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i dont know why but i am not able to find even a single girlfriend.
hey hi guys . first of all i m new to advicenators.com . i am facing a big problem in my lovelife and the problem is that i dont know why but i am not able to find even a single girlfriend.i am from INDIA, i am male n i am 20 years old, my hight is 5.8, i am fair, i am also goodlooking but still i dont have a single girlfriend. i just get scared to speak to girls even i havent proposed any girl yet ..but the wired thing is that girls hav proposed me several times. but i rejected theie proposal bacause i didnt find them attractive(biggest mistake i did).can anyone tell me in how can i interact with girls ?
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I do agree with Flare on you need to tone down the "I am good looking" as well.
I am a female and I will give you my two cents on what you said above. In all honesty, It sounds a bit conceited. You should never judge a women by their appearances, Some of the best women out there may not be a super model or super attractive but they could end up making great partners, wives and lovers. As long as you raise your standards too high you will probably never find the right person because you will be to focused on their flaws.
There is no such thing as the perfect woman. If you want to find someone, Then you need to be a bit more open minded and get to know them as a person not for how they look. I am not familiar with how India does things but here in America there isn't a rush to propose or get married and frankly I think 20 years old is awfully young to even be thinking of marrying someone. One thing that sticks out with me is what you said here...
but i rejected theie proposal bacause i didnt find them attractive(biggest mistake i did)
You regret turning them down because you are miserable being single? This isn't the mindset you should have when thinking of marrying someone. Marrying comes with being in love, trusting and wanting to be with that person, not fill a void of lonesome.
I'm sorry if I sound like an ubber bitch but as a female this is sort of how you are presenting yourself. If you don't want someone to think that way then you need to change the way you think and stop judging other people. Once you've realized that maybe this IS indeed the problem and reason to why you can't find a steady relationship then get out there and try talking to people. Women like to be noticed, complimented and treated like lady. If you treat them with respect you may get the same in return.
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Firstly, you should cut the "I am good looking" crap. Let everyone else be the judge of that.
You just need to relax. If you like a girl, go over to her, and speak to her. Say hello, and make small talk. You will be able to tell if she is interested (she will want to speak to you, and won't try to end the conversation). If you get the impression that she likes you, then ask her out for a drink, or lunch, or something.
You have nothing to lose. If they are not interested then pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on. Don't take it personally, just carry on.
If you must, ask a couple friends if they can see what you are doing wrong. Some people do crazy things when they are nervous without realizing it. So you may be doing something terribly odd: friends can help pick up on that.
In short: Just relax, and have the "I've nothing to lose whatsoever" attitude. You're young, You're free: enjoy!
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