job for two years, I'm being laid in a week. Luckily, I start a new job in a Verizon store on Tuesday. It's supposed to be full time and it's the only job I could find that had the potential for extra money from sales. Everything else I found was part time and minimum wage.

I'm thinking about taking a semester off to get settled into my new job and to save up money. The reason being that right now a relative pays my rent, but I think he wants to stop in December/March and I don't want to ask him for more money, because he's already loaned me a lot so I could continue going to college. I also can't live on campus.

Without that money though I would need to save up an extra $800 a month to pay it myself on top of about $900 worth of other bills I have. I also can't really find a cheaper place since that's a good deal in my area.

Anyways, that amount is doable by myself, but only if I'm working full time, which makes me think maybe I should take a semester off to figure out if I can even make it work myself and if not figure out what my other options are for living more cheaply.

What do you think?

There are times when one must do what one must do. If taking a semester off will allow you to get financially settled then do what must be done.

What I will also suggest is this: You don't have to lose the entire semester. You can go to school online taking one or two classes on line. My Daughter in-law is doing this to get her masters degree. You can take one of your core courses and say an easy elective for the spring semester and the same for the summer semester. When you return to full time college in the fall you will not be a full semester behind and should be able to start your senior year next January and graduate six months late in December.

Yes this will take up some evenings and it will cut into your social life some. What it also will do is lower your cost of your education as well as virtual course are less expensive in the virtual class room.

My suggestion is in the realm of having your cake and eating it too. You keep your full time job and you don't fall a full semester behind. Depending on how hard you are willing to work when you return to school you could possibly graduate with your class.

My 12 year old son and daughter (fraternal twins) recently came out as gay. Of course, I'm happy that they felt comfortable sharing this information with my husband and I and we both want to be supportive.

I admit though that I'm a little lost when it comes to the issue of sleepovers. When I was a kid, I never would've been allowed to sleep over at a boy's house for obvious reasons. I'm just not sure that those reasons apply here. I don't know if any of their friends are gay or maybe questioning. But if that were the case, are there any good reasons for not allowing same sex sleepovers if it may lead to experimentation?

How you handle the sleep over question is one thing. The bigger question is at 12 years old do they really know they are gay or are they putting a tag on their sexuality before they even know what their sexuality is?

We receive many questions on the issue of AM I GAY. Doctors and scientist now agree that gay is how a person is born and not something they wake up and decide they are. If your children where born gay you would have possibly seen evidence to this as early as 4 or 5 years old. They would have felt they were different from others at about the same age.

It is very easy for kids to be labeled these days for many different reason. While it is good of you and your husband to be accepting of this I suggest you sit down with them and ask them about why they feel they are gay and how they come to believe they are gay. I would say there is better then an 80% chance someone has talked into to believing their gay.

It is also very normal at this age to sexually experiment with people of their own sex. For the girl it is safer as she cannot get pregnant. For the boy it is matter of relieving sexual tension and practicing for the real thing. IT does not make them gay or even bisexual. So talk to them and help them understand their sexuality before the label causes them problems neither you or they want.

To answer your question about same sex sleepovers. I would say go ahead and allow it. At this age they should be experimenting and doing so within their own sex is normal. Better to let them think they are getting away with something while your home incase feelings get hurt and there is a fight.

I want to start by saying that part of this question is actually going to sound arrogant and I apologize for that, but here goes.

I grew up with a verbally abusive father who made me feel like a worthless piece of trash sometimes. I also went through a horrible awkward stage in middle school and my classmates made me feel like an ugly, disgusting monster. I've been called a POS, a pathetic excuse for a human being, a waste of perfectly good air and other things along those lines. I'm afraid that these problems have caused me to suffer terrible self esteem issues which have negatively affected my quality of life.

For example, when I was in high school, a counselor gave me an IQ test, but didn't tell me the results. She told my mother about them later. This is one of the times that is going to sound arrogant. The counselor told my mom that my IQ was 140, but I'm having a very hard time wrapping my brain around that. 140 is a lot higher than I'd think it'd be. My dad always made me feel like a moron. I kind of always felt intelligent in some ways, but unintelligent in others. Like a combination of Brick and Axel Heck from, "The Middle." I'm good at history, but I suck at math. I've also always been interested in the weather and am good at meteorology and I'm decent at biology, but I suck at chemistry. I like to read, but as you'll probably learn in this writing, I don't have the best vocabulary. That and my dad's verbal abuse makes my IQ test results very hard for me to believe.

