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embarrsed to have sex because of a freckle down there.
ok so this is sooo embarrigin = [ so i dont wan to become sexualy active becuzse i have a frckle down there... is that normal i know this is probably so funny but its really embarring and im afraid the guy wont like me or he will be disgusted becuz of it ... = [
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When you get to the point in a relationship where you feel comfortable enough to show someone those parts of your body, a freckle won't matter at all. A guy who is 'disgusted' by any part of you, whether it be a freckle, a birth mark or what your vagina looks like, is not the kind of guy you want to be having sex with. Never, ever take your clothes off for someone who isn't going to fully appreciate you.
In reality, nearly everyone has something they're self concious about when it comes to sex. I have horrible stretch marks but no one I've slept with has ever so much as commented on them. Let's face it, most of the time guys are just greatful they've got you naked, a few marks aren't going to bother them. And besides, often people don't even notice the weird marks we're most embarassed about.
You are completely normal.
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If you are too embarrassed to have sex over a freckle which everyone can have than how can you expect to have sexual relations and have your partner see other parts and you without clothing? A freckle seriously shouldn't be what is on your mind here.
It shows that you aren't ready and aren't comfortable enough with your body yet. If a guy didn't like you or was disgusted over this than he's an idiot plain and simple. Most guys are probably thinking the same about what you may or may not notice about their body.
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Freckles and birthmarks are nothing to be embarrassed about! They're completely normal, and all it is is a darker bit of skin. Partners love learning each others bodies; all the secrets that no one else knows about. It's part of what makes you different from anyone else. Anyone who wants to be with you for you is going to love that one little mark. And when it gets right down to the heat of the moment, no ones going to be paying attention to that freckle - not him, and not you. I've got a freckle or two and a scar down that way too and it's never been upsetting to anyone. I even have a pretty big birthmark on my left bum cheek! I was embarrassed about it for the longest time and would always try to hide it - but one time my boyfriend asked me why I try to hide it, and he told me he loved it because it was something that only I had, and to prove how much he loved it he went and kissed it a bunch of times! No one's going to mind a freckle. :)
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
You do not say how old you are, so I will forgo the age lecture other than to say make sure you are old enough to understand the possible consequences as no birth control is 100% effective. Be on birth control and make sure your partner uses condoms. Never ever engage in sexual intercourse without using condoms, until you are married, as an STD can have a life changing and lifelong effect.
Okay the grandfather in me is now satisfied he made the parental pitch. As to the freckle: One of the great things about sex is the intimacy involved; getting to know your lover and your lover’s body. For some reason we all worry about what the other person is going to think about our bodies. Girls worry that their breast are to large or too small, should they shave or go natural. Boys worry about their penises being too large or too small. Both worry about birth marks, freckles and anything else one my think is not normal because of what we see in magazines. As to the magazines, those pictures are all air brushed to remove blemishes to put forth the perfect body. There is no such thing as a perfect body without the intervention of plastic surgeons.
My wife has freckles on parts of her body that only I and her doctor can see. For anyone else to see we would have to be nudists. One of the first things upon discovering her freckles that I did was to play connect the dots. I still do and we have been married almost 40 years. It was great foreplay before we were married and still is great foreplay.
Never be embarrassed by who you are or what you are. You are what you are, enjoy what you have. If a boy finds something disgusting about the freckle then he is not in love he is in lust. Put him back where you found him.
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Freckles are cute.
Seriously though, one of the things most people enjoy about relationships is learning their partner's body. That freckle will probably be something every boyfriend is secretly proud of knowing about. It's like some random little secret you share.
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I have two down there! And honestly, when your in the heat of the moment, your partner wont notice. It's nothing to be embarassed about!
Just take your time and make sure when you do decide to have sex, it's with the right person and your ready. Everything else will fall into place.
-Abby
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Don't be embarrassed!
I have a friend with several freckles down their, I know because I am friends with her and her boyfriend, tons of people have freckles down their. It's nothing to be ashamed of at all.
I even have a freckle or two down their and so does my boyfriend. It's very common, but if it's really going to make you self conscious cover it up with some make up.
I hope this helped
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