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Okay so the girl I'm dating has an older brother who hates me for some reason,, he has a grudge against me for something I didn't do... He doesn't know that we're dating and if he finds out then he'll do anything to keep us apart... I'm trying to show him that I'm not the person who he thinks I am but I don't know how I'm gonna do this... Please help me!!! (link)
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If you've done nothing wrong, then it may just be him being over-protective of his sister.
May I suggest you get the sister to speak to him? I think if you tried it, it may be messy. If your girlfriend does it, he is more likely to listen. Don't make her speak on your behalf, just get her to explain that if he really respects his sister then she must be able to date who she wants and that he has to accept that, if he wants her to be happy.
I went through a similar thing, but it was the girls younger brother. I think he was just jealous, maybe thinking I was almost "taking" his big sister away from him. He was a real ass though: he even wrote "flare is a d*ck" on a lamp-post not too far from his own house. Obviously it didn't say "flare" - it said my real name. Luckily, he spelt it wrong.
One way to break the ice is maybe to find something in common between you two, and then casually bring it up? That way, you can almost become at least civil with each other as you will have something to discuss.
Good luck!
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I've recently got a new job and have a lot of free time there. I wanna use it for my advantage, any suggestions? (link)
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May I suggest you ask your boss/manager if there is any other work that you could do to help out?
Maybe I'm being a bit too idealistic though.
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i was off and on with this guy for 2 years and we've been through a lot together. one day we got into an argument and he didn't want to talk it out so i walked away. 3 weeks later i found out he moved to a whole other state. part of me was furious that he didn't even tell me and part of me was miserable realizing that i lost him. recently we started emailing each other and he told me that he wanted to have a future with me. he saw us getting married and having a family but i walked away. i told him i feel as he has some of the blame too because I was trying to talk it out with him. the thing is he read the last message but he didn't say anything back. i was thinking of just telling him it's better if we have a conversation face to face. emailing can be confusing because you can never tell the tone of voice the other is using and when they stop replying you jump to so many conclusions. do you think i would be better of just going to the city where he is and sorting things out face to face? (link)
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I understand why you must be a little frustrated.
What I recommend you do, it message him again and tell him if it's possible to meet up face to face.
If you feel you have to meet him, then go for it, because it did seem to end messily.
But I have to say; if it didn't work the first time, then it probably won't the second. You are the best judge though.
But don't just randomly show up of course: arrange a time, place, and day to meet up with him.
Good luck.
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I want to purchase refurbished business telephone online. Can anybody tell me which website is best to buy from? (link)
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This is where I would look:
Ebay, amazon, gumtree, craigslist, newspaper websites, newspaper adverts, play.com, business clearance websites, magazines, etc.
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I'm almost 19. Im madly in love with my bf. He treats me like gold and would never hurt me in any way. He's the most kind hearted gentle man in the whole world. We have sex 3-4 times a week, hes very respectful he stops at anytime if i ask him or need him too. I tend to feel ashamed, guilty and scared during sex even though he tries to make me as comfortable as possible is that normal? I want to have sex with him without these terrible feelings. Also, sex always hurts me we have to stop most times because it hurts so badly hes not being rough or going to hard or fast or anything so whys it hurt? How can i have a normal healthy non painful sexual relationship with the love of my life? (link)
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For pain, you should ensure the entrance is gently stretched. This can be done by fingering.
Basically, you just want to relax. Make foreplay last an hour+, to get you both relaxed and in the mood. Make it a two-way street. Kiss, play, etc, etc.
If you still feel these emotions, then it may be something else. You may benefit from seeing a professional, such as a psychiatrist or the such. It's nothing to be ashamed about, and they may be able to help you!
Good luck!
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shaggy, medium-length brown hair, too. I rarely like guys with short hair. what's up with me? it just makes me instantly swoon (link)
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This isn't really a problem.
Everyone has their own individual taste as to what they like in a partner. That's just yours.
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hey hi guys . first of all i m new to advicenators.com . i am facing a big problem in my lovelife and the problem is that i dont know why but i am not able to find even a single girlfriend.i am from INDIA, i am male n i am 20 years old, my hight is 5.8, i am fair, i am also goodlooking but still i dont have a single girlfriend. i just get scared to speak to girls even i havent proposed any girl yet ..but the wired thing is that girls hav proposed me several times. but i rejected theie proposal bacause i didnt find them attractive(biggest mistake i did).can anyone tell me in how can i interact with girls ? (link)
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Firstly, you should cut the "I am good looking" crap. Let everyone else be the judge of that.