Now that I'm grown and have been out of my awkward stage for a while, I've developed some confidence when it comes to my appearance, but not a lot. The university I went to had this scholarship pageant every fall and once, this guy I know suggested that I enter it. I actually laughed at that suggestions and thought to myself, "He's either being really nice or he needs to get his eyes checked." These are not thoughts that I want to have about myself though.

Also, a friend of mine and I went to see the newer version of, "Beauty and the Beast" last spring and we both loved it. I made a joke about how much I'd have loved to have gotten to play Belle in the movie because the actor who played the Beast (the guy the Beast transformed into at the end) was so hot. My friend suggested that I could have played Belle, but know I couldn't have. Belle was supposed to be gorgeous. The movie is called, "Beauty and the Beast" after all. Playing Belle was one thing, but when I made a comment about how Emma Watson grew up prettier than I thought she'd be and wished I'd have grown out of my awkward stage that well, my friend (who has known me all of my life) rejected the notion that I ever went through an awkward stage. She lost all credibility to me at that point. Everyone seems to go through an awkward stage. Emma Watson was a cute kid, but she's a down right beautiful woman. I think of myself as a fugly kid who grew into a decent to slightly attractive woman at best and still tend to consider myself ugly at times. However, my friend didn't change her stance and while I can't help but to think that she was being nice. She did make me wonder though if maybe I am somewhat more attractive than I thought I was. I wonder if possibly I've been too hard on myself and wonder what would happen if I were more confident in regards to my appearance.

I wonder what would happen if I tried to be more confident, but I also fear becoming arrogant. I have a hard time judging myself properly and developing an appropriate opinion of myself. I feel like I'm always either going to be insecure as a result of others' negative opinions of me (such as that I'm ugly, stupid, or a POS) or arrogant as a result of other's positive opinions (such as that I am intelligent or could play Belle in Beauty and the Beast").

So what do you think? Am I too hard on myself? Am I not hard enough? I really do feel like this writing sounds arrogant, but I also feel like poor self esteem has ruined my life. What are your thoughts on my situation?

It is funny but I could have written a part of this letter at least the part about your father and the verbal abuse. My father was just like that for reasons I won't go into. This type of abuse does have an affect on ones self-esteem.

As for being hard on your self; the hardest person to judge or critique is ones self. We are always harder on ourselves than anyone else would be. So this is quite normal. More so in women when it comes to physical appearance. Remember one thing about physical appearance it is only a wrapper on who you are. The real you is the person who resides just under that rapper and that is why that boy suggested you enter the contest because regardless of how you feel about your looks he saw the beauty of you that goes beyond the outer display.

Intelligence and education do not coexist. Einstein for as brilliant as he was could not balance his check book.

Now the best way I know of to correct the low self-esteem problem is with professional help. We know the cause is the abuse your dad gave you plus what you had to go through at school. There is more eating away at you that is locked away in your subconscious that needs to come out an be verbalized. I know because my therapist saw it and kept at me until I let it out. Once it was out she helped me put it in a proper prospective and deal with it. Once that happened I was able to build a good self-image and regain my self-esteem.

My suggestion to you is you seek therapy with a psychologist. If your still in college go to the health center and ask to speak to a psychologist.

Im 12 yrs old and i hate my eyebrows who ever sees me or looked at me they say oh you're brows are so thick and they are connected with you're hair i reply yeah ik and smile it seems that I am careless but im really tired of them i asked my mom about plucking them but she regrets so please guys help me
And sorry if I have any mistakes cause im from lebanon and I'm trying my best in English

I understand moms reluctance to allow you to pluck your eyebrows. For one thing once you start you have to continue and for another the hairs have a tendency to grow back even thicker.

