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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


wicked awesome conversations

^my forum, liven it up a little?

advice

any good powder coverup/foundation that you would suggest for less than $10?

I love the foundation from Maybelline's new Pure. line, it's the one in the squeeze container. I've also heard good things about the dream matte mousse.
For powder, Either CoverGirl, Maybelline, or NYC. They're all good.

♥ Laura Michelle

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My boyfriend is OBSESSED about the sims! He almost never stops playing that stupid game I dont understand it! When he got fired from work he had the gall to say 'I was low in aspiration!' I just want to smack him! Last night he wanted to have sex and he asked me if I wanted to 'woohoo'! I asked him if he was making breafast and he said 'sorry honey, my cooking level is too low' I'm so mad! If he says 'woohoo' one more time I might clock him! Please help me how do I get some sense into him?

I suggest having a conversation about it. Don't get mad at him, because nothing will get accomplished. It's entirely possible that he doesn't realize this bugs you so much. He may think it's cute, or he may not even realize he's doing it (since he plays so much). Next time you see him going over to the computer to play, ask if he wants to take a walk, watch a movie, or something. Or cook dinner with him, because he claims his cooking level is too low, haha. You can always hide the disc if nothing else works! But don't uninstall the game, because he probably has intricately disigned houses and complex neighborhood relationships, and if that all gets erased, he'll be very upset.

good luck!
Laura Michelle ♥

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Is coffee bad for you?

What if the coffee is decaf?

it's not really bad for you. Like everything else, in moderation it's fine. People say it stunts your growth because if you drink ONLY coffee instead if, say, milk and juice, you may be depriving yourself of nutrients. And it can stain your teeth, just like any other liquid besides water! Just brush your teeth and you should be fine

♥ Laura Michelle

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Lately, my eyelids have been red and chapped. Does anyone know what could have caused this and how i can treat/prevent this? Thanks.

you know, it might be excema. I'm not sure if I spelled that right, but that's how it sounds. I have it on my eyelids, and I went to a dermatologist, who gave me Elcon (or something along those lines) and it cleared right up. If it's not that bad, just try moisturizing for a few days (a tiny dab of Eucerin will work wonders). If it doesn't clear up, I'd see a doctor.

As for preventing it, you really can't. If it's really excema, youre stuck with it, but you usually won't notice you have it until it flares up. It's not a big deal though, its not contagious or anything. Keeping the area moisturized helps, as does not sharing makeup (duh) and removing eye makeup every night.

hope I helped!
♥ Laura Michelle

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I accidentally spilled Clorox on the carpet in our game room. I dried it up as fast as I could and poured water over it then cleaned the water up. After the water, I used carpet cleaner then I vacuumed over it so it would soak up any bleach that was left. Is that what I should have done or did I make it worse? Is there anything else I can do to make sure that part of the carpet won't turn white? It's a beige color.

I'd be most worried about the vacuum, actually. Did you suck up a lot of water? Well, if it's fine, just wait for the carpet to completely dry. If it looks a little off, maybe rinse it with a little diluted coffe. But if it looks okay, don't do anything! If you cleaned it pretty fast, it should be fine.

♥ Laura Michelle

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Hey.

I am leaving all my friends next year. So I made a slideshow of like 100 pictures--- it takes about 5 minutes to go completely through. And so I was wondering, does anyone know any songs like that? Like leaving friends behind or something.

I'm more into 60s, 70s, 80s rock. But anythings good. Thanks!!!

I personally love "Good Riddance" from Green Day (also called Time Of Your Life).

Another personal favorite is "Here's To the Night" by Eve 6. It was my 8th grade's calls unofficial graduation song =]

Laura Michelle ♥

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I am learning how to play the guitar. I go to sites such as ultimate guitar to find chords, but there are also tabs there, and I dont understnad them. If anyone could explain them to me it would help me a lot.

Thanks :)

I found this site helpful (back when I bothered to try playing guitar!)

http://www.fretplay.com/how-to-read-tabs.shtml

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Hey, Im a 16/f and recently i stayed over and one of my guy friends house, and we were fooling around and ended up having sex, and he told me he wanted our relationship to stay as friends but still be able to do things like that. Do you think thats wrong?

It usually isn't the greatest of ideas, because being friends with benefits, you still have the freedom to see other people. Inevitably, one of you will fall for the other (as more than friends) while the other still thinks you're cool with just being friends who also sleep together.

So, overall, I'm going to have to say no, it's not the greatest idea. But, it's your life, and you can do whatever the heck you want. Don't let anyone tell you what to do.

♥ Laura Michelle

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does anyone know if verizon has a unlimitted texting package u can add to your plan cause right now i have 600 sent and recieved and thats not enough.. and if they do how much is it?

thanks to anyone that answers

There's a lot.. they start at $5 a month, and each one will give you unlimited txt&Pix messages with other Verizon phones. Depending on the plan, you get a certain number of texts to other providers (Sprint, Cingular, etc) starting at 50 per month with the $5 extra plan.

