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22 year old female and I realize I will never be normal. I had been diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder, but have always had symptoms. I'm not healthy. I believe I never will be. I can't continue to lie to myself. When I was 15 in a down rage I took a box cutter and went up and down my left arm with slashes. I still have to live with that because it's visible and we live in a very accepting world. I've been going back and forth into deep depression since before I could remember like middle school it just hasn't stopped since. Entire family has given up on me. And quite frankly I'm coming to terms with the fact that I will never lead a normal life.
I'm not sure of what your question is, I hope your not continplating suicide for you have no reason to. Being bipolar does not mean you cannot lead a normal life.
The biggest problem with being bipolar is non-compliance with medication. When you are on your meds you feel fine and see no reason to take your meds or see your doctor or therapist. So you stop taking your meds you go manic and then it is a fight to get you back on your meds. You may even have to hospitalized until the right combination of medication is found to keep you from being manic. Then your released and it starts all over again.
If this sounds like you I can understand why your family may have given up on you. My writing this may also be meaningless to you depending if your manic or not.
The only advice I can offer you is if you are not taking you medication get yourself to a hospital. Call 911 if need be but get to a safe place where people can help you. The best place for that is the closest hospital.
Started out so well.. We loved each other. We knew each other for about 4 years, but I guess we officially started dating 6 monthes ago. Doesn't seem that long but if felt as if we were dating for years.. Anyways long story short. My girlfriends father passed away 4 months ago, and I did my best to help her and support her in any way that I could have. One day we were making out, but we went to third base. And it was a big deal to her... She's the kind of girl that doesn't want to have sex before marriage which I love about her. I did my best not to pressure her at all while we were doing it.. And she enjoyed it, but afterwards maybe a week later she said it was something soo wrong that we did. That we committed a big sin ,, and basically saying that I used her when she was feeling vulnerable and that I assaulted her... I feel terrible, maybe this was my fault... I didn't assault her or force her to do anything she wanted to do. At that moment she wanted to... But, anyways.. Because of this she wants to break up... I so I took the blame agreeing with her that it was my fault and told her that this is something we can work out and move on from. And to just give me a second chance.. She says she had and doesn't feel any better about it saying how she doesn't want to be with me anymore.. And that she doesn't love me as much as I love her.. Telling me that it's unfair for a wonderful guy like me to be with someone who doesn't love him back... I feel terrible, . And don't know what to do. People have told me to give her a lot of space and don't call/message her for a while. But how long should I do that? Idk us going to 3rd base seemed to be like an excuse she was using.. We already talked about it and I thought we got passed it, we agreed that we both wouldn't fall into temptation.. But now she just... Tells me that she wants to break up suddenly. We're both in university, but she decided to withdraw for a year and is staying in a different country at the moment where the rest of her family is... What do I do? How long should I wait.. She doesn't love me anymore.. We used to be awesome together before that happened.. My mind is just all over the place sorry..
Lets start with one basic fact that sex for a girl is a much bigger deal for her than it is for a guy. She is the one whose body is being violaed by you penetrating her vagina. Now this is something most women expect and accept once they agree to losing ther virginity and having an active sex life.
The probelem for her is that you took her virginity and even though she may have been willing at the time she is having remorse for doing so because once lost virginity cannot be gotten back. She has planned all her life to give her husband her virginity on their wedding night and in a moment of love and vonarability she gave in to her basic feelings. She sees herself now as damaged goods. Possibly by culture as well as her desire to be a virgin on her wedding night.She is not going to blame herslf she is going to blame the guy who took her virginity.
Time might heal this wound but given the fact that she has withdrawn from school and returned home to another country. I frankly don't hold out much hope for you to regain her love for you. I know you love her that much is evident from your writting. I can only suggest you have yourself a pitty party or do something to get over her and then go out and find some lady that will return the love you give her.
As my mother onece told me in a not so different situation. "Ther are plenty of fish in the sea, rebait your hook and go fishing." That was 44 years ago and 43 years ago I married he love of my life.