You just need to relax. If you like a girl, go over to her, and speak to her. Say hello, and make small talk. You will be able to tell if she is interested (she will want to speak to you, and won't try to end the conversation). If you get the impression that she likes you, then ask her out for a drink, or lunch, or something.
You have nothing to lose. If they are not interested then pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on. Don't take it personally, just carry on.
If you must, ask a couple friends if they can see what you are doing wrong. Some people do crazy things when they are nervous without realizing it. So you may be doing something terribly odd: friends can help pick up on that.
In short: Just relax, and have the "I've nothing to lose whatsoever" attitude. You're young, You're free: enjoy!
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Hello for about a week now I have had side pain and burning. gynecologist tell me was that it was vaginosis. Urine show slight blood ni nitrates it was cultured. She gave me metrogel still having bad back left side pain two days later calls me said cultures show ecoli. Now on cipro this is day three still got pain in back and burning.took a home teaat test shows positive. Do yout think its a yeast infection.thanks lulaboyd74@gmail.com (link)
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See your doctor, or gynecologist again.
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I am in love with my boyfriend of almost five months. We've done everything but had sex and I do want to lose my virginity to him but I'd like to say I love you first. I don't want to say it first and I don't know if he feels the same way. He is leaving for college in a few days and we agreed to continue dating when we go to college. I've never felt this way about anybody and all I want is for him to say I love you. He acts like he does and treats me so well, plus he's never been committed to a girl the way he is committed to me. I want him to know that I love him but I'm so scared that he doesn't feel the same way. What do I do? (link)
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What if he's holding back because he's scared that you don't feel the same way?
If you both don't say it, then it'll never be said.
My advice? Just tell him you love him. Then, if he doesn't feel the same way, oh well. Love cannot blossom overnight : just accept that he needs more time. And love is not really defined as a straight as rod thing. It's open to interpretation, and what one person see's as love, another may not. So different folks, different strokes.
Say it, and see what he says.
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My family immigrated to America from South Africa. My parents and grandparents were born there, and I was, too. I have European roots, but I see myself as African, cause well, that is my personal origin and culture. I now have American citizenship, so I see myself as African-American, which makes me confused because apparently I'm supposed to be Caucasian? What is that supposed to mean?
What exactly is the census trying to say? How am I not African-American when I'm literally an African-American? A lot of black Americans have been American for generations, and don't even currently have any African culture, so I don't see how they're more African than me, just because they have more pigment in their skin. Is that insulting for me to say? I don't get how. That's like saying it's insulting for anyone other than a Native American to call themselves a true American. It also goes along with the racist, ignorant mindset some people have that black people can't be British (even when they've lived there all their life and everything) or someone with asian descent can't be Nigerian
I feel like I can't really claim to be European when I don't feel that culture is me. Yeah, I had family there for generations, but that doesn't even mean anything, cause originally, all people came from Africa, anyways. But everyone doesn't call themselves African, people regard themselves by where they grew up, and their culture. I know that a lot (not all, though) of black Americans were forcefully brought to America centuries ago, but I don't see how that enables them to still call themselves African-American even when their African ancestry is from so long ago. I can appreciate Japanese culture but that doesn't mean I literally have Japanese culture, because I don't live as they do. The world is very diverse, and nowadays its even easier to live wherever you want. Your skin color doesn't have to determine the way you live your life
I don't even get why the census exists, to begin with. Why is it so important to categorize people in such way? It doesn't matter what people look like, they're just Americans. I know that America has a history of racial prejudice (that still exists) and systemized racism, and white privilege still exists, but I don't get why this has to continue.
Why do people get so caught up in people looking different? I've traveled to a lot of places and the more I travel the more I realize that people are really the same at their core, regardless of what lifestyle they live or culture they live in. Everyone just wants to be loved, basically. But no, stupid stuff has to get in the way for reasons I don't understand (link)
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The whole point of a census is to collate statistics to help the government and other agencies.
You need to differentiate between nationality, and ethnicity.
I am ethnically "British - Asian". But my nationality is British.
Your ethnicity is different. It's about biology. Nationality is geographical.
