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My friend's boyfriend is cheating on her. I've seen him hooking up with plenty of other girls before.

I've told him that he's hurting her, that he should man up and tell her about it, etc. but he refuses.

What do I do? Should I tell my friend? Do I have a right to meddle in her relationship like this, even though her boyfriend's being an unfaithful bastard?

Hey there.
ugh im sorry to hear this your friend deserves better I hate guys like that.
If I were you I'd definately tell her I know it might feel like your medeling but think about it if it were you wouldnt you wanna know?
its gonna hurt her like hell but youl be doing the right thing by telling her what you know.
It will be ten times worse if she finds out by someone else or that you already knew.
Just let her know what youve seen and that youl be there for her..and that you dont wanna get involved in her relationship but you thought she ought to know..then take a step back and let her make her decision.
Hopefully she will dump his ass imediately & is not one of theese girls that gets blinded by love and sweet talked easily.
If she reacts badly or doesnt believe you which is unlikely but it does happen.. in that case just take a step back until she comes to her senses. :)
Don't worry your being a good friend and your friend will apreciate it be there for her she doenst need this jeerk.
good luck and hope this helped
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18/f

I'm 5'6" and weigh 120 lbs. I'm really happy with my body, except for my love handles. I've been starting to run for 20 minutes everyday but what other ways can I burn the fat on my love handles?

Thanks!

Hey there!
I have the same problem..as do many of us girls!
okay well love handles are trickyy ones.
running or fat burning exercise doesn't seem to work.
What you need to do is toning exercises..such as sit ups waist twists..ab machines at the gym if youve acess also.
yoga is also a great way too there are some great exercises on the wii fit believe it or not if you have that too. it tells you exactly what each exercise will do to your body :)
I hope this helps..you should ask a fitness trainer at your local gym if they have any usefull tips :)
Btw love handles are actually pretty sexy :) keep that in mind guys like girls with curves as grossed out as we seem to get over them!
Anyway best of luck
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My ex boyfriend still wants to talk to me? I dont know what to do! Im still in love with him so i think it will hurt me being friends with him :( when he asked me i said i wasnt sure, and he seemed pretty p!ssed about that because he said "we've been through a lot together" should i decline the offer of friends and move on with my life?

Hey there..sorry to hear okay..
well that all depends was it a bad break up in general?did he break up with you..how did he do it if so? ask your self theese things.
can you see yourself being able to be JUST friends with this guy?
If you can..you should ask him for a little space first to clear your head come to terms with things and get rid of any feelings as hard as that can be..then once you feel truely ready (youl know trust me when you can look at him and feel nothing)you could be friends.
If however you don't think you can see that or want that happening then id say definately move on.
If this guy is someone who caused you alot of hurt..consider is it even worth being friends?will he just continue to knock you?
consider all of this and you should be able to make a decision! :)
your heart already knows the right answer.Trust it and your instinct.
hope this helped best of luck and
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Hi Jess!:) I've asked you a question before and love your advice. This might be long but I will deff. return the favor!!

I am in a really big confusion. I'm 18 .. and I've known this guy for about 4 years but we have such a complicated friendship! We don't get to see each other that often, we go to different schools and all but at least twice a month i'd say. We're obviously both attracted to each other and we flirt ALL THE TIME but I know he is a huge flirt.

He just seems so different around me though, like he is always there for me and he truly does care I can tell. He's a total jock and so if you were to first meet him you'd probably think .. ohhh he's just an emotionless jock who wants any girl he can get. BUUUUT .. he acts different w/me. Whenever I say something about a guy he will become really protective of me and say nooo he's not for you. And whenever I need him, he's always there for me.

But here is where the problem comes in. So we've known each other for about 4 yrs right? Well about the past 2 years he's been trying to become sexual with me. It's not like he's just some random guy .. I trust him sooo much and just how he acts with me is so sweet and genuine but then when he tries getting with me it's like .. is this all he wants? He's the ONLY guy I could ever see myself doing anything sexual with for the past 2 years but then I always hold back because I'm like .. what if he is just using me? But then I go back to all the good times we have and how he is so protective of me and so sweet and doesn't act like that with all other girls.

