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so at times i get sooo depressed that all i do is cry and yell and im never fully happy and i think there is something wrong with me. one time i even took pills not to kill myself but in hopes id end up in the hospital just so people would finaly notice i exist (my friends. and family) what can i do to be happy? i want to be. but i cant talk to my friends or family about it..

Nowdays depression seems to be a normal part of life for teenagers, if ur not a teenager you need to see a therapist asap. If you are one you still need to see a therapist. Surround yourself by people that care about you. Over the years i'v realized that depression can be suppressed by changing your atmosphere. Where do you spend most of your free time? If it's in your room, redecorate your room. if you spend most of your time at work, decorate your work area. Put pictures up if people you love. Be very social, it'll help you deal with your depression.

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I was really late to catch up on the trend, which is probably like a year old, that's why I begged my mom to let me buy a miniskirt. B4 the whole legings thing my mom would never let me look at a minskirt when were shopping. I ended up buying a mini + leggings and was planning to wear it on the 1st day of school. Is this a good idea or would i end up looking like the fashion disaster i can always be when i try to go for a look diffrnt than the usual [jeans + tee]? What i fear the most is what evry 1 else is gonna say. School starts in 2 wks and i cant make up my mind. The 1st day is one of the only days i get to look especially nice. The outfit i was planning to wear looks nice w/ or w/o, IMO. I have to wear the mini and leggings to school or my mom would deem me as wasting her money. This isnt the 1st time i would look at something and say "Oh,that's cute" and buy it and wear it to school, to then realize its not that cute of a shirt or whatever and never wear it again. Like last year when i bought a bright pink cropped hoodie/sweatshirt... Lets just say that color pink was definetly not my color.
Anyways, what should i do?

That trend actually isn't that old, if you like the outfit you should wear it, if not return out.

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How could I build up my immune system without getting exposed to germs? I'm germ-phobic, and I want to stay really healty and not get sick. Thanks. :]

Take vitamins, cod liver oil is supposed to strengthen your immune system.

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ok im really self concious about the bags under my eyes. like i think they are the only thing people notice about me. and i am meeting this dude on monday. is there anyway i ca make them look like lighter???? i try cover up but that dosnt work that great.....help!!!

Try Max Factor pan stick foundation

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my boyfriend is goin to be 19 next month.. and i have no idea what i should do for him. i want to surprise him somehow .. with his best friend and his gf and me.. and do somethin special for him.. but i dont know what i should do for his birthday.. like i already know what to get him.. but the problem is what should i do on his birthday ?

Take him to a strip club or hooters... if y'all are not into that buy him some really nice clothing, or video games. Or you can go out to eat at a popular place in your area that has a bzy nightlife. In my area people usually walk around George Town which is in Washington DC (i live in virginia, DC is like 30 min away)

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Okay so i got grounded last thursday because i got caught drinking & lying. My cell phones taken away and im grounded. my parents said im grounded until i "earn their trust back" how am i suppose to earn trust back if i cant leave the house? any suggestions? I'll rate =)

Be really nice to your family, help with household chores, keep your room clean, get good grades, and when your not doing all those make it look like your studying, or you could just actually study lol.

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okay i'm 13 and i havn't had my period yet. i live with my dad so its really hard to bring up that subject, and i cant shave my legs because,again it hard to bring up the subject. i have air under my arms, and i'm guessing i should be shaving...but how do i bring up tht subject. what should i do? i cant go to anyone else either.
thanks in advance

Tell your dad you need some money, and if he asks for what... tell him that your growing up, and it's kind of embarassing to have hair under your arms and on your legs. Than you can also get into a convo about your period.

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About 4 months ago, I noticed that my teenage daughter was losing some weight, but only a little. As time progressed, she wouldn't stop losing weight, and she was a size 2. I started to worry about her and made sure that she ate dinner every day. However, she constantly made excuses for not eating, so we saw a therapist (this is about a month ago from now). In our second session, she admitted that she was anorexic. She now refuses to go back to the therapist. My question is this. I'm very worried about my daughter and her weight. Forcing her to eat would cause her to possibly develop bulimia and she would start to hate me, so how do I make sure that she eats?