So, basically, I work as a teacher assistant. I'm 23 and I have my bachelors degree. But, I can't continue working here for a variety of reasons. One is the money. There are no benefits. And the drive there has caused many, many problems. It's not close to my house and there is bumper to bumper traffic on the route there, causing me to have gotten into an accident already three times. Only one was my fault. Two of them were not. Either way, it's not working out. I am dealing with chronic stress right now when it comes to this job for so many reasons. I was going to quit starting in january. I was going to ask them to start looking for a new person for january because i'm going back to school. Today I was in an accident. I sprained my wrist, can't really move my neck and have bruises on my legs. My stomach was slightly punctured and it hurts to get up. I have strong feelings to throw up. But, it's just so weird. I obviously called in but I feel like I'm going to get in trouble. They are understaffed and very, very stressed. I think it would be best if I just took this opportunity to quit because I don't even feel safe driving there. I'm not going to have a car for another two weeks due to the accident. What is the best way to quit? I am just a little scared.
Since you are on a form of medical leave at the moment what I advice you to do is: Call the principal of the school and advice him or her that you are not going to be returning to work once you are cleared to do so by your doctors. To accept this as a verbal 2 week notification. You also tell him or her that you will send a formal letter of resignation to him or her in a few days and request that he or she send you any paperwork that they may require for you to complete including your final paycheck.
You are under no obligatiion to give them a reason for resigning your position. Though if you want any type of positive recomendation from them you should give a valid reason. The fact that you have a long commute, which has caused you to be in two accidents not of your fault, is to me a very valid reason for seeking emploment closer to where you prefer to live. In short the reason for leaving is to seek employment closer to home. This is the reason you give if asked for one.
Hope you feel better soon. If you have not seen a doctor please do so. It sounds as if you might be more seriously injured than you believe. If you don't have medical insurance your car insurance or the person how hit yous' insurance will cover the doctors costs. also if this is one of the accidents not of your faul get a lawyer and let them handle the settlement. It cost you nothing as there fee comes out of what they recover for you in settlement for injuries an lost wages as well as pain and suffering if allowed for in the laws in your state.
so I started a new school and became really close to this guy we later found out we both like each other but I feel like I have to do all the work, organising dates etc... we are now boyfriend and girlfriend and it was going really well but we have only been together for about 3 weeks. the other day we went for dinner and a movie and in the cinema he started touching my leg and gradually stroking up towards my core. we have had a few dirty conversations about what we want to do to each other so I didn't find it weird. I ended up touching his cock and trying to get him off but the movie finished so we decided to go to a park which I found really creepy and it was cold. so I tried to give him a handjob but it was difficult and we were running out of time as our parents were wondering where we were. I offered to suck him and he laid down and came in my mouth a few minutes later which I loved cause he tasted really good. he walked me to my bus stop and we kissed goodbye. since then at school he's been a little distant and weird and not wanting to show any PDA even hugging. has he gone off me?
It sounds like you may be a little more sexually experienced than he is. While he didn't turn down the your offer to suck him off it may have been his first time getting a BJ and now he is wondering about your sexual history especially since you are new at school.
It is strange I grant you that. But you may have caught him with his pants down literally and figuratively. Try talking to him and finding out where he is at. Communication is what is needed here. IF he is put off because he thinks you are more sexually experienced than he is and maybe you are there is not much you can do about it. I can only suggest that with the next time play harder to get and wait until he gives you some pleasure before you pleasure him. This does not mean to have intercourse as you are too young for that.
So, I am a teenaged girl and today, after jumping rope, I noticed that I wet myself, just that I'm not sure how. I did have to go to the bathroom, but only to take a shit and it wasn't even that much, like I could hold it in, but after feeling my shorts all wet I went to the bathroom to check and my underwear was wet as well. But I really don't recall peeing in my pants. If I did pee in my pants, I would've noticed, wouldn't I? So that's why I came up with another conclusion; I could've possibly "wet" myself by getting aroused. But I don't recall having any sexual thoughts while jumping rope, I was just concentrated on jumping. So, if somebody could possibly answer and tell me what happened, that would be splendid. Because I really am confused about if I just peed in my pants (which would be really bad because I'm a teenager) or if I was just aroused... somehow. Is there a possibility that you "wet" yourself without even noticing the same way guys do in their sleep? Somebody, please help me!!
