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i want my ex bf back,but i cheated on him
i want my ex back, but he said he lost feelings for me after i broke up with him. the reason why i left was because i cheated on him with my 1st bf. i didnt realize how much i cared for him until after i cheated. but i want him back, i can't live everyday like i used to when i was with him, he made me happy like no one else can.
so how do i tell him i still have feelings for him? how do i make sure i dont get hurt even more?
it's been over 2 months since i left him.and if it helps.. i'm 14.
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Well, you obviously didn't feel your ex was hot enough to not cheat on him. Usually, when someone in a relationship strays there is some need that isn't being fulfilled that ends up getting fulfilled with the one you're cheating with. So what was it for you?
Was the relationship with the ex getting too routine? Was he not giving you the amount of attention you wanted? What was it?
There is one other factor possibly at play: at your age, with your brain still developing (and it will until about age 25), you don't know what you really want. Teenagers have very poor impulse control. So when your ex rightly punished you by walking out he stood up like a man and not some kind of needy pussy that may have forgiven you. Good for your ex. You're still too immature for a relationship and he has enough self esteem that he deserves better.
Now that isn't necessarily bagging on you. A lot of kids go through, and do, what you did. It is part of the process of growing up. Learn from it. Honest people are always more valued than cheaters and liars. So take that to heart and get on with your life.
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You cheated, That is a slap in the face for anyone.
If you loved him and he made you happy, Then why did you go and do what you did? Sure, People make mistakes but you can't always expect someone to forgive your mistakes and act like everything is fine when it's not. Your ex is hurt, You betrayed him. You can try and tell him you still have feelings for him but it is sort of hard to believe after being cheated on.
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the fact that you cheated in him will make him really skeptical about taking you back, i mean if you really loved him in the first place then why did you cheat? you have to put yourself in his situation and ask yourself, if you were him what would you do? Honestly the only thing you can do is sit down and have a heart to heart and tell him that you realized how much he means to you and these two months without him have been really bad, really open up to him and if this doesn't help then you don't really have a chance because two months is a while and it's given him a chance to think and he's probably even moved on, so from my personal opinion i just think that you should move on, 14 is pretty young and i'm sure there are plenty guys out there who will love you just as much just see this as a lesson, a mistake that you have learnt from
best of luck
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Hi there,
I am afraid there isn't much chance here, but let me ask you a question:
Nothing a woman can do will make a man dislike women for the rest of his life more than what you have done. Simple fact of the matter is that thanks to you, he will never trust another woman again... well, not for a long time anyway.
So the question is: If he is the only person that makes you happy, why did you break his heart? What was your actual reason for cheating?
Can I let you in on a little secret? People can accept and work around almost anything as long as they know the 100% honest reason you did something. Why is this important? Simple enough... if you don't explain yourself, then he doesn't know why you did it. If he doesn't know why, then he knows you don't have legit reasons for the things you do, and will do any stupid thing like this any old time you feel like it.
If you have a reason, and are honest, then he can decide what to do about it. He can decide what risk he is willing to take to be with you.
If you will not do this, then he would be stupid to get back with you, knowing that you will only do it again.
So... why DID you do this in the first place?
Oh, and so you know, before you talk with him: Guys aren't stupid. We know there is only one reason to stay in touch with someone you used to have sex with: You want to be with them again.
So if you are planning on keeping your ex in your life, then I ask you to think carefully about what you want out of life before you break someone else's heart with this cheating routine.
I hope it all works out for the best.
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Youre young and hurting right now, you made some mistakes that you are not proud of, but most likely because of the fact that you cheated on this boy there wont be any chance of getting back with him.... he doesnt trust you and you hurt him... My advice is to go to him tell him how you feel and tell him you are sorry for the past, if he does not want to start up a relationship with you, then you have to mature and respect that, and walk away.... It will hurt but you are young and you will get over it, I know you think your whole world is ending but its not... there will be other boys, and someday you fill find the one you are meant to spend your life with, and you will be so happy and so in love also one more thing dont cheat again look where it got you, you dont want this to happen again good luck and best wishes
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