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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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i am 10 and i wanna have sex so badly with a boy ,is it okay?!?!?!?
You are WAY to young for sex or even to be thinking about sex. At 10 years old you are either pre pubescent or haven't even hit puberty. Stay AWAY from sex, You are not ready at all.
Ok so there's this guy that iv been in love with for over a year, he's 18 and loved me to but had a girlfriend so the things we did didn't technically count as going out. But now I really love this other guy named Ben that is 24 and we'll let's just say he can play in the "special olympics" if u get what I'm saying. But despite that, he's sweet, funny, caring, everything I want. I'm 14 and I'm not sure how to deal with either boy! What the hell do I do??????
You are only 14 years old, They both are too old for you.
Despite them being in special Olympics and having a disability they are still legally adults. If you were to have relations with either one they could end up in big trouble. Wait until you are 18, You are way to young for both of them.
This guy I love is 24 and in special needs. He is at my level of thinking and is an amazing guy, funny sweet caring and everything I want in a guy. But like I said he's 24 and no one thinks I should have anything to do with him. But if he thinks like an 8th grader its ok right? What do I do?????! Idk if he even loves me, but he's given me gifts so.........???????!!!!
I have nothing against disabled people but I'm going to be honest with you...
I've grown up with several friends that were disabled or had disabilities, They made great friends but I don't think they had the capability of being independent in a relationship nor understanding what one means. I have seen a few of my friends date and I don't recall any of the relationships lasting no more than 3 months.
Some will tell you, You love who you love. Others will tell you when we date someone we often look for a reliable source and someone we can see ourselves having a successful future with. It all depends on what he means to you, Nobody can really give you the proper answer.
You stated this man has the capacity of an 8th grader which would generally range 14-15 years old, This man thinks like a child and whether he would be able to provide a successful future with children and marriage is questionable. You didn't state how old you were but assuming you are an adult these are some of the things I would take into consideration. Are you able to care for this man? If you were to marry and have children would you be able to provide for not just the child but your husband as well? It's a tough situation but again I think your answer would really depend on how and what he means too you. You could try it out and see where it takes you but I would ask myself the following questions first.
I'm 15 right now and I'm really into the Emo look...I love screamo bands and i like to wear black a lot I also like to put a lot of dark makeup on my face not to much but enough. But my parents and my friends hate it..Should I change? I really enjoy it and I'm happy with how it looks, but my parents want me to change. and none of my friends are into that kinda stuff. What should I do? or How could I help my parent change there mind?
Be yourself
As long as you are no harm to yourself or others, Then it should be fine. You are expressing yourself and you are wearing whatever makes you feel comfortable. However, It is a tricky situation towards your friends and family.....Don't over do the emo look. You want to be properly dressed and age appropriate. I don't mind emo/goths but at the same time there is a such thing as going too far, It's not Halloween and personally I don't find Marilyn Manson to be very attractive as it is. Again, It's fine just over do it and get all heavily into the makeup. If you like the way you look and dress that's fine just explain to your family and friends that you feel comfortable dressing the way you do. Nobody should change who they are but try not to creep people out either.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now, and I am sixteen, and he is eighteen. He is going to the Navy in December, but he says that if we last until I am eighteen, he wants to marry me. He seems really serious about it, and it's not like I'm afraid of committment, but I kinda wonder...
He is extremely mature and when he says something, he means it. I'm not worried about him changing his mind, but should I be cautious with this relationship if he brings it up this early? Or is it really serious?
