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this is a life an death situation please help!
of one of my best friends is thinking about commiting suicide i love her so much as a sister and i never want her to do anything like that can you please give me advice on how to stop her i dont want to put her therough counseling it will only make it worse
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YOUR FRIEND NEEDS HELP. PERIOD. Don't worry about her being mad, or if counseling will make her worse (let the professionals decide that). Tell her parents, or the guidance counselor at school if you can't bring yourself to tell her parents. In any case, a responsible, caring adult should know.
And if you feel there's a real danger, don't hesitate to call 911. I know that's very hard to do- but like you said, it's a life or death situation, which means, making tough decisions. And by the way, it is NOT TRUE that people that talk about suicide don't follow through and / or they just want attention. That's a myth. If she's talking about it, you need to take action, the sooner the better.
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Tell her how much you mean to her and tell her how this dicision of hers effect you!
<3 Emma Lee
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Tell her parents. Right now. Yes, she's going to mad at you. But would you rather have her mad or dead?
Once a parents do know, there are some websites you can go to:
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This is a suicide provention organization.
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This contains links to websites on which she can find people who will help.
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If counseling only makes things worse, I would be dead. I would have died at 16, after my third attempt on my life, and the first time I ever saw a thereapist.
Counseling is really rough at first. It's true, you often do feel worse before you feel better, but counseling saves lives. Therapy saved mine.
You need to tell her parents, or if they are useless, another trusted adult. You can't save her. Oh yes, you can help! You can be supportive and loving and wonderful, but you can't cure her and she can't cure herself. She needs help that is beyond you.
You've been given good hotlines too call and you can call them yourself as well and ask for thier opinions too! They can probably give you some really solid advice.
They will also probably tell you to tell an adult, because that is the first step for a teen to get help. That is the first step for anyone really.
Better you get her help, and she resents you for it then she dies, and you resent yourself.
Nothing you can do will make her all better. You can be there for her, you can listen and love her, but if only took love and listening, very few people would commit sucide. It takes more. It takes an expert. The best thing you can do for her is support her in finding expert help.
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Well your friend is going through some rough times and could use a good caring person like yourself to be there for her every step of the way....now speaking from experience I advice you to never ever tell her things like "your crazy","you need help","I'm gonna tell your mother",or "if you keep talking like that I'm not gonna talk to you know more".....those words do nothing but make situations worse....the best thing you can do is tell her you love her and tell her she can talk to you....always no matter what....and tell her you don't look at her no differently because she feels how she does....your roll in this should be to listen and that's it....don't ever intervene just listen....here her out because if she's talking about suicide abviously she feels like no one cares and that she's all alone in this world and you being a good friend can tell her your there for her and always will be.....now I'm gonna give you some further info. That might help....get ur pen and paper out....
Here's some numbers you can call and get advice or she can call and tell them how she's feeling.....on and its completely anonynmous....so you guys are safe....
1-800-suicide......1-800-999-9999(covent house nine line)and here's a web site you might want to tell her to vist...or you can just google this....."suicide : read this first"
That is the info. That helped me...now maybe it will help someone else....thanks for reaching out and seeking help...ill pray for you and your friend....and you keep praying to the lord too....keep asking and you shall receive.....oooh and tell your friend its ok she's not crazy....she's not the only one who has had thoughts of suicide...get what I'm saying so just take my advice...please...thank you for reading my advice god bless you and your friend....I may not know you but I love you and her very much and I'm very concerned,because I've been there before....trust what I say she needs you...I wish you and your friend better days to come...godbless and goodluck.....your friend/advicer......jamie :)
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You have to tell her parents. Yes she will be mad about it. Better a mad live friend than a dead one though. Don't assume she won't do it & don't think you can help her yourself. Thats to big a risk to take.
Seriously, If she actually did it you would be saying "I should have said something." Do it now.
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You have to talk to her,whatever you do don't leave her alone,make her come to her senses,you have to make her understand that she has a gift that not everyone is able to live,others have diseases,they wish they could live for many years,she is fortunate to live a long live,also add the fact that she'll be throwing away her life,she should appreciate it because she was born for a reason,even if she is going through tuff times she'll be able to continue her life,you will help her,she has also her relatives,parents,who care about her.I hope everything turns out right.
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call the suicide hotline:
1-800-SUICIDE
I heard about it in an article in a magasine about suicide. You call and like talk to someone and they'll give you tips and stuff on how to help your friend.
hope i helped!
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