So African-American is an ethnic remark. If you were born in Africa, but you are a citizen of the USA, then your nationality is American. There may be an option for American - African i.e. those who were born in Africa, but have moved to USA.
You won't (I don't think) get in trouble for putting what you want. Just use your instinct. If you want to make a political point though, then a census is not the place to do so.
You should read the form, to see if there are penalties for anything.
If you are really struggling, then there should be a number for you to contact. Good luck!
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I'm so in love with my husband. But lately, I've been having that recurring thought that maybe I should've waited to tie the knot. We got married about a month and a half ago. It seems like just the act itself of being married causes extra stress that we didn't really have before our marriage. The bad times are about equivalent to the good times we have, and to the same degree each way. When things are good, I'm so happy I was blessed with him. I feel like God made him just for me. Then, bad times bring me to pulling my hair out with frustration and thinking "Why the hell did I marry this guy?!". Is it just a marriage thing? Is that how it'll always be? Should we go to marriage therapy? I want to be the best wife I can be to him, and I'm just wondering if maybe I should see a therapist, either on my own or with him, to evaluate if it's just one of us, both of us, or just the marriage that's the problem. What should I do, I want this to last, I do everything I can to be sweet - randomly whisper sweet things in his ear, I always tell him how I love him and how I'm happy to have him, cook and bring food to him, back rubs and scratches, passionate kisses - what am I doing wrong? I know it can't be our love life, he's mentioned on more than one occasion how much he enjoys it. What could it be? I don't think I'll ever fully get to the bottom of what's going on in his mind. :/ please help. (link)
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Hello,
You say that the process of marriage was stressful. This is perfectly normal: planning a wedding is one of the most stressful things you can do.
The thing with marriage is, you need to really know the other person. That's why it's always best to test the water, unmarried, by living together. This way, you can see how the other person is, as you are living with them, as opposed to seeing them for short bursts where you are both glad to see each other.
You don't really state how long you've been together, or stuff, but I think it's best to maybe seek marriage therapy. It's a perfectly normal thing. Speak to him first though, to see if he feels the same way: communication is key in any relationship. So yes, do speak to him and them seek out marriage therapy. There may be little things that are being magnified by the stress, and it will help you both overcome any problems you may have.
Good luck!
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I feel like I am super affectionate with my boyfriend, Matthew. I am just SOOO glad to have him in my life, I love him so much, and I'm so proud of him that I can't really keep my hands off him. I'm always hugging him, kissing him on the face or top of the head, and staring at him. The problem is, I've always been afraid that I embarrass him or make him feel awkward when I do that when people are around. It's not like I have my hands all over him in front of our friends and family all the time, I just hug him a lot when were at restaurants and stuff. Then, a few weeks ago, he was almost killed when a huge, rolling truck almost crushed him (no one was hurt just so you know), so I was really hugging and kissing on him a lot in front of some people and running my hand through his hair. Also, a couple days ago, he passed out in front of a crowd at work and was taken to the hospital. He's fine now, but when I saw him afterwards, I did the same thing again, but was a little calmer. He was hugging me back after the truck thing, but not as much at the hospital. I just thought he didn't feel good, but could I embarrass him by doing that stuff. (link)
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I suggest you speak to him. It's the only way you will ever know, because each guy is different.
When I was with this one girl, she would do the same. I told her to stop, because I find these types of public displays of affection to be quite vulgar. If someone else was doing the same, I find it to be disgusting, and so I wouldn't want to do it.
So yes, speak to him. If he doesn't mind, then carry on.
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ok so i am 13 and my brother is 3. a year ago i found out on my dads phone that hes going on to dating websites and talking with other women. and before that i found condoms in his car droor. and i just think he goes to other womens house and you know, does it with them. i dont know what to do. i told my aunt but she told me not to tell anyone. i think when my brother grows up to be my age one day, i will tell him and discuss what to do about it together, but now what do you people think? (link)
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I suggest you don't tell her. And don't tell your brother either.
It's not the role of children to mess around with these sorts of situations.
It was also EXTREMELY irresponsible of your aunt to tell children such things.
My advice? Speak to your aunt. Ask her what she is basing her opinions on. Ask her to speak to your mother.
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He's a friend I made at college. I liked him, he wasn't interested that way, it was a little awkward but we're cool now. I do not want him to know that I'm still into him. We've talked just a few times over the summer (he mostly initiated the conversations).
