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ok so i really like this girl. but there is a problem, she is my friends ex. everytime im with her it feels right. we kiss and hold hands. but somedays she acts all weird, like we dont have a "thing". does it sound like she is using me to you?

Talk to her about it. Ask her to tell you exactly how she feels about you and what she wants for the two of you. Ask her why she kissed you and held your hand if she says she doesn't have feelings for you.

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I was just wondering,
is vitamin water good or bad for you?
cause I drink a lot of it and I was just wondering.
Thanks

Vitamin Water really isn't all that good for you. It's just really really sugary and doesn't provide all the minerals and vitamins that it claims it does. If you want more nutrients in your diet (like the ones that Vitamin Water says it has in it), try a multivitamin which you'll be much better off with.

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Hey im 15/f i just got braces a little over a month ago.. and before i got braces i was really outgoing and was always wanted to be the center of attention. But now that i have braces i've noticed that i dont want to be that anymore because of my braces.. i guess im self consious.. Is there anything i can tell myself or do to make me become less self consious and be myself again? Any advice would help! thanks

I was the same way when I got braces. I was worried that my teeth looked weird and didn't smile as much...stuff like that. They take a while to get used to but a lot of people think braces are cute these days. So just pretend like they're not there and chances are soon enough you'll adjust.

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I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months and due to my work schedules I never get to see him.I really like him and he really likes me but we only see each other every other saturday.DO you think it is a good idea to continue dating?

It depends on your age, how much stress the long distance relationship (not seeing him as much as you would like to) is causing you, whether or not you think you can handle it, how much you care about him and how much you want things between you two to work out.

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why do people make their beds? no one goes into your room anyway unless you have people over
and you mess your bed up when you sit on it to do stuff and when you sleep you don't want it to be all neat, really, you dont need it since itll be all messed up anyway

I wonder the same thing...I think it's a pretty stupid thing to do unless you're going to have people in there and you don't want them to think you're a slob...good question.

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im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.

mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.

This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.

what about breast enlargement?

are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?

is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?

i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!

Please HELP ME!

Stop telling yourself that the fact that you have small boobs is ruining your life and that you don't have a boyfriend because of your small boobs. Take it from someone with a weird body and big boobs, you don't want them, they're a pain in the ass. If I were a guy I would prefer a girl with small boobs, it's kind of uniquely sexier in a way. If you think that having big boobs is a way to get someone to love you, you're wrong. If someone has ever told you that's the way to get someone to love you, they're wrong. You're almost 16? You're still so young! Chill out, the right guy will come along and it shouldn't have anything to do with how big your chest is.

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I'm pretty sure i'm a christian. But i sometimes doubt God and if he's there or not. Does this mean that, if i like... died tomorrow, i would go to hell. Am i not allowed to doubt God? It seems like the only people who are considered religious are the ones like "i'm sure he's real b/c i've read his word and i believed it" but... i'm a very doubtfull person and i can't just believe things like that. Does this mean i'm not going to Heaven?

Once you've asked Jesus to come into your heart, you'll always be saved no matter what. It's absolutely normal to have some doubts in your walk as a Christian. Some verses I found when I've been going through times of doubt that really helped me were John 20:25, Psalms 14:1, Psalms 13:1, Mark 9:19-24, John 20:27 and James 4:8. Hope I helped!!

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The other day I fried my hair. I was in a hurry so while my hair was still slightly damp I straightened it. Now it feels like straw, its breaking off very easily, and I cannot style it. I've used several products and conditioned it several times but it will not go back to being soft and healthy. Is there anything I can do?

Do a home hot oil treatment. You can make one yourself with any kind of oil and some camphor or buy one from pretty much any store that carries hair care products.

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I am a 14 year old girl but im 15 in 3 months and i know its illegal to have sex in uk before 16 but i really love my boyfriend and i'll be honest caue i want real advice i've been going out with him over a week and i already feel he loves me and i love him and i think i feel ready i mean he's given me oral sex if that can be correct but i've not done anything to him and i think he's the right one and the one i want to loose my virginity too and i want to know if theres a way of checking to see if ur ready by tasks or talks or something . one magazine said to see if ur ready to have sex see if you can walk up to your local chemist and buy condoms out of it from a lady who knows you live near by is this a good way of telling if im ready please email me bak or reply soon cause tomorrow or the next day is ment to be kinda big with him and me


please help love me xxxxxxxxxxx

The decision to have sex is a major one...and in my opinion it shouldn't even be an option when you're 14 or 15 years old and have only been in the relationship for a week. You can't REALLY love a person unless you REALLY know them and you can't REALLY know them if you've only been dating for a week. I mean, if he's already given you oral and you've only been together a week, you're moving WAY too fast physically. Ultimately it's your decision to make and if you choose to have sex with him please use protection for your own good.