I would suggest you talk to mom and schedule a doctors appointment. It may be you have a slightly immature bladder and jumping rope caused a leak.
If you look at you bladder like a water jug with a spigot at the bottom of it. If you do not turn that spigot all the way off it will leak. If the seal in the spigot has a leak in the seal it will leak. Sometimes these leaks only happen when you are transporting the jug, say to a picnic or camping trip.
This is what I believe may be happening with you. I am not a doctor so I can't be sure. Given your age and the changes brought on by puberty it is a good possibility and most likely something that age will fix.
I would suggest you ask mom to make an appointment with a Board certified Urologist as the urinary tract is the specialty of the Urology doctor. Your family doctor or local hospital should be able to recommend one.
I truly don't think you have anything to worry about though it should be checked out by a doctor to make sure. If you are going to see a doctor you may as well see the right doctor for this specialty as in this instance a family practitioner is just not fully qualified and why go through two examinations when one is all that is needed.
Hi, I am a junior in high school and hate where I dance at, it is so unproffessional. The only other dance studio options I have are either way too expensive our they just plain suck. I am on competition and we already have learned all of our dances so it is too late to back out now, but Im afraid that next year if I switch to a better studio, I will be in the back of all the dances. The studio I go to now skips classes monthly for stupid reasons and I feel like its a waste of my money. I am so done but if I quit all together, I will have no dance education and no hope for college.
It sounds like you are in between of rock and a hard place. You need to attend a more professional dance studio though they are to expensive.
I have a couple of suggestions that you might try. I can't say they will work but as the saying goes; "Nothing ventured nothing gained."
I get from what you have written you are trying for a dance scholarship to College. I would believe then by this time you should be a fairly good dancer and just need to hone and polish your skills. You would need to do this for any tryouts you would have to go to for the scholarship.
If I am correct in what I am thinking then try this suggestion. Go to the better schools, start with the best first, offer to teach a beginners class in exchange for them helping you with what you need from them. This is a form of work study class or call it an internship program if you want. You will not get paid for teaching though in exchange for your teaching you will get the instruction you are looking for and need. The teaching will also look good on your application(S) or resume for college, especially if the school is known to the college.
The other suggestion I have is to ask the schools for a scholarship for the difference between what you are paying now and what they charge. If you skills are good they may be willing to do so.
I would suggest that you go with the first suggestion as it is the better one. While it is more work for you; as I said it will look better to the schools you are applying to. If you are turned down by the first school you talk to don't feel as the other s will turn you down as well. Contact them all and do so in person.
When you go to talk to them dress in you Sunday best as we use to call it or business casual. No jeans. A pair of nice slacks and a polo shirt and good shoes. Fix you're hair, shave if a guy, if your a girl just a touch of makeup. Some lipstick and maybe a touch of eye makeup, nothing heavy. You are trying to sell an idea and yourself to someone so you must put your best foot forward. In this instance first impressions are lasting ones.
I've never had my period come consistently- it's always skipped every other month but this time it's been 3 months and I wouldn't say I'm anxious, but I am a bit concerned. Could this relate back to my health in some way? Does it mean something? Is it common?
I agree with Dragonflymagic that this could be normal if you are a teenager and still suffering the agony of puberty. If you were a late bloomer puberty can last into your early twenties as well.
What is important is finding out if what you are experiencing is normal for YOU. I say this for everyone's normal is a bit different from someone else. What may be normal say even for a sister many not be your normal; so it is worth having a conversation with your gynecologist especially if you wish to have children at some point in your life.
When it comes to missing periods there are several reasons it happens. The biggest reason of course is the woman is pregnant. The next biggest is stress. Stress disrupts the delicate balance in your body which usually will effect your menstrual cycle causing more stress and more disruptions. Extreme exercise also will cause a cessation of your periods. Have you ever noticed female athletes, especially the young teenage girls. They all look under developed and most if not all of them have never had a period. It has to do with how much they exercise and the fact that they never have the excess calories need for th body to function properly so the body shuts down that system so as to maintain other more important systems. When they stop exercising or reduce their workout puberty hits them like gang busters and almost overnight they develop as other girls have but may have taken 3 to 5 years to get there.