You can call the number on your bill (or go to the verizon store) for more info.

hope I helped!
Laura Michelle ♥

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im 13/f and whenever i go swimmin i get a little darker and i like my skin tone the way it is how do i go swimmin and still not get a tan?

A sunblock with a really high SPF. Also, avoiding the sun between the hours of 10AM and 2PM will keep you out of the strongest of the sun's rays and UV radiation, which are bad for you anyways. You could also try Jergen's Natural Glow every few days, to even out your skin tone.

good luck!
♥ Laura Michelle

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im 13,about 5'5, and i weight 184 pounds.i know i am much over weight.im not exactly sure how much i should weight.

before i go back to school, i want to have lost a good amount of weight(i go back to school around the end of august).what are some workout plans, without using any machines, that will help me?i want something high intensity, something that will deffinetly give me good results.

also, does anyone have experiance with the Cross Crunch Abdominal Exerciser, or the Zone Pilates?do these really work?i am interested in buying either one or both of these, but i was wondering if they really do work.would they help me loose weight?what other things help like that, but dont cost too much?my friend reccommended a yoga or workout ball.dothose help?

i really need help, and i am tierd of always being "the fat girl".i want to look good and show everyone when i go back to school.it is also something that i want to do for me personally.i've struggled with this for a long time, and i want to put an end to it.
thank you to anyone that can contribute!!

Pilates really does help. It helps you lose weight, plus it gives you a LOT more strength. This will in turn help you in other exercises, such as running (which is a really good workout)

Crunches are also very effective (if it hurts your back, like almost everyone else, use a Pilates mat) or, if you have the money, Ab-Lounges work really well (just try it out before you buy it).

Also watch you diet (I hate hearing this, especially after losing 20 lbs and my 300 lb gym teacher criticized my weight and blamed it on soda, which i didn't really drink). What I mean is, drink a LOT of water. It helps flush out toxins. Additionally, not eating enough can actually backfire on you- it'll switch your body to "starvation" mode, and you'll retain almost everything you DO eat as fat (what you DON'T want!)

Whatever you decide, whether it be yoga, pilates, running, crunches, or a combination of all of them, stick with it, and you'll see results!

Best of luck,
Laura Michelle ♥

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The thing is, my best friend didn't tell him. =]

Because she doesn't know him. That's my "dilemma" lol

so you're the only one who's told him? If it's been awhile since you asked, I'd ask again. Or maybe ask him to the movies, as friends. Go from there, maybe.

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I can't seem to reach any of you, but I'm hoping you'd help me further. (question: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=435498) You all raised the question of "If you don't have a reason not to trust him, than go for". Actually, I do.

After everything I told you about went down (before school ended), I mustered up the courage to ask him to his face. And he said that he knew I had liked him. I asked him who told him, and he took about 5 minutes, and said the name of one of my best friends (who supposedly told him constantly). I already covered this part in the previous section, but it makes me believe he's lying. He also said that he just didn't want to go out with anyone. Another time, he said to my face, that he didn't have any crushes, etc. So, he could be lying. And, he's extremely shy, if I didn't mention.

A little background info:
Tiger has had a girlfriend before (he only went out with her because she liked him so much), and she was absolutely obsessed and called him everyday. So they broke up. Hmm.?!

Also, in the beginning of the year, as I said, I had a crush on Tiger, and lost interest. Well, in the beginning of the year, I'm pretty sure he found out, which was one of the reasons I lost interest.

So, I can't really tell what he's talking about.

Hehe, this probably doesn't make sense. But, I need help understanding this.
So, if I can send a question to your box, please let me know, or answer here. oR whatever. lol, gosh.

Thanks again,
Lily

well, you've said this guy is really shy, so I'd give him a little space. Also, I'd (politely) ask your best friend to stop reminding him that you like him (hw already KNOWS!!). She probably thinks she's doing you a favor, but this will actually backfire in your face (trust me, i know).

feel free to drop one in my inbox if you need mre advice!
♥ Laura Michelle

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hi ok i am 14/f. since my school ended on june 15 i have not eaten much.. i ahd so many aprties for like graduation and i maybe had like 2 bites of a hamburger or sumtin.. and now like todays the 20th.. and i had 2 meals.. i had one lunch and one dinner... i juss wont eat.. like i mean i can eat.. but like wen i do i feel sick and if i see food like i feel sick.. i dunno if thsi is normal or not.. it has been like a week and i lost like 3 pounds so im not losing weight rapidly.. i keep on drinking.. like thats all i do is drink water....i dont kno. is this normal?

I'm pretty sure this is normal. Stress of any form can make you not want to eat just as much as it makes people eat too much. Plus, if you live in most parts of the country right now, its VERY humid. If its warm/sticky/icky (you know what I mean) people tend to lose their appetite.

