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i Wrote a question on here, about my boyfriend of 2 years.. drinking and all that stuff, im really upset.. he hasnt drank yet, but hes flirting with girls,and he just thinks hes too young to be in a relationship, he left me hanging like i was nothing,no.. it really wasnt any stupid relationship..we were best friends,everything for eachohter, i helped him in his toughest moments, and so did he.. both our parents knew about us.. itsnot just stupid relationship.. it was real.. and thats why im so hurt.. i feel like he just threw me away for new girls, for new expireiences, i cant do anything right, i really need you to help me please.. i dont know how to move on, how do i.. how do i forget all those times when wed text,and talk ,and our kissing,,and everything how am i supposed to get over that.. i woke up to him, i slept to him.. everything=/ i dont know what to do anymore, theres no point getting with him, or trying.. cause whenever i do, he ignores my texts .. but yet when i talk to guys he calls me up and yells, and thinks im always flirting.. please.. i need your help... everyone keeps telling me to moveo n, i REALLY dont know how to :( pleaseee help me.. im so heartbroken.. how can he leave me for that.. seeing him flirting with girls scars me.. because im not even used to him talking to any gurls except for me.. which was a mistake.. we were too much on eachohther, and i told him we can fix it, he can do what he wants,but not bad stuff, and he said he wants to have fun.. please.. will he regret this? im crying so hard right now.. he used to be so nice, and listen to me allll the time, and was so sweet.. and now hes some jerk i dont even know anymore.. :( i felt comfortable writing you.. my heart felt good about you.. thank you for your help.. my heart is just torn apart.. i hate being inlove with him.
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*Sigh* I'm going to put this as gently as I possibly can, You need to move on. Sometimes as hard as it is to see and except people change and grow apart. Your boyfriend hinted he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore by stating "He was too young" that was your first hint but your boyfriend just doesn't seem too want to be in a committed relationship, He wants to see what else is available to him. This is not your fault, There is nothing you did it is just simply a matter of falling apart and him wanting different things.
Take a deep breath, Life is so much more than being in a relationship with one person, It WILL get better and you WILL move on. Sometimes moving on just takes a little time and the way you do it is to focus on you, Get yourself out there. Hang with friends, Spend time with family and keep yourself busy. School starts in a few months, You may meet someone else.
You aren't alone, I know exactly what you are going through. I was in a relationship for 5 years I was 17 when I met my first, I was head over heels and would do anything. It was an abusive relationship but I still stuck by even when I'd get spit on, pushed, or beaten and overtime I somehow got the courage to move on with my life. Although I did, I was heart broken. I cried all the time and actually ended up hospitalized for emotional distress but too be tell you the truth, As painful as it was I made it, I got better and I don't regret it one bit as it was the smartest thing I've ever done for myself. People go through heart breaks all the time, You are not alone. You just have to except it as an experience and that all it was. Your ex never deserved you, He doesn't now and you are better off without him. Your crying is normal, You are hurt but in time everything will get easier for you. In the meantime keep your distance, Don't answer his text, emails, calls nothing. He doesn't deserve you in a relationship he doesn't deserve your friendship or mutual respect either.
If there is anything else I can do for you feel free to contact me anytime. I will help and listen as best as I can.
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You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!
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I know that it is so hard and you probably get so angry at the people who tell you to move on... but its not easy they dont understand the pain you are in... You cant just forget everything, you never will forget... you will always have the memories... but some day they wont hurt anymore... I am so glad that you came to me and you feel comfortable with me talking to you... I want you to know that I am here for you to help you and you can always come and ask me anything... if you would like I can even go a step further and give you my email address I dont normally do that but you seem to really need a good influence and someone in your life that you can talk to about anything and wont judge you.... if you need me I will be that person let me know if you would like my email address and always know that no matter what you can talk to me about anything and I will be here for you...
now I know that you are hurting and first I am going to tell you that even though you love him and you want to make things work out, he is not wanting to change and not wanting to come back so your best option is to just accept that the relationship is over it will help you heal faster... you can just get over a love that you had for so long... you loved him and trusted him and you dreamed of forever with him and it just totally sucks that he walked out... but let me tell you this you are going to find a great man someday who is going to be everything you have ever dreamed of and he is going to make you feel so wonderful and loved and special and beautiful just like he should... and you are going to be so happy... and someday when you are happy this boy that left you is going to regret that he left someone so wonderful and he is going to wish he never hurt you but it will be his loss because by then you will have moved on and then he is going to be the one who is alone and hurt...
it is okay to hurt its okay to cry and its okay to feel angry and upset.. you are going to make it through this I know you can... You have your whole life ahead of you and this boy is not the end of your world right now it feels like your life is over but its not! you can get through this, you will get through this, and I will be here to help you through!
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