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mom wont let me date
hey im 13/f
my mom says if i ever get a boyfriend and she knows about it, shell be really pissed cuz im not aloud to be dating yet. i really like this guy and theres a rumor going around that hes gonna ask me out. well my best friend said and these are her words.."ill make sure your mom knows." i cant not tell my best friend that i have a boyfriend and even if i dont, itll get around. i just dont know what to do.
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well one, what kind of best friend is that? sorry to sound harsh, but you have to trust your best friends and not hide anything from them. Aka the reason they're your best friend. I mean, I know I can trust my 2 best friends with that stuff.. but anyways!!
I think that you should just tell this guy, "Look, I'm not aloud to really date yet and my mom will get mad so what if we just stay friends, okay?"
If you don't like that and want to go out with this guy, then I guess just go out with him behind your mom and best friends backs? Not a good idea if yu ask me. I think they'd find out eventually but. Maybe just hang out one on one with this guy and at the end give him a little kiss? that's something personal you don't have to tell anyone and you still aren't dating but you show you like him back. get what I mean?
hope it helps
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LAURA =]
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ok... firt off, that "best friend" of yours... don't sound like much of a best friend... here's the definision of best friend by whiteice: a best friend is someone who's ALWAYS got ur back, ALWAYS there for you, and NEVER listens to you cuz they don't need to, they already know what you will say... and if you don't wanna get in trouble with your mom, when he askes you out you should tell him, "hey, i really like you. but if my mom ever found out i'd b grounded like 4ever.." and if this guy respects you, he'll understand, if he gets all mad, he ain't worth your time.
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I think your mom's defintely right. Why do need to date at that age anyway. Dating is for people who might end up getting married. You have so much ahead of you and all you think about is just this guy that you happen to have a crush on. Maybe he will ask you out, maybe he won't. but the question is do you really want to date this guy? Do you wanna spend all your time, getting ready, primping yourself and God knows what? Do you want to fail school? Because I know a lot of girls who wasted their school years with some guy who just wanted to use them. I think education should be your FIRST AND ONLY priority. Boyfriend is not power. Education is.
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I would talk to my mom (Some people arn't comfertable w/ that, but i am very close to my mother) Just ask her why you can't "go out with somobody" tell her that times have changed and that going out now dosn't mean the same as it did before (not sure what you think so far, but my parents had trouble w/ the same thing and this is what i did)I told them that it simply meant that we were boy friend and girlfriend, and explained that we wouldn't be able to go any place cuz we didn't have a car so we would be around the house, what is wrong with that? There they can "chaparone" so they know that they are "responsible" Some people may think that it is crazy, but that is what i did, and i have a boyfriend now (4 monts on Friday)
Good Luck :)
~Ash
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sounds like shes not your friend and she likes him...shes not much of a friend so I say you should talk to your mom about it and see what she says be mature about it and if she says no DONT argue with her it just makes things worse but if you cant date him its not the end of the world, your 13 and you will have plenty of other chances to date people
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First your friend isn't much of a friend, she sounds like a jealous person. So yeah i would drop her. When and if she tells your mom, make her sound like a liar. Most parents are likely to believe their kids over anyone else in the end. I wasn't allowed to date when i was 13 over, but if ne 1 that i was interested in had asked me my parents wouldnt have stopped me, and i come from a pakistani family so thats a big no no. Don't ever stop living your life becuase of others. Just make sure you are ready to date, and make sure you dont do ANYTHING that you are not yet ready for (sexually) that is probably the reason why you aren't allowed to date yet.
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I think your moms right to not let you date now.You are way too young.Shes worried because at your age your personality is still being built and it will till youre like 20.And if this guy breaks up with you or something bad happens,youll get depressed and this will affect you from growing mentally strong,and you will grow up having a weak personality.Wait till youre old and mature enough to date.Im 15 turning 16 and i never dated.Im waiting till i can MAKE a correct decision.I think you should do the same.Dont do anything you will regret later on.
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Your mom will get over it. I started dating when I was 12 and my mom was little nervous about it, but got over it.
good luck
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She just doesn't want you to get hurt. Start dating around 15. So you dont have to go through jerks now.
If you really want to have a boyfriend.. then wait for him to ask you out.
You do not tell your so called best friend.
She isn't much of a best friend.
Tell the guy what's going on.
Don't let your mom know.
If your best friend finds out and tells on you, you can deny it. I'm sure your mom will believe you. Get the guy to come over and say you aren't dating.
But really,
a guy..is
not worth all that trouble for.
You need a better best friend, usually.. they are supposed to be on your side..
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You're 13 things aren't going to last. I'm 15 and I believe the same for me. At our ages it's all about status. Wait for a few years, you're not missing out. What more can a boyfriend do for you that a friend can't do? I mean, you shouldn't really be getting physical. You know?
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I know how you feel my dad says i cant date until im 18 (yeah right)
Try to explain to your mom that its not fair to you or the boy you like that you cant date. If that doesnt work tell your friend not to tell your mom whats going on and if she wont agree she might not be the best of friends now would she? friends are supossed to be trustworthy so you can tell them something and they wont go blabbing it to the world. Then again you know rumors are rumors. the guy might not ask you out and it just might have been something said so YOU could ask him out or do something about yourself to try and "attract" him to you more.
I hope everything goes well.
~DarkChocolate794~
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