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How should I ask my mom for birth control?
Me and my boyfriend of six months want to become sexually active. I am fifteen and a half and he is sixteen, but this is something we're both completely sure about doing. And we are planning on using two forms of contraception: condoms and birth control. His end is taken care of, but I don't know how to ask my mom to make me an appointment for the gyno. She has me when she was seventeen years old, and has always insisted that I go to her as soon as we started talking about it...but I don't know how. I'm still afraid she's going to get upset and keep us from seeing each other.
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First things first. You are fifteen,I will assume you have gotten your periods since you are asking about birth control, and have not had a first visit to a gynecologist? If so this is how you start you conversation with your mother.
There are certain things the gynecologist is going to want to discus with you and your mother if you wish. One of them is going to be the HPV vaccination. I'm not sure if getting the HPV vaccination is something that requires moms permission though it is something you need to be told about by a doctor.
You have, at your age by law medical confidentiality. Meaning your mother cannot be in the exam room or consultation room with you and your doctor without your permission. Your doctor(s) cannot release medical information to anyone without you specific written consent. The law is called HIPPA. You can research it on the web for more information.
As I was saying once a girl hits puberty and starts her menstrual cycle and her breasts grow. She needs regular annual check ups with a gynecologist. If you have not had one you need to start seeing a gynecologist regularly. The disease that are common to women are not age restricted and can strike at any age. I'm not trying to scare you, only to tell you why it is important that you see a gynecologist now and annually. The doctor will show you the proper way to self examine yourself and what is the right way to keep yourself healthy. Also when to call the doctor if you suspect anything is wrong.
Know to your question. With the rest in mind you have a reason to start a conversation with your mother about seeing a doctor. You can at that time say while I'm there I think I would like to ask the doctor for birth control pills to better regulate my periods and to be prepared when and if I decide to become sexually active.
In this way you are not diving head first into the conversation. There is a real need for you to see the doctor if you haven't already been to one. Remember to talk about the HPV vaccination, learning proper self examination and other things you need to know to stay healthy.
This would also be a good time for a conversation with mom about family medical history, something the doctor is going to ask about. A medical history from both mom and dads side of the family for everything from asthma to ulcers and anything in between.
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Your mom may be upset, but if you go to her in a mature manner, she will most likely appreciate that you're being responsible about becoming sexually active. Since she had you at a young age (don't bring that up, it might make her mad) she will probably understand more than other parents might.
Ask her responsibly - tell her you're seriously thinking about becoming sexually active and want to be prepared. There's also many other benefits to be being on the pill that you could also mention such as improving acne and regulating your cycle. You can also get the pill from Planned Parenthood, and you pay for it out of pocket based on income. This may make your mom upset if she finds out - just be warned!
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This is going to be a very hard thing for you to do but your mom is not going to be mad at you she is going to feel better that you came to her and asked her... its better than comming home and saying well mom im pregnant and that is all she is going to think about... so tell your mom its really important that the two of you talk and sit down with her and explain to her that you think its time to go get birth control and remember everything is going to be okay you are a smart girl
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