What I would suggest is you go to a hair salon or barbershop and get your hair trimmed so it sets off you beautiful face and ask the barber or stylist to trim and thin your eyebrows.

Then about every three of four months return to the barber shop get your hair trimmed again to get rid of any split ends and have your eyebrows trimmed and shaped.

This is a much better way then plucking and you will not end up with thicker eyebrows as you would with plucking.

I've been in a relationship for about 11months, and this is the second time we are dating.. The first one lasted for about a year and five months then we ended it on mutual agreement.. Two days ago, my boyfriend (now ex) called me and told me that he found his calling and after many years of running away from it, he decided to do what God wants him to and he doesn't want distractions.He also said that the first thing that came to his mind in the list of distractions is his relationship.. He said he wants to cut it off and he loves me but he needed to do so. I was shocked, I couldnt cry or talk, I was shaking allover.. I old him earlier in our relationship that it takes quite a long time for me to fall in love, then I fell in love with him, and now he broke it off again.. I feel sad, wasted, devastated and my friends have been trying to calm me but it's not working.. Everything I do reminds me of him.. What can I do to get over it cs it's hurting me..

I wish there is something I could say or do that would make the hurt go away but there is nothing I can do. Having a lover suddenly breakoff a relationship is second only to having someone you live die. You need to grieve and there are many phases of grief one must go through to stop hurting.

Both my wife and my mother would tell you to have a pity party then bait your hook and go fishing again. That there are many fish in the sea and there is a man out there for you.

My advice would be along the same lines but I would suggest that maybe some grief counseling would be helpful. Find a social worker or psychologist to talk with that can help you through this grief period. Anything said in therapy is confidential and stays there.

I would also suggest since you have a hard time falling in love that you use one or more of the dating sites on line to find someone to date and maybe have a relationship with. My son found my future daughter in-law on one and just one look at them when they are together and you can tell they are both head over heels in love with each other.

Since it does take you a while to fall in love you just might need to order up a custom fit in a future lover/husband. That is what these dating sights offer.

Making friends is easier said than done if you’re an outgoing person. I’m not really outgoing, I’m super shy, I’m starting to get over my social anxiety but when I talk to people I meet at school I end up talking about school cause idk what else to talk to them about. Since all I do is go to work, school and then home (since growing up my parents didn’t let me go out so eventually people stopped inviting me out, I only go out once in a blue moon) Anyways during my first year of university I went to orientation week by myself (we weren’t allowed to bring friends who didn’t go to the school). I didn’t want to enter the orientation by myself so I saw a girl who was struggling and she said she was going to the same orientation area as I was and we became friends. Long story short no offence to her but she never wants to do anything to be involved in the school she always says she does but ends up not doing it, now she’s dropping out of school and I’m left with one friend again (that friend too says she wants to get involved but never does it unless I force her, she also says she wants to make more friends too but I’m the one that has to talk to the ppl first). I don’t want to do activities around the school alone, for one I’m not allow to cause the school clubs meet around 6pm which is already dark outside and my parents don’t want me on campus that late unless I have a friend/group of friends. Second usually when I do go to school events I notice people already are with their group of friends, so do you have any tips to make friends at my school? The semester is almost over so technically I only have 4 months left to make friends until the school year is over

Your parents are being overly protective. From what you are writing I would assume you commute to University from home. I also must assume if you are going to university you are 18 or over. This makes you a legal adult. Being a legal adult means that your parents can no longer have the control over you they had when you were a minor. The moment you turned 18 they lost that control. They do not get to see your grades; can no longer see your medical records or make medical decisions for you.

They also no longer can control who you see, where you go and when you go places. They only have that control if you give it to them and by that I mean by not saying , "I'm 18 now and I'm an adult I have the right to go out after six in the evening and I have the right to date who I please. Then the only control they have over you is a car if you drive a car they own.

You need to emphasize these rights to your parents as you need the freedom to join these clubs so you can start building friendships and exercising how to do so.

One thing I suggest before anything else is you move into the dorms on campus. You need to put some space between you and your parents. You need the freedom campus living allows.

