alright i am a 16 year old girl turning 17 next month going into my senior year, i feel like everyone in my grade has had sex, i feel a lot of girls feel so nonchalant about it all. I have had a boyfriend and i personally don't think i am ugly, i have never had sex before and i haven't met the right guy i feel i could do that with but i feel kind of insecure i feel that i should of had sex already considering im almost going to college i feel kind of like a loser i don't know i just wanna hear your thoughts on this & what i should do? please no hateful comments :)
People may boast about it but it's highly unlikely that 'everyone' in your grade has had sex. I've left school now and plenty of my friends haven't yet. It's really not a big deal.
There are so many people who regret the circumstances under which and the person with whom they lost their virginity, I know I do. It's much better to remain a virgin until you meet someone who you want to sleep with than to do it with anyone just to get it out of the way and regret it for the rest of your life. I lost mine at 16 with a stranger because I wanted to get it out of the way. I'm now 18 and regret it big time. It upsets me that I could have had a special moment with someone I genuinely cared about but I gave that up so I'd feel cool. It didn't make me look or feel cool at all and as I mentioned before, plenty of my friends are still virgins and they're not viewed as 'losers'.
So what do I think you should do? Nothing at all. Eventually you'll meet someone who you have mutual trust and affection for. Until then, it really isn't worth stressing over.
If you're embarassed about telling your friends you're a virgin (which you really shouldn't be) then just skirt around the subject if it comes up in conversation. It isn't anyone's business but your own.
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i stole this off facebook mobile:
iPhone
Palm
Sony Ericsson
INQ
Blackberry
Nokia
Android
Windows Mobile
Sidekick
can someone give me a little information of how they differ from regular cell phones? they seem like pdas with internet access. is this correct?
does internet cost extra?
Those names are just names of phone manufacturers. Most of them now make 'smart phones', which are phones with features such as internet access etc but the majority of those brands make other types of phone too. I'm assuming that Facebook mobile is just saying those are brands which it is compatible with.
The types of phone you're talking about are usually very expensive to buy but are much more cost effective on a pay monthly contract. You'd have to go to the networks to find out about costs as it varies.
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im 4'11" & 17 + senior this year in highschool..
im not growing aanymore and i look like im 14. ive always looked really young, how can i look older :( honestly it really irrtates me and it doesnt help that i have a cusin the same age thats gorgeous and looks older + she wonly wears eyeliner :/
I'm 5'0" and I'm 18 so I really do feel your pain. There's a slight chance that you will grow a tiny bit more but I wouldn't put your hopes on that.
Wearing more 'grown up' clothes and make up do help (at least in part) with making you look older but personally, I've found the most important thing is how I carry myself - act like an adult and people will treat you like one. Now that I'm 18 (and in the UK where I live, turning 18 is pretty much your passport to everything) I don't care so much because I know I'm an adult and can prove it, even if I don't look like one.
Over the next couple of years, your appearance is likely to change and you'll probably start to look your age or older. Comparing yourself to your cousin will just make you miserable. Whenever you find yourself thinking 'oh she looks so much older than me' remember that in 10 or 20 years time, you'll love the fact that you look younger!
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Is it okay for a guy to finger a girl while she has a yeast infection? Has anyone done this? Would the guy know the girl had the yeast infection??
Anything you can tell me about this will help! :)
It's unlikely that he would be able to tell, although he may notice a slightly thicker discharge.
However, while it has a yeast infection, your vagina will not take kindly to being poked and prodded and fingering will most likely irritate it and cause further discomfort.
On top of that, as Razhie mentioned, yeast infections are easily transferred and it's unlikely that you'd want to make a point of asking the poor guy to wash his hands if you didn't want him to find out.
It's just not a very good idea.
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Movingg on is something I need to do!
One night I was with this other guy, I was smiling, laughing, and I was happy(: But then the radio was on and mine and my exes song came on and I started crying. This guy had no idea why I was crying so he just kept hugging me asking me what's wrong, and I told him I wasn't ready to move on and I'm sorry. So he left. He started dating one of my old friends, and Me? I was stuck on the ex. Me and that girl became friends again because we talked about our problems. Now theyy aren't together anymore but she's in love with him, and I'm finally ready to move on! and I feel like he's the only guy I could move on withh! What should I do?
