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how do I let go of a lost friendship easier?
Recently I decided to let go on a lost friendship with someone who has trash talked me to my face, made me cry on multiple occasions, tells my secrets and then lies about it, forced me to cheat for them, and all of a sudden stopped talking to me without a reason. It's taken awhile for me to realize that this friendship may have started out well, but it took a bad turn. I really want to let go and move on, but I'm having a hard time. Now, I think about all of the good memories we had together. How can I help my self move on from the pain of such a failed friendship?
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Getting over a friendship is just as bad as getting over bf/gf relationship. Its your dumass friend that took advantage of you and you dont deserve it so letting go was by far the best thing you did for you. The pain will subside sooner or later but to make it sooner, keep yourself busy with real loving friends. I say write her/him a letter expressing how you feel and dont hold back. you can either send it to her or throw the letter out after. the point is to vent then throw a "f-u bad friend party" with all your fab friends. it sounds silly but my point is surround yourself with people who love and respect you, you will move on and feel great in no time. Good Luck!!
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First, you have to get the idea of "failed" out of your head, because it isn't that you "failed," your sorry-ass so-called friend failed. Of course you;re gonna think about the good times, but also remember that the good times are long into the past--how can you have a good time with a person who you know will stab you in the back tomorrow if they feel like it? Sometimes we stay friends with jerks long after we should have kicked them to the curb because, even after all the bad things they have done, we worry about them and feel badly that we're not sticking it out. They give us guilt trips and play on our emotions, and because they are manipulative the yknow exactly what to say to get us where they want us. Of course, all their apologies mean nothing, cuz they just do it again and again. Whenever you start to feel like she's dragging you back, just remember that the closer you let her in, the more it will hurt when she stabs you in the back. She doesn't care about your feelings; don't care about hers.
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You do exactly what I did.....
You learn to except that people change and sometimes things don't always turn the way we hoped for it too be.
I let go of a good friend of 13 years just about 4 months ago. We grew apart, We both wanted different things in our life and eventually my friend go involved with someone who disliked me and she let him come between our friendship. The pathetic part? ..She lives in the next apartment complex over. Anyway beside the point..
It may have started off as a great friendship but reality is, Your friend began to treat you like shit. It is hard to let people go, It's even harder when you've known them for a long time but you got to move on from it. That old saying "Time heals all wounds" is true, It was hard for me to except that my friendship was over too and it made it even harder when I happened to see her walk up the street as my window is the apartment view. You know what else? I've learned to except it as it is. People move on, People change and sometimes although we don't like it, It's just the way it goes. Try and meet new people, Keep yourself busy and do things as long as you have things to occupy yourself it will gradually get easier in time. You are better off without someone like that anyway because the way she treated you isn't a true friend.
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