I don't know what to do i'm so lost. Whenever I ask him about other girls we end up like fighting about it, but he does have a lot of girls who are his friends. I mean i'm his friend .. but am I just another girl too?? I've tried bringing it up but it just becomes a mess because I end up sounding really jealous and then I just start yelling and then walk away ..

What do you think?? Should I try new things with him? I can't stop thinking about him and how adorable he is and how much I want him, sexually.

Heyy there :) Aw,well im glad you asked me =)
hmm okay tricky situation alright!
I can definately see where you are coming from i'd be in the same mind set.

Okay I guess what you need to do is figure out is it just sexually you want him..or is it more?
Like would you want a relationship with this guy?
could you see yourself becoming emotionally attacthed? if its just for some fun with your bestfriend and your both on the same page well I guess go for it as long as thats what you both agree,although that can get complicated also.

The part of me that seems to think hes not using you is the fact that youve been friends for 4years.
If he wanted just sex from you it seems like he would have given up long go and you guys wouldnt be friends.
He may be the type of guy that puts on the popular jock womaniser type in front of his friends or whatever,but with you hes maybe genuine and sincre.
Its a case of taking a risk I think.
If you go for it..it could be great and you guys could connect in a totally different way..however if you decide to do it you have to make sure youre prepared for bad outcomes..if it wasnt what you expected if you find out he was using you..you know that kind of hurt.
Its weighing up the pros and cons really.
from what you said though he does sound like a great friend who wouldnt wanna intentionally hurt you..

I think you should definately try talking to him about it again though..don't mention other girls concentrate on you..
ask him straight out what he wants..friendship more or a friends with benefits thing you guys need to make sure your on the same page in this relationship if not alot of hurt could happen and of course nobody wants that!

Im sorry I can't give you a definate yes or no answer..but this is what I would consider anyway and how I would go about making the decision!
I hope it helped in anyway! let me know what you decide :) &+anymore questions you know where I am!
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15/f
My friend and I are 15. She's beautiful and desperate for a boyfriend (even though she refuses that shes desperate). She is planning to lose her virginity to a guy we know soon. They aren't going out and haven't known each other for more than a year. I've told her the first time should be special and that she should be in love first. She's nervous and I know she'll regret it. What can I tell her to make her change her mind? Thanks.

Heyy there.
ok first let me say wait a go for being responsable by telling your friend that because your absolutely right.
She doesnt even know this guy and she probably isnt emotionally ready.
try to explain to her the consequence os if she goes through with it.
she will most likely feel like shit after it and regret it,she will have the bad expierience of her first time for LIFE..AND she may also get branded a slut if it got out.
unfortunately you cant make your friends decisions for her. what you can do is do your best to influence them in the right way.
Hopefully she will see sense and make the right choice.
if its the wrong one there not much you can do as if shes gonna do it shes gonna do it.
in that case at least you will know you warned her.
be there for her after if things don't go as she planned refrain from saying i told you so..as she will most likely realise her mistakes by then anyway.
i really hope it doesnt come to that,and that your friend makes the right choice.
either way your a good friend and i hope this elps! :)
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iv ben dating this guy i like but i dont want to be his girlfriend. he understands because i just went through being cheated on in my two year relationship so im not ready for commitment. but i feel myself commited to him, we are only friends, but today i had two friends over and one left then me an a guy i like just cuddled but i wouldnt kiss him, does it matter if i would have? its not considered cheating but is that wrong to do. i didnt i just wanted to. also, should i consider to stay dating the one guy or should i open my options, he lives an hour away and is younger and his parents like run him they wont even let me drive him but he is amazingly sweet.

Hey there..
okay this situation sounds similar to me and my bf.
at the moment I don't feel like making the effort and I want to keep my options open also and im feeling fed up although hes very sweet too.
Howeverr..just because someone is sweet it doesnt nesecarly make you happy.
ask yourself are you happy with this guy?do you want to make the effort and try see him despite the problems?
or would you rather be free to flirt with other guys..?
Its your decision but don't lead the other guy on figure out what you want and go from there :)
Hope this helped and good luck
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My O-levels are in less than a month and I'm taking four.
There is alot of material to study but I'm not taking it seriously!

