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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


wicked awesome conversations

^my forum, liven it up a little?

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oh, so i took my retainers out in school and put them in my pocket. at the end when i took them out there was a crack in it. i put it on my teeth and got scared becaue i'd have to pay for them. well when i went to take the retainers off the crack got bigger and i wripped a piece off. i am sooo scared. my mom would KILL me if she found out they were in my pockets. can someone help me thing of a good excuse? like getting hit in the face with a basketball or anything? is that a good one? ah im soo scared because i heard they are sooo expensive to replace..are they?

maybe something like, someone ran into you at school, they popped out and got stepped on? I'm not sure waht the crack looks like.

Or maybe you took them out to eat and they got knocked off the table??

Another thing to consider: how bad are they cracked? Are they still doing their job? If they are, aren't Invisalign retainers replaced every couple of months? If they are (sorry I'm not 100% sure about this!) you could wear them (crack and all) until you need new ones, then when you get to the dentist, take them out and be all, "Hey, whaddya know, they're cracked!!"

good luck! =]
♥ Laura Michelle

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yesterday, i was plucking my eyebrows, and it was taking too long, so i got lazy and tried to shave around them.BIG MISTAKE!i shaved off the top corner of my eyebrow, and then had to fix it so i didnt have a chunck missing.so now one eyebrow is shorter than the other.and its a noticable amount shorter.what should i do?should i just wait for it to grow out and then have a proffesional fix them?or what.please help!i think it looks stupid,and i want to try to fix it as soon as possible!

thanks to anyone that tries!

well, once they grow back (and they will so don't worry) I'd suggest getting them done professionally. You only have to get it done a couple times a year, because in between you can pluck them yourself.

For now, I'd get a brow pencil (which is basically brown eyeliner) and draw them in. It won't be as noticeable as you might think it'll be. And once those hairs grow back, don't do anything with them for awhile, and decide what shape you want your eyebrows to be before you touch them again!

♥ Laura Michelle

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i always get headaches and i can never enjoy myself! how can i stop a headache?

If you're constantly getting headaches, it's probably migranes. There is such a thing as chronic migranes (I have them, and it sucks). I went to a doctor, and I got a note saying I can carry ibuprofen (like Motrin) everywhere I go, even at school.

Before running to the doctor's, I'd suggest taking Motrin, Tylenol, Excedrin (something along those lines, as long as you're not allergic). Take the recommended dose for two days striaght, and if your headaches don't subside I'd go to a doctor then, it could be something else. Don't worry too much though! Not only will it make your headaches worse, you'll focus too much on having a headache instead of trying to have fun!

hope I helped! If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask me!
♥ Laura Michelle

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Hey all music lovers!
I'm in search of new music in my speakers. I love hearing new sounds. I love rock, punkrock, indie rock, rap, weird songs! You name it!
Any suggestions on any good bands?

hmm.. there's just so many!
-The Spill Canvas
-Taking Back Sunday
-Three Days Grace
-Red Hot Chili Peppers
-Three Doors Down
-Acceptance
-Senses Fail
-Matchbook Romance
-The Early November
-The Dresden Dolls
-Staind
-Atreyu
-Hawthorne Heights
-Avenged Sevenfold
-All-American Rejects
-Jack's Mannequin
-Something Corporate
-A.F.I.
-Thirty Seconds to Mars
-Audioslave
-Bayside
-Coheed and Cambria
-hellogoodbye
-Jimmy Eat World
-Lifehouse
-Motion City Soundtrack
-NickelBack
-Panic! at the Disco
-Straylight Run
-Sugarcult
-The White Stripes
-The Used
-Thursday
-Paramore

that's a pretty short list, if you want more a great site to look for music is www.purevolume.com, as well as Myspace Music.

I alos discovered Rhapsody, a really cool program that gives you 25 free music plays a month, and is also very easy to use to organize all your CDs, MP3s, etc. Or, if you have an iPod, I also recommend iTunes.

