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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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I have a terrible cold, and I was wondering if anyone had a good home remedy, that won't make me want to puke. (link)
There are a lot of sites full of home remedies!
I will give you the search and you can look them over if you want to. Hope you find something that helps!

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i have a 91 accord lx and when i turn on the air conditioner the car gets to where it wonts to run hot, could you tell me why? (link)
Your radiator may need cleaned out.
If you have an electric fan, it may not be working.
If you have a belt driven fan with clutch, the clutch may be bad.

It could be other things, but those are the quickest easiest things to check first.

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Does anyone know how to get ridof a sunburn on your face fast!?!?!?

I NEEEEEEEEEEEED HELP!!!!
I HAVE SCHOOL TOMORROW
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HELLP MEEEEEEEEEEEEE
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There are a lot of sites with helpful ideas.
You probably won;t be able to make it go away
but you should find something to help.

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what does nostalgic mean? (link)
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right basically i have been prescribed years course of anti biotics (erythromycin). i have to take 3 a day. im a athlete an di like to stay in shape now i have a problem. i seem to be getting extremely hungry. coul anyone tell me if its the tablets which do this?? (link)
I don't think increased appetite is a side effect
of erythromycin. Its more likely caused by your
increased physical activity through athletics.
Here are some side effect sites if you'd care to
see for yourself. :)

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Hello, I am a 35 year old female.

I need to loose around 60 pounds in a reasonable time. I'm going to eat right and exercise, but I would also like to take some safe, healthy and effective, diet pills.

So if any of you know good diet pills that are safe and healthy, also dieting and exercise plans too! I don't have any heart promblem. I will be going to the doctor and requesting diet pills but I would just like to know alittle about the best before hand.


I'm 230 pounds and 5 ft 6 in.
(35/f)


Thanks so much! (link)
Regardless of age there is no "safe diet pill".
We don't just tell you 14 year olds that. There is
NO SAFE DIET PILL for anyone of any age. If there
were there would be more skinny people in the world
and less fat ones. Diet and exercise is the ONLY
way to lose weight.

There is surgery you can get if you are old enough and fat enough. Even with it you will get fat again
without diet change and exercise.

*EDit:
Well I did answer with my opinion. :) I have tried
a lot of them when I was younger. None of them work. You may loose weight for a week or two, but as soon as your body gets used to them...the weight comes back and then some. You are much better off sticking to diet and exercise. Cut as much fat out of your diet as you can. Exercise at
LEAST 20-30 minutes per day.


ive shaved " down there " before and it was fine but then i tried the second time and it hurt and i got bumps

can anyone give me any tips on how to shave it without any bumps coming or any pain without getting a wax? (link)
Here are some sites that have instructions on them.
There are a lot of good ones so I will let you choose the one that is best for you.

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i have freckales and hate them

does anyon know any make up to get rid of them? like cover up ..?

please ill try anything (link)
There are a lot of sites with helpful make-up tips.
Here is the search if you'd like to check a few of them out.

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uh..i was just wondering..Did the existence of city-states in italy help cause the renaissance? And if so, why? (link)
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i'm supposed to create a driving slogan and state the rule and everything and it has to have a street sign too...
i live in new jersey so thats the laws i'm looking for (link)
Found many sites for you to choose from concerning
New Jersey state driving laws. Here is the search
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19/f

Okay I'm kinda in a bad situation. This 23-year-old man and I are friends, well more like friends with benefits. He has a girlfriend, but he and I have been messing around since February. It started off as him giving me a massage, but it developed into something I didn’t expect. I know that it’s wrong but it feels so right. LOL!! I'm a virgin (by intercourse), and he knows it, but he is not. He says he doesnt't mind it, but i dont believe him. We have gotten as far as oral sex. Sometimes I feel like I want to have sex with him so bad, and other times I feel like I should wait. My question is should I have sex with him since we already gone so far?

2) When we get together to mess around, he calls me “baby”. Well he doesn’t call me anything else but “baby” when we mess around. Is that just because he is into the moment or am i blowing things out of proportion?

3) He asked me did i miss him over the summer, and i said no but i miss what we do. He said me too, and asked me why I didn’t miss him. i told him that i just didn’t and then he got mad. Does that mean he wanted me to? And does that mean that he missed me?

4) Should I stop messing around with him? Please give me a reason!!! (link)
You should stop messing around with him if you think the relationship will ever be more than it is right now.

You would be much better off finding someone who cares about you and wants you for more than sex.

You may think this guy is all that, but he isn't.
He has a girlfriend and he is using you for an extra thrill. He is also a cheater, which makes him scum in my book. (Start putting on the pressure for him to give her up and he will be gone real fast).

So just make up your mind that you deserve better
than that. Don't let some guy use you. Find one
that likes you for more than that.

If you never expect more and just want him for the thrill of it you are still going to be hurt one day. You can get the same things from a more loving relationship.



he gave my sister a bloody lip today and she cant move her neck. were all afraid to say anything to anyone. what do i do? (link)
I do know who he is but your sister needs medical attention. He needs to be in jail.

