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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 22. We have been dating for four years he has younger sisters one is my age and the other is 17. Anyway when me and my boyfriend first started going out we would always go out with them and i would notice him staring at their butt but i didn't think much of it since i really liked him and he would stare at mine too. We stopped going out with them as much due to we all work and go to school so now we don't have time.But i always notice him looking at their butts when we go to their house they wear really short tight shorts
(sometimes part of their butt even comes out a little when they walk) all the time and their butts are like amazingly big, like kim kardashian im not kidding haha. Mine is just normal size and it has recently starting to bother me, because i noticed he never stares at mine anymore but always checks out theirs, is this normal, and what should i do? sometimes i let us walk in front of them purposely but feel foolish its starting to make me feel insecure.
If it were any girl I'd say yes, If it is his sisters I'm going to definitely say No.
Have you tried talking to him about this? Tell him that you feel that it is disturbing that he is checking out his own sisters? Not only is that just disgusting...but again he is checking out his sisters. You could also try talking to his sisters and let them know what is going on. If he doesn't seem to listen and straighten his nasty ass out hell I'd move on to someone who is NOT into their siblings....
Im married with 2 kids and there is this male co-worker who would joke that we are soulmates everytime we wore same color of shirt. His bestfriend sometimes teases us too. There are some instance where he would stare into my eyes n hold it for a second. I think im in love with him now? is it love or attraction?
Bad idea
It is never a good idea to get involved with a coworker. You both work together, You see one another everyday and having a relationship with a coworker would put more stress on a relationship as you two would have no room to breathe.
Jobs have to appear work appropriate, You cannot show a romantic relationship at your job. As in many companies coworkers are not allowed to date.
You are married, You have children and you are thinking about sacrificing what could just be a fling? Your best bet is to put it behind you, You have children and a husband at home. Also, Do you know if this man is married and has children? Would you still want to be that women whom he has an affair with?...If his wife found out she would be pointing the blame at not only him but you as well? This is what you'd be doing if you were to date him also. Think about his wife/Your husband.
Before you ask yourself whether you are in love, Think about the possible consequences. If you two were to date; You would have no time to yourself, If the relationship went bad...You would still have to face him everyday and that would be whether it were to be awkward or not. Stick to strictly coworker friendly relationship you are better off trust me.
im a 14 year old girl and i really like a female teacher so much so that i think might be in love with her but i stil fancy boys is this just a fase or am a bisexual? please help me
It's a faze, Trust me most teenagers go through a bi curious stage and right now you may "think" you are in love but it will eventually pass.
1, Your teacher is older than you, Possibly married and she can get in a load of trouble if she were to have contact with a minor/student.
If you are bi curious then try setting up a sleep over with a few friends and play truth or dare but as far as your teacher..........She is your teacher. Again, It's probably a faze and it will pass.
So I was on the phone with my friend and she said that I was naive and that's why guys like "messing" with me.(And no messing isn't used in a dirty way it's just another form of joking around I guess). Anyways I'm actually confused what does she mean by I'm naive and that's why guys "mess" with me.
And what does she mean by me being naive about everything
Basically saying; You are easy to take advantage of, Easy to mess with, Gullible, Goodie two shoes.
i want my ex back, but he said he lost feelings for me after i broke up with him. the reason why i left was because i cheated on him with my 1st bf. i didnt realize how much i cared for him until after i cheated. but i want him back, i can't live everyday like i used to when i was with him, he made me happy like no one else can.
so how do i tell him i still have feelings for him? how do i make sure i dont get hurt even more?
it's been over 2 months since i left him.and if it helps.. i'm 14.
You cheated, That is a slap in the face for anyone.
If you loved him and he made you happy, Then why did you go and do what you did? Sure, People make mistakes but you can't always expect someone to forgive your mistakes and act like everything is fine when it's not. Your ex is hurt, You betrayed him. You can try and tell him you still have feelings for him but it is sort of hard to believe after being cheated on.
me and my bf really really liked eachother befor we started dating, his fb relationship stadus said "in a relationship" . Now we started dating and now it says "single" ????
Does your boyfriend use facebook frequently?
It could be a few things, Maybe he just forgot to change his relationship status?
You don't know unless you talk to him, Ask him.
Depending on what he says.......Maybe he is in denial I really can't give you the right answer as there isn't much detail in your question.