Make sure she goes to see that therapist. Maybe you should also see a nutrionist. Tempt her with foods that she likes instead of forcing her.

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hey im 13/f
my mom says if i ever get a boyfriend and she knows about it, shell be really pissed cuz im not aloud to be dating yet. i really like this guy and theres a rumor going around that hes gonna ask me out. well my best friend said and these are her words.."ill make sure your mom knows." i cant not tell my best friend that i have a boyfriend and even if i dont, itll get around. i just dont know what to do.

First your friend isn't much of a friend, she sounds like a jealous person. So yeah i would drop her. When and if she tells your mom, make her sound like a liar. Most parents are likely to believe their kids over anyone else in the end. I wasn't allowed to date when i was 13 over, but if ne 1 that i was interested in had asked me my parents wouldnt have stopped me, and i come from a pakistani family so thats a big no no. Don't ever stop living your life becuase of others. Just make sure you are ready to date, and make sure you dont do ANYTHING that you are not yet ready for (sexually) that is probably the reason why you aren't allowed to date yet.

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Ok to start 14/f
Before I ask my question I'll give you a backround
Today i woke up and i was pissed because i got little sleep. My little brother was talking to my dad about how i dont go to sleep when im supposed to (12am) because I get on my computer and stay on there till about 2 or 3 am. My dad was pissed and said that when school starts for the first 3 months he will cut off the internet. Then since I was still pissed I was ranting on about how school sucks and that landed me a 15 min lecture about how if i didnt go to school I wouldnt be smart and get a good job. Later today my older brother started thinking that im turning anerexic because I had not (and still havent) eaten anything all day. I kinda blew that off and then my mom said that I dont like my family because eariler i said that its not really that cool to go to the bowling alley with my family and not my friends. Shes says that im lazy and just dont want to get any exercise (even thiugh you dont exercise at a bowling alley) so now im thinking that my family is out to get me into the loony bin

So now my question is
do i apologize for being a sort of smartmouth
or just leave it alone and let them apologize.

I rate depending on the quality of the answer.

Thanks, DarkChocolate794

Wait for everyone to cool down (including you) and than apologize. You aren't doing anything out of the ordinary, your just acting like a normal teenager.

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i'm a 13/f and i dont want a REAL job. i just want easy chores to do so i can earn money. if it helps their are no little kids in my neighborhood so i cant babysit.
thanx

Wash cars, shovel snow (in the winter). Buy candy wholesale and sell it from door to door.

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16/f

lately or recently i have lost like 3 tank tops and expensive pair of jeans. i thought that my friend mandi took them because like i was at her cabin with her and i brought them up there and when i come home there not in my bag? well i was soo PISSED OFF. she said her aunt found some in the bathroom and was gonna bring them to her house but she said she came and her mom wouldnt let her in because she didnt know who she was (mandi's parents are divorced) and i knew that was a bunch of BS. and i felt bad because my family isnt the richest and clothes are that CHEAP these days so i couldnt go buy myself a new wardrobe and replace the clothes i lost. well mine and mandi's friend lisa were all together one night and lisa is like mandi those are my pants you are wearing! and mandi is like lisa no there not my dad bought them for me and shes like not uh i remember i had them in our locker when we were sharing them and you brought them home and lisa is like if they are size 7 they are mine so she checks and they are 7's! and mandi still denies it but hollister doesnt make those pants anymore they're an old brand and she said her dad just bought them for her when she told me that her friend jackie gave them to her and amanda wears like a 3/4 not a 7! and then i was like woww she probably has my clothes too! and i was like lisa did you see her wearing a brown aero tank top with a little tan butterfly in the corner? and shes like yep shes worn that around me before! I KNOW SHE HAS MY CLOTHES. i asked her about it though and shes like nooo i dont have them sorry. and i cant go to her house because its an appt. and she never lets anyone in her house trust me ive tried! and i dont want to go snooping around her room. im soo f'in mad though! one of them were a new tank top i just bought too. me and lisa cant trust her around our stuff anymore! and this year she wants to share a locker and i was like ookay. but that was before i knew all this stuff! last year we shared one and she like took all my pencils without asking then i didnt have any! i just dont know what to do anymore..now i dont really want to share a locker but im really bad at like saying no and im scared she will share one with lisa then and i wont see mandi anymore! and shes like the only one i see at school..or hangout with in the morning.