He isn't the only guy you could move on with. Consider your friends feelings and leave him alone. She's still in love with him and you of all people should know how that feels. You've just fixed your friendship with her, is it really worth losing again over this guy?
The fact of the matter is, you had your chance with him. It's not your fault that you weren't ready to move on but you couldn't expect him to wait until you were.
You don't need a new guy to move on from somebody else. In fact, most of the time it's good to be single for a while after a relationship. You don't have to be with someone new to show you're over your ex.
Leave this guy alone. Eventually you'll meet someone who you'll like just as much and who you can be with without hurting anyone else.
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Soooo... one of my really good friends is a girl, she's a year younger. (I'm seventeen, she's sixteen). Well since she's younger, and a really good friend, I'm kinda protective of her. She's pretty much like my little sis. Yeah, she's hot but she's also like 5'4/100 lbs... Sooo mix her tiny body with juuust a pinch of alcohol and she's every guy's dream. A hot drunk girl. It really doesn't take much to get her wasted. See, I don't even approve of decent guys for her (what brother does??) but when we got out to parties and stuff and she's wasted and all these d-bags are tryin to get on her, I have to protect her. Which I don't mind too much, but I'm worried about her. That if I'm not there, some guys gonna take advantage of her. I've tried to tell her about this... tell her I'm concerned about her but she WANTS to hook up with guys... And nothing I say can get her to take it easy on the booze and be a little smarter with the boys. She's gonna get her self in trouble! And I just don't knwo what to do... She's my bestfriend but I don't OWN her ya know?? If she wants to get her drink on and hook up, I'm still gonna love her but I'm worried...
You've answered your own question.
If she wants to get drunk and hook up with people then there isn't alot you can do about it. Let her know you think it's a bad idea but don't try and bully her into changing her mind or she'll mistake your overprotective behaviour as possessive and controlling.
I'm sure eventually she'll get this out of her system but for now, you'll just have to be there to pick up the pieces if it goes wrong.
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If I'm taking birth control for my acne and anti-depressants, can I still donate blood?
As far as I'm aware, it's not a problem.
However, when you go to give blood you will usually be asked what medication you're on anyway so if there's a problem, they'll tell you.
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I have a boyfriend and I have a guy friend. I have been friends with this guy since we were in second grade and we talk about everything. I talk to my boyfriend about things too, but I talk to my friend about a lot and I feel more comfortable talking to him. My boyfriend said that its cheating because I talk to my guy friend when Im having problems with my bf or something else, I also hang out with him, but we have never done anything. I have never dated my friend and we have never liked eachother. We are like brother and sister and I love hanging out with him, but people say thats cheating. We talk, go out and play fight. We have never kissed or anything. One time my boyfriend got mad because I said I was worried about my friend and I kinda took care of him when he got into a fight, he got hit in the face with something and he had broken bones in his face and the doctors couldnt do anything for free, he was in pain so I stayed with him for a few days, to take care of him and then my bf accuses me of cheating. Is this cheating?
Your boyfriend is overreacting. He can't expect you to end a longterm friendship with another guy just because you are in a relationship. However, put yourself in his shoes and imagine how you'd feel. I'd imagine that if your boyfriend stayed with a female friend to take care of her for a few days, you'd be at least a little jealous.
Explain to your boyfriend that there is nothing going on between you and your friend but approach with sensitivity. Your boyfriend is clearly very insecure about this and getting angry with him will only increase his suspicions. Show him you care about him and have no desire to cheat on him. You should also make sure never to blow him off to spend time with your friend and to ensure you are giving him the same amount of time and attention.
It might be a good idea to suggest the three of you hang out together. That way your boyfriend would have an opportunity to get to know your friend and would perhaps realise that there is nothing more than friendship there. Inviting him along now and then when you're spending time with your friend would also probably put his mind at rest. If you were cheating, it's unlikely you'd ask your boyfriend to join you.
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16/F
So I joined 'twitter' about a year ago. I joined a thing called "Fake Life." Its where you make an account as a "fake celeb" and roleplayed with others. I started to talk to this boy,Forest, and we became best friends then started to date(fake life boyfriend.) Six months later and we are still talking and getting to know eachother in Real Life. I know where he lives, what he looks like, what his family look like, his dogs name, where he goes to school and he knows the same about me. One of his friends who also have a "fake life" account told me Forest loves me. When Forest got on, I confessed that I loved him too and we were happy. But he said we could never date in real life because of the distance.I live in Iowa and hes in California. I was hurt but it was true. But after that he confessed he hated every single boy in Iowa cause they have more of a chance to be with me then him. I told him thats not true. We want to meet in real life so badly but I cant afford a trip. I really want to tell my parents about it cause they could help but they could also get angry and keep us apart. I really want to know how I should tell them.