A month into dating is awfully quick to be talking about commitment, Sure maybe he is expressing how he feels but it could rather wait until you two have been together for a good couple of months. Talking too soon about the future could end up causing stress and scaring off the other. You are young, Too young for marriage. If he wants to proceed in marrying you when you are 18 then there shouldn't be a rush in waiting.
i Wrote a question on here, about my boyfriend of 2 years.. drinking and all that stuff, im really upset.. he hasnt drank yet, but hes flirting with girls,and he just thinks hes too young to be in a relationship, he left me hanging like i was nothing,no.. it really wasnt any stupid relationship..we were best friends,everything for eachohter, i helped him in his toughest moments, and so did he.. both our parents knew about us.. itsnot just stupid relationship.. it was real.. and thats why im so hurt.. i feel like he just threw me away for new girls, for new expireiences, i cant do anything right, i really need you to help me please.. i dont know how to move on, how do i.. how do i forget all those times when wed text,and talk ,and our kissing,,and everything how am i supposed to get over that.. i woke up to him, i slept to him.. everything=/ i dont know what to do anymore, theres no point getting with him, or trying.. cause whenever i do, he ignores my texts .. but yet when i talk to guys he calls me up and yells, and thinks im always flirting.. please.. i need your help... everyone keeps telling me to moveo n, i REALLY dont know how to :( pleaseee help me.. im so heartbroken.. how can he leave me for that.. seeing him flirting with girls scars me.. because im not even used to him talking to any gurls except for me.. which was a mistake.. we were too much on eachohther, and i told him we can fix it, he can do what he wants,but not bad stuff, and he said he wants to have fun.. please.. will he regret this? im crying so hard right now.. he used to be so nice, and listen to me allll the time, and was so sweet.. and now hes some jerk i dont even know anymore.. :( i felt comfortable writing you.. my heart felt good about you.. thank you for your help.. my heart is just torn apart.. i hate being inlove with him.
*Sigh* I'm going to put this as gently as I possibly can, You need to move on. Sometimes as hard as it is to see and except people change and grow apart. Your boyfriend hinted he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore by stating "He was too young" that was your first hint but your boyfriend just doesn't seem too want to be in a committed relationship, He wants to see what else is available to him. This is not your fault, There is nothing you did it is just simply a matter of falling apart and him wanting different things.
Take a deep breath, Life is so much more than being in a relationship with one person, It WILL get better and you WILL move on. Sometimes moving on just takes a little time and the way you do it is to focus on you, Get yourself out there. Hang with friends, Spend time with family and keep yourself busy. School starts in a few months, You may meet someone else.
You aren't alone, I know exactly what you are going through. I was in a relationship for 5 years I was 17 when I met my first, I was head over heels and would do anything. It was an abusive relationship but I still stuck by even when I'd get spit on, pushed, or beaten and overtime I somehow got the courage to move on with my life. Although I did, I was heart broken. I cried all the time and actually ended up hospitalized for emotional distress but too be tell you the truth, As painful as it was I made it, I got better and I don't regret it one bit as it was the smartest thing I've ever done for myself. People go through heart breaks all the time, You are not alone. You just have to except it as an experience and that all it was. Your ex never deserved you, He doesn't now and you are better off without him. Your crying is normal, You are hurt but in time everything will get easier for you. In the meantime keep your distance, Don't answer his text, emails, calls nothing. He doesn't deserve you in a relationship he doesn't deserve your friendship or mutual respect either.
If there is anything else I can do for you feel free to contact me anytime. I will help and listen as best as I can.
Well ok long story short im married, and both my husband and i are lookin to find another female partner to help us spice up the bedroom, im all for it and he says he is aswell but im just not convinced and am worried that if we go ahead with it a few months or years down the track he is going to turn around and throw it back in my face, we have talked and talked about it but i still feel since it was my idea in the first place he is just more or less going along with it so not to dissapoint me, is there any way that i can really be sure that he does want it as much as i do??? any advice would b great plz.
Well...I'm going to just spill it
I really don't suggest bringing another women into the bedroom. No matter how open you feel you and your husband are about it. Reality is, You are his wife and no women should come between that.
If you are still all for it, Know that bringing a women into your intimate life could possibly lead to a bunch of drama later on. Never do anything of the sort without knowing the possible consequences first. 1, Your husband could develop feelings for this "other" source even if it isn't intentional. 2, This is very well a subject that could be bought up again during arguments and 3, It could ruin your marriage. If you don't want to take these chances then I don't recommend proceeding. If you find the need to spice up your sex life you could take another option rather than involving another person.
However, If you really want to know if your husband is on the same page as you the only way to reassure the situation is too sit down and discuss the topic and take it from there.