I'm always finding excuses to do something else and surf the net.
I have so many books to learn... what do I do?

heyy there. ohh I hear that I think nearly everyone is the same! its very easy to get distracted from studies Im always doing the same.
What you need to do is get away from all distractions..disipline yourself. Focuse on your goals and future tell yourself if you surf the net are you gonna get there.
You probably aren't aware of how much of it you know subconciously already.
A biology teacher of mine said don't spend time on the parts you know you know..or kind of know as its wasting time tackle the bits you are really unsure of.
break each section down bit by bit and just tackle as much as you can get covered in the month,focus be determined and do your best :)
thats all you can do everyone gets distracted.
Just knuckle down hard for the next few weeks concentrate on what you want in life and hopefully it will pay off for you
I hope this helped..
best of luck
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My ex and i have resently started talking again. One day hes completely into me and the next he talks to me as a mutal friend. Hes always around and i find myself looking for him.
How can i get over him? and see what his true feelings towards me are?

hey :)
okay well I think its safe to say nearly every girl expieriences this with an ex.
I know this might be hard to hear but he wants you when its convieniant to him.
Trust me I know how it feels,when you say you find yourself looking for him.
If you guys happen to be in the same place with other friends you find yourself looking around just to see where he is what hes doing,and then hating yourself for doing it.
if you want to find out his true feelings the best way is to ask him and get him to come right out and say it and stop messing you around..even so you can never really be sure as more often then not guys just tell us what we wanna hear and we almost always fall for it.
So if you ask him and he tells you he really does care for you its up to you whether you wanna take the chance and trust him.
Don't let yourself be set up for a harder fall. you don't wanna keep getting hurt.
I think definately your best bet is to forget him and move on.
I know its hard no one said its easy,
keep your self busy..any time you find yourself thinking about him distract yourself.
surround yourself with your girlfriends go shopping do things you like doing. In time youl find yourself thinking about him less and less to the point where you have absolutely no feelings for him without even realising it. who knows you could even meet a new guy in the process.
:)
good luck and I Hope this helped!
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So i met this guy, and by his looks he is definitely not my type. Infact, i dont go for guys out of my race. (He's still half white though). But he has an amazing personalility, all the qualities of a guy im looking for; he's beyond perfect. I want to ask him out, but the looks are bothering me. I know looks have nothing to do with anything, but even though i like him, i dont think i could do anything physical with him like kissing. Do you think its just because its in my head? And do you think a relationship can last even though you arent sexually attracted to them? Do you think i should just be friends or go for something more?

Hey there,
I think I can relate exactly to this question
some people will call this shallow but my current boyfriend has an amazinggg personality aswell and is so sweet.
However for a long time I was not physically attracted to him in anyway and I knew he liked me but I kept saying no when he asked me out beacuase I wasnt sure if I could bring myself to do all the physicall things.
I hated myself for it. In time after a few failed relationships I realised I should give it a go and get over the difference in looks.
I did this and weve been going out 5months..at first it was good but lately ive been starting to worry about what other people think as hes not usually the type that I'd go for.
I know thats ridiculous and we shouldnt care what people think but thats easier said then done.
Ive started to let it consume my relationship to the point now where I feel now I don't want to spend time with him which is not fair on either of us. I think Im on the verge of splitting with him.
Okay so basicly what Il say to you from my own expierience if you think you can get over your feelings of not being physically attracted then it could work as they say "beauty captures the eyes personality captures the heart" in certain cases its true and it does work sadly for me it isnt..and ive issues I need to work on.
I would say to you definately devolop a friendship with him that can't hurt ?:)
once you devolop a friendship you can go from there and see if you can let it be something more.
I hope this helped and don't let my expierence put you off you could be completely different to me..
best of luck anymore questions please feel free to inbox me,
hope this helped
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Over the years ive dyed my hair so much from boxes and its developed this orangish/yellow blonde color. A couple months ago, i got my hair professionally highlighted blonde..but the horrible tint/color in my hair is still there. So if i go and get my hair professionally done again, could they strip my hair (take out all the color/dyes)? If so, how much does that cost? I know when you strip your hair, your hair becomes red. So if i dyed it blonde (professionally) after i got it stripped..would it have a red tint to it? If thats not the way to go, what should i do to get rid of all the color in my hair, so i can professionally highlight it so it doesnt look bad? (I cant dye over it, that doesnt work. I need to get rid of the ugly color.)

