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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.

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Im 21 and I have not gotten a period yet and im also having sex, what can I do to make me get my frist period help please........

You really should make an appointment with your gynecologist, It is very uncommon to not have your period by age 21. ( If I'm understanding your correctly)

If you haven't received a period this month, Then you should take a home pregnancy test within 7-14 days after intercourse. To receive a more accurate result take 2 instead of one. Delayed periods can be caused from stress, depression, poor dieting and exercise, Illness etc. As long as you get your period once a month you should be fine. If the test are negative and you haven't received it by early next month then schedule an appointment with your doctor.

i need help whats the age limit to work anywhere were pay is good. im am 11 so i doubt that there is any job for me. i just need the cash so i can buy my own xbox 360 and in games cause my mum isnt lending my money anymore.

P.S- i live in australia

The legal age to work in Australia is 15

im 14 and i get stressed out a lot i get stressed because i have an aunt who is 17 DAYS older then me and always saying shes the boss beating me up and i have tons of bruising from her and we always fight. i also want to know if there is a way for her to leave me alone? oh and she always had to be right if shes not she will hit me even when she knows she is wrong. and when she stresses me out i want to walk around so i dont have to be in the house with her. but my mom says no. i do live in a safe town too so nothing will happen i will always have my cell phone on me too. so can any one help me with my 2 questions.

1. how do i get my anut to leave me alone?
2. how to convince my mom to let me walk so i can walk the stress off rather then other things?

You should let an adult know what your Aunt is doing, This is abuse and it's not right. Let your mother know she hits you, If you have bruises to prove it show them to her. Your mother can have a long talk with your Aunt about her actions.

If you want to go out, Tell your mother you will have your cell phone on hand and you will call her every hour. Sit down and tell her that you feel you need to get out, Let her know that you will tell her where you are going at all times. You gain her trust

Also, You do not need to live in a safe neighborhood to have nothing happen. It doesn't work that way.

Again, Sit down and talk with your mother about your Aunts behavior and try to come to an agreement.

This coming school year will be my senior year. My boyfriend graduated this past school year. We live in two different states and have just recently been allowed to visit each other. Last school year we agreed that due to the fact that I couldn't go to my junior prom with him that I wouldn't go and since it was his senior year he could decide whether or not he wanted to go. He decided that he wasn't going to go and promised that we would go to MY senior prom together. Now, with senior year approaching he has said flat out that he doesn't want to go to my senior prom, because he "wasn't allowed" to go to his. I really want to go but I have no idea how to convince him?

I'm not sure how the whole prom thing works nowadays but I do remember back in the day we had to pay for prom tickets and they weren't cheap...If this is the case your boyfriend should give you the respect to ride it out and go.

I don't know the entire situation between you and your boyfriend but from the sound of it he just simply isn't interested in going to the prom. Maybe this guy just isn't the prom type, Maybe he doesn't know how to dance etc. Even so these are poor excuses as it is only one night and a night you will remember. I really don't think his parents would tell him he wasn't allowed to go to the prom with you, That is a special night and normally any parent would understand that. Sounds to me that maybe this guy just really isn't the one for you. Relationships come with sacrifices we don't always want to make that's just the way it goes it's not a one sided thing and he just don't seem to see it that way. Don't let his choices stop you from having a good time, You don't need a date to have fun at a prom. Go with a few good friends and enjoy the evening.

I'm Almost 5 months pregnant and I'm 15, me and the baby's father want the baby it's just my parents don't? They know and want it gone cause their ashamed... I want the baby so bad, just like the father does and were very responsible and he Wanta to take care of us both and support of everyday possible physically and emotionally!(: I'm from Texas. If that helps and I'm Wondering Can I get An abortion? Can they force me too? Anyway me and my boyfriend (the father) can we do anything? any advice anyone? Anything will help thank you...

If you are over 4 months pregnant they cannot perform an abortion as the baby is now a full grown fetus.

Your parents may be ashamed because you are 15 and pregnant, No parent wants to hear their child is pregnant at age 15. Although you and your boyfriend feel responsible and ready to take on parenthood babies require financial stability and deserve parents that are able to provide for the child.

Do you and your boyfriend have jobs? This is meaning a full time job that pays more than 8 dollars an hour. This child is going to require diapers, formula, medical care, clothing etc. It 's NOT cheap. At 15, Your parents likely feel a great deal of raising this child is going to be on them. They are disappointed, Do you blame them? I'm not going to lecture you but I really think if you want to provide a good life for this child you need to start putting that child before you. It's selfish to want a child at your age. You and your boyfriend are not ready to take on parenthood.