If you need any suggestions, or help with anything, feel free to send me a message!
♥ Laura Michelle

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I have this little tube of body lotion from simply basic. It says it's for adult use only. What's that suppost to mean? Why would there be a lotion for only 18 and up people to use? Tell me what are they talking about.

I'm pretty sure it just means not to use it on babies and stuff, and also an ingrdient in the lotion may cause a rash on young kids and stuff.

I'd spot-test it before putting it everywhere, like you should for every other product you try.

♥ Laura Michelle

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I was just kind of curious. One of my friends told me that her mom said we should put ICE next to any numbers in my phone that I would want someone to call if anything happened to me. ICE standing for In Case of Emergancy. Well my question is, do cops, firefighters, and paramedics know about that? Like will they actually look through your phone for the ICE numbers, or is that just something that her mom wanted us to do? Have any of you ever heard of doing that? Because I have ICE next to my parents, siblings, and a few of my closest friends. I also always have ID on me, not that that really matters.

But I was really just wondering, do other people do the "ICE" thing, or is it just a waste of time?

Thanks in advance.

well, I know a lot of paramedics, espeically those in England (where, i am 99.9% sure the ICE thing started) and other places in Europe.

I'm not sure it's 100% necessary though, although it sure can't hurt. But usually when (IF) they find you unconscious and find a cellphone with you, they look through your contacts for MOM, DAD, GRANDMA, etc.

I programmed ICE numbers into my cellphone, because you've got nothing to lose, and it's another safety measure you can take to have peace of mind. =]

♥ Laura Michelle

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will you loose melonin (color..) in your skin if you use tanning lotions (such as jergins natral glow) i know this might be a stupid question.but im just wondering

nope, it just tints your skin.

and talking from personal experience, it works REALLY well. just apply it evenly. and it might help if you have someone help you with your back.

♥ Laura Michelle

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Whats the difference between anorexia and bulimia?

arent they technically the same thing because either way you aren't getting food into you system?

and which one would cause the worst effects to your body?

Anorexia is basically starving yourself, while Bulimia is eating an enormous amount of food in one sitting then purging (throwing it up).

As for what has the worst effects, it depends on if you're thinking short-term or long-term. Bulimia, since you're throwing up so frequently, causes tooth decay and can damage the esophagus/shomach/throat. Anorexia may at first cause weight GAIN (what little food you actually eat, your body holds onto as long as possible) and both disorders can lead to death if left untreated.

bottom line, both are VERY damaging and it's best to get treatment/therapy/counseling for them ASAP.

♥ Laura Michelle

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Hello!

Can someone tell my how too keep my eyeliner stay on all day? It always smudges and fades away after a few hours. Could you tell me a long-lasting product that doesnt smudge and stays black all day? Also, i put on my eyeliner like, not under my eye but above my lower lashes if you know what i mean. Thanks!

you can always use waterproof eyeliner, which I personally hate because it takes forever to get off (which is usually what you want lol). I use regular black eyeliner (it's $2 NYC eyeliner pencil but it works really well) then I put a thin layer of a similar-colored eyeshadow on top. It sounds really strange, but it really DOES work. I was backstage at drama yesterday for about 4 hours and my eyeliner hardly smudged or faded at all =]

good luck!
♥ Laura Michelle

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Is it possible that when you pick a song, or are listening to a song on your ipod nano for the album cover to come up next to the song/artist/album name? Ive seen it on the box and stuff but as that only if you buy a song or album off of itunes? rate 5s and feedback

you can add album art to any song on your iPod, it will just take awhile to configure all your songs. to do this, right-click the song, click GET INFO, then go to the "artwork" tab. Make sure you have the album cover art (or whatever picture you want to have show up) saved on your computer, then click the "add" button. Choose the picture you want and it should be there!

hope I helped!
♥ Laura Michelle

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Okay well a like a month ago, me and my bf had sex, and he didn't wear a condom. he lets call it "let go" no in me but a little lower than my lower stomache. Now see my period was supposed to start today, but it didn't, and i'm sure it'll come soon, but the thing is about 5-6 days after we had sex a month ago, i got my period.