Hey there this same thing happend to my sister so I know the colour your talking about.
Stripping hair is definately the best way to go it can be expensive im not exaclty sure because my cousins a hairdresser so she did it for my sister.
When you strip it all the home dyes are removed from your hair to its natural colour.
when you dye it then that colour shouldnt shine through.
talk to your hairdresser about your options :)
stripping isnt good for your hair thought it damages its condition but as far as I know it is the only way and they will probably give you conditioning treatments to get it back in shape :)
Hope this helped good luck!
Jess
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Im 17 and i know ill be losing my virginity this summer. But apart of me still thinks HE is too good for me. And that im not that beautiful and skinny enough to have sex. Has anyone ever felt this way? How should i get over these feelings?

Hey there..
oh I think youve just described the feelings of insecurity that almost ALL of us girls feel from time to time.
I know exaactly how you feel..
Im not overweight..but im not stick thin..ive curves and for a while I hated them I couldnt bare for my boyfriend to touch me,I thought hed feel disgusted by it. Honestly though its all in our heads.
Guys actually don't care they lovee curves..well most.
The biggest turn off is bones sticking out all over the place trust me.
If you and your boyfriend have decided to have sex its because he loves YOU for you. Not your appearance or anything else don't tell yourself your not beautiful or skinny enough because for one you more then likely are! even if you don't think it id put money on it that you are to him!
keep reminding yourself of theese things and just put the negative out of your head.
If your finding it hard to shake theese feelings then maybe confide in your boyfriend..thats what hes there for right? sometimes all we need is a little reassurance :)
I really hope this helped and that you start thinking more positively about your body and relax and just enjoy it :)
good luck and much

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My ex and i have been on and off.
The first time we dated we went to the same school but slowly drifted apart. we broke up then later i moved to my mothers house, he asked me out again and i said ok, but it was long distance and i never really got to see him.All was good until one night he sent me a message saying "i dont know why i asked you out again but i 100% dont have feelings for you anymore". I was crushed.
Im now back at my dads and we are both attending the same school again. He said he was sorry and i forgave him. I still like him, but hate myself for it. One day hes really nice then the next he hardly talks to me. What should i do? His parties coming up and i heard he was going to invite me should i go?
he acts asthough he still has feelings for me, and brings up are history alot. But is he just using me because he thinks he can have me back easily?
To make matters worse his brother dated my sister for 6 months and they lost there vaginity to each other. HELP


Hey there..Ok to start with what you said at the very end about his brother and your sister.
That should have no relevance to your situation at all honestly.
you are two different people.
Okay from what youve said to me it seems like this guy is just messing you about.
He doesnt know what he wants.He talks to you want you when HE feels like it,and you know as well as I do that thats NOT okay.
Don't be a fool for him and go back to him he needs to learn he cant just have you.
I know its really hard to not wanna go running back whenever he shows those signs,of wanting you.
Trust me ive been there,its almost like he has this hold over you where you cant say no right?
I think your best bet is to move on. easier said then done I know but with determination you can do it.
Don't keep setting yourself up to be hurt again cos this guy doesnt know if hes coming or going and you don't need that.
so about the party..go if your 100% sure your not gonna give in and get with him because then youl just be playing right into him.
You should be really hard on yourself and seem disinterested if he shows any signs of wanting to get with you. That way your showing he can't have you easily,If you dont think you can do that then simply don't go.Then your making a statemnet also.
all in all my advice is to stay strong keep your head and move on.
its hard but it gets easier with time!
I hope this helped somehow,and good luck!
anymore questions please feel free to inbox me
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Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year now & i'm ready to take things to the next level, but i'm nervous does sex hurt? what does it feel like? what are some ways I can satisfy my boyfriend in bed? HELPPPPPLEASSSSEEE!