I'm going to be 14 years old in a month, and I just weighed myself, and discovered that I weigh a whopping 115 pounds!!!!! I'm 5'2"...is this overweight? How can I shed 10 pounds?!?!?!

Actually according to this chart you are under the average weight for your height.

http://smartertips.files.wordpress.com/2011/04/height-and-weight-chart.gif

You are far from overweight you do not need to shed 10 pounds, I personally find females to be more attractive when they are fit rather than being underweight.

21 female. Boyfriend is 19

I'm not used to being in a relationship. I just recently got my first real boyfriend. I'm an independent person but he treats me like a princess.

The only thing that bothers me is how he ALWAYS has to be by me, touching me, holding me, etc. Sometimes I just want to be like STOP give me space!! I feel like it makes both of us look bad when we're around other people. I absolutely hate people who are all over each other. Plus it makes people feel awkward sometimes and it annoys them not to mention it annoys me also.

Sometimes I'll push him away but then he thinks I'm mad at him or something and he'll be like what's wrong? Or I'll just be like "Don't do that" and he listens for a sec but then starts doing it again.

I don't really know how to bring this up. I don't know how to tell him nicely that I need space sometimes and that I don't want him by me, on me, touching me ALL THE TIME. I'm fine with holding hands if we're walking somewhere or kissing him goodbye but I don't want him to be all over me all the time. And when I try to say it subtle to him he always says like "I can't help it, your too beautiful"

I feel like I can't win. What should I do or say? Any suggestions!!?

Relationships are all about communication, If you two can't talk about things then your relationship is pretty much doomed.

If you feel smothered, You need to tell him. If you are unsure of how to start it you could say:

" I love you but I am just not in the mood to cuddle right now" This is straight to the point and not too over board. Your boyfriend also needs to learn to be open with communicating, If he gets mad and upset by what you said he will eventually get over it. Everyone needs their space in a relationship, I myself don't like being smothered either.

I m 24f I like one boy whn he was going back he sid me he likes me and he will not think about any other girl I want to know wheather he is serious or not how can I know if he is serious about me whn I msg him he say he is buzy pl I want to knw whether he is serious about me should I wait for him

If someone is serious and committed to you, You wouldn't really have to ask you would know.

When a guy is serious, They would want to spend time with you and get to know you for who you are. They are interested in what you talk about and they actually make time to see you. etc. This is a guy that cares.

If the guys doesn't seem to put time into getting to know you and isn't seemly interested then he isn't worth it.

Hi there. I could really use some input from people who don't know me or my Girlfriend and won't tell me just what i want to hear.

To begin with, my girlfriend is 18, and I am 20, she's finishing high school this year and will be moving away.

We've been together for 3 months now, and things have been going fantastic, we spend as much time together as possible and just have a lot of fun together, we really care about each other.

Recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about her. The thing is, she is by nature a girl that gets along with guys really easily, and I know that every guy likes to flirt with girls - so when she gets along with a guy he starts to openly flirt with her, which kinda sucks to see happening, but i don't let it get to me.

For her recent birthday, I cooked her a fabulous roast lamb meal, and gave her a white gold necklace with a heart pendant on it, which cost me $260ish. while having this romantic evening, she had a couple of drinks, and thought it would be hilarious to talk to her friends on my facebook account, which was fine. while we were chatting there, she was saying about a party she had the night before, on her friends birthday (also hers) which i was not invited to. basically a few of her friends and some boys all got down to their underwear and got in a bath tub together, (she was not in it) but was making (what i assumed to be) jokes about how they should have invited her. this was kinda the first thing that bit me about that. also she kept telling me about how funny this particular guy was, and she was cooking hilarious things in the kitchen with him (they had all been drinking) and of course the natural thing for a guy to do is get a teency weency bit jealous.

after I was going to take her home that night(back to present time), I noticed she had taken her necklace off to have a shower, but hadn't put it back on, pretending not to see I tried to not let it get to me when she looked at it on the bench and didnt say anything about it. basically she went home without taking it with her.
When i told her today she had forgotten it, and i found it at home, she avoided it completely and talked about something else. after this, i saw she had made her facebook profile picture a photo of her and this other guy in the kitchen, cooking an omelette, and her hand was holding onto his arm.

Am I over reacting to this?
Pease help, I'm quite down in the dumps.