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SORRY ITS LONG i think im becoming anorexic because i never eat and well i eat but not alot.Yesterday i tryed to throwup on purpous but i couldt.Im scared for myself also iv been getting depressed latly and thinking about cutting i used to cut but i stoped because one of my ex friends told the school. I would never kill myself because i dont want to go to hell. After i cut myself i always feel so bad but i think i just feel that way because i dont want to get caught again.Boys and girls are always saying how hott i am but i dont think i am.I think im fat and ugly and i hate myself.It started around the time i started going out with my boyfriend.I cant brakeup with him because hes suacidel and i like him a real lot also he says i love you to me and i need to hear it.I need help! i need someone to talk to.DONT say my mom and dad because my mom has a deadly sickness and they have unuff stress and i dont realy trust any of my friends because i dont want them to tell like befor.Ohh ya i love to get hurt because i love the Sympathy and so i make when ever has happened worce. THANXS

I've struggled with some of those things too. My AIM is kkkermiiit if you want to talk...that's all I can offer, I guess.

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There is this guy that likes me and I like him back. But we arent going out yet. But he thinks that I am more experienced then I really am. He knows I am virgin though. Is it really a big deal that I told him that I have done more then making out even though I havent. I dont want to tell him that I lied to him. I dont really think it is a big deal though. Do you?

If you're trying to keep his affections for you, lying in order to impress him is just going to set you back like 10 steps. Tell him you lied about that and tell the truth from here on out if you want him to respect you.

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This has been bothering me for quite a while, what does the symbol with an "A" with a circle around it mean? I know it has something to do with punkish stuff, but what does it actually mean?

thanks!

Anarchy.

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Where can you buy skinny jeans?

Old Navy, Abercrombie & Fitch, Hollister, American Eagle, Express, Aeropastale, Pac Sun, Wet Seal, Charlotte Russe, Macy's, Forever 21, Target, Wal Mart, Kohl's JC Penny, Filene's...they're pretty much everywhere since they're a new popular style.

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What books changed your outlook on life?

"The Perks of Being a Wallflower", the Bible, "Hairstyles of the Damned", and of course "Oh the Places You Will Go".

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I like to dye my hair but everytime i dye my hair dark it fades like completely out within 2 weeks (i use the $10 boxed stuff) but when i dye my hair like a light shade of sandy brown/blonde it holds and really doesn't fade at all every (well i have had the hair dye in for about 5 weeks and i have noticed no fading)

My question is why is this? my hair is naturally extremely dark brown and my hair was a med brown and i keep trying to dye it back to my natural color but then it fades to a light brown red which isn't even close to my natural color or the color it was before and its ugly and looks bad when my roots grow in.

And it looks alright light but my hair looks really good dark and i want to be able to keep it that way and i want tips so i don't always have to get it professionally colored

Wash your hair with a color-safe shampoo such as Garnier Fructis for Colored or Permed Hair and only shampoo 2-3 times a week. All the other days, just condition it. Avoid pools because chlorine eats away at hair dye.

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Is blow drying bad for you hair?

Is shampoo bad for you hair?

Why?

Thanks guys!

The heat from a hair dryer is bad for your hair because it makes it frizzier and can like, totally fry your hair. Shampoo is good for your hair because it cleanses it. You shoulkd shampoo and condition your hair 3-5 times a week and just condition it all the other days to control how oily it gets. Wash it more if it tends to get dirty faster or if you have really greasy hair.

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Ok, I'm 14/f and I'm going out with this wonderful boy. It's already been a week and we've been hanging out like every day. I want to kiss him soooooo bad, but I'm afraid because this is my first kiss. Would he find it sexy/a turn on if i asked him to teach me how to kiss? Thanks!

I think he'd think it's cute if you asked him to teach you how to kiss. I asked my last boyfriend to teach me how to french kiss and he did...he thought it was cute haha.

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Well, every single day, i'm left all alone at my house. My mom goes to work, and my brother is at camp, and my other brother is in the army.

Since i cant get a job, and my friends can never hang out, i was wondering, what are some fun things that I can do while i'm alone.

Blast music really loud, dance around the house in your underwear, write a book, walk your dog, watch movies, dye your hair, read a book, cook something, exercise, paint something, make a cardboard box fort, be immature...yeah just be random and amuse yourself. No one's home, go nuts.

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me and my boyfriend have been dating on and off for the past 2 years.I recently found out he cheated on me 3 times with some girls from Johnston.Now he asked me if we were dating about 2 days ago and i stupidly said "Yea,I guesss".Today he came to my house and told me that he has a new girlfriend. I said "i thought me and you were together" and he said "O well shes hotter".5 minutes later he tried kissing me.What should I do about all of this???Now im stuck the single one!



PLEASE HELP ME FAST!:(

Oh my gosh no offense but what an asshole!! If he went ahead and started going out with another girl and his reasoning was "because she's hotter" then FUCK HIM. You can do alot better and there's definitely someone out there who will love you and take better care of you.

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I'm going to be a freshman at the University of Texas this falls and I have no idea what I want to major in. I know still have like 2 years to decide but I have nothing. I mean, most people have at least an idea or a few things in mind and others have known what they want to be since they were 13. I've already been to orientation and I've spoken with an academic advisor but still nothing. I was just wondering when it was that you guys decided what you wanted to do in life.

Take a couple of classes that you have even the slightest interest in, even if they're not gen eds or a requirement for a degree you're working towards. See what you like, meet new people, try new things. Be patient with yourself and eventually you'll find your way. We all do.

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