IF your parent have insurance and you are covered it is well worth a trip to the gynecologist. If you are not covered by insurance you can go to any women's free health clinic for a check up
Hey , um I'm 18 years old , next year im supposed to be in college and i don't know which major ill be in , When i 5 i started using computers and i loved computers.As i grew up , i became a Graphic designer through home experience (Photoshop,Maya,max,flash 8,unity3D), its my passion.Where i from , only 4 or 3 private(VERY EXPENSIVE!) universities offer computer graphics major.When i turned 14 i began to like computer science and coding , though I'm not good at it as much as computer graphics.A lot of colleges here offer Computer science , i like it and all but its pretty difficult plus i never tried programming before.So what should i go for Computer science or computer graphics ?? Thank you
You really do not have to settle on your major at this point. The prerequisite course for both courses are about the same. These are the course you will need to take the first and second year of college. For those two years you can attend a local college taking the primary prerequisite course that are the same for both courses. You can do this at your local college to save money.
During this time you can also take the introductory course that most colleges or community colleges offer Computer Science to see if it is something you will like doing as a life's work. You already know you like computer graphics. If you follow this advice and take the introductory course during the first year you will or should know what to pick by the second year and can adjust your second year courses and re apply to the colleges offering the courses you have decided to study in for your final two years.
Hey everyone. I'm a 17y/o f btw,
So I've been with someone for a little less than two months. He's an amazing guy who speaks both my languages, he loves to read (almost as much as I do), he likes the same type of music, he's just great. He's a perfect gentleman and he agreed to meet my family the second week we were dating.
He's a year older. He's in college and he's working at his college. Still, he takes time off on fridays and has lunch with me. We live about five minutes away from each other, so he can also visit after school.
The problem is that I'm a very independent, cranky girl. I used to get home and go to sleep until the next day. And now I text him when I get home and if I'm going to sleep. I talk to him on the phone pretty much all the time, and we text constantly. He's also the type of guy that if you're mad, he wants to talk it out. I'm not used to talking about my problems or why I'm cranky so I usually end up telling him to mind his own business.
So this has created a lot of stupid arguments. I felt like maybe he was invading my space? So I got defensive over everything and I'd end up hanging up, turning my phone off and going to sleep pissed.
Then I'd wake up and realize that I was being stupid and call him and apologize. And in about three days, it'd happen again.
Honestly, he's everything I wanted in a guy, but sometimes I just feel numb. Sometimes I just want to cut it off before it becomes something serious. I feel like it'd be easier to just break up with him and keep being as I was than to work through whatever issues we may have. Maybe I need more time to get used to it or maybe I'm just being selfish?
Being independent should never be a problem it is really a good attribute to have. The problem I see is the "cranky girl." Why are you or do you consider yourself a cranky girl? What is it about your daily life or something within you that cause you to be this way?
You're sleepy, your cranky these are two symptoms of clinical depression. Not unusual for teenagers going through puberty. Clinical depression in a teenager is somewhat of a hormonal imbalance caused by puberty as new hormones are released into your system. Dealing with them causes stress and the hormones to deal with stress or either insufficient or not in balance.
I suggest you visit your family doctor and have a complete physical. The doctor will want to do this in any case when you ask to be screened for depression. The screening itself is nothing more than your doctor asking you a number of questions. Based on your answers your doctor can make a diagnosis. The reason for the physical is to rule out any other organic reason for your feeling as you do.
If you do not find out why you are this way now how you feel now will affect you well into your adult life. It will affect your future relationships and even your employment future. It does not have to as the cure is relatively quick and easy.
does any pills is threr which can reduce the chances of cinception after72 hrs
The morning after pill or Plan "B" pill as it is called has been known to work for up to 7 days after sex. Past that date it is ineffective and if you have already conceived then you will need to have an abortion if you wish to terminate a pregnancy.
I m using cindom but I m getting pregnet how it is
SexnCandy is correct in what was written to you.
