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Sexuality
I'm a female who has been with both guys and girls. With girls, I like it in theory (meaning imagining myself dating, kissing, etc either a girl I know or an imaginary idealistic one) and in practice. I know for a fact I am a girl attracted to other girls. I like creating an idealistic man in my head and imagining dating him, but I can never meet a guy in real life who holds my interest. It's not just that they don't 100% meet my idealistic imagination, neither do the girls, but no matter what type of guy I go for, they can never sexually or romantically hold my interest. Guys just seem so basic and boring compared to girls. I'd be more turned on by an ugly/below average girl than a handsome guy, speaking from experience. However I still enjoy thinking about some sort of "dream man" who would be perfect for me, in a similar way that I imagine girls. I'm not sure what exactly this means. I identify as lesbian although occasionally I wonder if I am bi simply because of my own thoughts.
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I can answer your question. I used to go to swing clubs with my ex. I met many women there who were bi. That did not mean they liked many guys sexually same as females. They met only one man who appealed to them who was their husband. The husbands were understanding and took their wives to the club so they could have fun with other women while the men didn't get involved with anyone. I had a chance to talk to many of the husbands. So if the idea of the right man still appeals to you, it's up to you whether you focus on finding that man especially if you are marriage age and want kids but you prefer woman for romance and sex. It might be a good idea to focus on females and if the right guy comes along, then of course date him, get married.
If you are a minor, have fun with the gals but do not focus on finding a boyfriend or husband until you are older. If you are old enough and want to find that one special one who is the only man that turns your crank, then you may want to put out a profile on a dating site where you specify that you are bi, have female lovers but looking for a husband who is open minded and okay with that and he will be your only male lover. Looking for a man who is okay with it and open minded, can be like hunting for a needle in a haystack. YOu'll get lots of gals hitting on you and men who lie but a dating site is how I found my 2nd husband. If you have any other questions like this, just write me from my column. Good luck dear
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I cannot truly answer this question without knowing your age. The reason fro that is if you are just going into puberty then what you are feeling is normal; your learning about sex and sexuality. Who better to experiment with then another of your own sex. For girls it is also safer as you cannot get pregnant from sex with another girl.
There is also a plus factor by experimenting with another girl. During the initial stages of puberty with all the new hormones in you sexual tension builds (you get horny). You need to release that tension. You can masturbate which is fine there is nothing wrong in doing so or experiment with sex with another person.
One thing I can tell you for sure is you are not a lesbian at least not by what you have written. If you were a lesbian you would have known this long before know. Doctors and scientist both now agree that you just don't wake up one morning and decide you're gay. You are born this way and your sexuality develops as you do in this manner.
As far as being Bi is concerned there is no consensus on this. Some think it is experiment and find you enjoy sex with both sexes. As I said if your a young teenager just entering puberty don't label yourself sexually for you have not truly developed. Have fun experimenting and wait until your older and can enjoy a true sex life then decide.
By older I mean when you are of legal age, have moved out of your parents home and maybe in college. Know how to protect yourself from pregnancy and SYDS and can have sex in a safe and comfortable atmosphere.
FYI: As hard as it is to believe we were all teenagers once. Take my word for it the sex is far better when your 18 and of legal age to go someplace and not worry about a parent or someone else barging in on you. It is worth the wait.
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