I would of told you that you were over looking the situation until I got to the last part of what you've said

Your girlfriend seems to be having second thoughts on the relationship, Nobody looks at a necklace their spouse got them to intentionally leave it behind and to ignore the subject when they are confronted about it. Your girlfriend's facebook pretty much gave it away when she put up a picture with another guy for everyone to see. I wouldn't of jumped to conclusions as sometimes people do put up pictures with friends on their facebook but what questions me is to why she would do it knowing that people may get the wrong impression? Unless of course she wanted to give off the impression she was dating someone else. Perhaps this could of been her hint too you? I don't know. The reason why I do think so is because the whole necklace thing also points to the fact that she may just be tired and not happy. The only thing you can really do is talk to her about it, Communicating is the key to working through things in a relationship. It sucks that she isn't being upfront about how she feels but maybe she doesn't know how to go about it but I think you already know the answer to your question. You stated that she was drinking the night she was hanging around the other dude. Do you know if anything happened between the two of them? Now you could confront your girlfriend about this but there is no guarantee she will admit to what happened. Alcohol tends to think for itself, Not everyone has control of their actions when they are drunk but you know what? They do have control over how much they take in. I think you deserve better, Honestly. You sound like an awesome guy but this girl is just not on the same page as you.

Hi! Im a 14 yr old girl and i play softball very often. when I play my pad usually moves all around and is so uncomfortable. how can i ask my mom to use tampons? i used one once in school because i forgot my purse which had my pads and the nurse gave me a tampon i like them much better then pads they are more comfortable.mom does not know i ever used a tampon. my mom is also very strict. she also had used pads all her life. i know a lot about tampons also. im afraid to ask to use tampons. im also not the type of person who likes to talk about my period like some others. can someone please help me on asking my mom to use tampons!

Discussing your period with other women you feel comfortable with is okay, It is nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. Every women gets their period it's just a part of life.

If you feel more comfortable using tampons then you could tell your mother that you have your period and would prefer to use tampons as they are more convinced too you. If you don't think you could have this conversation with your mother then you could go out and buy them yourself when you go out with a friend. There is no age limit to buying tampons and stores have check out lanes if you don't want other people knowing your business. Like I said, It's nothing to be embarrassed about it's normal.

I have always been really shy ever since I was little. My whole life i've gotten questions like "why are you so quiet?" or "do you ever talk?" when people ask me these questions it makes me feel like I'm weird and makes me even more self cautious, why do people think asking those kind of questions is going to get a person to open up? It just makes me more quiet. It's like being quiet is the only thing people see me as. So I want to know, in your opinion do you think being quiet is a good or bad thing? Do you prefer loud or quiet people? What is something I can when people ask me why I'm quiet w/o being rude?

While I don't fully agree with the last answer given I'm going to explain a few things..

Being shy isn't necessarily a bad thing, However it can give some people the wrong impression. They used to say the quiet ones were the ones to watch out for as they tend to have nasty tempers.

Now, Are you just shy or are you introverted?

The reason I ask is because sometimes people tend to give the two confused, People who are introverted prefer to be alone and not to talk to anyone. Sometimes many who have anxiety also come across as shy. The difference between having anxiety and being shy is people with anxiety sometimes want to be social while their anxiety ends up getting the best of them while shy is simply just being shy.

I am an introvert, I also have anxiety. Many people have mistaken that for simply being shy. It is not that I don't want to socialize it is when I try I seem to feel sick to my stomach. This is an example.

Being shy isn't a bad thing, Not all of us are social butterflies. I am extremely quiet around people I don't feel comfortable with but does that make me a bad person? Nope! You are who you are, If you feel being quiet is within your comfort zone then that's fine.

My mom always finds a way to get pissed off with me even when I'm upset. She thinks that i'm too dramatic and vain (which is pretty normal for a teen like me). I try to tone things down around her, but she still finds things that I do wrong. She never even tries to understand me even when her sisters do. Am I being ridiculous about this or should she try to be more sympathetic and understanding?

It's a little bit of both

Being a teenager you go through a lot of changes, You are going from a child to an adult, Puberty etc. Hormones are out of whack and all hell lets loose. You are entitled to being a typical teenager but lets also keep in mind that maybe Mom doesn't know how to handle the mood swings. It isn't easy being a parent of a rebellious teenager. I'm not saying you are rebellious but teenagers are very difficult to deal with it at times.