There are numerous clubs to chose from to join. Find a club your interested in, one that you are knowledgeable in. Then just like conversations on school work you will be able to hold up your end of a conversation on the subject of the club. Conversations breed friendships. Friendships can lead to dates and dates lead to relationships.

Most importantly you need to move into the dorms on campus. See if there is dorm space available for next semester. Take out a student loan if necessary. I believe from what you have written you needed the freedom that dorm living will provide.

Some parent have a hard time letting go especially if they have only one child. Sometimes the child has to help them make the transition from parent in control to parent on stand-by to help you when you need help.

My son made it easy for my wife and me as he had joined the National guard and went directly from graduation to six months basic training. when he came home to go to the local community college we were already transitioned. So much so that when the head of one of the departments he was having a dispute with called me as they wanted me to take control over him. I said I'm not your student or your customer he is." "He is not your normal student; he is a soldier in the National Guard. You can either deal with him or you can call his First Sergeant just don't be surprised if the First Sergeant doesn't jump down your throat with both feet. They resolved the problem to my sons satisfaction which I believe is the first for a student under 25 years of age.

I'm not suggesting you join the military. I am suggesting you start being your own person and you can do so by moving to on campus living.

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This sounds like a homework question. Most of us, myself included will not answer homework questions. This is not the type of help we offer here.

Hello. 21/F. I felt like I needed to vent somewhere but I can never tell anyone my true feelings. I am already 21 y/o but I have never had a relationship with anyone, I have never even kissed. My younger brother has already had countless girlfriends and has done it all. My youngest sibling, my sister, has just recently been kissed by the boy she likes. While I am very happy for her, I just felt this deep wave of depression come over me. It was awful. I have liked so many guys but never managed to have any of them reciprocate the feelings back. Recently I was beginning to wonder if I should just resign to the fact that I will probably stay alone for the rest of my life. I'm not very sociable, and its very hard for me to be in social situations, so its easy for me to become lonely after a certain period of time. The few guys who have shown interest in me I have not seen that way, are too old or young for me (usually ends up just creeping me out).

This is when it occurred to me... that maybe I just wasn't that interested in guys. This past year I began to question my sexuality because I started to notice that I've never had a boyfriend and usually the guys I'm interested in are unattainable in some form or way. I started to try and imagine myself being with a girl... and was surprised to find that I didn't really mind the idea. My family though... is not very supportive of the LGBT community. I myself was supportive before I started questioning myself, but now I'm scared. If it turns out that's who I really am I don't know if I'd ever be able to tell them. I don't think I could. But I still don't know because I haven't dated either sex, and personally, I believe in falling for a person for who they are, not for their gender. I'm very confused and don't know what to do next because this is giving me a lot of anxiety.

Let’s start with the fact that you are not a lesbian. Doctors and scientists have finally agreed on this one fact Homosexuality is how you ae born. It is not something you wake up one day and decide you are Gay. Now Bisexuality is something that is still questioned and the belief is that a heterosexual can enjoy a bisexual arrangement while still claiming to be heterosexual.

Now as to the other problem you write about. This is something we cannot truly help you with in this type of forum as it really requires a one on one discussion to find out more about you and why you are the way you are. What I can do and will do is point out what I think could be holding you back and what you can do about it.

You’re not alone in this situation; yours is probably the third letter this month I have answered from girls your age and older who have never been kissed. There are a variety of reasons for this ranging from those who have concentrated exclusively on their education and never learned how to date to those who are extremely introverted or they have commitment problems. I would guess you fall somewhere in between these points. Your brother and sister have managed to avoid these pitfalls and balance school and social activities as well as have learned how to make friends.

If you are shy and introverted, which I believe you are, then talking with a phycologist will be very helpful to you. Now I’m guess but as the older child in my family I was tasked with watching my younger sister as both my parents worked. I did so until she was old enough to care for herself and by that time I was a senior in high school. Upon graduation I went into the Air Force and as anyone who has served in the military will tell you there is nothing like a Drill Sergeant to bring you out of your shell. What the Drill sergeant did for me a psychologist can do for you in a much nicer way and help you understand the how and why you became this way so you don’t back slide. Under the present health insurance laws if either of your parent health insurance programs has an EAP program the program will pay in full for the first few visits then health insurance takes over.
You also probably have some very specific ideas as to what you want in a man to have a relationship with. Again you are not alone in this area. My son had commitment problems after a long term relationship broke off. Couple that with the fact he has a dangerous job and he needed a specific type of women. He found her using a dating site.

