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im 15 almost 16 and i have never had my first kiss or had a boyfriend or had my hand held. i have had many guys like me but i wasnt able to date. in auagust i will be because i will be 16 haha.
but isnt that really bad and im going to be a junior and im not experienced, even a little? :( im not even sure how to kiss, what if we bump noses or something lol, or what about making out, and if i do get a boyfriend what if they ask how far ive gone, should i lie, because i dont want to make myself look like an idiot! :(
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Don't lie be upfront but no need to blurt it out unless your asked or RIGHT before something happens.
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Don't lie or anything, just wing it :D
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I recently felt exactly the same way. I never doubted what to do, and decided to be completely honest no matter what. I was honest with one guy and directly told him I had never been kissed. He stopped speaking to me, and I realized that that showed me what kind of person he really was. The kind of person I didn't want to be with.
Another, much better guy, who knew the same thing, recently kissed me. After he did I told him it was my first kiss and it didn't make any difference. He doesn't care at all about anything like that.
Sorry to bore you with my own stories, but at least it gives you hope that there are guys out there who will care about you enough not to care about your experiences. Those are the ones you want to find.
As to all the other stuff, it is so intuitive, don't even think about it. When it is the right person it is so easy. No matter what it is, if you just do what first comes to mind, it's easy. And, I didn't fell like an idiot at all when I told that bad guy, honestly, that I hadn't kissed anyone. It felt REALLY good. Much better than lying!
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It is not bsd that you have no expirience with these things... in fact it is really good that you have waited uptil you were older and more mature for a relationship... If a guy would ask... tell him the truth... you wont look like an idiot... and as for kissing.. I was afraid of the same thing before I had my first... but when it happened it was perfect... no nose bumping or anything... although making out or kissing with tongue I have to say I was really bad at my first time... haha my poor ex boyfirend.... I had no idea what I was doing but then again I was only 12... when you get to that point in your relationship remember to swallow before you kiss and also during the kiss.... or you will do the same thing I did (drooled on him haha) but it was ok i was a little embarrassed but he showed me what to do... another thing you can do is go to a girl friend who is comfortable enough with you and knows what to do and ask to practice (dont worry that wont make you gay or anything a lot of girls learn from their friends) congrats on turning 16 that is a very special bday for girls! and good luck in the future and if you ever have any questions just write me and I will respond :)
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Let me tell you that I am so proud of you for recognizing how special you are and that you are worth way more than to just give out your affection and love to any old body. It is ashame that more young ladies don't have the self esteem or love for themselves as you have. There is absolutely NO reason to lie or be ashamed of your inexperience. You have only lived 15/16 years, you have the rest of your life to be sexually active. It doesn't take anything to have sex but it takes a strong, itelligent person not to have sex. Did you know that although girls who are "easy" seem to get alot of attention the guys don't really like or respect them. You are a respectable young lady and quite honestly real men want a girl just like you. Who wants some girl thats been with every guy out there? NO ONE! When guys are ready to be in a serious realtionship they don't want a slut to take home to meet their mother. They want a girl like you.
Be proud of yourself because you are defiantely on the right track. You obviously have wonderful parents that have taught you well about self worth and being true to yourself. Now that you are old enough to date, please be safe and don't change. Please wait until you find the right one before you give your innocence away. A real man waits for you and proves his love. Love is more than just a word but actions over a life time.
So, if a guy ask how far you've gone tell him no man has been good enough for you yet. And you don't just give it way, you're too special for that. Believe me, when they find out you've never done anything sexually that will make them want you all the more but DON'T give in. You're too beautiful for that on the outside and the inside.
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No, don't lie.
All that lying will do is make you even more stressed and scarred, because on top of doing something for the first time, you'll be worrying about faking having done it before.
Lying doubles your troubles.
It's not bad. It just is. Let yourself be who you are. It's always the least stressful thing to do, and the most honest.
If if the guy thinks that it's a 'bad thing' you aren't more experienced, he isn't worth sharing the experience with anyways. I know it's hard to believe, but it's very true. People who get all worked up about 'experience' are often people who value those experiences above the people they share them with.
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Be honest, The whole point in a relationship is to be able to trust the other. Lying shows self pity, Why be ashamed of who you are?? Honestly, I didn't have my first experience until I was almost 18 and I do not regret the wait one bit. When the moment came I talked it over with my partner tell them that I didn't know how to kiss and wasn't exactly experienced and we took things from there. Never be ashamed of what you have and haven't done.
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