So take her to the emergency department. Don't make up any story, just tell them what happened. They will contact the proper authorities.

If you don't want to do that then call the police,
a trusted relative, anyone who can get you out of the situation. Its scary to do I know, especially if your talking about a parent, but do it anyway.

Violent people only tend to become more violent.
They don't just suddenly stop. Get out of the situation before it gets worse.

Best of luck.


I'm getting married next month. (I'm the groom.) I'm extremely excited, but I'm hoping for some outside opinions on a few things.

I love my fiancee very, very much. And I know that the feeling is mutual. Like any normal couple, we have our differences. Some of them irk us slightly, but not enough for it to effect the relationship. However, on rare occasions, we differ enough to cause debate. This is where I need advice.
I'm used to a level playing field where debates are concerned, so I try and only reply with things that are logical. Things that make sense to me. I then usually expect something similar in return. Like an acknowledgment or rejection of my reasoning, followed by the reasoning behind that acknowledgment or rejection, and something to counter it. My wife-to-be doesn't argue this way. Her replies usually consist of "No." or "Absolutely not." or "I don't care." or "If you love me you'll do this."

Occasionally, she'll use her mother to settle it. She'll say "We'll see what my Mom has to say about it.", then she'll call her Mom. If her Mom agrees with her, she takes it as the final end-all word. If her Mom agrees with me, she gets frustrated, and she doesn't ask her Mom to settle things for a while.

Sometimes, I just take the fall. I figure that she is unshakable on the topic, and I choose her over what it is I'm fighting for. For example, I'm no longer a casual beer drinker. In fact, I will not bring alcoholic beverages within 3 feet of my mouth, at all. And I used to really enjoy the occasional Guinness. This is a sacrifice I was willing to take for her.

Another one was with the movie 300. She said that she didn't want that movie in the house, at all. I argued it, and used my pc games as an example, and she said that she didn't want some of those in the house either. In the end, I got rid of some of my games. Oddly, afterward we were watching a movie she owned, and she commented that it was bloodier than 300. Because of this, she has decided that I can have 300 after all.

This was an interesting development. What I observed, was that she realized that her movie was bloody too, so I could have a movie she banned after all. I tried to bring this into later arguments, pointing out things she had or did that were similar. Her reply is usually "Don't bring ME into this."

She tends to be passive aggressive when I'm playing or watching something she doesn't like. I was playing the Bioshock demo on my computer. Previously, she had been in a rather good mood, but afterward, I got looks and the silent treatment. When I asked what was wrong, she denied that anything was wrong, and went back to her bad mood. Clueless, I went back to the game, and this REALLY upset her. I haven't loaded the demo since.

So the latest one confuses me. I would like an Xbox 360. She has refused to allow me to purchase one. We can't afford one right now, but I asked her that in the future, when we have a surplus of cash and I suggest we get one if she will allow it. She declined. Her argument is that we don't need one, and that there aren't any good games for it. I countered with role reversal (Well you don't need a PSP, but you want one anyway. I'm not denying you that.), and a list of games that are actually very good, including some she would probably like. (She's something of a gamer too. Casual. Lot's of Mario.) Still, she refuses to agree to purchasing one later, when the means are there to do so.

That argument isn't what I'm seeking advice on per say (Though it might help.) I'm marrying this woman, and I know that her argument methods won't change. How can I argue with her? Or, better yet, how can I not argue with her and still manage to keep my dignity. (IE: not taking a dive every time we disagree.)

Thanks. (link)
One thing she needs to realize BEFORE the wedding
is that your life together is a 50/50 relationship.
You are going to want to watch, play, drink and eat things she doesn't like, she is going to want to watch, play and drink things you don't like. She is
going to have to accept it and allow it, same as you will have to do. Life isn't just about her and her
likes.

There should really be no need to argue about any
of these things if you can get her to understand that. She also needs to understand that although she
may value her moms opinion, it is not going to be the final word in your relationship. Time to grow up
and fight her own battles.

Just refuse to take a dive. Sooner or later a few years down the road, you are going to resent it.
So set up some ground rules right now. You both
have your own likes and dislikes. The other will have to accept them. :)


Who should I play at QB, Daunte Culpepper or Philip Rivers. I still think Culpepper has an arm, but he has no one to throw to in Oakland. Rivers has great talent, but LT will be running the ball so much.

Thanks. (link)
If those were my only choices I'd go with Rivers.
He is still going to throw some. Pick up a good RB
to make up for it. None of them throw the ball as much as they used to. I think your right about Culpepper. All rumors so far is that Mcowen is starting though. If he does a good job then Daunte
May not play as much.

Hope this is pick for second string? :)


how do you put one in? (link)
495,000 sites and even video.

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of one of my best friends is thinking about commiting suicide i love her so much as a sister and i never want her to do anything like that can you please give me advice on how to stop her i dont want to put her therough counseling it will only make it worse (link)
You have to tell her parents. Yes she will be mad about it. Better a mad live friend than a dead one though. Don't assume she won't do it & don't think you can help her yourself. Thats to big a risk to take.