Okay, first off I am a teen and my boyfriends mom "monitors " our chats and ... well everything ( think what you want, I have my opinions too) Anyways she has a security type system that alerts her when we say certain things, and according to Jan (his mom) Angel and Horse are "CODE" talk.... I have googled it and everything and I DO NOT KNOW WHAT IT MEANS. I don't see how angel is a CODE word for anything??? Please PLEASE help!!!
Never heard of these "code" names
However, The mother is monitoring her son's chat because she is a parent who wants to make sure her son stays in line. Sounds to me that maybe she is being a good parent and is keeping an eye out of trouble. ;)
Long story short:
I'm an 18 year old Irish guy, my life has gone to hell in the past 5-6 months, I fathered a secret child with my now ex girlfriend in February, told absolutly nobody! The baby died the following day, still nobody knows. Our relationship hit rock bottom dramatically after that, things got violent (not physically though) and in April my girlfriend stole €700 from my mother so all hell broke loose and I was banned from anything got to do with her. She became ill soon after and said she could die until one day she just cut contact with me alltogether. I seriously thought she died but now 2 months later she contacted me to let me know she's pregnant again, my whole family are now involved and all believe she is a crazy bitch full of lies, her life has been destroyed by my cowardness and selfishness yet I don't have the balls to tell anybody as the lies have gone on so long that the consequences would be huge and terrible. She is kinda pyscho but i love and hate her yet I feel I've done her wrong big time and i think i am a very evil person but i don't mean to be. I just make bad choices. Now i want to kill myself just to escape the whole ordeal.
Killing yourself and running away from your problems isn't going to solve anything at all. If you feel this much weight on your shoulders then the best thing in the world would to be to start with therapy. The death of a child is a load of baggage to be carrying around on your own and something as seeing a therapist can help you cope properly. If your mother wants nothing to do with you then so be it, You are 18 years old now and you are old enough to make your own choices on your own. Honestly, I don't have a father in my life. Sometimes things just go the way we don't want them too but we get through it, I certainly did. I put myself through college and did what I had to do in my life. You are overwhelmed and possibly full of guilt but it is never to late to make changes and turn things around. The first thing I would do is to set a goal for yourself if you don't have a place of your own yet, Then set a goal to make that happen. Things can turn around but YOU have to make that happen and you can do it.
I smell like ass even after I take a shower, why?
If you still stink after taking a shower then perhaps you need to change your diet, Stay away from fatty/greasy foods. Also, If you haven't already try switching body wash, soaps and deodorant.
Shower everyday if you need too but toss healthier foods in your diet and you will see a big difference. Good luck
my boyfriend Junior. I've been knowing him for about a year now. there's this girl, stacy, who's his "ex" me and Junior have been going out for a couple of weeks now and since the day he asked me out, we've been hanging out every single day and talking on the phone/texting every day. he's introduced me to some of his cousins, and a lot of his friends as his girlfriend. a couple of days after he asked me out i heard he was still with his "ex" so i confronted him about her. he said that she still hasn't let go of him because she had a miscarriage by him and she's emotionally attached. I believed him, put that whole situation in the past then a couple of days ago one of mine and stacy's mutual friends told me stacy's telling everyone they're dating still but now i'm kind of starting to believe her because she knows a couple of his cousins that i've met and one of mine and stacy's mutual friends said that the cousins always talk to her about Junior as if they're together. I don't think she could be THAT stuck in the past. Someone's lying. I'm not sure how to go about the whole situation. He's cheating on me, he's cheating with me? he's lying, she's lying? it's confusing. I don't know what to believe at this point. I'm supposed to hang out with my boyfriend today. I want to tell him that if he has any feelings towards stacy then he should just be with her instead. I don't want to let him go, but I don't want to be played. I would talk to Stacy myself but she's not the type that someone could conversate with. I don't want to accuse her of lying but i also don't want to see her get her feelings hurt because of me, even though it's not exactly my fault. Any advice on how I should go about this while situation? Thanks in advance.