He hasn't been online at all for almost a week and I'm a little concerned because it's not like him to vanish for this long. I know it's most likely that something has happened to his internet connection (he's been piggybacking on a neighbor's unsecured wifi) or his computer isn't working or something, but still. I have anxiety issues and worry about people unnecessarily a lot, so I am trying not to overreact here, but I want to text him to be sure everything's all right. School starts in a week and a half, and all summer long I've restrained myself from randomly texting him. Should I send him a hey-what's-up text (not a creepy why-haven't-you-been-online text!), or hold out knowing that everything is probably fine and I'm a worry wart? (link)
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If you're worried about him, then just send a friendly "hi, whats up?" text.
I doubt he'll get the wrong idea, especially if he has initiated conversations with you before.
So go for it.
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having sex with your partner without using condom is safe.intercourse 5 days a week without using condoms (link)
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Your question title and question body are both different.
Is masturbation safe? Yes. Be sure to use lubrication, to ensure that you are properly moisturized. Use proper lubrication, not body lotion/shampoo etc because this can cause infections.
Is sex without using a condom safe? No. The female can become pregnant. It is also unsafe because you can catch/pass on STDs and STIs (sexually transmitted disease/infection).
Now, if you are married, and have only one sexual partner (your spouse), and are trying for children, and have both been tested, then of course it is fine.
So use condoms as unprotected sex will lead to pregnancy, diseases, and infections. Also be sure to get regularly tested by your doctor. Both of you that is.
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Okay this girl and I have a lot of problems... If it isn't her family then its trust... She thinks I'm using her for my own pleasure,, she doesn't believe in true love and happiness which makes things even harder. I've been in many relationships before,, abusive relationships,, relationships based on sex and relationships full of hate,, but the feelings I feel for her are new to me,, I've never felt this strong about anyone in my whole life and I do think that I've found true love... I'm not the type of guy that wants sex and stuff,, its been 1 of my biggest dreams to find that one special girl that I can love and who'll love me in return. I tried explaining to her that I'm not using her but she has trust issues and the more I try to show her that I'm only doing this for the love the more I'm complicating things... I took me 3 years to get to this stage,, we had our first kiss a couple of weeks ago. I was her first kiss and her first "boyfriend-like person"... I don't know how to convince her that I'm not using her. The thing with her parents is complicated because if they find out that we're seeing each other then they'll do to her what they did the last time a guy tried to get into a relationship with her... Her parents are very hard to please,, they don't allow dating because they want her to finish school before she gets into a serious relationship. I'm trying to respect her parents wishes but I'm moving out of town next year to go to college which means that I must wait a whole year for her to finish school first before we can do anything. At the moment we're not dating but we are kinda seeing each other which is complicated. I do love her and I'm trying to show her that I'm not using her,, I'm trying to keep this a secret because if her parents find out about anything then they'll make sure she doesn't see me again and that she doesn't have contact with me... They'll ground her till she's done with school for the year and by that time it'll be too late. I don't know if we should try this long distance thing because in my experience it never lasts... PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!!!! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE!!!! :'( (link)
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Well, what does one say?
You obviously need to speak to her regarding the trust thing. If there is no trust in a relationship, then it will obviously not work. If she doesn't trust you, then there is nothing you can really do. You've already tried explaining it to her, but it still hasn't worked.
With her parents, you don't really give your ages. If she is a child, then she has to live by her parents' rules. They are looking out for her best interest: to finish school which will set her up for life, and not get distracted by silly relationships that won't last. You need to understand and respect this.
But you seem to be way over yourself on this. You say that you're not even dating, but you love her? Maybe you should cool off a little, and give her some time and space about what to do. If she doesn't want to be with you, then you have to accept that to: it could go either way.
But my advice: give it a rest. You're at the beginning of your life. You say that you're desperate to find that perfect girl - she obviously is not her. Your desperation has led you to believe that she is the one. She's in school, and you're moving away. You're both going to find more and more people that you will meet, and get with.
So long distance? No. But I think you should definitely speak to her about the trust. If it's not going to work out, then you may have to just cut your loss, and move on. Spend your last year here enjoying yourself and meeting new people. Let her enjoy school, and the life that comes after it.
Hope this isn't too harsh for you. Good luck.