Mom might not understand how you feel and what you are going through as not every parent gets the whole teen years. Sure, We were all teenagers once but things were different when your Mother was a teenager as everything changes as years pass. All you can do is try to see where Mom may be coming from. If you know you get pissed off and dramatic then try and work on it. It will help both situations

There is this guy I like but he gives a lot of mixed signals and it annoys me a lot. Sometimes he nice to me. He smiles he hugs me and gives me a kiss on the cheek and does stuff to make me laugh like say my name funny. And he also stares at me a lot like really a lot its not even funny. But then there are those days when he ignores me. I try to talk to him and he seems uninterested he doesn't hold the conversation long. It feels like I'm trying really hard. It frustrating I really like him and I wanna get closer to him but I hate this 1 day he's nice and then another he blows me off. Does he like me? What do I do?

This guy could like you but may have a girlfriend you don't know about, Sometimes when guys like someone they don't know how to act on it. They could be ignoring the situation and be unsure of how to approach it. If you don't like the way he is acting towards you then you could ask him about it. All you can do is try, If he sounds uninterested then maybe back off and give the guy some space. If he likes you and has feelings for you then let him act on it and make the move. If he doesn't come around then I would start to think maybe he was just being friendly.

I found an absolutely disgusting website, www.ghettogaggers.com
Among other things, it says that black,hispanic women are crack babies,calls these women derogatory,racist names and this website's owner is clearly a racist and has no respect for black,hispanic women should be shut down and or sued right away,adult film is one thing when it is tasteful,but this is not tasteful porn.

I wouldn't be posting the actual name of the website on this site as it not really appropriate.

There isn't a whole hell of a lot you can do to shut down a porn website you do not own. Unless it is child pornography....It can be open as long as the owner wishes. It sucks but it's the way it is.

A friend of mine constantly changes guys. The thing is, she will only talk to them for a few days and think she is "in love" with them. I try to explain to her that she is not. Currently, she is stuck on a guy from another part of the state and she calls him her boyfriend and says she loves him and cannot go on without him. How can I give her a reality check without checking out of our friendship?

The best way to handle it is too tell your friend that you don't want to hear about her crushes anymore. Your friend's business is her business. If you absolutely feel the need to confront her about her habits then you could sit down with her and say " There is something I really wanted to talk about with you, I feel that when it comes to guys you act on impulse and it really concerns me" This is a way to address the situation without coming across as you are attacking her. Your friend may act defensive because it is a subject she feels comfortable to discuss with you and you are expressing your concerns. You could also try and explain to her that it takes a few months to get to know a guy not a few weeks. Your friend could just be the type of person who falls quickly or is quickly attracted to someone. I think you should sit her down and talk it over with her. Express how you feel and express your concerns. If she doesn't listen too you then you could end the conversation with " I understand you are upset and I respect your choices but to avoid arguments in the future I really would not like to talk about crushes." This way you are getting the point across that you don't want to hear it anymore and she won't get overly defensive about it.

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I starting using a birth control a month ago. I'm on the last week of pills, on the thrid day, and I haven't got my period. I haven't been taking the pills everyday at the same time because I forget. By me not taking the pills at the same time every day is why I think I'm not getting my period yet. But when will I get my period and what if I don't do I just start my new pack of pill and change the time I take them so it will be easier to remember?

You may not get your period, It is not uncommon for women who are on birth control. Women who are on birth control sometimes tend to experience little or no period or rather go months at a time with spotting in between. The best thing you can do is to continue taking your birth control faithfully at the same time everyday. If you need to remind yourself by writing a note and stick it somewhere you'll see it.

If you are worried about not getting a period then schedule an appointment with a gynecologist.

So most people have a personal style, a look, etc.

I feel like I don't. On some days, I'll look I crawled out of the deepest depths of Hot Topic and on others my look will be more Forever 21. I like my band tees and I like being girly.

This is just one example. I can't help but feel like I am a clone of EVERYTHING that's out there. Everything that I see that looks really cool, I suddenly want to do.

For example, I like to draw a lot. I've been doing it since I was a kid. But my style is EXTREMELY influenced by my surroundings. For example, I was a big fan of one graphic novel for a while; my drawing style soon became very similar to the art in the book. The way I draw people heavily reflects what graphic novel I am reading at the time. And now, since I don't have any favorites at the moment, my art is kind of a mixture of my favorite elements from the art in books I have read.