Hey there =]
okay the main thing to remember is to just relax.
if your tense and worrying then your gonna stress out and not enjoy it or be able to concentrate.
I litterally did it for the first time with my bf a few weeks ago and for me it didnt hurt at all?!
I had heard it did but everybodys different.
It really depends if your "cherry has popped"
its the breaking of that skin that hurts and That happend to me before so it wasnt =]
for me it didnt really feel like anything?I havnt done it since so I cant describe that side of things =]
ask your bf what he likes or if he wants you to do anything in paticular talk about it and it should be fine!
good luck & be safe :)
& relax!
16/f
-Jess

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i really want this guy to like me
hes really shy and like.. incredibly nice
but im not that shy and im outgoing.. (hopefully)
im 15f and hes about 1yr older

Hey there :)
okay well firstly you cant make a guy like you.
What you need to do is take a step to become friends first devolop a relationship be yourself and get to know him :)
Start a convirsation talk to him more see if you have anything in common,maybe add him on facebook or myspace if he has that kinda thing. Or get his number..basicly get to know each other first and then youl know if you really like him and if it could devolop into more then you take the next step and ask him out or if things are going well he might very well :) so get the ball rolling.. youve nothing to loose.
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19-female. This may sound crazy, but bare with me. So I have liked the same guy for like 2 years now, but he is such a jerk to me I just can't get over him and no boy has been able to get me to stop thinking about him.

WELL.. there is this guy jeff that I know who would definitely help me get over him, but I don't personally know him. I've known of him (we go to different schools) and I added him on facebook (may sound dumb) but he's adorable, I've heard he is so sweet and NOT a player at all which I need. My friend and I hung out with this guy peter last summer who is friends with jeff and my friend tried texting peter but he's been acting weird. Well then my friend messaged jeff on facebook and was like you're really cute! he didn't say anything back. My friend tried texting peter again and it kind of seems like he is scared to see us again (we only met him once) because when my friend asks him to hang out he will stop texting her but he will talk to her otherwise. So tonight she texted him and was like I was just wondering, are you like scared to hang out with us because it seems like you kind of are ( I don't think she should of said this). He didn't say anything back. were like how are we going to be able to meet this kid! well then tonight my friend had seen jeff was on facebook and she chatted him and they started talking, but from what she said it seems as though he wasn't very interested in her because he didn't ask anything about her, he just kept answering the questions she was asking so I thought he was being nice. Then he was like hey peter is here. She was freaking out like what the hell! She was like ask him why he never texted me back and then she was like and why did you tell me he was there? Well then he didn't say anything after that... I'm thinking Peter is like telling Jeff bad things about us, especially my friend when we did nothing to him. & please don't think we're trying to use peter to get to jeff, my friend likes peter! haha

I really want to meet Jeff though, he seems like the perfect guy for me I just don't really want to chat or message him on facebook because he will probably see that I'm friends with the girl who was being all weird towards him and chatting him haha. Plus I wouldn't know what to say.. I haven't been involved in any of the talking my friend decided to do it all on her own kind of making me look dumb too because she kepts saying "us" as in me and her. Should I just give it a shot and see what he says?? If he says anything? What would I say without looking dumb or even desperate thanks to my friend..
What if he didn't respond? Oh boy I'd feel so dumb!! But what if he did? Ahh what to do.. and most important what to say!! Some of my friends think he might send back to me because they think I am really pretty and his type of girl, not trying to say my friend is ugly but hey maybe it'd be worth the shot?

And keep in mind I never just randomly try to talk to guys on facebook ha ha but this guy, I just know he would be able to get my mind off the guy treating me like crap..

So basically, do you think I should just go for it and follow my heart and say something to him? If you do, what do you suggest I say to him in liek a message?

Heyy there :)
Oh boy.. Cant I relate to this question!
I had a guy like that..who treated me like pure shiit but yet I was still a total fool for him ugh.Hmm Okay Ive a few thoughts on this situation alright.. so here goes.

Firstly your dead right youre friend really gave off the desperate image by constantly trying to talk to peter she should have just left it,its not good for her image or yours.
It might not nesescarly be peter is telling Jeff things about you two he just might be one of those odd anti-social somewhat ignorant types!? I dont know just a persumption but definately dont keep harassing him.

