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The guy I love is special needs and no one what's me to date him and idk if
This guy I love is 24 and in special needs. He is at my level of thinking and is an amazing guy, funny sweet caring and everything I want in a guy. But like I said he's 24 and no one thinks I should have anything to do with him. But if he thinks like an 8th grader its ok right? What do I do?????! Idk if he even loves me, but he's given me gifts so.........???????!!!!
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if you really love this person and your right around his age, i would totally go for it!(:
but don't love someone just because they give you gifts, love them because you want to!
and if he has special needs... who cares! if you love him/ like him then go for it. dont let anyone bring you down, as long as your happy, thats all that matters!(:
"don't ever let anyone tell you he isn't good enough for you because honestly nobody knows how he makes you feel"
.... but if you are younger then him, i would date someone your own age or somewhere right around there!(:
good luck and hope everything works out.!(:
if you have any questions just ask(:
melissa
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Hi there,
I am afraid there is a simple answer here: You are going to grow up, and your mentally challenged friend is going to stay where he is.
Eventually you will not want anything to do with him. Picture it: Someday you will be 50 and having sex with a 12 year old. :-(
On top of that problem, if you have a physical relationship with him, he will be arrested and placed into an institution for a very long time... possibly forever.
Short answer: If you really love him, then you will have to wait until you are 18 and see how you feel about all this.
Please make a smart choice.
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I am sorry but they are right they guy is too old for you if you really want to be with him the best thing to do is wait until you are 18.... If you dont than he can go to jail... and you dont want that good luck and best wishes
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I am sorry to say that I have to agree with those who tell you not to date him. Regardless of his disability, it is illegal for a twenty-four year old to have a relationship with anyone under 18, and he could potentially get in a lot of trouble, and it wouldn't even be his fault. Plus, you have got to remember that there is no way this relationship can work out long term; I know you love him now, but you are going to mature, and he is not. You are going to want a family and kids one day, and he probably will never have the mental capacity to do that. Even though you won't mean to, you will really break his heart, and he will suffer self-esteem issues because he will blame it on his disability. In this situation you have to be the mature one and make the right decison. If you don't date him than the two of you can be friends forever...you can always be in his life, and he will always love you and value you. If you do date, it will end badly, you will both be hurt, and you will probably lose him as a friend forever.
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I have nothing against disabled people but I'm going to be honest with you...
I've grown up with several friends that were disabled or had disabilities, They made great friends but I don't think they had the capability of being independent in a relationship nor understanding what one means. I have seen a few of my friends date and I don't recall any of the relationships lasting no more than 3 months.
Some will tell you, You love who you love. Others will tell you when we date someone we often look for a reliable source and someone we can see ourselves having a successful future with. It all depends on what he means to you, Nobody can really give you the proper answer.
You stated this man has the capacity of an 8th grader which would generally range 14-15 years old, This man thinks like a child and whether he would be able to provide a successful future with children and marriage is questionable. You didn't state how old you were but assuming you are an adult these are some of the things I would take into consideration. Are you able to care for this man? If you were to marry and have children would you be able to provide for not just the child but your husband as well? It's a tough situation but again I think your answer would really depend on how and what he means too you. You could try it out and see where it takes you but I would ask myself the following questions first.
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