I wouldn't worry, just keep drinking water and eat what you feel like.

hope I helped! (and stop worrying too!) =]
♥ Laura Michelle

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i got a creanberry juice stain on my green velour sweat pants, and my mom put tide detergent on just the part where the stain was. the stain came out, BUT the fabric is damaged. Instead of being velour, it's kind of towel-textured and the color faded. (i think because we used Tide with bleach)

Is there any way to fix my pants??? someone PLEASE help me. they are my favorite!!!

well, to get the texture back, maybe try fabric softener. That could help, depending on how badly the pants are damaged. Depending on how you dried them, too, the texture could be a temporary problem. I'd try washing the whole pair of pants (with a non-bleach detergent) and (if you can) dry them in the dryer (on low heat so they don't melt!!)

To get the color back, (if it's a big deal to you) you could try rinsing the spot in green Kool-Aid (depending on the shade of your pants) or try a fabric dye. If the pants are more of a moss green, you could always try TINY dots of permanent marker (again, I'm not sure of the shade of green) in whatever color the pants are.

If these pants were expensive (which I'm guessing they were because of the lengths you've gone trying to save them) you can always bring them to a seamstress/clothes-mender type person, who is probably more of an expert on stains than I am. =]

good luck, and I hope you can fix your pants!
♥ Laura Michelle

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Ever since we met, my boyfriend always had this thing about grabbing my upper arm to pull me closer to him when he wants to talk to me or something.


Sometimes it's like he isn't aware of his own strength or something because it'll hurt. And I always tell him not to do it because of that. He apologizes and tells me that he doesn't realize he does it that hard and says he'll try to stop.


Well, of course, he doesn't stop. He just did it last night and that time it left marks on my arms. I didn't even notice until my mom said something about it this morning and I had to sit that and explain to her why the guy I'm seeing left marks on my arm! NOT EASY.


I haven't showed him the marks yet but what should I say to him when I do? I mean, I know what to say but how do I make it clear to him that he NEEDS to STOP?


And by the way, he is in NO WAY abusive, if he came off that way. I'm 18/f -- He's 21/m

He's probably doing this unconsciously, and it's hard to break a habit (especially when you're not even aware of it!!).

Maybe while you're talking to him, gently grab his arm or hand, or if he DOES put his hand on your arm, gently take it off, or say something like, "hey, don't do that, okay?" (in a polite, loving way, of course)

It may also help to show him the marks, it may help make him more aware of what he's doing to you.

hope I helped!
♥ Laura Michelle

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ok so everyone seems to have icons and pixels as there picture captions on myspace, ive tried using tiny pic it works it just wont let me press sumbit
how can i do this?
thnaks soo much!

♥

try www.photobucket.com (you need an account, but it's free, gives oyu tons of bandwith, and you can easily keep track of uploaded pictures).

then, put the image URL into this code:

< img src="PICTURE URL HERE" >

hope I helped! If you're still confused feel free to ask me!
♥ Laura Michelle

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whats a really good makeup remover that can remove water proof mascara and lots of eyeliner? and i dont want the expensive ones and thanks!!

Baby oil works really well. Baby oil gel works as well, and it's not as messy.

♥ Laura Michelle

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i'm a good size for my age...i would say that i was average for my age. the only think i think i need is to be toned (flat abs, stronger arms, thinner thighs) what are some good excersized that can help me accomplish these tasks- relativly quickly?

Crunches can really work wonders, if you don't have a bad back and don't mind doing them. Also pushups will work on your upper-body strength, and lunges will work on toning your thighs.

PIlates will also work very well, it's also very relaxing for many people and will improve flexibility. A quick google search came up with this site-

http://diet.ivillage.com/workouts/wpilates/0,,mk08,00.html

-which seems to outline beginner pilates moves in plain English. Always a plus when you understand what you're doing =]

♥ Laura Michelle

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i REALLY want to shop at a&f and hollister and stores like that. it's not because everyone else does, it's because personally i like there clothes. my parents make me shop at wal mart and it's messing up my social life. i hate wal mart's clothes and shit and my friends ask me why i don't wear the good brands. and it's not like my family can't afford good clothes, because my dad's a multi millionaire. they just don't understand WHY i want to spend so much on clothes. i've made up my mind and don't tell me it doesn't matter what i wear because i'll give you a 1. i need to prove to my parents that shopping at the expensive stores is worth it. and i can't make any money on my own because if i do, my parents say I CANT spend it on a&f and hollister clothes. it's messing up my social life. i wont have friends ever again because i cant wear nice clothes. im done with wal mart so what can i say to my parents so they'll let me shop where i want ?!? i'm old enough to choose where i want to purchase my clothes, especially when my dad was over 1 million dollars.

anything good will get you a 5
i promise

I know a lot of people are going to be angry with this answer, but what kind of clothes you're wearing can raly affect your self-confidence. Also, Hollister and a&f ARENT really expensive stores (compared to Chanel and Marc Jacob's, it LIKE Walmart almost). Explain to your parents that you'd like to get clothes at some different stores for a change. Maybe offer to take them along to realize that the clothes aren't as expensive as they probably think they are.

If all else fails, you can always have your friends get you giftcards to thsoe stores =]

♥ Laura Michelle

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