I know this may seem wrong but I dont care.
Please help me and Im sorry if this is confusing, its just been bugging me.
x
You do not know this guy.
Have you ever so much as spoken over the phone? How do you know anything he says is true? It isn't possible to fall in love with someone you have never met. You may well have formed an infatuation for the person you think this guy is, but you have no way of telling if this would work in the 'real world'.
It would be highly dangerous and stupid to even consider meeting him without your parents knowledge. You are 16 years old and still a child. You may think you know best but you should approach this situation with caution.
Be honest with your parents and explain the situation. It's highly likely that they will refuse and yes, they may well advise you to stop contact with this guy. Talk to them maturely and sensibly, don't get hysterical if it doesn't go your way because that will only prove to them that you are not grown up enough for this.
You should also speak to 'Forest' about the possibility of meeting up under the supervision of your parents and his. Try and guage his reaction to this. If he seems shifty and tries to encourage you not to tell your parents, then be very suspicious.
If you do eventually meet in 'real life', be sure to bring your parents along. You may think this is 'lame' or whatever but if their really is something between you, a little caution won't be an issue. Even if he does turn out to be who he says he is, he may be different to what you imagined and you may decide you don't want to continue a relationship afterall. If this is the case, you'll be glad to have your parents there to support you if things turn unpleasant.
If your parents refuse then you'll just have to deal with it. If your relationship is strong, you can wait until you are 18.
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I need help!! I am in love with my boyfriend and we have all these plans for the future and he is my best friend. Things are perfect, except one thing, I can't stop cheating on him. I have cheated on him twice, and told him the very next day. And I don't know why I cheat, I do think about him while I am doing it. I just don't know how to stop it and say no. I need to be able to hang out with a guy and be trusted by my boyfriend and I need to trust myself. I just don't know how to stop and gain the self control. HELP Me! Please
If you seriously feel unable to control your cheating, then consider the fact that you may have a sex addiction:
http://www.medicinenet.com/sexual_addiction/article.htm
If that doesn't sound like you, then I'm afraid I have to agree with shelbylynnwalker. If you were really in love with your boyfriend, you wouldn't cheat. If you are psychologically well then you are perfectly capable of controlling your behaviour.
Stop putting yourself in situations where you have an opportunity to cheat. Don't go out drinking or clubbing or whatever when you know there are going to be guys around.
If you can't stop, then break up with your poor boyfriend. He doesn't deserve to be with someone who puts so little value on the relationship.
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My white bra always shows through when I wear a white tee is this ok? I've tried multiple white tees and they all showthrough. Is this ok? A cami underneath is not
possible with most of my outfits. So is this ok?
Get a nude/skin coloured bra. Nude underwear won't show through any colour clothing.
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I have a bit of an acne problem. Its just a little thing, its not excessive like other people. Its just a little here and there, but I have blackheads like CRAZY! I dont know how to get rid of them! I cant afford ProActiv, or any of those other problem-solving products. Does anyone know of any home techniques or for lack of a better word, recipes to help get rid of them?
I've had blackheads for most of my teenage years and they are a pain to get rid of. To be honest, products that claim to do so don't often work so you aren't missing out.
As far as prevention goes, the best thing you can do is to wash your face twice a day. Soap and water will do but if you can, get a cheap exfoliating wash to use a couple of times a week. Always fully remove your make up and wash your face before bed as sleeping in make up is a prime cause of skin problems. Another tip is to wash your face AFTER your morning shower. When you wash your hair etc, the shampoo/conditioner will come into contact with your face and can clog your pores. If you wash your face after your shower, you'll ensure your skin is clean and clear.
