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I'M TIRED OF BEING LEFT BEHIND!
Here's the deal;; My parents have always kept a good eye on me, and I love them, but they've always held on a little too tight. I mean, my parents still dont usually let me go to the movies at night with my friends!
My friend Sarah has a boyfriend that her mother used to not let her see because ...they moved too fast and she knew it. Her mom even got a restraining order against him for the next four years! But out of nowwhere this year, her mom decided that they could see each other again.
Since I've always been held on a tight leash, and my mom knew about Sarah and her boyfriend, I can't go anywhere where he is. Now since it's the school year, my friends all go to the movies everry friday night.......and Sarah brings her boyfriend. I've always been honost with my mom, but when I asked her if I could go to the movies, I mentioned that Sarah's boyfriend was going, and she said N-O. But it's not even about this, my parents have always normally said I couldn't do stuff with my friends at night, since they feel it's "unsafe". I want to be honost with my parents, but It'd be so much easier if I left little details of my plans out. I don't want to though, but I'm so sick of getting left behind while all of my friends go out and have fun on friday nights and I'm stuck at home, I mean, I'm 14! That's a reasonable age, I feel.
What can I do to let my parents a.) loosen up b.)let me be around sarah when her b/f is around
Please help me! It's starting to drive me c-r-a-z-y!
If anyone is actually willing to listen to the whole story (yes, it's longer than this) please leave your screen name. It's really upsetting me now because I'm worried they NEVER let me do ANYTHING :[.
x0 Ally.
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You have to fight for what you want didn't you ever heard that saying?But it's true at times when you want to be able to have fun like a normal teenager,not be overprotected,tell them that they should trust you that you won't misbehave,that you will do good in school,do other small things like chores,what did you do bad that they wouldn't let you,if they want to see you happy to let you go to the movies with your friends because if you don't have fun you'll be sad,depressed,left behind which is not good.Parents should be supportive in their child's decisions like if they want to go somewhere for entertain themselves or be with their love one stuff like that.Iam willing to hear your whole story I have no problem with that just write in my inbox about for any advice if you like.
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Ally,
My mom is very protective!! she's like more protective then my dad and thats bad..ill talk to you about this whenever you want my s/n is
X3 ariana xO
hope to talk to you soon!=)
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Ally think about what you said for a second. This is a site where you ask for advice, not complain about your parents decisions, which you know are right. Your parents have a perfectly good reason , and more , to stop you from attending the movies on a Friday night, unsupervised, in the company of a friend who doesn't make good decisions, her boyfriend who previously had a restraining order that was suddenly taken back, and for god's sakes you're 14. That's a reasonable age... for what? All age guarentees is more responsibilities for yourself and to yourself. If you already know Sarah and her boyfriend "moved too fast" then why would you think it'd be a good idea to be around them when they're spending time with eachother? Your parents aren't keeping you on a tight leash just because they want you safe and not get involved with whatever is going on between Sarah, her boyfriend, and her family. If you were to, say, go to the movies on a friday night with Sarah and your friends to have fun I'm sure that would "loosen" them up and make them less concerned for your safety.
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hey
im sorry about this...
that sucks...
i guess you can try 2 get an understanding from ur parents about why you can't hang out w/ friends and sarah...if you dont do much around the house for helping do so and try not 2 have arguments w/ your parents and make sure you do good in school...im not sure whhat you could really do but i think the best thing is to talk 2 your mom and tell her how you feel about not being able 2 hang out and telling her you want her 2 trust you and stuff...i hope that works...
good luckk :)
im 15--female here 2 talk if u ever need me
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It sounds like you are completely able of being reasonable so try focusing on your parents concerns. This really has nothing to do with Sarah or her boyfriend. It's about you.
First off, when you are making plans, cut out everything they can think of to complain about. Go to an ealier movie so your not out so late. Have a responible adult to drive you both ways. Stay in your large group. Your parents fears aren't completely unjustified, you are fourteen, you look like fresh meat to anybody trolling for trouble.
If your parents don't trust the people you are out with maybe invite them all to your place some friday night. Give your parents a chance to meet them and realize they aren't bad kids. Let them meet thier parents even. Knowing other parents let thier kids out (and aren't completely irresponsible or idiots) might help.
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hmm..there has to be ways you can get your parents to trust you. to me you seem responsible enough, because you like to be honest with your parents where most kids don't. that shows responsibility to me. maybe you can soften up to them. do more chores, do good in school, etc. im not too sure why your parents wont let you. i mean it is sarah's bf. he probably won't pay attention to you, juss sarah[no offense]. maybe you can say that like sarah wants to spend time with you and her bf, and not juss her bf, ya know? what if sarah talked to your parents? er if they really met him? juss try diff things out and it'll work juss fine. you'll be able to go out with your friends.
-hope that helped!♥
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