I suggest you look into the Dating sites such as Match.com. BE honest with just what you are looking for in a relationship. And in the same manner be honest about yourself but not to judgmental or harsh.

Hello! I’m currently a senior in college and I’m 21 years old. i’m currently seeking advice that relates to a guy I’m currently talking too who is also in college and is 22. Basically we started talking a little over a month ago and met on Tinder. I actually had made a tinder because I was bored not because I wanted a hook up. Turns out I messaged him first and we really hit it off. And we eventually started texting. So far we have been on two days and they both have been really great and he said I made a good impression. The only issue is that he isn’t a big texter. He was honest with me and told me that he isn’t on his phone a lot and he responds to me sometimes 5-6 hours later. But when he does respond he aplogizes for responding back so late. Anyways, I’m really interested in him and really would like to spend more time with him. i’m afraid to tell him that though because I don’t want to come off as clingly or desperate. Also we haven’t really talked about what either of us are looking for. I know that he doesn’t want to hook up but how do I bring up that conversation without scaring him off" Also is it too early to ask him if he’s interested in me" Maybe I’m just over thinking it....

It has been decades since I dated though I don't think the etiquette of dating has changed all that much. I would say that after the third or fourth date you could consider yourselves a couple and it would be appropriate after that to show more affection. Saying something that I really like you or I find myself falling for you is a great conversation starter to see where he is at.

If after 4 dates he is not willing to have this conversation then I would say he is just looking for companionship and you should act accordingly. Sometimes you just know when things are right. I knew after two dates the girl I was dating was the girl I wanted to marry. We dated for six months before we married.

My eight year old (almost nine!) cousin really likes poetry. I recently bought "milk and honey" and she wanted to read it, but it wasn't exactly appropriate for someone that young, so I want to buy her own book of poetry for her for Christmas. Do you guys know of any good poetry books for children? It doesn't necessarily have to be 100% kid-appropriate- she's pretty grown up for her age. But definitely nothing super sexual, like in "milk and honey". Preferably it would be something kind of long with a great variety of topics, or even just something that the average eight-year-old could relate to. It'd be really cool if anyone knows of any books that include both poems and an explanation of poetry, like history and how different poems are written, stuff like that. If that makes sense. If anyone has any suggestions, I'd love to hear it!

I looked on Amazon for level two readers, which should be her reading level, and found a number of titles she might like. I typed in their search box "Poetry for 8and Up." You do not have to be a Prime Member to buy from Amazon.

Another thing you can do is go to a library and ask the Librarian to help you find appropriate reading. When you find the titles you like you van then go to a book store and purchase them. Some book stores will special order titles they do not have in stock.

I caught her putting Neosporin on her vagina a few
Times she doesn't know I know.we haven't had sex for weeks is she cheating

I agree with Dragonflymagic. Question has she recently lost her virginity? Neosporin is an antiseptic ointment and she may be using it to treat the tear in her vagina from losing her virginity. If so is she doing so under doctors orders? If not she should really se a doctor as Neosporin may not be the right treatment. It is also possible that while fingering her your nail scratched her and she is using the ointment for treatment.

There are a number of other possibilities as to why she is using the ointment most of which would be the wrong reason and cheating on you and getting an STD would be very low on the list.

Suggestion since you know she is using the ointment she is not trying to hide anything from you. Talk to her ask her why she is using the ointment and if it is with a doctors order. If not take her to the doctor. If she is over 14 she does not need parental permission to see a doctor for anything dealing with her or your for that matter reproductive systems.

A Federal Law allows for total confidentiality for anyone over 14 to make and see a doctor for anything dealing with their reproductive system. Parents can never know why they have seen a doctor. When making the appointment just say this is under the HIPPA provision.

She can see her regular doctor or go to any women's clinic, but she should se a doctor.

What committee in the senate would deal with a bill to get rid of the electoral college? It's for a homework assignment.