If you have missed a period and used a home pregnancy test which has given you a positive reading don't freak out yet. There are any number of reasons for missed period and there are more false positives than false negatives.
Confirm the reading with a second test. If this one comes up positive then you are probably pregnant. If it comes up negative then you probably are not pregnant and the reason for your missed period is something else. Most likely stress over whether or not you are pregnant caused the missed period, or you may just be late. If you have been sick or taken antibiotics this too can cause you to be late or miss a period. Depending on your age if you are in the early stages of puberty missed periods are part and parcel of this time.
To be truly sure of your pregnant or not and over 14 years of age you can go to any women's clinic and get a pregnancy blood test, which is the most accurate test. If you are not pregnant by this test you can ask for birth control medication and they will supply it to you.
My sister is one of my best friends. I love her and the last thing I'd want to do is hurt her feelings which is why this is hard for me.
She got married, had a house built, and moved into that house all since June of this year. I've been to her new house and it's amazing. She and her husband are SOOOOOO excited about having the whole family down for thanksgiving and up until recently, I was excited about going. However, now I've hit a problem.
Long story short, I think my mom and granddad might stay home for thanksgiving and if they do, I think I'm gonna need to stay with them so it's not just the two of them for thanksgiving. My sister will still have her husband, dad, grandmother, and all of her in laws, so I think it's the best thing to do.
So, how do I break it to her if I end up not going to her place thanksgiving? She's really excited about it. She's been texting me about how excited she is, she's making all of these plans, she's even planning to bake a pumpkin pie simply because I love it and I'm tellin' you, her pumpkin pie is so good, it's as addictive as cocaine.
What am I gonna do?
Whatever you do don't make up a story for if you do you had best write it down for you will forget but your sister won't.
The best thing to do is to tell her the straight truth. That if mom and granddad do not go to her home for Thanksgiving that you think it might be best if you stay with them; so they are not alone. Then ask her what she thinks? By telling her what you feel is the right thing for you to do and asking her what she thinks you are making it a joint decision for you to stay with your mom and granddad. If your sister gets upset over what is the right thing to do it should not be with you but with the fact that her mom and granddad are not coming and this means you must be with them so they are not alone.
It is a little bit of salesmanship in how you present it to your sister. Instead of telling her what you think is best you ask her if she agrees that it is best you stay with mom and granddad. It takes the sting out of doing what you think is right.
Have a Happy Thanksgiving, wherever you celebrate it.
I'm a writer and I've been deeply fascinated with studying the Titanic for many years. I want to write a story about the Titanic, but I'm almost afraid to after the 1997 mega blockbuster movie.
I haven't decided indefinitely what the story will be made into. Hopefully a movie as that's what I usually write for, but I'm somewhat open to a tv mini series or book as well.
There have been other movies and tv shows about the Titanic, but they kind of pale in comparison to the Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet one. One movie I saw was incredibly cheesy and historically inaccurate while a tv mini series was so d@#% boring it'd put you to sleep faster than anesthesia. The only reason I kept watching it was because it had a hot guy in it.
The thing is, I don't expect to write anything as good as the 1997 movie,I just want to write something good. Something interesting that people will want to see/read and will talk about positively. I was thinking that the story would focus on a number of characters and their personal stories kind of like the movies New Years Eve or Love Actually did.
What do you think? Should I go for it or not?
The Titanic sinking is probably the most interesting ships to have ever been lost at sea followed by the Andréa Doria another ship that was not suppose to sink.
There are any number of stories you can write using the sinking as the background for your story. Though if you want to write a story about the ship itself it would be a documentary type story as the ship sank on its maiden voyage.
I'm sure there are any number of love stories or even mysteries or intrigue that can be written. One version of the sinking that has never been written is on that involves sabotage. We all know that initially the hitting of the iceberg caused the hull to be breached. What we don't know and has never been explained is why the bulkheads were never completed, meaning run all the way to the ceiling in the lower part of the ship which would have contained the water from the breached hull. Instead they were three quarter walls.
I can see several story lines around why including one that the Captain intentionally rammed the iceberg. This type of story has never been done.
