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ok,
so i just moved to florida and i'm completely new but i made some friends and they introduced me to their other friends that just happen to be guys but its not like a love relationship just friends. So i met this guy named cameron and we have a lot of things in common. We both love rock music and skateboarding, and we dress similar although i'm not a tomboy its just we both dress skater/punk/gothic. you know the hole story with clothes. anyway i really like him and at first i suspected that he may like me too. But then i found out he has a gf. She is annoying. and whiny and kind of clingy. So my new friends assure me they wont be going out for long. But now i dont know if he really does like me. I want to go out with him but how. Is there a specific way to entice or seduce him. lol. Or is there some way i can give him hints. I also am not so sure what he wants in a girl and if he'll even want another gf if he stops going out with the one he's with now. Anyway plz help.

Distraut and confused

hmm..that seems like a tough situation since he does have a gf. i don't think you'd like it if another girl liked your bf & was flirting with him you know? try talking to your friends about it & see what they say. maybe they can give him the heads up about you liking him. basically, you can't totally go for it unless he's truly single. it'd juss be mean otherwise. i guess its difficult to tell if he likes you since he has a gf. see how they're relationship is going & if it doesn't look good talk to your friends about it & have them hint it off to him.

-hope that helped!♥

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I'm a very shy girl. I mean, I'm 15 (turning 16 on oct. 31st) and I've only ever had to boyfriends, one in 6th grade one in 7th grade (lasted 4 days, lasted a month). Now that I'm older I get extremely shy around guys. Well, not all guys, but alot of the guys my best friend is friends with that we hang out with. I have trouble talking to them because I'm scared I'll look dumb, so basically when I go out with my friend I stay quiet all the time and say nothing. That happens also with some other friends and around some other guys. Usually when I'm nervous like this I sweat ALOT. Anyway, then there are some guys I'm around I can act perfectly normal around. I don't know why I act different. I mean, it's not many. I have like 2 guy friends because I get so funky. But I can actually CHAT with some guys sometimes without freaking out. I don't know why I'm abnormal like this but it's bugging me because I really want to start dating.
Even though that hardly made any sense I'll attempt for someone to answer what's wrong with me that I act this way and how can I fix it!?!

hmm..you juss have to be yourself. you shouldn't be afraid of sounding stupid er saying the wrong thing, because if they truly like you for you, who cares? you know? juss try to be open & honest, and juss be yourself. maybe if you talked on the phone er online with them, when you hang out w/ them in person you'll feel more comfortable. juss try different things like that. nothing is wrong with you. a lot of people feel that way. by fixing it you juss have to realize that you have to be yourself & that they're the same as you & you both will say stupid things, no big deal.

good luck!♥

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i was just wonderin if theres a chart for to dye your hair ..like you can look for the color you want or w/e..i hope you kno what im trying to say..okay i just want a chart to see the colors that i can dye my hair! please help!!

here's a website i found-

http://www.merchantamerica.com/robertcraig/index.php?ba=view_category&category=2331

good luck!♥

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is it posibble that you can be on your period but still be pregnant??

its possible, but idk how to explain it really, so here's a really good website-

http://www.drspock.com/article/0,1510,6004,00.html

-hope that helped!♥

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I'm starting to realize that I'm putting on weight. I am 13 and I weigh about 118 pounds. It's normal but i am getting a large gut ( my stomach slants outwards if you look at me from the sides ) and my thighs are massive. I want to watch what I eat but I don't understand about carbs and calories. How much of each am I supposed to eat and what type can I eat. How many meals do I eat and how many carbs should I have per meal. Please help me.

i have a really easy plan to go by that's way healthy & you don't have to cut out the foods you love. but if you ask me 13 & 118 isn't much, but then again it depends on your height.

-sleep 9/10 hrs every day [sleep is important]
-eat a good sized breakfast, if you don't eat breakfast er if it isnt enough, your body will go into starvation mode & you can gain weight er won't lose any
-eat all 3 meals [good for your metabolism]
-eat every 3 hrs if possible, its tricky because they have to be healthy such as fruits, veggies, crackers, etc.
-try to exercise at least an hour, it doesnt have to be a lot either juss simple exercises

this site might help you also-
http://www.bodybuildingforyou.com/training-fitness/ab-exercise-workout.htm

if you wanna know anything else juss feedback me & i can help u. this plan definately works.