Okay On to Jeff. Firstly let me say please please pleaseee dont feel like you need a different guy to help you get over another! you definately don't! Trust me sometimes that can leas to way more hassle and hurt and wasted time then its worth. So I would sugest you do other things to help you,hang out with friends do things you enjoy take your mind off guys completely for a few weeks. Trust me it helps then maybe if your still set on it talk to Jeff. That way you wont have to worry about coming off too strong keen or desperate.
Of course its totally up to you thats just my opinion..

Okay so if you wanna just go straight for it and get to know him ..

Maybe send him a message and say heyy hows a going im sorry if my friend was bothering you the other day don't mind her she can be like that or I hope she didnt say anything about me..or If you dont wanna say that just something casual like hey whats up saw you online or something..
once you get a convirsation going it will be easy to go from there and establish things you have in common etc.

Dont be afraid of rejection if you werre constantly aftaid of it youd never get anywhere you just gotta take that chance sometimes.
If he doesnt reply hey thats his loss right?
Dont sit around waiting for a reply or constantly messaging him.Its really not worth it. People like that arent worth it.
Dont feel dumb if he doesnt respond! why should you?
your just being friendly trying to get to know someone (although take into account what I said before don't do it for the wrong reasons if the sole purpose is to get over this other guy)
Hes the one that looks dumb and ignorat for not bothering to respond.

All in all if you dead set on talking to him go for it :) nothing to loose hey?
I would advice to try other things to get your mind off the other guy first however!
Anyway I hope this helped best of luck let me know what happens and if you have anymore questions please ask! :)
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i broke up with my boyfriend of two years because i found out he was cheating on me for the last 4 or so months of it. then he went out of his way to turn people against me and break me down with all my weaknesses he knew, it was hell. but now his mom is in the hospital and not getting better. i was tryin to be nice and tell him shel get better n itl be ok and all. he went off on me, it just hurts i went out of my way to try and help them but now im hurt again.. how do i just give up on him? i love his family i dont want any thing to happen to any of them. what do i do?

Hey there,
Okay firstly what an ass!
Im so sorry to hear he did that to you,I know youve probably heard this a million times but guys like that are really not worth it.
And as for your friends?if they were true friends why in the name of god would they turn against you for breaking up with the guy that cheated on YOU?!
hold your head up high your better then that.
Dont let people like that bring you down and walk all over you.
Dont let them make you feel like youve done wrong when its them.Trust me been there done that.
Its great you care for his family still it shows what a caring person you are despite the hurt hes caused you.
maybe if you send his mom a letter or a text if she has a mobile or something like that just to let her know your thinking of her despite whats happend im sure she wont show any anemosity towards you.
If she does well then you know youve done your best youl just have to move on.
I hope this helps and things get better :)
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do oppasites really attract?
this guy i like is soo sweet and such a gentleman and a total musclehead and he does football and hunting and all, hes never been to a concert and has never played an instrument, he is totally against any type of smoking or drinking. he stays home most of the time and his parents are extremely strict though, he lives in the middle of nowhere and is a freshman. but he is extremely tall and built.
me on the other hand i live for art and music, i paint draw sculpt n all and do so much, for music i do guitar and know how to do piano n clarinet. i sing n write music and concerts are my favorite thing to go to. im always out with friends n never home and am very outgoing as he is quiet. i smoke but not cigaretts which is a battle to him. i live in the center of everyone and everything. im vegetarian and a pacifist. my parents are protective yet not strict at all and im a sophmore.
he makes me feel so important and loved and tiny compared to him which i am skinny but im tall and thats the thing i hate the most about myself but im only to his shoulders he has to bend down to hug me :)
does anyone think this would work? we both like eachother but i just got out of a bad relationship of which i was emotionally or mentally abused and also cheated on many times, so i said i dont want to date yet, also gives me time to decide. ..but i dont want to be held back like i want to go to concerts and still be able to party with my friends and not be went off on for it like my ex always did to me, so im paranoid. and i would never ever cheat or even get with a guy im not dating. help?