Hi, so my half brother is 10 years old and I don't know what to get him for christmas? My price range is $5-$15 dollars. I can buy stuff from the store and make him something or just buy him something?
HELP
I've always found the best way to buy someone something for their birthday or Christmas is to ask them what they would like to get for the occasion. Somewhere in the list of things they want will be something you can afford to buy him.
Lets say in the list of things is game console, I realize he may be too young but his is an example. You cannot afford the game console but if you talk with your parents and they plan on getting him the console then you can go to someplace like game stop and purchase a game for it that you know he will like. Game stop sells both new and used games so you will find a game you could afford.
Somewhere in his Christmas wish list there will be something he wants you can afford or make for him. You must ask him in order to find out. Even if he still believes in Santa you can ask. If he still believes in Santa just ask what he is asking Santa for. Otherwise just ask him what his Christmas wish list is. You can do the same with your parents if you plan on buying them presents.
How do you stop a puppy from biting? I can see this being a serious problem when she gets older unless you can help me do something about it now.
You first have to figure out why she bites. All puppies bit. Most do so because the are teething and like any child everything goes in the mouth as that is where they can tell what things are.
To stop a dog from biting you must be firm and show the dog you are the pack leader. Learned this from watching the Dog Whisperer. Just how you go about this is really going to depend on circumstances.
When my dog was a puppy we found that biting her on the nose with a firm "No bad doggie" worked best. Just behind the noses is a small grove. Place your upper jaw teeth there and your lower jaw teeth under the dogs Jaw. Bite firmly but genteelly until the dog responds with a sound of pain. Then firmly say BAD DOG< BAD DOG while pointing at her. We then gave our dog a timeout in her crate. Just a couple of minutes as a dogs attention span is not long. When we let her we would pet her and let her know she was loved.
As she got older all we had to do if she did something wrong was point at her and say bad dog or bad doggie and she would put her head down and go to her crate on her own. After a few minutes she would come out to get her hugs. Her way of apologizing.
I'm young, 18 to be exact, and I got pregnant with a guy who's in the oil field. We only new each other for a week or so which isn't like me at all.. But now I'm pregnant and it's been three months now and he treats me horrible. I moved with him because I felt that was the best to do because we're having a child. I can't afford to raise a child by myself. He has horrible anger issues too. He's said horrible things to me like "kill urself bitch", and has even put his hands around my throat once.. He wants this child and is really excited about the kid. But he's mean to me. He talks down to me. I clean his house, do his laundry, I moved three hours away from my home to be with him. I don't know what to do... I've never felt so alone and mentally abused. Not only am I super emotional due to being pregnant but I have a guy who makes me feel worthless.. If anyone can give me any good advice.. Please
First thing to is move away from him. IF you have family and friends back home move back home. Then go to the district court house or Sheriff's office and file for an order of protection against him for you and you child. Then go see an attorney, if you cannot afford one go to the local legal aid society office and they will assist you.
The father of the child has certain obligations to you and the child he has fathered. An attorney can prepare and file papers in court to order the father to provide child support and in what amount, medical insurance, and possibly support for you as well. All the support you and the baby are entitled to is spelled out under the laws of the state you reside in. The court order obligates him until the child is 18. The court can and may go so far as to attach his wages to insure that you receive timely payments.
He also has rights under the law such as visitation. Since you have and order of protection, which must be renewed each year, his visitation will be supervised by child services. You bring the baby to them and they will supervise his visits and give the baby back to you when his visit is completed.
These things can only happen though by following the advice I have given you. If you do not have family and friends you can turn to then contact your local battered women's shelter. You can find them by using a search engine and search; "The house of Ruth" or "Battered women's shelter and your town and state".
I am a 25 year old female and I had sex on Dec 21st of last ear and ever since then I have been severe cramps when I am not on my period but my mom says this could be due to my overian cists could she be right ? Before sex my periods were 7 days exactly and now after sex they are anywhere from 1 to 3 almost a year ago . I have also lost an extreme amount of weight 27 pounds since then what could be going on ?
I agree with sillyrob. You need to see a gynecologist. None of us are doctors and it would be very wrong of any of us to offer a diagnoses. What you need is a proper examination with possibly and Ultra-sound or CT exam to see if there are cysts or if it is something else.