-hope that helped!♥

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okay if a boy writes you a note after you write but he gives you his number and he says you look good and ya'll look good together then he invites you to his house and you go and yall watch movies but yall dont even really kno each other really really really good yall just talk sometimes wat is that telling you?

And your friend (boy) supposedly likes you but he's jealous that you like the other boy and he kisses you on the lips and askes for another kiss and he has a girlfriend and you dont kiss him wats that telling you?

hmm they both probably like you but you shouldn't do anything with your friend that has a gf. it isn't right. try to tell the other guy how you feel about him & stuff, but you have to let your friend know that you guys can't do anything since he has a gf & all.

-hope that helped!♥

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My ex boyfriend was cheating on me, so I kind of exposed the truth about him cheating on me to all my friends and now hes really mad at me. I feel bad that I dumped him and exposed his "secret" because the truth is, i still like him. But don't you think i have the right to be mad at him? Because he cheated on me, lied to me, called other girls behind my back, and blew me off in the hall last friday....

I'm so confused. Should I call him?

you definately had a right to be mad at him, & tell your friends so idk why he's acting that way. juss give him some time to cool off & then tell him how you feel about the whole situation.

good luck!♥

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Okay..I'm so scared about getting my period. I'm in the middle of puberty, and i know it's going to happen soon. With school here, I'm scared I'll get it at school! I already shave my legs, wear a 'training' bra, and have mood swings. Please help! and no..I do not want to ask the nurse for a pad..I'll rate 5's if it's good! PLEASE! I NEED IT NOW!

don't worry about it. what you need to do is take a few pads & stick them in your purse. you'll definately know when you get your period. so if you don't feel that well, er feel weird, juss go into the bathroom & see if you're bleeding. if you're bleeding at all, put a pad on. juss ask your mom er a family member er friends for pads if you don't have any. juss remember that all girls get PMS around your age.

-hope that helped!♥

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Okay..I'm so scared about getting my period. I'm in the middle of puberty, and i know it's going to happen soon. With school here, I'm scared I'll get it at school! I already shave my legs, wear a 'training' bra, and have mood swings. Please help! and no..I do not want to ask the nurse for a pad..I'll rate 5's if it's good! PLEASE! I NEED IT NOW!

don't worry about it. what you need to do is take a few pads & stick them in your purse. you'll definately know when you get your period. so if you don't feel that well, er feel weird, juss go into the bathroom & see if you're bleeding. if you're bleeding at all, put a pad on. juss ask your mom er a family member er friends for pads if you don't have any. juss remember that all girls get PMS around your age.

-hope that helped!♥

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Ok here it goes, when it was holidays and i texted my friend asking him 2 meet up he texted back yeh sure when i get back we can meet whenever you want!!! I so badly want to see him. i have not seen him since i was 13 and in 17 its such along time. so he never texted me when he got back so i texted him saying you forgot to text me? he never answered. i get the impression he does not want to see me! although last time he said when i see you give me a birthday kiss. what shall i do!!!!

give him some time to text you. if he doesn't text you back try texting him again with plans, maybe he's busy, but if that doesn't work then try calling him. you guys would probably have a good time together, but juss because he isn't texting you back right away doesn't mean he doesn't want to see you.

good luck!♥

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Here's the deal;; My parents have always kept a good eye on me, and I love them, but they've always held on a little too tight. I mean, my parents still dont usually let me go to the movies at night with my friends!

My friend Sarah has a boyfriend that her mother used to not let her see because ...they moved too fast and she knew it. Her mom even got a restraining order against him for the next four years! But out of nowwhere this year, her mom decided that they could see each other again.

Since I've always been held on a tight leash, and my mom knew about Sarah and her boyfriend, I can't go anywhere where he is. Now since it's the school year, my friends all go to the movies everry friday night.......and Sarah brings her boyfriend. I've always been honost with my mom, but when I asked her if I could go to the movies, I mentioned that Sarah's boyfriend was going, and she said N-O. But it's not even about this, my parents have always normally said I couldn't do stuff with my friends at night, since they feel it's "unsafe". I want to be honost with my parents, but It'd be so much easier if I left little details of my plans out. I don't want to though, but I'm so sick of getting left behind while all of my friends go out and have fun on friday nights and I'm stuck at home, I mean, I'm 14! That's a reasonable age, I feel.

