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Is this cheating?
I have a boyfriend and I have a guy friend. I have been friends with this guy since we were in second grade and we talk about everything. I talk to my boyfriend about things too, but I talk to my friend about a lot and I feel more comfortable talking to him. My boyfriend said that its cheating because I talk to my guy friend when Im having problems with my bf or something else, I also hang out with him, but we have never done anything. I have never dated my friend and we have never liked eachother. We are like brother and sister and I love hanging out with him, but people say thats cheating. We talk, go out and play fight. We have never kissed or anything. One time my boyfriend got mad because I said I was worried about my friend and I kinda took care of him when he got into a fight, he got hit in the face with something and he had broken bones in his face and the doctors couldnt do anything for free, he was in pain so I stayed with him for a few days, to take care of him and then my bf accuses me of cheating. Is this cheating?
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no, of course not. Everyone thinks cheating is different. some think spending time with people is cheating, some think kissing or having sex is cheating. It all depends. It sounds to me like you boy friend is turning into a bit of a jelous person. He probably wants you to be more open with him and gets upset when your open with your best friend. Tell him you and your friend have only a sister brother relationship, Say I don't like having to say this buy it's up to me who I tell what to. If you have friend who is a girl to confide in I wouldn't get jealous. Explain to him in your mind its ok to have friends of the opposite sex. Just think if he tells you not to speak to your best friend it could just be the beginning of a possesive and controlling relationship. He thinks if he tells you to do something and you do it, how many more things can he contradict on. Tell him to be more open with you and get him to accept that he is jealous, but that is not going to stop you being friends with this guy. Try to tell him more things about your life then he won't feel as jelous and left out. Try spending a little more time with him and that should stop him being jelous, but don't jump to his commands. Be who you are and speak and see who you like when you like
good luck xxx
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Your boyfriend is overreacting. He can't expect you to end a longterm friendship with another guy just because you are in a relationship. However, put yourself in his shoes and imagine how you'd feel. I'd imagine that if your boyfriend stayed with a female friend to take care of her for a few days, you'd be at least a little jealous.
Explain to your boyfriend that there is nothing going on between you and your friend but approach with sensitivity. Your boyfriend is clearly very insecure about this and getting angry with him will only increase his suspicions. Show him you care about him and have no desire to cheat on him. You should also make sure never to blow him off to spend time with your friend and to ensure you are giving him the same amount of time and attention.
It might be a good idea to suggest the three of you hang out together. That way your boyfriend would have an opportunity to get to know your friend and would perhaps realise that there is nothing more than friendship there. Inviting him along now and then when you're spending time with your friend would also probably put his mind at rest. If you were cheating, it's unlikely you'd ask your boyfriend to join you.
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that is not cheating. you obviously have a very insecure boyfriend! you aren't doing anything different with your guy friend that you were do with a girl friend. if you were to look after a girl friend who had been in a fight would that mean you're cheating? (ask your boyfriend that!) the answer is no, there is nothing wrong with the friendship you have with your guy friend. sometimes no matter how much you tell a guy that you like him more than your guy friend, they just won't believe you, but give it another go. give him a few compliments, tell him how happy you are with him but his insecurity is drifting you apart. good luck <3
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That isn't cheating, whatsoever. You're allowed to have guy friends that you hang out with and tell things to. You're boyfriend is just insecure, so he worrys about you being so close to your guy friend. Try reassuring your boyfriend that he is the one you want to be with, and that you've never had, nor will you ever, have feelings for your friend. Sometimes people get a little insecure, and maybe even jealous, and need to be reassured. Hope this hepls (:
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Nope. It is not cheating. If you aren't doing anything with him, theres no physical contact. He's a good friend, and your boyfriend needs to accept that. You have known your friend longer than your boyfriend. You'll probably always have your guy friend, but when (and if) your boyfriend break up, who knows if you'll still be friends with him. If your boyfriend can't trust you, he doesn't deserve you. Just like the person below me said.
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No he is your friend and you said you didn't do anything... Talk to your boyfriend about it if he doesn't trust you he doesn't deserve you
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