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In love for the first time
18/f
I am in love with my boyfriend of almost five months. We've done everything but had sex and I do want to lose my virginity to him but I'd like to say I love you first. I don't want to say it first and I don't know if he feels the same way. He is leaving for college in a few days and we agreed to continue dating when we go to college. I've never felt this way about anybody and all I want is for him to say I love you. He acts like he does and treats me so well, plus he's never been committed to a girl the way he is committed to me. I want him to know that I love him but I'm so scared that he doesn't feel the same way. What do I do?
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Well everyone is different in relationships. I've had a guy tell me he loves me in a month and I've had another relationship in which the guy told me in three years. I've been on both sides of the spectrum to say the least. Don't rush him into anything. I'm sure he wants to say it but he's nervous or maybe he wants to tell you in a special way. Stick with your beliefs in waiting until you feel like its right. Also if you really love him you could tell him yourself it is the 21st century after all so you don't have to wait for the guy. When my boyfriend and I said it for the first time I was going to say it first and he knew I was going to say it so he stopped me. He told he loved me first and 5 years later we're still crazy about each other. I find the more and more time together the more and more we fall in love with each other. Good luck!
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Patience is only needed when necessary, but believe me, if you love some one there is no need to wait. I made that mistake once and things fell apart. The best advice I can give you is to tell him that you love him, don't do it in a cheesy was though, just tell him when you guys are together and alone and you feel like the moment is right, tell him and if things go wrong then that means they were never right.
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Somebody has to say it first. It might as well be you. And if you don't, you may never know if he feels the same way. That is actually far worse than finding out he doesn't return your feelings in the same way. I speak from experience on that one.
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What if he's holding back because he's scared that you don't feel the same way?
If you both don't say it, then it'll never be said.
My advice? Just tell him you love him. Then, if he doesn't feel the same way, oh well. Love cannot blossom overnight : just accept that he needs more time. And love is not really defined as a straight as rod thing. It's open to interpretation, and what one person see's as love, another may not. So different folks, different strokes.
Say it, and see what he says.
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