What can I do to let my parents a.) loosen up b.)let me be around sarah when her b/f is around



Please help me! It's starting to drive me c-r-a-z-y!

If anyone is actually willing to listen to the whole story (yes, it's longer than this) please leave your screen name. It's really upsetting me now because I'm worried they NEVER let me do ANYTHING :[.



x0 Ally.

hmm..there has to be ways you can get your parents to trust you. to me you seem responsible enough, because you like to be honest with your parents where most kids don't. that shows responsibility to me. maybe you can soften up to them. do more chores, do good in school, etc. im not too sure why your parents wont let you. i mean it is sarah's bf. he probably won't pay attention to you, juss sarah[no offense]. maybe you can say that like sarah wants to spend time with you and her bf, and not juss her bf, ya know? what if sarah talked to your parents? er if they really met him? juss try diff things out and it'll work juss fine. you'll be able to go out with your friends.

-hope that helped!♥

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hi. this is another "guy" question (i'm 14/f). Okay, there's this guy who's not hot at ALL but I seriosly think I love him. I think about him all the time. Ive been feeling like this for a few months now. we arent that close at all (we never talk or anything) but we say hi to each other and stuff. if someone asks mewho i like I say "noone" but his name pops into my head. sometimes I find myself thinking in my head "i love *hisname*". I REALLY don't want to like him bcuz my friends all hate him and stuff (but he's actualy really nice but they are just predjudiced (sp) cu he's not "hot". I know hes ugly and stuff but I still think i love him!!!! Do I or do I not?? ANd what should I do? PLZZZ help me!!!!!!! I rate 5s for good answers.

don't go by what your friends say. i mean maybe they juss don't know him as well, er look at him differently. if you guys would hang out more, maybe then he'll get the hint that you like him. you guys should go places like the movies, dinner, bowling, miniature golfing, etc. those are usually good places to hang out. juss step in the friend direction first, & then maybe you guys can become bf/gf. your friends will eventually ease up to the fact that he's not as bad as they think. invite them too, & ask him to bring friends. bigger groups are a lot less awkard, unless you two juss wanna do stuff.

good luck!♥

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I need serious help fast. I have a job, and I didn't tell my bf(for what reason I don't know), but anyways when he would call me I would be at work I would just tell him I was in town, so now he thinks I am cheating. He thinks I am cheating because we haven't had sex in like forever and he thinks that I am getting it from someone else. Y'all I love him and he knows that he just thinks this, he like he trust me but not like he used to because I am never home and always in the other location. Help ASAP how can I get him to believe me?

i think you should tell him all of this. since you guys are bf/gf you guys should have an open & honest relationship together. i'm sure if he had a job that you'd want to know too right? exactly, so juss talk to him about it. explain to him how you feel too, & then he'll explain how he feels also.

good luck!♥

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I have such a variety of friends. I have popular girl friends, nerd friends, weird friends, popular boys, and loser boys, and some ghetto people (sorry bout the name but what else can I say). I know it's good to have a variety, but sometimes I feel weird around my nerdy/weird friends. They are the only ones in my classes so I feel as if I'm being viewed as one. I absolutely don't care what people think of me, but sometimes I want to,you know, hang out with people in my own boat. I don't know what to do! I'm never mean to people and this is why I end up with such a variety! I can't turn people down! What can I do to feel better about this???

i think i might know how you feel. you feel like you don't really fit in with them? that's normal, so what you can do is try to slide away from them. maybe not hang out as much. don't worry about it though, because when you graduate & go to college & stuff, no1 will even remember what 'class' er 'group' you're in now.

-hope that helped!♥

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This one guy is really nice. I like talking to him. The problem is that he's only in one of my classes, and we don't exactly seat close to each other. But we ride buss home, that's the place where we get to talk. Sigh... I known him for only 2 weeks. And I would like for him to ask me out. And I"m not asking anybody out ever again >.< I have his cell phone number, but he has mine too. Should I call him?
What should I do? How could we end up together?

i think what you should do is call him. start talking to him as much as you can & become better friends by like..sitting on the bus together & stuff. if you hint off you have interest in him, he'll probably ask you so you wouldn't have to.

good luck!♥

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i really wanna get a perm but i duno much about them except for that they keep your hair curly.. can anyone answer my questions like, how much does it usually cost? does it look like scrunched hair? how long does it stay? thank yuu

