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I'm 16/f and i recently found out that im pregnant by my bf whos 17. I know i cant tell my mom anything until im sure what i'm going to do. I really want to tell my bf, but he would probably freak. and yes i was taking birth control. but should i tell my bf who would most likely insist that i keep it, or just go get an abortion n not ever mention it to him. or u can add ur own options
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well i think you should talk to your mum maybe she can help you or give u some advise and tell your bf he need to know its his baby as well he shouldnt freak bacause he should understand after all he is your bf he should stand by you whatever happend
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oh god, dont get an abortion. first off tell your boyfriend about the baby. then DONT get an abortion. your going to have to tell your mother about this sooner or later. and if i were you, it would be later. i know the right thing to do is tell her now... but you can put it off for at least until you've talked to your boyfriend about this. but at most id say about three weeks. it'll all work out for you.
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Sorry for answerign late.. But in my opinion, I dont think you should keep it from him. One of my really good friends got his girlfriend (ex g/f now) pregnant and he didnt know it. They broke up with him not knowing it. He recently just found out that she had aborted the baby. He was crushed. Theres not a day that goes by that he wished she would of told him and that he thinks about her "killing" his child. And I know that cause I'm always talkin to him and he's always somewhat depressed and confused about it all. So when he needs to talk, I'm always listening for him. I think you should atleast tell him. Let him know what you have decided you want to do. He may be freaked out by it and bit bit nervous and/or scared. But he will be better off knowing. He may not support your decision to abort the baby, but atleast he can be there for you and he knows. He may not agree with t but he may support it for your sake and just to be there and support you and your decisions. He may even, however, support the abortion all together. Ya never know... But this is my opinion. Just tell him so he knows. He will appreciate knowing more then not knowing and finding out a while after sometime down the road and finding out to late. And I say that cause like I've stated before, I've seen how it has affected my friend. So just think bout it. good luck with wahtever you choose to do.
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hey hun, i would first off tell my boyfriend if it happened to me and if i didnt want to have a baby i would insist of getting an abortion. i know tons of people think its wrong but if im young still in highschool/college i wouldnt want that to happen to me. but next i would tell my mother and through what they say figure out what to do.
xO. jessica
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dont get an abortion. thats wrong... but i think you should tell you bf.. he has a right to know becuase it is also his child.. as far as your mom goes its up to you if you want to tell her.. if you were taking birth control i think she would understand... but dont get an abprtion you have other options! like adoption and keeping the baby! x0x rachh
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Well, your only concrete options are abortion, adoption, or keeping the baby. It sounds like you want to have an abortion, and you're worried about talking to your boyfriend because he won't approve.
At the end of the day, the decision is up to YOU. Should you talk to your boyfriend, who had a hand in creating this? Possibly. It would be a courtesy. But if he tries to force you to do something you don't want to do, you need to be prepared to stand up for yourself.
This is a tough time, and having other people tell you what they think you should do will probably only make you more confused. Take some time to be clear in your own head, and that will help you be strong when other present options that you don't want to take.
I wish you the very best.
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It depends how far pregnant you. If its less than a few months, then you should probably get an abortion. This is coming from someone whos 25 (not 13) and isnt being influenced by religious views. Having an abortion in the early stages of pregnany is a very standard procedure that 1000s of women go through every day. Don't let guilt or anything else stop you from doing it, if you want to really live your years in your late teens and twenties, they are the best years of your life and you want to do all the things you need to do before having a child. You made a mistake, but it can easily be rectified. Hope you make the right decision.
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i dont know how close you and your boyfriend actually are. but you need to talk to him about it right away (in person). i wouldnt doubt him freaking out, but thats normal for a seventeen year old boy, finding out he has a kid on the way. you need to sit down and be honest with eachother. find out whether or not hes willing to stick around and help you out. then if he says no, you need to talk to your parents, if he says yes, youll need to talk to both of ya'lls parents.. i dont honestly feel this is a decision you should make on your own, but you need to do what you feel best. i do know two people who had a kid when they were 17 and they said it was the best thing they ever did. it gave them a purpous and helped them to get theyre shit together. but then i know of people who had kids and didnt have any help either, and how horribly it turned out for them. this is why you need to discuss it with your parents. your mom will know whats best. you say you want to figure it out on your own first though, which is why i said talk to your boyfriend. this is just as much his responsibility as it is yours. find out whats going on in his head once you tel him and decide what you think best. then talk to your parents. i hope everything works out for you, good luck!
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DO NOT ABORT. ok like thats horrible & i've seen pictures of it & if you don't believe me i'll show you a website. you need to tell your bf, he has a right to know and you guys should have an open & honest relationship. why can't you have the baby and give it up for adoption? it doesn't cost any money to put it up for adoption & then you aren't taking a life. you are young & so is he but that doesn't mean you should take a life. you had sex & so did he. you guys layed down together so you should go through it together. if you absolutely do not want to keep it er can't, give it up for adoption. do not have an abortion. you might not ever be able to have kids again if you do have one. that sometimes happens.
good luck!♥
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I wouldn't be surprised if he "freaked" - I think everyone at that age would "freak" if they found themselves in that situation. Truthfully, I would tell him. You conceived together, so I think it's important for him to know. Hopefully the two of you will be able to reach an agreement. And as your boyfriend, I'm shore he'll be willing to put your best interests before his own selfish wants.
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Honey you should of used protection, you're too young right now,having a baby is a big responsibility,it will change your life. But I think you should tell your boyfriend its his baby too. If you feel that your ready and that you and your boyfriend could raise it together than keep it but if you feel you can't,than abort the poor baby. Hang in there hun you're in a tough position. Good luck and take care
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I think that you should tell your mom first. After that, you should tell your boyfriend, considering he had something to do with it. I would then sit down with both of them and find out what to do. I don't think you should get an abortion, becuase then you're killing an innocent child. I also don't think you shouldn't mention this to your boyfriend. He may actually think that you two could have this child. =] Which is a very good thing. It means he's ready to take on reasponsibilites. Good luck with whatever choice you, your family , and your boyfriend choose. ♥//ALMA
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Part of life is living with your own mistakes, u got pregnant, so theres one, but you'll be making another mistake if you abort it. You should tell your boyfriend and your parents, yes they will be mad, but they will get over it and support you because this is a time when you need people to be there for you. He most likely will freak out, but he should deal with the consequences of having sex, especially at this young of an age.
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My advise is to go and get an abortion without telling him. You do not want to throw away your life over something like this, having a boyfriend insist that you keep it. Graduate college, and then consider keeping a child.
Definately abort.
-Steven
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