Ok first to get your clothes back, your parents need to have a talk with her parents. Your parents work hard to keep you clothed, im pretty sure hers do the same, if not, that's not your problem or an excuse for her to steal your clothes. After that it would be best if you stopped talking to her and asked your admin. to change ur locker combo. I know it sounds a lil mean but she deserves.

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its my friends birthday next week. i'm a girl he's a guy. so i don't no wut guys like. i wanna get him something like.. special because he got me something really good/expensive for my bday so i kinda wanna do the same thing. it doesn't hafta be a sentimental present or w/e because he's just a friend soo.. wut should i get him? he likes bball and um.. he's a normal guy.. please help me out thank u!!

You could get him a PSP, or a video game. Maybe a nice cell phone.

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HELP!!! I'm 5'3 and about 107 pounds. I feel really fat even thought i play tennis 5 days per week. Is there a way that I can lose around 5 pounds by the time my school starts? (a week from monday). i really want to get toned. i do 100 situps a day but i want to tone my arms. If anyone has any suggestions they would be greatly appreciated!! i'll give good ratings to anyone who answers!!

Try push-ups, that should be ok for you since you already get a cardio workout when you play tennis.

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last christmas my mom got me a gift certificate for a pedicure. i haven't used it yet because i have 2 huge warts on my middle toe and i'm embarrassed to have a pedicurist trying to paint around it...my mom signed me up for my pedicure this tuesday. i told her i was embarrassed and she told me that people who do pedicures have seen everything, and that i shouldn't be embarrassed. i know she's right about them seeing everything, but i'm sure they will still be grossed out. any words of wisdom???

Trust me it'll be ok. Just relax when you go there and enjoy ur pedicure! I love gettin pedicures. :)

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whats the big deal with 60's music. my perants are always saying how that music was so much better and all the artist back then are the best and people now just lip sync and dont write thier own music and suck. same with the public. all the best ratted songs and albums and artists are old songs and artists.

i just don't know why that music is apperantly so much better, people are saying that now people don't write thier own songs or play thier own insterments or lip sync but lots of artist did the same thing like elvis and the supremes and many girl groups and the monkees and cher and it's just kindof enoying. can anyone please explain to me why that music is better or why it's more popular.

thanks

It's more important to them becuase that was music from their generation. One person's trash is another person's treasure. I've personally never heard any1 in my age group or any1 in all for that matter say that 60's music was better than music today, and there are still plenty of artist out there that write their own music. As far as lip syncing, SOMEONE had to have sung the song that you are listening to, so why does it matter if that person is lip synching. Also we have a lot more technology in this time period than they had in the 60's that is applied to current music. That's what our generation enjoys and we are going to have a lot more in the future. Our children are going to listen to music that we wont enjoy as much as we enjoyed when we were young. It's a part of life.

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Hey!
Im 14/f
I have this prolem where people keep pointing out that i have rather large boobs. It is really embarassing and it makes me feel very uncomfortable. I am a 34B.
So i guess i want to know if there is any way to appear smaller or make my breats less noticeable.
I wear a lot of polos and dont really like very baggy clothes.
Thanks so much!

make sure you are wearing a proper bra, what works best for girls with large breast is a push-up bra, with very little padding. Just enough so the bra is stiff, but it isnt making your boobs look bigger. If you get bras without padding or the underwire, your breast will look saggy and have poor shape.

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is it normal for a gf to not want her bf to look at other girls?

yeah, would you want ur girl to look at other guys that you feel are more attractive than you are... or if you are a girl than yeah your normal. Just dont get too control1ing

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okay im 13/f and mi hair is really frizzy wat do i do?

Hair serum works great for frizzy hair... try garnier, or frizz ease

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I have a coldsore/zit that appears every now and then at the edgge of my upper lip. I applied some acne treatment like usual, but instead of just applying it on the spot, I applied it all along my entire upper lip. Now my entire upper lip burns as if there's more than just more zit. But I don't see any except that one. Should I be worried?

Your skin is just irritated, it happens to me everytime i put acne medicine on my face, it'll get better in a couple of days. i usually put nivea creme on my face, it helps soothe the pain.

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