Seriously, If she actually did it you would be saying "I should have said something." Do it now.



in about september 06-march 07 i was with this kid i REALLY liked a lot. he broke up with me in march because i did a lot of bad shit to him which i totaly regret. i cried over him almost everynight.. and i knew that we would never get back together ever again. my ex really did hate me and i knew it. i still liked him a lot up until about julyish..then i started to like this other guy [but i still had my ex in the back of my mind] i went on vacation and when i got back the guy who i liked asked me out and we are now going out..however i kept having dreams about my ex and i wanted to talk to him to just have closure. i had a gut feeling he still had feelings for me but no one would believe me..i decided to text my ex who i hadnt talked to since march. [ we had a few hey,hey,whats up, nm u, nm conversations every now and then but not a real one] i said to him can i tell you something and he said yes and i said okay well ive definately changed a lot since we were together..and i just want to let you know that becuase i pretty much want to apologize for anything stupid i've done and i hope we can be cool now yada yada..and hes said yeah i really disliked you for a while but its cool now but i like realllyy did like you thoguh before all that shit happened.and i said yeah same i realllllyy did like you a lot..and after i did too for a while but its all good..and he said whats a while and i said welll i liked you a few months after we were officially done and then i just had a thing for you. and he said realllyy reallly did you really like me blah blah and i said yeah.. you have no idea.. and then suddenly he goes so i hear your going out with [my bf now] and i know he was considering going back out with me but then he remembered i had a bf. i said yeah and he said thats cool im talking to him now and i said cool and he said yeah. its friggen awesome..and he startyed to act all moody. i had a feeling it was becuase i did actually have a boyfreind now and he did still have feelings for me.. sorry this is so long im almost done :]]] haha bottom line..i still really love my ex and i woke up this morning thinking about my ex and not my bf..i like my bf but i love my ex. i know if i break up with my bf my ex will go back out with me. but my bf is a reallllllyyy great guy who doesnt deserve that. please help me i realllyyy have no idea what to do. i need serious help becuase my friends dont know what to say either. thank you so much xoxo (link)
You follow whatever your heart tells you to do.
Sounds like its with the ex.

Now before you jump in there, ask yourself has anything really changed since your broke up?
You have but has he? Is it for the better?
Problems don't just go away.

You also need to consider this. I hate mentioning
it but I will so you give it some thought. Could he be doing all this to get back at you? Make you
think something is going to happen and once you
break up with your boyfriend just say, well payback is a bitch? You know his personality, is
he capable of that?

It just seems he was really interested in the fact it took you a while to get over him. I'm sure that
was a big ego boost for him.

What I think you should do is just be friendly with him for a little while. Text him, talk. See
what is really going on before you dump a guy that
likes you.

Good luck. :)


when is about the first time most tennage girls have sex? (link)
According to answers.com the average age for teen girls is 15.

Having sex that young has its consequences though.
Please read some of the information found at
http://www.coolnurse.com/ before you take that step.
Be prepared. So many wait until after to ask questions. :)


ok so this is like the most imbarressing thing ever but i have my first bf and he wants me to give him a blow job but i dont no how can someone please tell me how ...i want to do it hes not pressering me i just dont no how (link)
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My wife and I have not had sex in over a year. I'm 31, and she is 39, soon to be 40 in November. We both were virgins when we married so we had no prior sexual experiences. Almost every time we tried having sex, she said she hurt very badly. Sometimes I wouldn't even be touching her, and she said it felt like I was stabbing her with a knife in her privates. We went to a doctor earlier this year, and after an exam, the dr. determined that a muscle just inside the vagina-I can't remember its name-wasn't "stretched out" like it should be, and after it was, the pain should stop. She prescribed some lidocane gel and told my wife to put it on and just up inside her vagina about 10-20 mins. before sex, and it would numb her so she wouldn't feel any pain in that spot. I even tried some of it on myself on a bug bite one night, and it numbed it so that I could not feel where it itched me. She never has tried the medicine, and every time I bring it up, she either changes the subject, or just says she thinks something else is wrong and doesn't agree with what the dr. said. I said try going and getting a 2nd opinion, but she never has given me an answer. Our 5th anniversary is coming up the 28th of this month, and we're going away for the weeekend. I'd really like to get this problem solved by then, and I think we both would be much happier if it were and we could enjoy our vacation that much more. Also, we are still intimate with each other...I kiss her on her breasts sometimes, and she likes it, and once we were "wrestling" and she accidently hurt my penis, and she "kissed it to make it feel better," and we both enjoyed it, but she just seems uninterested or nervous about trying intercourse again. What can we do to resolve this, and how can I bring up without hurting her feelings, that I'm feeling deprived sexually? (link)
To be honest you two need to talk about this
without worry for feelings being hurt. If this continues,
it could destroy your marriage.
Looked at like that a few hurt feelings isn't
so bad.

I hope you can get her to at least try the medicine the doctor gave her. She may be embarrassed to try it. If she doesn't feel comfortable doing it, you try applying it for her.

If all else fails she needs to seek help for not wanting to try. Whatever fear she is having needs to be resolved before it has a negative affect on your relationship.




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