Now for getting rid of those blackheads. Like I said before, they are really tough to remove but there are a couple of things you can try. Once or twice a week, boil some water and leave it to cool slightly - make sure the water isn't too hot or it will cause you more problems. Pour it into a large bowl and use it to steam your face, with a towl over your head. Try and keep your head there for about 10 minutes if you can stand it. Once you've done that, pat your face dry and get your self some clean tissue to wrap round the ends of your fingers. Very, very gently apply pressure around the blackheads to try and extract them. Hopefully, the steam will have opened your pores making it much easier for them to be removed. You should be able to get rid of at least a few but if they won't budge, don't try and force it, you'll just cause more damage. If you can get hold of some, a few drops of tea tree oil in the water will really help.
Ultimately, most teenagers get spots at some point and if you're doing everything you can to prevent them and keeping your skin clean, sometimes you just have to put up with it until they go away.
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My boyfriend and I were going through a rough period. He started talking to my best friend on msn and they had a very very flirtatious conversation including them discussing having sex, him telling her her naked body would turn him on, her dancing naked would be hot etc. He asked her intimate and leading questions. He hid this from me and she told me, I confronted him and he'd deleted the chat log, but I made him recover it and it's disgusting. Is this cheating?
Yes, this is cheating.
Innocent flirting can be okay but this was not only intimate and sexual but with your best friend. He crossed the line and actually, so did she. What was she doing flirting with your boyfriend in the first place? She should have ended the conversation as soon as it started to get inappropriate.
The fact of the matter is, if he's having those kind of conversations with your best friend, who else is he talking to? Regardless of whether you were going through a rough patch, it's wrong of him to talk to other girls like that.
I suggest you have a think about whether or not you want to be with someone like that. Even if he truly is sorry, you have probably lost trust in him and trust is one of the most important things in any good relationship. If you can't trust him, you may as well give up now.
You may also want to have a word with your best friend. She shouldn't have been having a 'very very flirtacious' conversation with her friend's boyfriend. It might be time to reevaluate your relationship with her as well as the one with your boyfriend.
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ok so this is sooo embarrigin = [ so i dont wan to become sexualy active becuzse i have a frckle down there... is that normal i know this is probably so funny but its really embarring and im afraid the guy wont like me or he will be disgusted becuz of it ... = [
helllp
When you get to the point in a relationship where you feel comfortable enough to show someone those parts of your body, a freckle won't matter at all. A guy who is 'disgusted' by any part of you, whether it be a freckle, a birth mark or what your vagina looks like, is not the kind of guy you want to be having sex with. Never, ever take your clothes off for someone who isn't going to fully appreciate you.
In reality, nearly everyone has something they're self concious about when it comes to sex. I have horrible stretch marks but no one I've slept with has ever so much as commented on them. Let's face it, most of the time guys are just greatful they've got you naked, a few marks aren't going to bother them. And besides, often people don't even notice the weird marks we're most embarassed about.
You are completely normal.
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I'm 14 and just found out I'm pregnant. I plan to keep my baby as of right now but I haven't broke it to my mom yet. I guess you could say I'm sort-of excited though cause I always wanted to have kids. Anyways I know I'm not alone and that there are lots of people raising babies at a young age. I'm just curious...has anybody here become a young mother? Any personal stories to share about being a young mom? :)
I'm not a young mother myself but my younger sister got pregnant at 15.
Everyone is different but my sister was not ready to be a mother. It takes immense maturity and responsibility to raise a child, neither of which my sister possesses. Now you need to bear in mind that even before she got pregnant, she was in alot of trouble. She'd been kicked out of school and then out of the referral unit she was sent to. She would argue with the family whenever she was at home, she would steal from us and would then disappear for days at a time to stay with her boyfriend.
While she was pregnant, she was very excited about it all, getting everything ready and reading up on stuff. We started to feel optimistic, hoping that the baby would change things for her and help her become a better person. Towards the end of the pregnancy, she got a new boyfriend and started refusing to go to school (by this point she was attending an educational facility for teen mothers). Like before, she'd disappear for days at a time, right up until she was full term.
The mistake my sister made was to not think beyond the birth. She was excited about having him but had neglected to remember the responsibility it entailed. In short, she'd forgotten that a baby was just the start.
Now, the baby is 3 months old. My parents have pretty much done everything so far. My sister stays with her boyfriend more than she stays at home and rarely looks after her child. My parents both work and are both struggling to look after a baby and keep up their jobs. There is a recession going on, they can't afford to take time off. On top of that, the financial burden of supporting a child is HUGE. And guess who's footing the bill? That's right, my parents.