1. You have been dating a few weeks
2. This "ex" had a miscarriage by him
She is jealous, She is pissed, She IS still attached. If this girl is too much of a pain in the ass then it is your boyfriend that should tell her to give him some space. Why believe her? Of course she is going to try and sound convincing she wants him back and doesn't want you in the picture. If his cousin is talking to his ex, Let your boyfriend handle that too. Your best bet is to stay out of it, If you get in between you are going to cause a load of problems between all three of you. Trust your boyfriend but talk to him about how it bothers you and you feel he should confront them. Your boyfriend is with you, Not her and if he needs to show her that he has moved on them so be it. Some people just can't move on and perhaps she is one of those people but the sooner your boyfriend tells her to back off the quicker she should get the picture. Stacy is an ex, There should be no need at all for her to be in the picture. Your relationship is between YOU and your boyfriend not everyone else.
i hung out with my boyfriend last night. he introduced me to some of his cousins and by the end of the night me, my best friend, boyfriend, and his cousin ended up going to the park. i didn't have any pockets so i asked my boyfriend to hold my phone. a few hours into the night i had asked him what time it was so he pulled out my phone and he was joking with his cousin saying how i have pictures i don't want him to see since my pictures are locked. well i said if i had something to hide, my messages would be locked so i told him to go to my messages just because i didn't want him to think i'm doing anything behind his back. well i kind of keep in touch with one of my ex boyfriends from three years ago and he randomly texted me the other day. well my boyfriend was only looking in the inbox so this is how he read it:
ex: hey :)
ex: that makes both of us now haha
ex: so did i haha. where are you??
ex: F*ck me right? haha. what you do today?
ex: your bf??
ex: yea
Now, this is the WHOLE conversation:
ex: hey :)
me: hey. you hella didn't answer my call the other day haha. what are you doing?
*the other day he had called me to tell me he had something important to tell me about my old friend but i was busy so i called him back but he didn't answer*
*he calls me; i reject it*
ex: that makes both of us now haha
me: thats no fair i have a reason haha
ex: so did i haha. where are you??
me: sure haha. in my little sister's room
ex: F*ck me right? haha. what you do today?
me: haha spent the night with my best friend and boyfriend. we were driving around, came home went swimming. what about you?
ex: your bf??
me: boyfriend? haha. are you still talking to that one girl?
ex: yea
and that was it. i tried to get my boyfriend to read the sent messages but he just gave me my phone back and his cousin was telling me how i messed up. which i don't understand. i got really irritated to i asked my best friend if we could leave. we walked outside, i called my boyfriend to ask if he needed a ride home, he said he was going to spend the night down his cousins house, i said okay and he hung up. I'm so lost. i don't know what to do. any advice/opinions? should i give him space? i have all the messages still saved but he said he doesn't want to see them.
You are in contact with your ex, That would piss any guy/girl off. It is a slap in the face for most people and it takes it's toll on the relationship most of the time. Exes are exes for a reason, There should be no need to be in contact unless you both have children or what not.
Understandably, Your boyfriend is pissed and perhaps he feels insecure in the relationship now. That is completely normal and even if the text messages were innocent you are still in contact with someone you formally dated. I would suggest giving him a little space and when he is calm try to bring it up again by saying "I love you very much and I want you to know I would never do anything to hurt you" and take it from there. Having exes in the picture is playing with fire also never go around telling people what you do in your relationship that is private business.
Is 12 to young to wear a G-String (thong)? PS I'm actually 13
In my opinion....Yes it is way too young.
It is not age appropriate, It is not sexy nor cute when a pre pubescent teenager wears things that an adult should wear. Stick to age appropriate wear, When you are 18 you can wear whatever you want.
what are you supposed to do when a married man wants you
Run
If a married man is coming on too you then tell him straight up "You are married and I am not interested in having an affair" That simple.
Think about his wife and his children, Basically this man is willing to sacrifice it all.
Definitely not a good idea, Let the guy know that you aren't interested and keep declining his offers.
I am a 16 year old female. I am going to be a senior in high school. When I was back in jr high, I had a favorite teacher and it was quite evident that I was his favorite student. We were so close, he was like a second dad to me, how I saw it anyway. Other students were jealous that they didn't get the treatment from him that I did, so badly that the only thing they could come up with is that we were "together". Honestly, from an outsider looking it, it would look as if we were dating. But he would have no intention of dating a 7/8/9 th grader which was what I was in jr high. I am now in sr high and we still stay in contact, he comes to my school to watch over some teachers and we'll steal quick glances at each other, he'll tell me he likes when I visit him during the school year on my walks home, I'm the only student that during my years of having him and now not having him that is able to call him by his first name, he asks me for my opinions on his teaching lessons (about what would interest the kids because I had him and he knows that I would be honest if his lessons were boring), he asks me about my personal life and he talks to me about his which is something he never does with other students, the first time I visited him was after Christmas break with a friend of mine and she asked if he liked his late Christmas present and he said "I love my fantastic Christmas present" and she said after we left that he hadn't looked that happy in a long time.