But ti's not just how I draw that's influenced. If I'm on an art website and see a cool painting or drawing, my brain goes, "gee, that looks nice. I should do it." As a result, my art style is never consistent; it pulls heavily from techniques I've seen others do.

I saw some nice photography on the internet; I am now obsessed with photography.

I watch a lot of makeup tutorials on YouTube; I decided that I'm going to be a makeup guru as well (I changed my mind after I filmed my first video though; I'm not charismatic enough). But still, their makeup skills and all the makeup they own inspired me to own my own collection and do more with my eyes than the typical eyeliner & mascara deal.

The biggest influence, however, is on my career goals. I still dont' know what I want to do in the future and I'm already in college. I'd be an artist if I could, but that doesn't bring in enough money to live even comfortably. I've changed my major SO MANY TIMES because I can't decide. And each time, I've changed it to something, not because I was very interested in it, but because it seemed cool, I guess. For example, in my first term of freshman year I was gonna go into aerospace engineering, just because designing aircraft would be fun. I also considered architecture. And psychiatry. I even thought about going premed so I could be a surgeon. And now I'm majoring in computer science.

The problem is that I'm not a dumb kid that just hopelessly goes for dreams that won't come true. Truth is, I'm SMART and good at a lot of things. I'm amazing at math. I'm great at the sciences, if I study. I'm a good writer. I'm a great programmer. I'm good at putting on makeup, I'm good at photoshop, and I'm good at art. So I feel like I COULD be all those things that seem "cool" at the time. But the fact that I bounce around from idea to idea makes me feel like I don't raelly have a personality, like I'm just a summary of what's out there. And it's not that I'm a conformist-type, either. I don't really go with the flow, I don't follow trends that much, and I sure as hell don't buy into every commercial I watch on TV. It's just that when I see someone being successful at something they do, I feel the need to try and do what they're doing. And that makes me feel..sort of incomplete. Anyway, am I normal? Is it OKAY to feel this way? What am I doing wrong?

You are unique, You like to explore and that is a personality.

You wanting to go from something straight out of Hot topic to forever 21.........That is personality too.

Your personality is you wanting to freely express yourself, I do the same thing. One day I'll be wearing a shaggy tee shirt and bagged jeans with chains on the side and the next I could be wearing a nice shirt with a clean pair of jeans.

Be proud of who you are, Everything you said above sounds like someone who is free spirited and likes to do what interest them. You like to try new things instead of sticking to just one and I personally find that pretty cool. There's nothing wrong with you, You just like to try things.

so i like this guy and he said he liked me but not that much. i texted him and we talked,and i got a message from him at 1:00 am saying "hey why r u ignoring me?" so i tried to get ahold of him and he told me that i was getting annoying, so i told him i would stop talking to him, and he said that he still wanted to talk to me, just not all the time. so i want to know, could this guy have feelings for me?

Sounds like he likes you only as a friend, When guys tell a girl they are being annoying it usually means give them their space.

As far as liking you in a girlfriend way, No it doesn't sound like it.

I Had A Hard Time In High School,
Most Of The Time I Would Copy Off Of My Best Friend. In Math, Science And In English. I'm Starting College In About A Month And I Don't Think I Am Going To Be Able To Succeed? Is There Any Way I Can Make Myself Do Good? Is There Any Way I Can Motivate Myself? Help!!!

You need to believe in yourself. Telling yourself you may possibly fail is not going to help you.

College is much different than High School but they also offer tutoring for those who need help in classes. Those who struggle sometimes will take longer to graduate in College and that's fine. You made it through high school you will make it through college, It won't be easy but it can be done. That is what you need to keep thinking, Go in and give it your best that's all you can do.

I've been constipated all summer and when I try to make my self go to the bathroom it hurts and stings. I've tried taking laxatives and green tea but it doesn't work. The first weeks I tried to make myself poop there was blood, but there isnt anymore, blood it just stings and hurts. When I feel like I have to go to the restroom I can't poop and I try to make myself but there's nothing. If I go to the doctor what will they have to do?

Try taking stool softeners, Avoid dairy as much as possible.

If you go to the doctors they may give you laxatives or have you drink this nasty stuff. (I don't remember the name of the drink) It tasted like lime sprite but sour. (Yep I've had this problem before too lol)

Anyway

Try to change your diet, Eat as much fruit and vegetables as you can and anything that has plenty of fiber in it and I guarantee you will see a big difference. In the meantime if you can't go to the bathroom then I recommend taking yourself to the doctors office but once the problem is solved switch your eating habits.

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