Hey there :)

Okay i feel i can somewhat relate to this question as while reading it i was instantly reminded of my own situations.
This sounds exactlyy like me and my boyfriend.
Im like you in the relationship,he doesnt drink lives in the middle of nowhere too! and is taller :)
we are complete oposites and yet we have been hapily going out for over 5months.
It took me a long time to decide its what I wanted though.
I kept holding back convincing myself we wouldnt work out before I had even given it a chance.
Youl never know unless you guys try. :)
I was messed around quite a bit before my current boyfriend but im so happy and greatful i gave it a go. He doesnt mind me going out with my friends he loves me and trusts me :)
by the sounds of this guy im sure he would be the same.
Take it slow step by step day by day whats the hurry?
hes not putting any pressure on you.
hang out more as friends see if more feelings devolop and if you can see it going somewhere :)
it took me over a year to finally get with my bf.
sometimes people ask me do I regret not realising it sooner,and I say no.
because I had all that time to think who I really wanted to be with was him, even though were so different.
So youve nothing to loose really have you :)
Id say give it go! its totally up to you though,I hope this helped good luck and feel free to inbox any time.
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So I'm 17, and I was just wondering if there's a certain way to kiss a boy or a certain place that would drive him crazy ?
thanks (:

my boyfrind loves right below the ear and his neck usually :)

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15/f

I like one of my friends. We have one class together and its math. I think he might be flirting with me but i can't tell if its friendly flirting or that he likes me flirting. We walk out of class together everday, he laughs at sometings I say, and he actually listens to what I have to say. But we have been friends this year. He doesn't know that I like him. He has my number but he doesnt text me. So how can I tell if he likes me or if he is just overly friendly? How can I ask or hint to him even more. I flirt back with him. Please help. Thanks.

Heyy :)
Hm okay well you talk to this guy which is great and there is a level of flirting going on which is good too.
you said he has your number and doesnt text you..
do you have is?
if you do why not text him?
get chatting more :)
he might just be afraid to make the first move.
thats usually the problem with two people who are attracted to each other both are usually afraid to take that step.
youve got nothing to loose and a whole lot to gain put yourself out there talk and flirt more compliment him..smile at him listen to what he says. dont be overly eager be yourself and youl fly it :)
So id say text him ask him to hang out sometime after youve talked alot =) it cant hurt can it? don't sit around trying to second case grab the bull by the horns and take action before anyone else does
hope this helps.
good luck :)
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hey i am a 19/f i've posted many questions about this guy in my art appreciation class. we barely talk. in class once i asked him how he was going to do his collage and he said he doesn't know because he has to sit down and plan it out. he didn't say anything else so i didn't either, because i didn't want to annoy him. but like i've noticed outside of class we talk like on facebook if he has a question about art appreciation, or if i do. and i've noticed whenever he sees me outside of class he always smiles at me. i mean ALWAYS! in class though he's usually quiet except for that one day we were in groups, and he seemed to be taking charge of the group by giving suggestions of what we should do. which surprised me since he barely ever talks. how come he was trying to take charge suddenly? and i noticed like when i went to the bathroom and came back he aid that he took my review without asking me lol. and then when i asked him what something meant i was texting someone (my therapist) he told me what it meant and then he was like well aren't u going to write it down? which i thought was a little rude because of the way he said it. maybe it wasn't but i don't know. but im not sure if he's into me. Every time we leave class i always want to talk to him but he usually goes down the stairs and i take the elevator. so i don't really see him, but im not sure if i should take the stairs too because he;ll think im following him won't he? i don't know what to do & im really confused! help!!

hey there,
okay it seems to me your over anaylising this guys actions too much.
by constantly overthinking the consequences of if you did this or that your honestly never going to get anywhere!
of course hes not going to think your following him :) anyone can take the stairs right?
I honestly think you just need to relax and strike up conversation with this guy? :)
i mean whats the harm its surely going to be easier then torturing yourself trying to figure out if hes in to without actually talking or flirting if you get me?
I know its scary but you need to put yourself out there youl never know otherwise what you could be missing out on :)
even if it doesnt work out how you want you will still have made a great friend? =]
seriously just talk to him more im sure you wont regret it!
Hope this helps
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