Like I said at the beginning, everyone is different but you should seriously consider everything. Yes, you will have a cute baby to love and care for but you will also have a 5 year old, then a 10 year old then a teenager to support. You need to think long and hard about how you plan to do this, both financially and emotionally. Remember that this is a permanent decision which will change the rest of your life. At 14 are you really ready for that step?
Good luck.
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i am on my period and i am going swimming with my camp tommorow do i wear a pad or what.
A pad won't work. All that will happen is that it will absorb water immediately, leaving you with a huge soggy mess which will probably become visible.
Use a tampon or other internal protection, such as a MoonCup.
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so i'm thinking about getting a tattoo. either on my ankle or on my hip. i was wondering which one hurts more. my parents are completely against tattoos but i just turned 18 and i really want one. i know i can hide it easier on my hip. but i really really want a short quote on my ankle. what should i do? and which one hurts more?
Anywhere on a bone is going to hurt. I have a tattoo near my elbow and it was by the far my most painful. Everyone's different though so it's hard to say which one would be worse for you.
Pain is something you have to put up with if you want a tattoo but it's worth it for the end result. Don't choose a location just because you think it'll hurt less.
If your parents are really against tattoos, it might be worth putting it on hold until you move out. While you are living under their roof you should respect their rules. Plus, you don't want to end up with a tattoo on your hip which you would have preferred on your ankle just because you needed to hide it.
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My boyfriend bought a box of condoms that are marked as ultra thin or whatever. I told him I won't use them because I think they probably are more likely to break and I'm not on birth control pills so we don't have a back up protection thing or whatever. He says they aren't more likely to break than like regular condoms and doesn't want to go buy more condoms.
Are these thing condoms more likely to break or not?
Need to know
They're no more likely to break through the friction of sex itself than any others but they are more delicate. Nails and jewellery, especially rings, can catch on a condom and tear it, so as with any condom you need to be careful putting one on.
However, if you are having regular sex with your boyfriend then it's a good idea to look into other forms of contraception. No form of contraception is 100% but if you combine them, such as Pill/condoms, you stand a better chance. Birth control will also give you peace of mind if the condom does break.
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I know in this day that lots of people are HIV+ or have AIDS. I know they can lead decently healthy lives. Just, personally, I have never known an HIV positive person or someone suffering from AIDS, and, of course, I do not want something like this. It's just scary.
Yesterday I was at work and this new guy said something about getting AIDS tested the day before. He was talking to another guy from work that he's made friends with.
I am really feeling weird about this. I know HIV/AIDS has to be spread through blood or some sort of bodily fluids like that. I know I'm not going to just catch it from the air or just looking at him. I'm a bit uncomfortable though and I'm nervous. I won't ever know if the test says he's positive or not probably. I mean that's not something you go around screaming at work.
Should I look for another job? I'm serious about this making me uncomfortable. There isn't anything that can make me relaxed around this guy and I don't want my work to suffer because I'm too focused on him possibly having an STD. He does seem like a good guy apart from this possible problem so it's nothing "against" him. I've only been at the job for maybe 6 months so it isn't like I've been working there for years and years.
What would you do?
What should I do?
I think you're overreacting.
Getting tested for HIV is the sensible thing to do if you've had sex with a new partner. I've been tested, as have several of my friends. The fact that he's just getting a test shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable. If he's telling people about it then it's probably just a routine test.
In fact, even if he did have HIV, it's highly unlikely that you're going to be sleeping with him or coming into contact with his blood. As long as his blood doesn't find its way inside you somehow, you're not going to get it.
It's backward and unfair to feel uncomfortable about someone for having a disease. Quitting your job just because a colleague may have an illness that doesn't even affect you seems like a rather extreme decision.
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It is like all of a sudden everyone I know is talking about how cold water washing literally saved their hair. So, I gave in and tried it now all I wanna know is how does cold water make hair shiney like this? What is the secret and how does everybody NOT know about this?
I will rate you I promise.
Cux is incorrect, it's not a myth but it's not a big secret either. It's actually very simple.
Hairs are made up of follicles, hot water and heat sources such as blow-dryers, straighteners and the sun cause these follicles to stand up. When the follicles are up, they are unable to reflect the light so well, which makes your hair look dull. Cold water causes the follicles to seal and lie flat, meaning light can bounce off the surface of the hair easier, making it look shiny.
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