Short of an exploratory surgery to see what is happening; none of the tests are painful or invasive. My brilliant suggestion agrees with sillyrobs' "see a Doctor preferably a Board Certified Gynecologist."
21/f, 28/m
I have been dating this guy for about 7 months. Last night, I asked him where he saw himself in 5 years and what about 10 years. I never really asked him that question because I was afraid of the answer but I knew that I would have to figure out what he wanted anyway.
He said in five years, he'd hopefully be married--not ready for kids yet, retired (go big or go home thought), having his own business, maybe living in another place such as Denver or Austin. He asked me the same question (where I see myself in five years), I didn't answer his question. I changed the subject because in five years, I would be around 26-27 years old.
I didn't tell him, but where I see myself in five years? I want to get married at the age of 26. Not married BY the age of 26, I want to be married at the age of 26. Hopefully, I'd get my career started since I would graduate with my Master's around the age of 23-24.
I knew that he was going to move out of the house he was living in (he had house mates), and was thinking about buying or renting out a house. He was cleaning some stuff out of his room so it'd be easier to move, and I asked him if he figured out what he was going to do. He said that he didn't think it was a smart idea to buy a house right now, he's probably going to stay until the company he works for either fails or becomes more stable.
I'm going to be in the same city for the next four years--going to graduate school and then trying to earn my LPC. I was a bit concerned because he didn't want to break-up, but it seems like he may be aware that we're bound to go our separate ways at some point.
What should I do? Is it better to end it now than later?
My advice is to stay the course. Your 5 year plan, because of your college courses, is more stable than his. While it is better to have a plan then no plan at all, his plan is unstable and fluid dependent on things outside his control. While there is nothing wrong with this type of planning he will need to constantly adjust his plan to meet the circumstances of the changes that affect his plan.
The changes in his plans may affect you and your plans depending on how you see your relationship with him evolving. Is he someone you want to make a life with? Does he see children in his future? At what age does he see himself being ready to be a father? A male can father children well into his geriatric years where as it becomes more cautionary for a women to bear children after age 30.
These are some of the question you want to ask yourself and him before you make any decision to stay or leave this relationship. The other big question of course is do you love him? We cannot answer these questions for you. We can offer advice or give you some direction as which way to go; in the end the decision has to be yours alone.
I am a 19yo female from Australia. I have been in a relationships or two years with a guy in the US. We have never met (only Skype video calls and messaging). I want to go and see him, but he fears the fact of me having to leave and come home again.He believes it will ruin things between us. I have tried everything to get his head around the whole idea, but he won't have a piece of it. What should I do? Do I just surprise show up for a month, or do I just stay away? I'm going insane not having him around. Any advice would be amazing. Thank you so much x
Hopefully I'm wrong but I think you are just an online lover to him. You don't mention his age though if he is anywhere near your age I do not see him going two years without some type of physical contact. A male of 19 with raging hormones needs a sex life. If he truly had feelings for you he would be counting the days until you arrived or until he could get to you.
You Skype so what possibly could be different between you if you see each other in person. The only thing I can think of is your present situation provides him with a fantasy while he has the physical relationship close to home.
My advice find someone at home and forget about him. This relationship will never go further than what it is and just running to him unannounced will only be a waste of money and a traumatic disappointment to you.
im from india i wand sex with my married cousin sister how to convance her
We have a saying hear in the states; "You barking up the wrong tree." Meaning you are going about this all wrong and will fail. There are a lot of things you may be able to convince people to do for you or with you; Sex is not one of them.
In order for two people to want to have sex there must first be an attraction and then a desire. After these two have firmly established the two as a couple comes the want. You just can't walk up to someone and say lets have sex and then try to convince them that would be sexual harassment and India probably has law against sexual
harassment.
The there is there is the fact that your married cousins sister may also be you cousin If she is you cousins sister or sister in-law. no problem s she is a sister then it could be incest. Sex with her then is probably against the law and your religion.
My suggestion is you forget about your cousins sister and find some one else. Just make sure you both are above the age of consent before you engage in sex.