20/f
I have been with my husband since I was 15 years old. I married him when I was 16. I know that I was too young to make a choice like that, but we were so In love. Everything was great until we got married after that he changed. It was like he had decided that he already had me so there was no reaso to try anymore. this june 22 was our 4 year wedding anniversary, we have two children our son is 3 and our daughter is 1. We both love our children very much, but I feel like our love for each other is slipping away. I have not been happy for a long time. He makes me feel so ugly and unwanted. But I am afraid to leave him. I have been with him since I was 15. I went from living with my mom to living with him. I have never lived on my own before. I am afraid that I cant do it on my own. I dont have a license to drive, I never had a job before, and I dont have a place to go. So I feel traped. I love him but like you would love a family member I dont think I love him romanticly anymore. He always puts me down like for instance we have not had sex in a very long time I dont even know when we had sex last, and I always come on to him and try to turn him on but he never wants it. So the other day I asked him why he doesnt want to have sex anymore and he said that sometimes he does get in the mood but then the thought of having sex with me turns him off and he doesnt know why. That hurt me so much. How pathetic and ugly am I if my own husband doesnt want me. I feel so alone all the time. I want to stay because I am afraid I cant make it on my own and I am afraid to be alone. But I want to leave because I feel unloved and he makes me feel ugly and He is very mean and aggressive with me. What should I do? Can anyone help me?
If you aren't happy, Then you shouldn't be in the marriage. The proper steps would be to file for divorce and get custody of your children.
Reality is, At 15 even 16 nobody knows what they want. As much as in love they think they are people change as they get older. I am in my mid 20's and I'm certainly not the same person I was when I was in my teens.
Can you go back and live with your mother temporarily? Nobody is required to stay in a marriage they are not happy in, If your husband isn't willing to put in the effort to provide for you and your children then you need to get out.
File for welfare and seek help through the state, There are many services and places that will offer help. I recommend starting with applying for food stamps and WIC. This is the start of moving on, Seek help and go from there but like I said you are not entitled to stay in a marriage, You married very young......and sometimes that comes with consequences.
What does it mean if a boy is ashamed of a girl he is dating or with?
Dump him
If someone cares about you then they wouldn't give a crap what other people think of you. They would be happy to be with YOU, Not ashamed. Your boyfriend is a jerk.
I know no one can give me this cuz it's private but does anyone have Justin bieber, Cody Simpson, Jordan witzigreuter, or anyone famous's REAL cell number, Skype, email. I mostly want codys ! But whatevers fine. And if anyone knows where I can get good deals on tickets and backstage passes to those people above, taylor swift, eminem, and Selena Gomez. Please help ! :)
By the way I'm a 13 year old girl.
And I'm not one of those weird girls who cant get a bf but I'm not conceited or anything, but I would really like to meet them all:) thanks! But mostly justin and Cody. (:
Celebrities do not list numbers where people can go and search for them, They are busy and have no time to chit chat with random people. If you want to meet a celebrity they see if they have any backstage passes online near your local area. That is about as close as you will get to meeting one.
I had sex with my boyfriend on the last day of my "reminder week" of my BC pills without a condom [Saturday, 6/18]. Due to unforeseen circumstances, I was unable to get my new packet of BC pills and start them on time [Sunday, 6/19]. I took Plan B on Tuesday evening because I was afraid I would get pregnant since I wasn't able to start my new pack of BC pills. I called my doctor and she said that the chances of me getting pregnant is very slim.
I stil have not gotten my pills [USPS kind of sucks] and will hopefully start them at latest next Monday. I started very lightly spotting earlier today and I don't know if that is because my hormones are thrown off balance (since I haven't taken a BC pill for 1.5 weeks now) or if it's because I might be pregnant?
How soon can I take a pregnancy test? I know you should take it as soon as you miss your period but here's the thing:
(1) My hormones are going to be off because I've missed taking my BC pills for so many days and (2) when I do start them, I'm still going to have whacky hormones for restarting the pills, and (3) since I have had extremely irregular periods when I wasn't on the pills, I wouldn't know when I would normally get my period.
