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how do i get my soon to be brother in law to leave ?
my soon to be husband moved my daughter and me into his house this past january its been real nice up untill lately his brother lives there also and another room mate well his 40 year old brother doesnt pay rent or pay bills or even buy food for the house he lops around doing nothing at all sleeps all day and up all night. He just recently started being smart towards my family and my daughter by the way she sleeps in the den he has his own room she is 14 and he doesnt give her no privtecy last night i went to cook and he through out all the forks and spoons that i use to cook with . how can i get this loser to leave i have told my boyfriend and he just feels sorry for this bs of a what he thinks is a man i want him to leave i pay the bills and buy food he doesnt do nothing what can i do to get him out ?
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You should tell your husband, that living there with his brother is NOT the family home that you wanted and it in no way suitable for you or your child which sadly in your eyes must come first. Explain that you don't want him to choose between you and his brother but he either has to leave, or you move out with your daughter has to be the only option. The other thing you could do is comprimise and say to yoyur husband, if your brother begins to pay rent, lets your daughter have that room for privacy,let his brother have the den and make sure his brother starts living a more calm life. Tell your husband hes in charge so its up to him what yo do but because you rightly put yourself and daughter first its you or his brother, good luck :) xx
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The brother is probably just as angry about this as you are - suddenly there is a woman and her daughter in HIS house taking up HIS space! Put yourself in his shoes, this can't be great for him either. You all need to sit down and discuss what the best solution is. I would recommend you and your daughter and fiance finding a place elsewhere and leave the grown up room mates behind to start looking after themselves.
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Honestly. I don't 100% agree with the other answers. Making your fiance choose between his family and you is a awful feeling. Ive been there before. You need to sit down with your husband be like hey I really understand you feel sorry and you care about your brother but I think we as a couple should pick a dead line. Giving your brother a month or 2 months to find a job and help with the bills or he needs to move out and in the mean time you have a lot of people in the home set up a schedule where they can each wash the dishes once or twice a week or do laundry give him something to do around the week so you all arent stressed out and feel a little bit better about the situation right now im married with 2 kids my father and my cousin all live in a smal 2 bedroom house.
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Pack your bags and move out, Give your fiance some time to figure out what is more important too him.
I agree with Razhie on this one, You don't have the right to kick out your fiances brother this is your brothers house not yours and your fiance needs to make that say.
I'm confused on how you allowed him to move you and your daughter into a home that is occupied with other people? I would post pond the wedding until you both are on the same page. If he chooses not to have his brother move out then this is were I'd begin to pack my bags for good. At 40 years old he is old enough to care for himself and figure out his situations on his own.
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How can you start a marriage together when you don't even have a home together? Your daughter doesn't even have a room? How'd you let that happen? Bad idea. When you marry you will need know that your home is your HOME, and what you want is important. Leave there and delay the wedding until the living situation is sorted out. Trust me, if its bad now, it will seem 100 times worse AFTER you're married. You have to have these problems ironed out before you say idea or they will come back to haunt you worse than you could have ever imagined.
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It's your boyfriend's house, so your boyfriend has to be the one to remove him.
If your boyfriend won’t do that, then you need take your daughter, move out of his home, and delay the marriage until your boyfriend is willing to help you provide an acceptable home environment for your child.
It's really that simple. You have no legal right as a fiancé to kick his brother out. If your fiancé won’t remove this brother, then you need to remove yourself and your daughter.
Give your fiance a month, no longer, to remove his brother. Your child needs her own room, and you need to be in a marriage where you do not have to support a grown man fiancially. If in 30 days the brother is still there, pack your bags.
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