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my ex
in about september 06-march 07 i was with this kid i REALLY liked a lot. he broke up with me in march because i did a lot of bad shit to him which i totaly regret. i cried over him almost everynight.. and i knew that we would never get back together ever again. my ex really did hate me and i knew it. i still liked him a lot up until about julyish..then i started to like this other guy [but i still had my ex in the back of my mind] i went on vacation and when i got back the guy who i liked asked me out and we are now going out..however i kept having dreams about my ex and i wanted to talk to him to just have closure. i had a gut feeling he still had feelings for me but no one would believe me..i decided to text my ex who i hadnt talked to since march. [ we had a few hey,hey,whats up, nm u, nm conversations every now and then but not a real one] i said to him can i tell you something and he said yes and i said okay well ive definately changed a lot since we were together..and i just want to let you know that becuase i pretty much want to apologize for anything stupid i've done and i hope we can be cool now yada yada..and hes said yeah i really disliked you for a while but its cool now but i like realllyy did like you thoguh before all that shit happened.and i said yeah same i realllllyy did like you a lot..and after i did too for a while but its all good..and he said whats a while and i said welll i liked you a few months after we were officially done and then i just had a thing for you. and he said realllyy reallly did you really like me blah blah and i said yeah.. you have no idea.. and then suddenly he goes so i hear your going out with [my bf now] and i know he was considering going back out with me but then he remembered i had a bf. i said yeah and he said thats cool im talking to him now and i said cool and he said yeah. its friggen awesome..and he startyed to act all moody. i had a feeling it was becuase i did actually have a boyfreind now and he did still have feelings for me.. sorry this is so long im almost done :]]] haha bottom line..i still really love my ex and i woke up this morning thinking about my ex and not my bf..i like my bf but i love my ex. i know if i break up with my bf my ex will go back out with me. but my bf is a reallllllyyy great guy who doesnt deserve that. please help me i realllyyy have no idea what to do. i need serious help becuase my friends dont know what to say either. thank you so much xoxo
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if you really want to be with your current boy, then you have to break all ties with your ex. Otherwise, you won't get over him, and that won't be fair for any of you. If you don't want to leave your feelings for your ex, then go date him.
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You follow whatever your heart tells you to do.
Sounds like its with the ex.
Now before you jump in there, ask yourself has anything really changed since your broke up?
You have but has he? Is it for the better?
Problems don't just go away.
You also need to consider this. I hate mentioning
it but I will so you give it some thought. Could he be doing all this to get back at you? Make you
think something is going to happen and once you
break up with your boyfriend just say, well payback is a bitch? You know his personality, is
he capable of that?
It just seems he was really interested in the fact it took you a while to get over him. I'm sure that
was a big ego boost for him.
What I think you should do is just be friendly with him for a little while. Text him, talk. See
what is really going on before you dump a guy that
likes you.
Good luck. :)
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Awe, I'm sorry, doll. ):
Well, I would honestly think long and hard about this. I know it really sucks when you have to pick between two guys that you really like. What I would do about your ex is really consider if he's worth going back out with. It sounds like you REALLY do like him, and it sounds like he's a pretty cool guy. But to tell you flat-out: it's probably not going to work out again. I'm not saying that to be rude or anything, but just think: no matter how much you guys still like each other, there's gonna be a little bit of space & awkwardness because of what has already happened. Then again, your current boyfriend sounds like a good guy, too. If you like him, but you're not feeling it as much as him, or you're confused, let him go. Or, even take a break. Honestly, you could always stay single for at least a week or two & see what your true feelings are. I'm not saying you & your ex don't have a chance, I'm just telling you that if you go back out with him, and dump your current boyfriend, you might end up regretting it.
I hope I gave some support & advice,
and good luck. <3
Jess
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Thankyou for the question.
Firstly, you shouldn't let anyones answers on here influence your ultimate decision. It should all be down to you and your feelings.
Pros/cons and points to think about:
**Your last relationship failed for a reason. Although you say it was your fault, who's to say whatever happened won't happen again?
**Are you 100% certain you LOVE your ex? and not just miss certain things about him because your new boyfriend is different?
**Would you still like your ex if you didn't know he still liked you?
**You have a great guy at the moment. Would you want to ruin that?
**Which guy will treat you better? Don't just go for your ex because you have history.
**Are you sure your ex didn't just say that because he doesn't have a girlfriend of his own at the moment? and he's jealous you have a new boy?
You had your chance with your ex and basically, you did things which made him break up with you. That isn't a sign of love.
I don't know your age, but I'm guessing you're in mid teens.
This is such a common problem. They don't know what they want.
If you really want my honest opinion, it would be to not be in a relationship for a while - with either of them.
You don't seem emotionally stable because you don't know what you want - and you like them both.
Maybe a bit of time without them will make it easier for you to make your decision.
I'm sorry I can't be much help in this situation, although I really do think you should take some time out.
Time makes everything better and it will definitely make things clearer.
Goodluck.
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Yo.
Ok so if you REALLLYY REALLLYYY REEALLLLYYY (so on,) love your ex, you should break up with your bf. But, since you said that your bf was a really great guy, tell him that you have feelings for another guy and dont want to let him know the hard way. Tell him that you think that he is an awesome guy and that you still want to be friends, but just not bf, gf.
Hope I could help.:)
Good Luck.
-YOLIV8-)
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Here's what I think you should do. It might sound childish, but I do this type of stuff all the time and it always helps me. I want you to make two columns on a piece of paper. At the top of one column, put your ex's name, and at the top of the second column, put your boyfriend's name. Then, I want you to right down as many good things about them in their columns as you can. Write only things like "helps me with homework" or "gets along with my friends." Stuff like "he's so hot" doesn't count, because you obviously see that already in both of them. Basically write down all the nice things they do for you and/or why you think they would be good boyfriends.
Now, which list has more? Who would make you more happy? The point of the columns is to truly find out who is the better guy for you based on how they are as a person. Whoever you think would treat you the best, respect you, and make you feel special is the one you want to be with.
In the end, if you decide your current boyfriend is that guy, just tell your ex you would like to stay friends because, like you said, you've changed a lot since you've been together and your new boyfriend is just the thing you need right now.
If you end up wanting your ex back, explain to your boyfriend how you feel and hope that you two can remain friends. Tell him he deserves to be with someone who will truly feel the same way about him and you don't want him to end up getting hurt because you like someone else more. If he is the great guy you say he is, he will understand.
Good luck and I hope things turn out okay!
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