Can i still be pregnant by any chance?

and i'm 14.

thank you.

no, you're not pregnant because you got your period a month ago, and it's likely late this month because you're stressing so much. If you're really worried, take a pregnancy test.

If you're still going to have sex, I'd really recommend using a condom AND going on birth control. It's your choice, but it really would be a good idea. It's up to you though.

And you don't have to listen to anybody who tells you that you HAVE to put your baby up for adoption (if you ever DO get pregnant). Some Advicenators are pro-choice, some are pro-life. Again, it's all up to you.

♥ Laura Michelle

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Ok please dont anyone make fun of me! I am 16 yrs old and weig 200 lbs. i really need to loose as much weight as possible bfore school ends which in like 5 wks! please i will do ANYTHING! i rate 5's!!!!!!
~*Nikki*~

I've found that simply exercising a few times a week (walking, cruches, pilates, low key stuff) and cutting junk food and sugar from your everyday diet work best. This way, you're not totally depriving yourself of something you like (like cookies or soda), you're just cutting back a bit.

And once you start an exercide regimen (even if it's only 20 minutes a few times a week!) you'll start to see results. Also remember, doing SOMETHING is better than nothing.

Above all, believe in yourself. If you convince yourself that you'll lose the weight, it'll be gone sooner than you think. Trust me, it WILL work. =]

Message me if you need anymore specific ideas or just need some moral support!
good luck!

♥ Laura Michelle

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how do you upload your own songs to myspace? i really want to put this P!ATD song on my myspace but its not on their profile...thanks

Ugh, they NEVER update their songs.. haha I know the frustration.

you can try searching for the URL on webjay.org, then pasing the MP3 file URL into a background music code:

< bgsound src="PutMP3urlHere" loop="infinite" >

this will play the song automatically when someone visits your myspace, providing the URL works =]. This may annoy people, however, so keep that in mind!

hope I helped!
♥ Laura Michelle

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My Mom read my journal/diary and found that i had had sex before, (not anymore) and she went ballistic. She is now taking me to a gyno tomorrow, and i really dont want to go, (besides, im not haveING sex, I had it once before) and shes putting me on birth control. I was wondering , does she have any right to force me to do these things? She cant force me to go to the gyno, and she cant force me to have birth control right? (Birth control being a shot of hormones) I dont want these things to happen.. Do i have a say in what happens to me? 14 yrs old and obviously female if that helps.

well, since you're under 18, she has every right to take you to a doctor, but she can't force you to take birth control, that would be completely up to you. It's your body, and you decide what you put in it. (like surgery, you sign the consent form before a procedure, its the same kinda thing I think. Plus, as long as you're not having unprotected sex, there's really very little chance of you getting pregnant, and birth control can, in some cases, have side effects (both good and bad): It can control severe acne (though I highly doubt this is why your mom wants you to take it) but it can also cause weight gain (which hasn't been proven, but almost any drug can cause water retention, which will make it seem like you're gaining weight.) & the usual nausea, headaches, etc. that can happen as your body adjusts. It'll aslo throw off your cycle somewhat, cause it'll change from what you're used to.

Anyway, you're probably not going to get out of going to the gyno, but insist that your mother leave the room (at least at the beginning) and explain the situation to the doctor, she'll probably talk to your mother and try to compromise. While you're there, you can get any sensitive questions you have answered (this visit might not be all bad!)

Plus, if you DO get a prescription for birth control, you can always PRETEND to take it.. it'd kinda be a waste of money but it's your mom's fault for forcing you to take it!! (and she read your diary for absolutely no reason, which sucks and alsolutely constitutes a financial loss on her part!) Plus, you've lost all trust in her because of this, and she's gonna realize that eventually.

hope I helped, and good luck!
♥ Laura Michelle

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any ideas on how to make an outfit not look so boring? i usualy wear jeans and a long sleaved shirt but all my long sleaves are so plain.

well, accessories are pretty awesome =]. Try a chunky necklace or bracelet, or anything bright that says "Hey look at mee I'm an accessory!"