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I would laugh if I could. You are 12 years old and you think you are qualified to give advice as to the right and wrong of suicide? Have you lived through a decade of serious pain? Have your family, wife, and friends walked away from you when you lost your six figure salary? No matter what you pray for: Strength, help, someone to talk to, one day of peace. I get nothing. I don't whine about it. I've withstood years of it and I do not want to be here anymore. You think the other side is like a painful sensation. How do you know there is a god to begin with, let alone you try to scare people out of suicide with a campfire. You have a lot to learn little 12 year old. If you knew anything about someone who has lived a painful life, and I'm sure to you that means something hurts like you got a paper cut. Let me tell you, I have been in enough physical pain to pass out many times. It is awful but can't even compare to the mental pain this world can dish out. Your "hand burn" and video game "Zombie" notions are rediculous. I'm a 39 year old male and have been tortured in one way or another for 37 of them. enough is enough. Grow up. To some of us, it does not get any worse than it is right now. I'll take my chances on the other side if there is one. Why don't you quit trying to talk about things you know nothing about, at least until you're a big high school student! You don't know what real pain even is But I can tell I could easily drive nails through my hands more easily than I can think about spending another year on this planet. (link)
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I'm not going to interfere, but this is obviously feedback meant for a certain question. A normal question (like this) is for everyone to see and answer.
What you want to do is :
Your questions > Click on the question > Find the answer you want to leave feedback for > Click on the number you want to give (1 abusive, 5 excellent) > then there will be a text-box to enter any information, i.e. what you have written above.
:)
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For the past few month ive been volunteering at a senior center and there is this maintenance man that works there i liked him from the first moment i saw him but i didnt think he liked me he would never talk to me he would walk by sometimes he would look at me or walk by slow or stand somewhere around me but that it then yesterday he leaned in really close to me and started asking me questions about me volunteering and complimented me for doing it i was shocked by it because he never ever talked to me before i didnt know what to think i was caught off guard then today he came up to me and was speaking in spanish but i dont speak spanish and so he was asking me why i dont know spanish and things like that and then the rest of the time he would walk back and forth past me look at me but now he smiles a little bit and he still stands around me help me tell me what this means why now all of a sudden is he talking to me when he wasnt before (link)
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It doesn't seem like he likes you to be honest. It does sound like he is being friendly.
But we weren't there! It all depends on how he says things, and what his body language was.
Maybe he just wasn't sure because he thought it would be inappropriate?
My advice? Take the leap. Speak to him, and ask if he would like to go for a cup of coffee.
If he turns you down, what's the problem? Sure, you'll be embarrassed for all of a couple minutes. Maybe it'll be awkward when you see him, but you're there for the seniors, and so it doesn't matter.
So take the leap. What if he says yes?
Good luck!
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Im pregnant im 15 rite now i was born in november 17 1996 and my boyfriend is currently 18 but its going to turn 19 September 22.. i just found out that im pregnant but i wanna be with him now so i want to marry him we live in virginia..my question is would he get in trouble since we conceived when i was 15? Please help? I dont need telling me i did wrong and blah blah blah all i want is straight answers thakuyou...& oh im also scared Bcuz My social worker once told me that if she found out we.had sex he would go to jail (link)
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Yes, he is an adult, and you are a child. He (classed by the law), is a sex offender and a rapist. He also made you pregnant, which makes the situation much worse.
You won't be able to get married, unless you have your parents' consent.
So you wouldn't really get into trouble (by the law), but it could be EXTREMELY serious for him.
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I gained about 25 pounds this year which now makes me 150 and im only 5'2. So im definitely over weight. I was wondering if anyone knows what healthy yummy foods I could eat? I love fold. And im always eating. Thats what got me so big! So anyone know of any foods I could eat.?? (link)
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You want to avoid carbs. Not because they're bad, but that's what we crave when we want to snack.
Instead, go for veggie sticks, salads, grilled vegetables, fruit (don't just stick to apples - experiment with mango, pineapple, papaya, dragon fruit, etc etc so you don't get bored), peanut butter is good, eggs are excellent.
I like masking a ranch style dip. Get 0% fat greek yogurt, and add some ranch dressing seasoning (the powder that comes in a packet). There is like 5 calories in a huge bowl of the stuff, and then use it to dip vegetables, etc.
You just want to use common sense really. Eat plenty of fruit and vegetables, some wholewheat/grain carbs, protein, and small amounts of fat. Avoid processed, fatty, salty, foods. When in doubt, stick to nature!
Good luck!
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