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is being known as quiet a bad thing?
I have always been really shy ever since I was little. My whole life i've gotten questions like "why are you so quiet?" or "do you ever talk?" when people ask me these questions it makes me feel like I'm weird and makes me even more self cautious, why do people think asking those kind of questions is going to get a person to open up? It just makes me more quiet. It's like being quiet is the only thing people see me as. So I want to know, in your opinion do you think being quiet is a good or bad thing? Do you prefer loud or quiet people? What is something I can when people ask me why I'm quiet w/o being rude?
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I too was the quiet kid. Everyone used to say things like: "You don't talk much. Why are you so quiet? Are you okay? What's the matter?"
It's okay to be quiet and being quiet definitely has it's advantages. I would bet money that you are an awesome listener and probably more observant than the average person. Those are great qualities to have and will really pay off later in life. (Trust me. I KNOW.)
The reason most people ask you questions like this is because they are either trying to start a conversation with you but can't think of anything better to say, or they may be concerned about your silence. The best thing to do might be to smile at them and tell the truth... Something like, "I don't have much to say."
The problem with being shy often is that a lot of people tend to misunderstand it. What I mean by that is that sometimes, if you don't talk to people, instead of assuming that you're shy, they will think that you don't want to talk to them.
Getting over shyness isn't easy, but please don't be discouraged. If you try and keep at it, you will really open up. I say this because it happened to me. I used to be painfully, painfully shy until my first job. My first job was in customer service so I had to talk to people all the time. What I learned is that, most of the time, if you talk to people they will talk back. You don't even have to be a great conversationalist. You don't even need to really talk about yourself. Ask people a lot of general questions and they will talk your ear off.
So, don't worry too much about being quiet. Chances are, as you get older, you'll learn to be more social and gain more confidence. It takes some people longer than others, but whatever you do, don't give up. ;)
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While I don't fully agree with the last answer given I'm going to explain a few things..
Being shy isn't necessarily a bad thing, However it can give some people the wrong impression. They used to say the quiet ones were the ones to watch out for as they tend to have nasty tempers.
Now, Are you just shy or are you introverted?
The reason I ask is because sometimes people tend to give the two confused, People who are introverted prefer to be alone and not to talk to anyone. Sometimes many who have anxiety also come across as shy. The difference between having anxiety and being shy is people with anxiety sometimes want to be social while their anxiety ends up getting the best of them while shy is simply just being shy.
I am an introvert, I also have anxiety. Many people have mistaken that for simply being shy. It is not that I don't want to socialize it is when I try I seem to feel sick to my stomach. This is an example.
Being shy isn't a bad thing, Not all of us are social butterflies. I am extremely quiet around people I don't feel comfortable with but does that make me a bad person? Nope! You are who you are, If you feel being quiet is within your comfort zone then that's fine.
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Re -read my answer to you. I said that society has labeled you. I have not labeled you.
I never said that you were any of those things. I simply said that because of everyone Else's programming, you have already got a label on you and that makes you a target.
But thanks anyway.
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