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Should I?
19/f
Okay I'm kinda in a bad situation. This 23-year-old man and I are friends, well more like friends with benefits. He has a girlfriend, but he and I have been messing around since February. It started off as him giving me a massage, but it developed into something I didn’t expect. I know that it’s wrong but it feels so right. LOL!! I'm a virgin (by intercourse), and he knows it, but he is not. He says he doesnt't mind it, but i dont believe him. We have gotten as far as oral sex. Sometimes I feel like I want to have sex with him so bad, and other times I feel like I should wait. My question is should I have sex with him since we already gone so far?
2) When we get together to mess around, he calls me “baby”. Well he doesn’t call me anything else but “baby” when we mess around. Is that just because he is into the moment or am i blowing things out of proportion?
3) He asked me did i miss him over the summer, and i said no but i miss what we do. He said me too, and asked me why I didn’t miss him. i told him that i just didn’t and then he got mad. Does that mean he wanted me to? And does that mean that he missed me?
4) Should I stop messing around with him? Please give me a reason!!!
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i think you should stop everything. and tell his girlfriend. being cheated on it not fun at all. it hurts a lot.
i dont think you should be doing any of this.
its horrible.
i may just be saying this because i have been cheated on, but the girl he had sex with, i know think and all my friends think she is a whore. i dont think you want people thinking that.
get into a real relationship or at least in something that doesnt have ties to another person.
oh and only have sex if you are ready. you just dont want to regret it. sex is a great thing!
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i dont think you should even be kissing the guy .. he has a gf .. i mean there are so many other guys who are single ..dont fuc around with other girls men its just not right and sure you wouldnt like it either so its best if you find a guy who doesnt have a gf
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ook i am never rude to anyone on here, but this situation angers me. and i will let you know i am angry with you for messing around with a guy who has a gf.. thats wrong on his part but yours too. i cant stand girls who dont know when to back off. ever think about this? even if he does go to you..who says he wont cheat on you too? what your doing is messed up. nobody should be cheated on. this is my opinion and if yyou want to rate me low then go ahead. my advice is to never talk to him again and have some more respect for yourself as well as other people with feelings
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2) When we get together to mess around, he calls me “baby”. Well he doesn’t call me anything else but “baby” when we mess around. Is that just because he is into the moment or am i blowing things out of proportion?
**He might not call your real name because he thinks of you as his ''friend with benefits'' rather than a girlfriend : so he will call you 'Baby'
3) He asked me did i miss him over the summer, and i said no but i miss what we do. He said me too, and asked me why I didn’t miss him. i told him that i just didn’t and then he got mad. Does that mean he wanted me to? And does that mean that he missed me?
**He wants you to obsess about him, he wants to be your only love :...& obviously he would get mad if he knows that you aren't obsessed with him.
4) Should I stop messing around with him? Please give me a reason!!!
** YES YOU SHOULD. He has a girlfriend...he is cheating on her with you..imagine if you were his girlfriend and he had a friend with benefits. WOULD YOU LIKE IT?
You are going to mess your life up like this...I think you should just be friends WITHOUT benefits...explain this to him.
I mean, if someone would cheat on their girlfriend in the first place..why would they respect anyone?
trust me, you will regret this someday..especially when/if his girlfriend finds out.. :/
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first off i woulda never agreed to be that with him because hes cheating on his gf thats so wrong. I dont think you would want to be cheated on so wen she finds out how do you think she is goin to feel? Dont you feel weird and bad that your doing that esp. since he has a gf? i would. well i think the baby thing is just when hes in the moment alot of guys say that when they are messing around with a girl. I think he missed you if he got mad at the fact that you didnt miss him as a person but missed what he was doing to you. i think he thought there was more to it as just that and that you actually cared about him and that you missed spending time with him not just messing around. if he didnt care about you as a person then he wouldnt of got mad at the face that you didnt miss him. How can you not miss someone that your messing around with esp. if you didnt have sex yet? Most girls care about the person that they are messing with but the guys are the ones who dont care about the girls so that was shocking for me to read. I think that maybe he is getting attached to you and wants something more than just to be friends with benefits because most people who are friends with benefits dont really care but it sounds like he does if he missed you over the summer. I would talk to him about it and see what he is feeling, tell him to tell you the truth about it and if i was you i would stop messing around with him because
1. he has a girlfriend
2. You dont want anything more than just to be friends with benefits.
If you have to ask about having sex then your not ready and your having doubts about it so i dont think thats a good idea because you may regret doin it in the long run. Let me know wat happens and i hope things work out the way you want them too.
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Do you want to be the girl he cheats on his girlfriend with? Do you want to sleep with a guy who thinks its okay to break his agreements with other women in his life and betray them?
Just don't kid yourself okay? He is betraying one girl. Eventually, no mater how casual your relationship is with him, he could betray you too. Monogamy isn't a pre-requisite for sexual betrayal or emotional game-playing.
I'm not one for fucking people I can't trust. It makes the act way too risky.
You can't trust a guy who is cheating on someone with you. His priorities CAN'T be secure, or noble.
You know what you are doing, and considering, is kind of dumb, so no one here can give you any reason you probably haven't already thought of, it really just comes down to this:
Is this the person you want to be?
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You should stop messing around with him if you think the relationship will ever be more than it is right now.
You would be much better off finding someone who cares about you and wants you for more than sex.
You may think this guy is all that, but he isn't.
He has a girlfriend and he is using you for an extra thrill. He is also a cheater, which makes him scum in my book. (Start putting on the pressure for him to give her up and he will be gone real fast).
So just make up your mind that you deserve better
than that. Don't let some guy use you. Find one
that likes you for more than that.
If you never expect more and just want him for the thrill of it you are still going to be hurt one day. You can get the same things from a more loving relationship.
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