--what do you think about us? more than just aquaintences?
now, the main reason for asking my question, I came back from Creation Festival this week and I was telling my brother about a singer there that he would like so I went up to my brother and was telling him "hey, there was this guy there named" and before I could tell my brother the guy's name, his girlfriend cut me off and said "(teacher's name), did you have to hide to be together?" I was speechless, I didn't tell my brother anything about my teacher ever. So how did his girlfriend even know? She didn't even go to my jr high, so how did she even know about the teacher, let alone what all of the kids thought about us?
Please help me out. I'm wondering if he like, called for a summer music program or something while I was away. Are you like everyone else and think we are together? How would she know about him?
Thanks.
This girl probably heard rumors from other people.
I'm going to be blunt
Although you may not see it, There is a red line with a teacher and a student. This guy has crossed the line on several occasions. A job as a teacher is a privileged and relationships between students should strictly be a student/relationship. I am a complete stranger, If I saw a student and a teacher being overly friendly I'd also be a little suspicious. All someone really has to say is one word and it could cost the guy his job. You are in high school now, You aren't even legally an adult. This man is likely twice your age, Married with children. YOU see the relationship as if he were your second father but the question is does HE see it that way? I would back off a little bit, I'm sure this girl didn't say what she said for no reason and if people are getting the wrong impressions then obviously it has gotten to that point where it probably looks just like it was said. Keep your distance or it will come around and bite his career.
This man is a former teacher, You are NOT entitled to go visit him everyday nor every week. By doing so you are feeding into the problem. YOU wouldn't want to have fingers pointed at by not knowing to back off would you?....Rumors have already started that is your first warning. You are in high school, I would focus on getting though that and hang around friends your own age and look for a boyfriend your own age is what you really should be doing rather than hanging around an older man that is a former teacher. From what you have described this is NOT a teacher/student relationship. Stay away from that drama
I'm a teenager. Last night I gave my boyfriend a handjob. He cummed and a little got on my hand. Almost immediately after, I wiped my hand off on a rag that had already been somewhat used. Meaning he used it to wipe the cum off his hands then I used it to do the same thing. About half an hour later, I was home. I went to the bathroom. Before I touched myself down there I washed my hands with coolish water. Then I went to the bathroom and wiped myself down there. My finger didn't go in my vagina but I did touch near it but higher up, more near the urethra and clitoris. Is there any way I could be pregnant from this? Please help, I don't know what to do!
You're fine
You wiped your hands afterwards, Then you are not pregnant.
my ex and i broke up about 2 weeks ago, i realised i couldn't be without him and asked him to reconsider us together (we broke up cause he thinks i have other interests and that i have cheated on him) which to be honest i have never,i'm a very good girl i dont do stuff like that and certainly wouldn't have done it to him, BUT he thinks i'm so pretty that every guy possibly wants to get with me, he blames me for wanting their attention he thinks that just because i like to look pretty(i have low selfesteem so feeling good about looking good makes me feel better) but he thinks i do it to get men's attention, which i don't and nor do i have tons of guys after me, and when i had someone interested on me i would tell them i was in a relationship but my boyfriend's stubburn and jealous..anyway..we live now in different countries but he was comming back to see me this july, yet he stopped talking to me said he wasn't comming cause he didn't believe i havent cheated etc..i tried to convince him, yet he finally said one day ok ill go and that he loved me and he was incredibly sweet that night..then the next morning i woke to no texts from him no nothing and he didnt texted me during all day..then i sent him tons of texts and now he's like i cant talk im at work, and i know hes not at work anymore yet he hasnt reply, he is notanswering the phone, he almost never picks up the phone when i talk unless i have been calling for quiet a while, i dont get why he says he wants me one day then acts like he totally hates me the next, anyway i dont know how to get over it and eventho my head knows if he would love me he wouldnt hurt me like this like being all time out with his friends say we would talk then never do , he takes HOURS to reply to my messages and seems to forget " his phone at home alot recently, he refuses to add meon bbm ..i understand this behaviour says he doesn't want me BUT he says he does! and that he was gonna come see me ! so i dont understand wha'ts going on or what to do!
