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What is on his mind?
My ex and i have been on and off.
The first time we dated we went to the same school but slowly drifted apart. we broke up then later i moved to my mothers house, he asked me out again and i said ok, but it was long distance and i never really got to see him.All was good until one night he sent me a message saying "i dont know why i asked you out again but i 100% dont have feelings for you anymore". I was crushed.
Im now back at my dads and we are both attending the same school again. He said he was sorry and i forgave him. I still like him, but hate myself for it. One day hes really nice then the next he hardly talks to me. What should i do? His parties coming up and i heard he was going to invite me should i go?
he acts asthough he still has feelings for me, and brings up are history alot. But is he just using me because he thinks he can have me back easily?
To make matters worse his brother dated my sister for 6 months and they lost there vaginity to each other. HELP
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male perspective: he is just not that into you, plain and simple. Guys do not angst over relationships anywhere near as much as girls. If you are around, cool, if not, that is cool too.
Is he being insensitive? self-centered? absolutely.
Are you willing to accept those realities and let him have all the power in the relationship? Totally up to you.
Hating yourself is wasted energy. Love yourself instead, convince yourself that you are a person worthy of respect. Keep that in mind and you will be able to figure out whether this guy is really worth your valuable time and energy. There are a TON of other guys out there, some that will even give you the respect you deserve. Having said that, you might not find one until you are in your twenties. One way to approach these relationships is with an expectation that they are immature by their very nature and so don't be so serious about them. I know, that is VERY hard to do
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Hey there..Ok to start with what you said at the very end about his brother and your sister.
That should have no relevance to your situation at all honestly.
you are two different people.
Okay from what youve said to me it seems like this guy is just messing you about.
He doesnt know what he wants.He talks to you want you when HE feels like it,and you know as well as I do that thats NOT okay.
Don't be a fool for him and go back to him he needs to learn he cant just have you.
I know its really hard to not wanna go running back whenever he shows those signs,of wanting you.
Trust me ive been there,its almost like he has this hold over you where you cant say no right?
I think your best bet is to move on. easier said then done I know but with determination you can do it.
Don't keep setting yourself up to be hurt again cos this guy doesnt know if hes coming or going and you don't need that.
so about the party..go if your 100% sure your not gonna give in and get with him because then youl just be playing right into him.
You should be really hard on yourself and seem disinterested if he shows any signs of wanting to get with you. That way your showing he can't have you easily,If you dont think you can do that then simply don't go.Then your making a statemnet also.
all in all my advice is to stay strong keep your head and move on.
its hard but it gets easier with time!
I hope this helped somehow,and good luck!
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Much <3
Jess
16/f
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It's possible he just couldn't handle the long distance relationship, and the feelings went away, and now that he's seen you again they have come back. It's also likely that he just wants to be friends. Either way, I'd say if he invites you to his party you should go. If he tries to get you back, ask what happened between now and him being 100% over you. If not, assume he is just trying to be friendly.
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