Normally I do not answer questions dealing with homework. I will make a partial exception in this instance as the subject is buried deep in the constitution. You need to look at; Article II, Section 1, Clause 2 of the U.S. Constitution and modified by the 12th and 23rd Amendments.

If not found there look in Federal Election Laws.

Hello, right I’m trying to figure out what my boyfriend of few months meant by this when he said this the other day on the text message when I was away for a week and I was asking him, how much did he miss me, he said loads because you’re MY sally, how can I not miss you.’ When he said you’re MY sally, is he feeling something like owning me or something?? Or is he truly thinking that I belong to him??? Thank you

I believe that term, "you’re MY sally," is a term of endearment.

I'm a female who has been with both guys and girls. With girls, I like it in theory (meaning imagining myself dating, kissing, etc either a girl I know or an imaginary idealistic one) and in practice. I know for a fact I am a girl attracted to other girls. I like creating an idealistic man in my head and imagining dating him, but I can never meet a guy in real life who holds my interest. It's not just that they don't 100% meet my idealistic imagination, neither do the girls, but no matter what type of guy I go for, they can never sexually or romantically hold my interest. Guys just seem so basic and boring compared to girls. I'd be more turned on by an ugly/below average girl than a handsome guy, speaking from experience. However I still enjoy thinking about some sort of "dream man" who would be perfect for me, in a similar way that I imagine girls. I'm not sure what exactly this means. I identify as lesbian although occasionally I wonder if I am bi simply because of my own thoughts.

I cannot truly answer this question without knowing your age. The reason fro that is if you are just going into puberty then what you are feeling is normal; your learning about sex and sexuality. Who better to experiment with then another of your own sex. For girls it is also safer as you cannot get pregnant from sex with another girl.

There is also a plus factor by experimenting with another girl. During the initial stages of puberty with all the new hormones in you sexual tension builds (you get horny). You need to release that tension. You can masturbate which is fine there is nothing wrong in doing so or experiment with sex with another person.

One thing I can tell you for sure is you are not a lesbian at least not by what you have written. If you were a lesbian you would have known this long before know. Doctors and scientist both now agree that you just don't wake up one morning and decide you're gay. You are born this way and your sexuality develops as you do in this manner.

As far as being Bi is concerned there is no consensus on this. Some think it is experiment and find you enjoy sex with both sexes. As I said if your a young teenager just entering puberty don't label yourself sexually for you have not truly developed. Have fun experimenting and wait until your older and can enjoy a true sex life then decide.

By older I mean when you are of legal age, have moved out of your parents home and maybe in college. Know how to protect yourself from pregnancy and SYDS and can have sex in a safe and comfortable atmosphere.

FYI: As hard as it is to believe we were all teenagers once. Take my word for it the sex is far better when your 18 and of legal age to go someplace and not worry about a parent or someone else barging in on you. It is worth the wait.

I'm being laid off from my job as a scribe in a week and I had already found another job to take it's place as a hostess. I had picked that job because the manager said he would work with my class hours.

I would be taking a big pay decrease, but I think it might be worth it because my last job had me up every night until 5 or 6am and I was always sleeping in on accident until 2pm or so and not getting everything else (like homework) done because I was just too dead tired.

However, right off the bat they want me to work thanksgiving, which is a very big deal to my mom. I always help her prepare and I need to be there because it's also my brother's birthday. When I accepted the job I also wasn't thinking that I was supposed to go home to stay with my mom for a week, which is a week I was looking forward to relaxing because I didn't have classes.

I also just found out they only pay twice a month on weird dates. This bothers me because what happens if I don't find out until it's too close to a bill being due that I don't have the money to pay it? I'm used to being paid weekly.

I'm also going to have to go out and spend money on new clothes for it because the wardrobe is all black and I don't have much black. I was trying not to spend much money because obviously I'm being laid off soon and clothes add up fast.

Next, I found out even though GPS always says its only 25 minutes away that through driving there and back four times, it's actually more like 45 minutes due to traffic lights and back ups on two lane roads. That's kind of a long way and a lot of gas money. I would probably be spending $20 a week on gas money.

