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How would she know?
I am a 16 year old female. I am going to be a senior in high school. When I was back in jr high, I had a favorite teacher and it was quite evident that I was his favorite student. We were so close, he was like a second dad to me, how I saw it anyway. Other students were jealous that they didn't get the treatment from him that I did, so badly that the only thing they could come up with is that we were "together". Honestly, from an outsider looking it, it would look as if we were dating. But he would have no intention of dating a 7/8/9 th grader which was what I was in jr high. I am now in sr high and we still stay in contact, he comes to my school to watch over some teachers and we'll steal quick glances at each other, he'll tell me he likes when I visit him during the school year on my walks home, I'm the only student that during my years of having him and now not having him that is able to call him by his first name, he asks me for my opinions on his teaching lessons (about what would interest the kids because I had him and he knows that I would be honest if his lessons were boring), he asks me about my personal life and he talks to me about his which is something he never does with other students, the first time I visited him was after Christmas break with a friend of mine and she asked if he liked his late Christmas present and he said "I love my fantastic Christmas present" and she said after we left that he hadn't looked that happy in a long time.
--what do you think about us? more than just aquaintences?
now, the main reason for asking my question, I came back from Creation Festival this week and I was telling my brother about a singer there that he would like so I went up to my brother and was telling him "hey, there was this guy there named" and before I could tell my brother the guy's name, his girlfriend cut me off and said "(teacher's name), did you have to hide to be together?" I was speechless, I didn't tell my brother anything about my teacher ever. So how did his girlfriend even know? She didn't even go to my jr high, so how did she even know about the teacher, let alone what all of the kids thought about us?
Please help me out. I'm wondering if he like, called for a summer music program or something while I was away. Are you like everyone else and think we are together? How would she know about him?
Thanks.
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She probably heard it through a rumor things pass quickly.... it sounds to me like the two of you are just good friends it is okay to have a friend but you must be careful with it... if he is your teacher this means that he is over 18 and you are only 16... if people think there is something going on they could tell the wrong person and your teacher friend can get in trouble... you dont want that to happen... so I suggest never meeting up alone or outside of school... once you graduate honsetly you can do what ever you want but til then be careful good luck and best wishes
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excuse me other answer v but you dont know if the man was twice her age and had kids? if like in pretty little liars, hes a young unmarried guy, and your almost a senior? having a close relationship is fine. the question is, do you like him? and what did you say to your brothers girlfriend? If you like him, you should probably wait till college to start dating him. But if you dont, you just like being friends, then keep it that way. Being so close to him when you were younger was very risky, but now that your almost graduated its fine.
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This girl probably heard rumors from other people.
I'm going to be blunt
Although you may not see it, There is a red line with a teacher and a student. This guy has crossed the line on several occasions. A job as a teacher is a privileged and relationships between students should strictly be a student/relationship. I am a complete stranger, If I saw a student and a teacher being overly friendly I'd also be a little suspicious. All someone really has to say is one word and it could cost the guy his job. You are in high school now, You aren't even legally an adult. This man is likely twice your age, Married with children. YOU see the relationship as if he were your second father but the question is does HE see it that way? I would back off a little bit, I'm sure this girl didn't say what she said for no reason and if people are getting the wrong impressions then obviously it has gotten to that point where it probably looks just like it was said. Keep your distance or it will come around and bite his career.
This man is a former teacher, You are NOT entitled to go visit him everyday nor every week. By doing so you are feeding into the problem. YOU wouldn't want to have fingers pointed at by not knowing to back off would you?....Rumors have already started that is your first warning. You are in high school, I would focus on getting though that and hang around friends your own age and look for a boyfriend your own age is what you really should be doing rather than hanging around an older man that is a former teacher. From what you have described this is NOT a teacher/student relationship. Stay away from that drama
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