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pregnant at a young age
I'm 14 and just found out I'm pregnant. I plan to keep my baby as of right now but I haven't broke it to my mom yet. I guess you could say I'm sort-of excited though cause I always wanted to have kids. Anyways I know I'm not alone and that there are lots of people raising babies at a young age. I'm just curious...has anybody here become a young mother? Any personal stories to share about being a young mom? :)
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I'm not a young mother myself but my younger sister got pregnant at 15.
Everyone is different but my sister was not ready to be a mother. It takes immense maturity and responsibility to raise a child, neither of which my sister possesses. Now you need to bear in mind that even before she got pregnant, she was in alot of trouble. She'd been kicked out of school and then out of the referral unit she was sent to. She would argue with the family whenever she was at home, she would steal from us and would then disappear for days at a time to stay with her boyfriend.
While she was pregnant, she was very excited about it all, getting everything ready and reading up on stuff. We started to feel optimistic, hoping that the baby would change things for her and help her become a better person. Towards the end of the pregnancy, she got a new boyfriend and started refusing to go to school (by this point she was attending an educational facility for teen mothers). Like before, she'd disappear for days at a time, right up until she was full term.
The mistake my sister made was to not think beyond the birth. She was excited about having him but had neglected to remember the responsibility it entailed. In short, she'd forgotten that a baby was just the start.
Now, the baby is 3 months old. My parents have pretty much done everything so far. My sister stays with her boyfriend more than she stays at home and rarely looks after her child. My parents both work and are both struggling to look after a baby and keep up their jobs. There is a recession going on, they can't afford to take time off. On top of that, the financial burden of supporting a child is HUGE. And guess who's footing the bill? That's right, my parents.
Like I said at the beginning, everyone is different but you should seriously consider everything. Yes, you will have a cute baby to love and care for but you will also have a 5 year old, then a 10 year old then a teenager to support. You need to think long and hard about how you plan to do this, both financially and emotionally. Remember that this is a permanent decision which will change the rest of your life. At 14 are you really ready for that step?
Good luck.
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I was a young mother but all people and their circumstances are different.
First, tell your mother about it. It probably won't go as badly as you'd imagine. Once you have done that, feel free to inbox me any questions I might be able to help you with.
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Hello,
I'm happy that you're taking responsibility for your actions, so you have my admiration for that. Although I have never been pregnant, I have many friends who have. Those who decided to keep the baby are strong, and from what I've heard, it's hard but fun. It's hard because you give up what you once had. You have to stay home, take care of the baby in every way possible, there no time for sleep, friends, you! You're lucky if your mom supports you and the baby, and decides to take care of him/her for you. Many of my friends don't have the dad in the baby's life, so that's why it's stressful for them. Although you're giving up everything in your life to raise your baby, they tell me it's a blessing to see your baby grow and realize that you're his/her mommy. They enjoy hearing their baby giggle, spending time with them, etc. It just takes a lot of time, energy, and strength to raise a child, and I hope you have all three :) Good luck, congratulations, and I hope your mom gives you the support you need!!!
Uniq
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