Also, hairclips (technically accessories but whateverr) are another element of a cool-looking, pulled-together outfit. Kinda kooky but actaully pretty awesome is wearing little-kid barrettes in your hair, i.e. plastic bow, horsie, etc. (and if you really end up hating it, you can just take it out).

Bottom line, be afraid to experiment, and mix it up! Mismatched can be hot, don't forget!!

♥ Laura Michelle

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How can I make myself more attractive with out looking like a slut? How can I make more guys interested in me? particularly the guys I want to like me? Alsoo. How can I get out of being seen as a slut? please help! i need it bad!

Well, any guy who won't notice you unless you're dressed like a slut isn't worth your time really =]

To get noticed (and not for the wrong reasons) just change your style a little! Or get a couple new pieces and incorporate them into the wardrobe you already love. Another good way to attract attention would be to change your hairstyle, whether it's getting a few subtle highlights (which always looks really pretty and enhances the color you already have) or chopping it short, dyeing it pink, and spiking it (which is the typical crazy, rebellious teenager stereotype route, but would probably look pretty awesome)

But above all, don't change yourself to get somebody to like you. I know I'm stealing this from someone famous, but it's better to be hated for who you are then loved for who you're not.

♥ Laura Michelle


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ok i keep getting these emails from Chase saying my chase bank account has been violated...the only problem is I dont have a chase bank account. Im not even old enough to have a bank account! IM 13! I suspect phishing becuase I got like 6 emails from them at the same time once saying someone tried to acsess my account, and then the first one I got from them saying my account has been violated, they spelled "been" wrong. I have yahoo, and i flagged all the emails I got. What else can I do? I have gotten a phishing email before, from someone claiming to be from eBay. ♥♥&heart;s

I wouldn't worry about it. (I get credit card offers in the mail a lot and I have been since I was 11) Someone probably just got your email from somewhere (or, if your email has common words and not too many numbers, a spammer may have just piked it at random) & hasn't yet gotten the idea that maybe you're not a moron and won't fall for a fake email from a bank you dont have an account with asking for your personal information. =P just a theory though..

Also try blocking the sender, that should keep more from being sent to you.

Above all, don't worry about it at all, people get these all the time =]

♥ Laura Michelle

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My room is very plain.
let me give yu an idea what it looks like

blue walls, wood floor a larg wodden cabinet for my tv and computor, a pretty good size book shelf. wooden drawers for my cloths and 2 plastic drawers. Also I have a boxing bag. I get really depressed in my room because it seeems so depressing to me

what can I do to my room to make it look nicer and happyer?

A brightly patterened area rug (or a new carpet altogether, but that would be a lot more expensive) would probably help a lot. Depending on the shade of blue your walls are, repainting might really help cheer up the room (dark colors typically make a room seem dark and dreary, not to mention smaller). Posters and other pictures/newspaper articles will make the room seem more like "yours" and a new lamp will add a new element to a space you're bored with (I got a really cool one at Home Depot or Lowes and it was only $20!

If you want some more ideas, feel free to ask me!

♥ Laura Michelle

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I don`t get to leave my house very often right now so usualy I am sitting at my computor. Do you know any good sites besides myspace and xanga

I love www.mugglenet.com (for everything Harry Potter) and msn games (www.zone.com, I believe) .

Also, try googling your favorite band or just something you're really interested in to find some fansites.

And when all else fails, draw something cool in paint or photoshop!!

hope I helped!
♥ Laura Michelle

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I have been using Duac Topical Cream on my face...it was prescribed by my dermatologist and has 5% Benzoyl Peroxide and 1% Tri-something (lol...dont remember the spelling)...anyways, it has a 60 day expiration date, and is quite expensive. I was wondering, does anyone use this? If so, is that expiration date a must to be followed? Also, does that expiration mean when you bought it from the store? I am confused!

The expiration date tells you when the medicine in the cream will start to lose effectiveness. You can probably still use it afterwards, it might not work as well though. The date's only there because it's required by law. I'd ask your dermatologist if maybe she can give you a smaller tube of the cream because you're not using it all and wasting your money.

♥ Laura Michelle

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