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Interested or just fouling around???
My ex and i have resently started talking again. One day hes completely into me and the next he talks to me as a mutal friend. Hes always around and i find myself looking for him.
How can i get over him? and see what his true feelings towards me are?
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If he's interested, he'll make an official move. He's probably confused himself, he's some what scared to make a move and that you'd get back together and then end up breaking up again and hurting each other, maybe he's scared to hurt you again, or you'd do the same to him, considering what you broke up for the very first time,which you haven't mentioned.
Maybe he's not sure of his feelings, and that's yet another reason why he might be afraid to hurt you again. Or maybe he just misses you, and wants you to be a part of his life in any way, you know, he misses talking to you or sometimes, fooling around like you used to do together and these are the times when you feel that he's completely into you.
So its basically just about that, when sometimes you break up with someone, you'd rather have him in your life as whatever part of it, better than completely losing him, and thats an advantage, cause some ppl when they break up, they lose each other as dates and as friends, and thats whats mostly upsetting, that you were great friends, and just cause you started dating and it didn't work out, you completely lose everything you had.
So play along, as long is it doesn't hurt you, but don't expect anything, because these are exactly his intentions as i mentioned, and don't get confused or wonder, maybe or what if. Yes maybe one day he'd suddenly be sure of his feelings again and think that yes he wants to get back with you, and then at that time, yes you should think differently. But for now, grasp the advantage of having him as a part of your life, even if not so close, it still feels good, just talking to him and having him.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need anything else. Best of luck :D
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I would say to ask him how he feels about you, get some ideas of how to make him want you, I would say play hard to get if you like him also, if you want to get over him, ask him to be friends, but if he doesnt want to be friends, that is his decision. Hope i helped! -Kayla
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You probably aren't going to be able to do both.
Part of getting over him, will have to be no longer giving a flying fig what his 'true feelings' are.
So ask yourself this very serious question, and ask it honestly:
Do I want to be with my ex?
If you say "Yes, yes I want him back." then just flat out ask him "Dude, are we just trying to be friends here or do you have other motives?"
If the answer is no, then your job is to ALWAYS treat him as a mutual friend, and to shut him down when he starts treating you as 'more'.
Shuting him down, walking away and freezing him out when he acts too into you for your comfort is the way you'll train him out of doing it. Also, it will start to give you the distance you need to really move on.
So, figure out what you want here. 'Cause you wont get both things: You'll either get over him, or you'll get to the bottom of his feelings. Work on whichever of those is the one you want, don't worry about what he might want!
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Sounds like he might still like you to some level, but is also talking to someone else. I don't think he is interested in fooling around, In fact it might be his way of trying to moving on. Everyone is different, However if this is not the case and he does like the both of you then why be the girl that's just a booty call? You are better than that and I agree with the person below me maybe he is just trying to get one thing out of you and is stroking your ego to make you think he is actually into you. phrt
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hey :)
okay well I think its safe to say nearly every girl expieriences this with an ex.
I know this might be hard to hear but he wants you when its convieniant to him.
Trust me I know how it feels,when you say you find yourself looking for him.
If you guys happen to be in the same place with other friends you find yourself looking around just to see where he is what hes doing,and then hating yourself for doing it.
if you want to find out his true feelings the best way is to ask him and get him to come right out and say it and stop messing you around..even so you can never really be sure as more often then not guys just tell us what we wanna hear and we almost always fall for it.
So if you ask him and he tells you he really does care for you its up to you whether you wanna take the chance and trust him.
Don't let yourself be set up for a harder fall. you don't wanna keep getting hurt.
I think definately your best bet is to forget him and move on.
I know its hard no one said its easy,
keep your self busy..any time you find yourself thinking about him distract yourself.
surround yourself with your girlfriends go shopping do things you like doing. In time youl find yourself thinking about him less and less to the point where you have absolutely no feelings for him without even realising it. who knows you could even meet a new guy in the process.
:)
good luck and I Hope this helped!
Much <3
jess 16/f
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