On crowded nights they also don't allow you to park in their parking garage. This is a big issue for me because there's 0 parking anywhere near the resort so if I get there and there isn't any parking I have to park like 15 minutes down the street and there's no way I'm walking alone at night down a street to get to my car. I'm very petite and this is really risky for me. I would also be late getting there if I can't find parking and they're really serious about attendance.

On the plus side, I'm hoping maybe I could work my way up to serving and earn tips because it's a high end restaurant and I'm sure they're big tips.
The manager also lets whoever is closing take home food, which is really cool.

My mom doesn't want me to take the job because she's really worried about my safety. I've had bad run ins with men more than I'd like to share because as soon as they see how small I am they try to force me into doing things knowing I can't fight back... and I'm not allowed to bring weapons into the resort. She's worried that men will follow me out to my car.

She thinks I should just wait it out until I find something else, but what if I can't? I've applied for a bunch of other places and nobody could work with my class hours or I didn't have enough experience.

What should I do?

I'm going to go with your mom on this and say call the restaurant and tell them upon reflection the job is not a good fit for you and thank them for the opportunity. Given how close it is to thanksgiving and your not taking the job could leave them short handed they may ask why. Simply tell them the parking situation literally terrifies you and the commute is going to cost more than you can afford based on earnings. IF they say they can fix both then tell them you have unbreakable plans for the holidays that cannot be recouped financially.

Waitressing or servers jobs are usually easy to get with or without experience as servers are always in short supply. I'm sure you can find a job of that type closer to school just be friendly and out going when applying. Make sure to smile a lot when applying.

Half the battle in serving is being outgoing and friendly. Make sure to try all the items on the menu so when a customer asks you can answer honestly. If you haven't tried it say so. If you know other customers order it a lot say that.

My wife and I recently had lunch at what was a new restaurant for us. The server was very friendly. When it came to taking our order after hearing what we wanted he said we really should try these other items. He spoke so highly of them we changed our order. They were as good as he said they were. They also raised the price of the check by 30 to 40 percent which was fine price wasn't and option. Tips are based on total of the check so the higher the check the higher the tip. He so impressed us that my normal 20% tip I increased to 25% or about $6.00 more than the original order would have been.

So a good server not only takes orders and sees to the customers satisfaction. A good server tries to upsell the customer when possible on a selection. Higher priced items in general have more profit for the restaurant and should increase the size of you tip.

Will fucking in asshole of women leads to pregnancy?

I guess you didn't take sex education in school yet or you did not pay attention, The anal system and the reproductive system are two different and distinct system that are not connected. That being so means having anal sex cannot make a women pregnant.

WARNING: ANAL SEX IS DANGERIOUS. the anus is full of bacteria that can be harmful to the male and the female through anal sex. IF any of the bacteria gets into the males penis either through the urethra or maybe a scratch on the penis and infection can form leading to anything from a urinary tract illness to a kidney infection.

You should never go from anal sex to regular vaginal sex without first washing the males entire groin and penis with hot soapy water to kill the germs. Also forget whet you see in porno movies, never go from anal sex to oral sex as the same bacteria can be harmful and cause all sorts of infections for the women.

Thinking about the above if you do engage in oral sex it is highly recommended you use a good strong condom. When finished you still need to was both groin and anal area with hot soapy water.

I got sent home early today because the assistant managers kept complaining. Is that bad?

I work on the sandwich line at a restaurant. Today the sandwich line was already full with workers and i had nothing to do. I wiped down the work stations and did some tasks that were assigned to the prep team, such as dishes and cutting up ingredients. I kept asking if there was anything else for me to do, because i just didn’t want to stand there doing nothing. They didn’t really have anything to do and the assistant managers were complaining to the manager that hired me. He sent me home thirty minutes early. I feel bad because i feel like he regrets hiring me and the assistant managers don’t like me. The restaurant owners were there today, they complained too. I cleaned. I feel like they don’t like me because they know i have a disability and can get nervous, so they want me out and regret hiring me. Maybe that’s why assist managers are complaining to the manager. My job coach got me this job, btw.
What else am i supposed to do when every task has been completed and there’s nothing to do?