Would it be too early for me to take a pregnancy test this weekend? What are my chances of being pregnant?
Nobody can give you an exact number of how likely your chances were/are to get pregnant, Your doctor is correct seeing you are on birth control your chances are slim but that does NOT mean there isn't a chance at all. Nothing is ever 100% safe
When women take birth control sometimes they don't get a period, they do and it is very light or they become irregular. This all depends on the women as each symptoms varies from person to person.
Considering you are on birth control, It could take a few months for your body to realize that it is no longer on birth control. You said you were off it for a week and a half, I highly recommend getting back on it as soon as possible. Pregnancy test can be taken up too 8-10 days after intercourse and for a more accurate result take 2 instead of one.
I'm a twelve year old girl and need cash...fast.
I owe:
$29 to my mom for not returning books borrowed from the library using her card
$6 more to my mom for breaking her compact powder (I'm clumsy)
$10.65 to library for books not returned
I also need a lot of extra cash because we're taking a trip in five days. My mom deprived me of $50 (birthday money I just got yesterday) because of the $35 I owe her. Add in all those expenses and that leaves me with... negative $90.35. ( I have $5) I also need to buy summer clothes (my closet is full of sweatshirts and long pants). Help!!!!!!! :(
You are only 12 years old, Your mother should be buying clothes for you not the other way around.
If you need money here are some ideas:
You could offer to do chores around the house for an allowance money.
Dog walking
You could make something and try to sell that too
You shouldn't owe your mother anything, You are a child and as a parent your mother should be providing YOU not you providing her by paying back money you supposedly owe her.
I had an interview today for an internship I found on craigslist. However, when I arrived at the given address, the location turned out to be in some extremely shady apartment building. Nobody even answered or buzzed me in when I rang the bell. So, naturally, I went home.
They sent me an email 30 minutes after my interview time asking where I was, and I still haven't replied. What is the polite way of saying that I went home because nobody answered and I'm not interested in the job anymore?
No place offers interviews at an apartment complex, That is shady and extremely suspicious.
Your best bet, Don't reply to the email. I really would advise you too look elsewhere other than craigslist for a job. They have numerous amount of scams and liars. I really couldn't tell you how many creeps turn out too be on craigslist. Think about it...
Also, Many jobs offering "internships" wouldn't take the time to email you back asking where you were now would they? Stay away from craigslist it is the worst possible place for job seeking.
If you can I would avoid going back to the area. It wasn't an interview you've found yourself a setup it couldn't possibly be any more obvious. Block their email and from now on if you want a job go in person to an actual business that is in a public place.
my soon to be husband moved my daughter and me into his house this past january its been real nice up untill lately his brother lives there also and another room mate well his 40 year old brother doesnt pay rent or pay bills or even buy food for the house he lops around doing nothing at all sleeps all day and up all night. He just recently started being smart towards my family and my daughter by the way she sleeps in the den he has his own room she is 14 and he doesnt give her no privtecy last night i went to cook and he through out all the forks and spoons that i use to cook with . how can i get this loser to leave i have told my boyfriend and he just feels sorry for this bs of a what he thinks is a man i want him to leave i pay the bills and buy food he doesnt do nothing what can i do to get him out ?
Pack your bags and move out, Give your fiance some time to figure out what is more important too him.
I agree with Razhie on this one, You don't have the right to kick out your fiances brother this is your brothers house not yours and your fiance needs to make that say.
I'm confused on how you allowed him to move you and your daughter into a home that is occupied with other people? I would post pond the wedding until you both are on the same page. If he chooses not to have his brother move out then this is were I'd begin to pack my bags for good. At 40 years old he is old enough to care for himself and figure out his situations on his own.
Recently I decided to let go on a lost friendship with someone who has trash talked me to my face, made me cry on multiple occasions, tells my secrets and then lies about it, forced me to cheat for them, and all of a sudden stopped talking to me without a reason. It's taken awhile for me to realize that this friendship may have started out well, but it took a bad turn. I really want to let go and move on, but I'm having a hard time. Now, I think about all of the good memories we had together. How can I help my self move on from the pain of such a failed friendship?