please help ...this has never happened to me i can usually get over people pretty quickly, idk why its so different now, i'm 22 he's 23
I'm going to pull a wild card on this one
Before you two broke up, Did your boyfriend know anything about you leaving for another country? This could of been what got him thinking. The fact that you are leaving for awhile and he used that to end the relationship. (Guessing here)
Now, I'm also going to assume that you stated above you sent him a ton of text messages. Perhaps you sent him too many to the point where he just said he was going to come and visit you so you'd drop the subject. (Don't burst my bubble, Again I'm just guessing based on his actions) If he doesn't seem to be showing interest into getting back together then there really isn't a whole lot I can tell you, You cannot force one to date someone they don't want to be with it. However, On another note if he took hours to respond either A. He could of been super busy. 2, He could of intentionally had his phone shut off. or 3. He may be talking to someone else you don't know about.
Now for my actual advise: I would talk to him, Try and get the real reason to why he left you. Perhaps it could be what he said above (But sounds to me it isn't a matter of cheating, He just simply doesn't trust you) This could be an excuse too
Ok, well this is kida a long story but I'll make it quick. 14 years ago my biological father screwed my mom and made her pregnant with me. he called when I was two to make sure he wouldn't have to pay child support (which btw kinda stings a little) so I just wanna know how a 14 year old girl can find her dad when all she knows is: he lived somewhere in Indiana around 1996 1995, he has curly brown hair, he got his license taken away at 17 for driving under the influence, and his name is Michael Spalding? My mom doesn't want me to even think about his let alone try and find him, so I'm doing it secretly and I have no money so I need a very cheap way. No one in my family had ever seen my dad and didn't know my mom was dating him until she got pregnant. So there no big help. Can anyone help????
I would definitely think about whether you really should find your father or not. Talk it over with your mother, Tell her your concerns and to why.
As painful as it is to not have a father in your life, Sometimes things are for the best in the long run. You wouldn't want to find your father and be disappointed in what you see, Sometimes things aren't always what we expect and finding your father could end up being a life long disappointment.
I am adopted, I've thought about finding my biological Mother but the more I sat on it the more I realized that instead of wasting my time on something that may never work out, I should be happy with what I do have in my life. Your father didn't pay child support and he isn't in your life. This should kind of tell you something, I'm not trying to be an asshole but it's better to know then to have him remind you...
Ok, so my ex dumped me last November and got back with his ex the day after. They have now split up.
But its been a year now since me and my ex first started going out, and he never used to speak to me.
Except two weeks ago he sent a happy birthday text, and has been initiating contact through texts each week. I've tried to ask him why, but he completly ignonres the question. How can I get him to tell me his intentions? Thanks
You already know the answer
Think about it, Sometimes guys won't always admit it but they often begin contacting an ex with intentions of getting back with that person. Honestly, I wouldn't even give him the time of day. Why? He had his chance with you and he decided that he still wanted to be with an ex so he left you high and dry to go be with someone else. Now that his relationship is currently over......He is crawling back to you. Do not be his door mat, Taking him back will put you in such position. This boy had his chance and he blew it which in my opinion certainly does not deserve another one. Be strong and be stern about it do not let him lure you back into his trap because that is exactly what he is trying to do.
can I lose 20 pounds by August 25th by drinking water eating right and exercising a lot?
I'm 5'5" and 145 pounds
It is possible, However August is just about a month away. As long as you drink water, diet and exercise it can happen but don't over exercise.
im 15 almost 16 and i have never had my first kiss or had a boyfriend or had my hand held. i have had many guys like me but i wasnt able to date. in auagust i will be because i will be 16 haha.
but isnt that really bad and im going to be a junior and im not experienced, even a little? :( im not even sure how to kiss, what if we bump noses or something lol, or what about making out, and if i do get a boyfriend what if they ask how far ive gone, should i lie, because i dont want to make myself look like an idiot! :(
Be honest, The whole point in a relationship is to be able to trust the other. Lying shows self pity, Why be ashamed of who you are?? Honestly, I didn't have my first experience until I was almost 18 and I do not regret the wait one bit. When the moment came I talked it over with my partner tell them that I didn't know how to kiss and wasn't exactly experienced and we took things from there. Never be ashamed of what you have and haven't done.