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Chance of rejection??
19-female. This may sound crazy, but bare with me. So I have liked the same guy for like 2 years now, but he is such a jerk to me I just can't get over him and no boy has been able to get me to stop thinking about him.
WELL.. there is this guy jeff that I know who would definitely help me get over him, but I don't personally know him. I've known of him (we go to different schools) and I added him on facebook (may sound dumb) but he's adorable, I've heard he is so sweet and NOT a player at all which I need. My friend and I hung out with this guy peter last summer who is friends with jeff and my friend tried texting peter but he's been acting weird. Well then my friend messaged jeff on facebook and was like you're really cute! he didn't say anything back. My friend tried texting peter again and it kind of seems like he is scared to see us again (we only met him once) because when my friend asks him to hang out he will stop texting her but he will talk to her otherwise. So tonight she texted him and was like I was just wondering, are you like scared to hang out with us because it seems like you kind of are ( I don't think she should of said this). He didn't say anything back. were like how are we going to be able to meet this kid! well then tonight my friend had seen jeff was on facebook and she chatted him and they started talking, but from what she said it seems as though he wasn't very interested in her because he didn't ask anything about her, he just kept answering the questions she was asking so I thought he was being nice. Then he was like hey peter is here. She was freaking out like what the hell! She was like ask him why he never texted me back and then she was like and why did you tell me he was there? Well then he didn't say anything after that... I'm thinking Peter is like telling Jeff bad things about us, especially my friend when we did nothing to him. & please don't think we're trying to use peter to get to jeff, my friend likes peter! haha
I really want to meet Jeff though, he seems like the perfect guy for me I just don't really want to chat or message him on facebook because he will probably see that I'm friends with the girl who was being all weird towards him and chatting him haha. Plus I wouldn't know what to say.. I haven't been involved in any of the talking my friend decided to do it all on her own kind of making me look dumb too because she kepts saying "us" as in me and her. Should I just give it a shot and see what he says?? If he says anything? What would I say without looking dumb or even desperate thanks to my friend..
What if he didn't respond? Oh boy I'd feel so dumb!! But what if he did? Ahh what to do.. and most important what to say!! Some of my friends think he might send back to me because they think I am really pretty and his type of girl, not trying to say my friend is ugly but hey maybe it'd be worth the shot?
And keep in mind I never just randomly try to talk to guys on facebook ha ha but this guy, I just know he would be able to get my mind off the guy treating me like crap..
So basically, do you think I should just go for it and follow my heart and say something to him? If you do, what do you suggest I say to him in liek a message?
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Heyy there :)
Oh boy.. Cant I relate to this question!
I had a guy like that..who treated me like pure shiit but yet I was still a total fool for him ugh.Hmm Okay Ive a few thoughts on this situation alright.. so here goes.
Firstly your dead right youre friend really gave off the desperate image by constantly trying to talk to peter she should have just left it,its not good for her image or yours.
It might not nesescarly be peter is telling Jeff things about you two he just might be one of those odd anti-social somewhat ignorant types!? I dont know just a persumption but definately dont keep harassing him.
Okay On to Jeff. Firstly let me say please please pleaseee dont feel like you need a different guy to help you get over another! you definately don't! Trust me sometimes that can leas to way more hassle and hurt and wasted time then its worth. So I would sugest you do other things to help you,hang out with friends do things you enjoy take your mind off guys completely for a few weeks. Trust me it helps then maybe if your still set on it talk to Jeff. That way you wont have to worry about coming off too strong keen or desperate.
Of course its totally up to you thats just my opinion..
Okay so if you wanna just go straight for it and get to know him ..
Maybe send him a message and say heyy hows a going im sorry if my friend was bothering you the other day don't mind her she can be like that or I hope she didnt say anything about me..or If you dont wanna say that just something casual like hey whats up saw you online or something..
once you get a convirsation going it will be easy to go from there and establish things you have in common etc.
Dont be afraid of rejection if you werre constantly aftaid of it youd never get anywhere you just gotta take that chance sometimes.
If he doesnt reply hey thats his loss right?
Dont sit around waiting for a reply or constantly messaging him.Its really not worth it. People like that arent worth it.
Dont feel dumb if he doesnt respond! why should you?
your just being friendly trying to get to know someone (although take into account what I said before don't do it for the wrong reasons if the sole purpose is to get over this other guy)
Hes the one that looks dumb and ignorat for not bothering to respond.
All in all if you dead set on talking to him go for it :) nothing to loose hey?
I would advice to try other things to get your mind off the other guy first however!
Anyway I hope this helped best of luck let me know what happens and if you have anymore questions please ask! :)
Much <3
Jessiee,x
16/F
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