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Being FORCED to have an abortion...
I'm Almost 5 months pregnant and I'm 15, me and the baby's father want the baby it's just my parents don't? They know and want it gone cause their ashamed... I want the baby so bad, just like the father does and were very responsible and he Wanta to take care of us both and support of everyday possible physically and emotionally!(: I'm from Texas. If that helps and I'm Wondering Can I get An abortion? Can they force me too? Anyway me and my boyfriend (the father) can we do anything? any advice anyone? Anything will help thank you...
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if the father of the baby is capable of taking care of you and the baby then why go for an abortion? you are even luky he accepted the pregnancy. abortion is a very rong thing to do please dear dont do it just have the baby. all the best
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They can not force you to have an abortion but before you do have this baby you really need to start thinking money wise school etc. I had a baby at 15 and raised mine. As soon as I had my son the father left. Now he pays 75 dollars in child support and never gets to see him. He doesnt even pay 75 my last payment was 37. So if your childs dad doesnt stay with you and you get the same as me thats enough to buy two packs of diapers or one can of formula. A new born baby spits up alot and you go threw a ton of laundry detergent are you going to stay in school and graduate because even with just a high school diploma its about impossible to get a job a good one at that. Sleeping you minds well forget it. You get hardly any sleep. All the supplies you need for a baby bed, clothing, diapers formula, etc. Think first because once you have that baby there is no turning back there are other options suck and adoption. I dont believe in abortion i think its cruel. But thats between you and your famiy and you are 15 you really need to find away to get your families support.
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Zane has given you the best answer. Medically you are of the age where you are legally responsible for your own care and have medical privacy. Only a court order can force you to have a medical procedure against you will.
You are also to far along in your pregnancy to have a legal abortion. In most states, at this stage in your pregnancy, unless your life is in danger or you are the victim of rape or incest you could not get an abortion now. Texas has some very strong anti-Abortion laws when it comes to abortion so your parent, if they could force you, or you would have to meet those standards before you could obtain an abortion.
While your parents may be embarrassed there is not much at this time they can do about this. What you have to do is make some tough decisions as to what is the right thing to do for the baby.
Having a baby is probably one of the most joyful time in a persons life. Raising a child is one of the hardest jobs anyone will ever do. It is hard enough for an adult who is financially secure; it will many times harder for you and your boyfriend.
Ask yourself this question; Is it the best to raise this child myself knowing that I may not be able to supply everything he/she needs? Will I be asking my child to pay for my mistake by forcing him/her to live in possible poverty?
If the answer to these question is yes, then I ask you to consider putting the child up for adoption. This may not be what is right for you; the question is by putting the baby up for adoption is it the right thing to do for him or her?
The state adoption service will see to it that the adoptive parents have all the things parents should have to provide for a child. The things that you don't have. They will see to it that the adoptive parents have a good home, are financially secure, can provide proper health care, clean clothes and all the things a child need to grow up strong and become a positive member of society. Is adoption what is best for the child?
If you agree that adoption will give your baby the best start in life. Then this is an option you need to explore with the legal aid attorney and child services. This is not a decision that needs to be made now. You have two more trimesters to finalize a decision to put the baby up for adoption.
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Every child is a blessing from God. Your parents can not force you to have an abortion nor is it their place to make you feel as if you must. From personal experience no loving mother has a child and years down the line regret that they did. However, plenty of women that have had an abortion are very regretful for many years, perhaps for ever. There are resources where you can get help in your city so that you can get out of your parents home and start a life on your own. If you are interested I will give you all the information that I can. You are dealing with a lot right now and the last thing you need is all this negativity over a precious innocent baby. Your baby deserves the best start it can have which does not include grandparents whom wish it weren't alive just to save their own reputation. How selfish! My hopes and prayers for you is that once your baby is here your parents hearts will be soften and love will surround not only your baby but you and your boyfriend. You all need all the support you can get. You have a very hard road ahead of you but you can make it. I promise.
If you have not already done so please go to the doctor. Take your prenatal vitamins and try to reduce your stress as much as possible. If you would like you can write me back I will give you every step you need to take as far as health, food, and other state assistance. There are abortion alternative programs that will help you. You will be ok I promise.
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Since you are not of age, your parents have the right of putting their input on whether or not you should have the abortion.
However, this also depends on whether you are capable of taking care of the child, and your parents are most likely watching out for you and your future and whether or not you are emotionally capable of taking care of the child.
In my opinion I would suggest adoption, you should not have a child at your age. You are very young. Yes, the child is a blessing but it's best for you and the child. You won't be capable of doing the things you are going to want to do in the future teen years, and after highschool years. Even an open adoption is a choice. You will be able to visit and see your child but another family will have legal parental rights to that child. Think about your future and the childs future.
Good luck my dear, and God bless.
- bwest <3
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no one can force you to get an abortion my friend got pregnant when she was 15 to her parents didn't like it they wanted the same thing as you. im going to tell you the same thing i told her its your body and your choice its also going to be you child.(if you were wondering my friend said she was to far along for an abortion). also make sure you are also going to be able to take care of this child give it a good home and good clothes. my friend now lives happy with the child and father and is able to take care of her kid.
hope this helped good luck i hope you make the decision YOU WANT not what you PARENTS WANT.
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No one can force you to get an abortion. It's your body, and it's your baby. However, you need to evaluate if you will be able to take care of the baby financially and physically, and how this decision will effect the rest of your life. The truth is that it might be too late in order for you to get an abortion depending on the laws of the state you are in. So that may not be an option anymore. Look in to giving the baby up for adoption as an alternative, but if you really want to keep this baby you need to make sure it is feasible. Make the right decision for you.
Best of luck.
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If you are over 4 months pregnant they cannot perform an abortion as the baby is now a full grown fetus.
Your parents may be ashamed because you are 15 and pregnant, No parent wants to hear their child is pregnant at age 15. Although you and your boyfriend feel responsible and ready to take on parenthood babies require financial stability and deserve parents that are able to provide for the child.
Do you and your boyfriend have jobs? This is meaning a full time job that pays more than 8 dollars an hour. This child is going to require diapers, formula, medical care, clothing etc. It 's NOT cheap. At 15, Your parents likely feel a great deal of raising this child is going to be on them. They are disappointed, Do you blame them? I'm not going to lecture you but I really think if you want to provide a good life for this child you need to start putting that child before you. It's selfish to want a child at your age. You and your boyfriend are not ready to take on parenthood.
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