You do exactly what I did.....
You learn to except that people change and sometimes things don't always turn the way we hoped for it too be.
I let go of a good friend of 13 years just about 4 months ago. We grew apart, We both wanted different things in our life and eventually my friend go involved with someone who disliked me and she let him come between our friendship. The pathetic part? ..She lives in the next apartment complex over. Anyway beside the point..
It may have started off as a great friendship but reality is, Your friend began to treat you like shit. It is hard to let people go, It's even harder when you've known them for a long time but you got to move on from it. That old saying "Time heals all wounds" is true, It was hard for me to except that my friendship was over too and it made it even harder when I happened to see her walk up the street as my window is the apartment view. You know what else? I've learned to except it as it is. People move on, People change and sometimes although we don't like it, It's just the way it goes. Try and meet new people, Keep yourself busy and do things as long as you have things to occupy yourself it will gradually get easier in time. You are better off without someone like that anyway because the way she treated you isn't a true friend.
21 female
I'm going to try and make this as short as possible..
There is this guy. He thinks I have big boobs, but I only have B's. The reason he thinks this is because I wear the miraculous bra from Victoria's Secret that's supposed to make you look 2 cup sizes bigger.
Now I'm afraid to ever take off my bra. It's not that I'm insecure of a guy seeing me naked, it's just that he's gonna be disappointed i feel. Every time he says something about my boobs I'm like "you're crazy, there not even big" and stuff like that.
What should I do? I am way to embarrassed to be like "yeah I wear a push up bra with ALOT of padding in it" And the thing is he's not experienced when it comes to being physical with a girl so I'm thinking maybe he would just be happy to see me topless but I don't know. What do you think I should do??
If this guy isn't willing to appreciate you for who you are then he isn't worth your time period. The fact is; He is a guy. Guys like boobs no matter what size they are and if he makes a big deal out of a bra with extra padding in it then obviously he is a bit immature to be in a relationship. You are an adult and assuming he is one as well then he should act like one. Someone who loves you for who you truly are isn't going to give two flying shits how big or small your breast are, They are going to love every single inch of you. If he acts like an ass, Then there you go.....He showed his true colors and is too immature for you.
Hi I'm a 19 year old Indian boy, I'm in search of true love, Please let me know if there is any White girls interested in having a relationship with an Indian.
You've got the wrong site buddy, This is not a dating site better off looking elsewhere.
so.. my friend and i had sex but not to the point where my cherry was broke & im not shure if he "got excited" in me or not.. if he did.. is it possible for me to get pregnant?
People seem to get the whole "cherry popping" misunderstood, If you had sex for the first time that doesn't necessarily mean you have then "popped your cherry" A hymen can be broken from something as simple as bike riding etc.
If the penis had contact with the vagina then it is always possible to become pregnant, A simple thing as pre-cum is possible and believe it or not the pull out method isn't safe either. Nothing is ever 100% safe despite using birth control and condoms.
Is it normal to pretend you're pregnant? I don't want to actually be pregnant until I'm married, but I'm always curious what it is like. Thanks.
No..
Pretending your pregnant can cause a lot of misunderstanding and give people the wrong impressions. Also, How would you even hide a pregnancy to begin with? I wouldn't do it, Also you will get a load of gossip. Plus, You wouldn't want to be known as a "Fake" I'm not saying you would but if all hell were to let loose.... Rumors begin.
I’m a 26 year old man form India; I have a sister of 21 year old. My sister broke up with her boyfriend a month ago.
But now my sister wants to have sex with me because she is really addicted in having sex.
So will she get pregnant if she has sex with me?
Especially she wants to have sex without a condom.
This is considered incest, As far as I'm concerned it is illegal almost everywhere. Having sex with family is not only wrong but it is disgusting.
If you were to have sex with your sibling and she fell pregnant there is an extremely high chance that the child could be born with disformities, mental retardation or it may not even survive birth as this baby would be born through family genes.
My best advise; Stay away from your sister, She is your blood related relative and again that is just gross.