No it is not bad when they send you home early especially from a restaurant job. When my son was in high school he worked in restaurants part-time. Some shifts were slower than others and on those shifts the mangers would send people home early.

The assistant managers and the owners who are complaining about you because of your disability are being terrible rude. The owners can get in a great deal of trouble if they demand you be fired because of your disability. Your job is protected if you are able to do the job your hired for and the only reason your fired is your disability.

When you are at work and there is no work on the sandwich line and the prep work is done for the line. You can stay busy by cleaning tables, restocking napkins, straws, condiments and other items the customers use at a self-service counter. Tables always have to be cleaned and the floors swept just stay away from tables where customers are sitting. Then there is the glass on the entrance doors that can always use cleaning and last the bathrooms can always need mopping and cleaning.

The above are all things you can do without being told to do them when things are slow. Just tell the manager what your going to do so he knows and is comfortable with you doing them.

Hi :) im 18 and im in last year of high school..so every 3 months during the school year we have a "meeting" with our class teacher and everyone from the class(there is 28 of us in class) speaks with him for 10 minutes individually, the class teacher asks us how are we and how we are doing on other classes..and everytime he asks me how am i and i always say im fine...so on tuesday i have a 10min "meetin " with him (my class teacher)and i want to tell him that im not well , that im depressed(yes i really am)..i just feel so lonely, i have 2 close friends(Diana and Caroline) in class and i know they like me...but still no one texts me first, and i take long time until i get comfortable with someone, i also have social anxiety so im scared to talk to people(idk why but i do), im just scared of pepple, even after my friends told me they care about me i still feel lonely..and also i go to same class ,school with my twin brother, and they like him , even girls in my class like him more than me..he texts with almost everyone (girls, boys) and im invisible (nobody texts me, nobody cares about me :/)..i just want to tell it my class teacher(im not really close with my parents and i dont want them to know) bc i dont know what to do..im just so f*cking lonely but i try so hard to talk to people in my class , trying to be friends with them...i dont know what am i doing wrong ..whats wrong with me ? i just cant keep doing this anymore

Of course you should tell your teacher how you really feel. Besides teaching your teacher is there to help you. Should you parents be ignoring something that you feel is really wrong with you, such as depression, then your teacher is the next best person to ask for help.

You say you have social anxiety disorder (SAD. If you have not been actually diagnosed with this disorder don't label yourself with it. There is a big difference in having SAD and just being shy and retiring. If you are suffering with SAD there are medications to help you. If your just shy and retiring there are things that can be done to help you. Talk therapy is usually the best and if your prone to anxiety attacks their is medication for that as well.

We are far to quick to put labels on things to day. We put a label on how you feel and you go. Oh so that's what's wrong and you live up to the label ant not beyond.

We get letters every day for people your age saying they suffer with SAD. SAD is not that prevalent in your age group. Being shy and retiring is.

My advice is unless a doctor has diagnosed you drop the label. DO go to your family doctor for a complete physical and ask to be screened for depression. If your family doctor say you are depressed ask the doctor to recommend a Board Certified psychiatrist.

Why a psychiatrist; because teenage depression is usually cause by the lack of one or more hormones secreted into the brain. This being so your family doctor does not have the training to properly treat you. Where as a Board Certified psychiatrist has spent a year in a fellow ship and passed all the requirements to be certified as a practicing psychiatrist.

is It normal for your mom to have a dildo

First why were you snooping in moms cabinet?

Who is to say what is normal? Are you saying that just because mom has dad to take care of her sexual needs she should not have a dildo? For one thing just because mom has dad does not mean her sexual needs and dads are the same. They may have been at one time but over the years a mans sexual drive can diminish. some times it is for medical reason and other it is do to stress or just plain fatigue. Mena while moms sexual needs remains the same and can actually increase. For some women once the enter menopause there sexual needs increase now that the worry of pregnancy is over.

Given the above what would you rather mom do, have an affair or use a dildo to satisfy her needs? There is also a possibility that the dildo is part of mom and dads foreplay or after play.

I am of course making the assumption dad is still in the picture since you have not said.

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