( im a girl, obviously, 5'2 light brown hair w/ natural blonde & gold highlights )

i think it costs around 50$. well at least the people i've talked to said it was that much. umm juss a tip, like i have extremely curly hair so idk why ppl get perms because it's annoying but make sure you go to a good place. my friend got 1 and it turned out really badly, because the lady did it wrong, so make sure you trust the people, because she was stuck w/ bad hair for like 3-4 months! thats usually how long it lasts. some do look like scrunched hair, but if you juss want scrunched hair, i can teach you how for free! because you can do that on your own. perms are usually like rings of curls though.

-hope that helped!♥

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Ok, I have a friend named Sarah*. Sarah came to my house the other day and we talked and I thought everything was fine (because we wern't best friend a week ago). Then I hear the phone ringing and Sarah picks it up (which is unusual) and I must have picked it up at the same time. Well anyway it was Jamie* A bitch that I hate and is bad news. I herd her wanting Sarah to come up to her house to ride fourwheelers. So after they get off the phone. Sarah calls her mom and goes home! Well then about 15 or 30 minutes later. She isn't home and guess what I found out that she was at Jamies!!! What do I do? Confront her!?

uhh that's weird that she was picking up YOUR phone right? so she obviously told Jamie she was at your house. it seems to me like it was some sort've "plan" for them to hang out & make you mad er jealous er something. girls can be sooo stupid sometimes & i know that. you definately need to comfront her about it & tell her it's rude and mean to do that. yeah, you can't control who she hangs out with, but you can control telling her how you feel.

good luck!♥

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Hey i am 14 and I mean i am very flirty its just liek my personality and me my best friend adn her boyfriend were going out to dinner one night and I guess I didnt relize how much i was flirting cuz when she went outside to go call her mom to pick us up, he kissed me and I hate to sound like a slut but i liked it and i am starting to like him more and more but i feel really bad! we have been best friends scince 1st grade, How can I brake the news to her and still keep our friendship, or should I just not tell her? Please good answers only I rate High!

you definately need to talk to her about it. yeah..you shouldn't of kissed her boyfriend, but if you really like him what can you do? it seems to me like you gave him the wrong impression w/out even knowing it. tell her the whole entire story, because if you were in her position, you'd probably want to know, right? exactly.

good luck!♥

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whats the best way to lose weight in your stomach and thighs. Like some diets or exercises? thanks

don't diet really. you juss need to watch what you eat. here are some tips.

-sleep 9-10 hrs each night
-eat a good sized breakfast [if you don't, your body goes into starvation mode, which means you aren't burning calories which makes you gain weight er keep the weight you are]
-eat all 3 meals [good proportioned]
-eat 3 snacks [1 between each meal, like 1 every 3 hours, it helps your metabolism but the tricky part is that it has to be good foods like fruit, veggies, crackers, etc.]
-exercise like 1 er 2 hrs a day [it doesn't have to be a lot of exercise, like it could be simply jogging/running/walking, maybe basketball er swimming, soccer, tennis, etc. maybe you can go to the gym]

also there's good exercises for your stomach/thighs. try this website-

http://www.bodybuildingforyou.com/training-fitness/ab-exercise-workout.htm

oh and make sure that you stay hydrated so drink a lot of water. it also washes out bad calories you don't need.

-hope that helped!♥

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I'm 16/f and i recently found out that im pregnant by my bf whos 17. I know i cant tell my mom anything until im sure what i'm going to do. I really want to tell my bf, but he would probably freak. and yes i was taking birth control. but should i tell my bf who would most likely insist that i keep it, or just go get an abortion n not ever mention it to him. or u can add ur own options

DO NOT ABORT. ok like thats horrible & i've seen pictures of it & if you don't believe me i'll show you a website. you need to tell your bf, he has a right to know and you guys should have an open & honest relationship. why can't you have the baby and give it up for adoption? it doesn't cost any money to put it up for adoption & then you aren't taking a life. you are young & so is he but that doesn't mean you should take a life. you had sex & so did he. you guys layed down together so you should go through it together. if you absolutely do not want to keep it er can't, give it up for adoption. do not have an abortion. you might not ever be able to have kids again if you do have one. that sometimes happens.

good luck!♥

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